My husband has been talking to another woman who knows about me and our kids but he’s been telling her that we’re in a divorce when we’re not. Would you message the woman and let her know that he is very married and to back off (in a nice way)?
Why would you tell her to back off? It takes two to tango. Let her have his cheating little self 
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Nope! It’s your husband that made the vows to you. Tell your husband to back off her
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Nope… Your husband is to blame! How she get his number?
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Nope. Pack his bags and tell him to live with her!
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Leave your husband.
Communicating with her means nothing.
The damage is already done and you can’t trust him.
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Let her know. Cause she’s gonna tell your hubby you know. But odds are she probably still gonna mess around with your hubby
If you want to fight for your relationship then YES!!!
It’s not her it’s him .
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Yes I would but if he’s cheating I would leave him !!! And tell the other bitch that she can have the cheater
Yup call both of them out!
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NO…I would leave because HE is allowing it…
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Why not just be the bigger person and walk away… damage has been done already. File for divorce and be done
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I did that and she ran to my now ex and cried saying I was harassing her. He went off on me and called me crazy.
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Both. Because she’s being lied to and forget him. If he will cheat once he will again if he knows you will just stay
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So you’re blaming her when the one married is him? Regardless if she knows or not the one committed to you is HIM!!! DONT MAKE IT SEEM LIKE HE IS A VICTIM
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Um talk to your husband. He’s the one lying to her.
Nope, because I’d be too busy getting all my ducks in a row for our divorce!
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Nope. Your hubby could of put a stop to it right off and didn’t. A hubby talk (with proof) is in order.
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Yes, than I would leave him also
No. Toss your husband like a javelin.
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I’d let her have him 
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Start with your husband and tell her. Your husband is at fault, not her since she doesn’t really know if he’s been telling her he is divorced. But you could let her know just so she is aware he is a liar.
I’d file divorce papers and leave. Just because you tell her you’re married and to back off doesn’t mean she actually will
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I’d let her know there’s no divorce to your knowledge but I’d let her have him.
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call her. and dump him.
If u want to stay in a marriage with someone who is a cheater and will just find another women if current one leaves then yes tell her which would probably do not good if she knows about u and the kids and still messing with him why waste your time kick him to the curb…
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Lol you wanna message her an tell her to back off but he told her he was divorced 
it’s him not her
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I would message her just to tell her what hes doing so that she can be aware of the situation. But it ain’t on her to back off. It’s on your husband to back off from her. I’d tell her, and then I’d leave his sorry ass. 
Nope. But I would message and ask her where to drop off his 
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Conversation with him asking how his divorce is going
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It’s not the woman’s fault that your husband is being a cheating scumbag. Let her have him if she wants him
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Message her and get her phone number. Then do a three way call with her and your hubby!
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Why would you tell HER to back off though? Throw the whole man out sis, he’s telling her your divorced.
Act accordingly 
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Definitely. Only to tell her we weren’t in a divorce but we definitely are now and hope she has better luck.
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Heck no,you said she knew about you. It’s up to him to end things with her so he’s not very married after all. Leave his butt!!
Nope. She’s not your problem.
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I mean, I would message her to let her know that he’s a liar. But to tell her to back off? That’s weird. Take a serious look at your husband.
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Yes tell her. But dont do it in a jealous way…just know she owes you no loyalty…he does!
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I’d let her know but also leave him. He’s cheating
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That’s a knock on the door kind of talk
Hell no! It’s not her fault your husband stepped out of your marriage. Divorce his ass and move!
No you married your husband. Address your husband, if he is cheating it’s on him.
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I’d get very unmarried
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I’d be letting her know she can keep his lying ass and focus on getting the hell out
Better leave that mans in the dust. If he gave a hoot about you he wouldn’t have even talked to her. Don’t blame the woman. Blame the person that already is committed to someone and is lying about it.
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No, I would do far worse and tell her to come get him. She can have him.
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Pack the stuff and your kids stuff and leave
Why not to talk with your husband instead, he is the one who married you and own you respect and loyalty , so … you talk to her , she back off ( maybe ) and then what ? Do you think that he will be faithful and loyal to you …… I’m so sorry for breaking your bubble but he will find someone else to talk and probably cheat
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I would definitely tell her, and then reevaluate your relationship, do you really want to be with someone who is cheating and saying he’s divorced?
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Omg does this acually happen 
She don’t owe you anything… talk to your husband…
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Sure but he’s the one that should be telling her he’s married with kids.
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Throw the whole man in the trash and start again™ Have you tried throwing the whole man away?
So she forced him to lie 
Is he easily coerced into such activities.
Maybe she’s a witch.
Of course your hurt and mad, SO be hurt and mad at the deserving party…your HUSBAND!!!
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Why would you want to stay with him if he’s cheating?
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No. Because we’d be divorcing Forreal……
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A message asking for a drop off point would probably be better. Then you can pack his shit while he’s gone and deliver it to the drop point. Then text him the new address of his belongings and change the locks.
Lol no I would just pack my stuff and be out.
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Barbara-ann Sauve’ sadly more often then you think
I’d keep the proof of infidelity and file for divorce. If he’s shocked just say her name. … maybe send her a copy and say something like we weren’t in a divorce but he gets what he wants.
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I would print out all the evidence. Take it to a lawyer or court and it will be priceless when he gets serve!! Dont tell him all the details you have save it for the lawyer/judge. Just let him know you know when he asks u! Why keep trash! Throw him out!
Um no I would leave him and thank her lol
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Once a cheater always a cheater
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Tell your POS Husband. Everyone always wants to go after the woman who their man is having the affair with. Get your man back in his yard or the better option kick him to the curb and get some self respect.
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Yes, but I wouldn’t do it unless you have proof to show her that he is lying and happily married. If they’ve slept together he could convince her your crazy and she’ll believe him more if they’ve been intimate. She won’t believe you’re not in the process of a divorce, unless you prove he still has you under the impression that you two are happily married. Shouldn’t be to hard.
I would make it a reality and make him pay child support because he’s cheating
Pack your bags and leave her a note saying “Good Luck”! 
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I’d serve him with divorce papers and make his lie a reality.
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I would take that up with your husband- he made the vow??
No…she’s not married to you…HE is!
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I would let her know and than become friends with her 
and leave his ass.
Oh I would be on that and letting him know I knew to
Once they cheat marriage is over my opinion
I did send a message to the chick my husband was seeing for over a year! I told her about herself and told her she could have his cheating ass! To take him back, they deserved each other! She knew him and I were very married 3 kids 19yrs together didn’t care until he wouldn’t leave me for her because of the kids so she left him. 
Only then did he come clean about everything because he was a mess over loosing her! I’d say let her know he is lying to her. She don’t need to be strung along. And you don’t deserve any of that! It’s not right. I’m sorry you are going through this. 
If you let this man do these things he will never stop. She’ll be the first of many women you try to run off but reality you deserve a man who is loyal. If all women left cheaters in the dust they may just change their ways.
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I’d surprise him with divorce papers
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Yes. I would nicely tell her that you know he has said that yous were going through a divorce but he is liar. That you arent going through a divorce.
Then I would print the messages and any thing else (along the same lines) then file for divorce
I think you let him know that he’s right, you are in the middle of a divorce.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this & I dont mean to sound harsh but it’s up to your husband to respect you & your marriage, not the woman. This has everything to do with him not her. 
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but he’s ur husband not her now whether she knows or not he is yours via the vows so i’d he can’t keep to them that’s a divorce n cheating at least give her your voice n pull
ur husband up on his crap
Tell hubby to leave - Why should we pack up our kids and leave when it is hubby who is playing up and much easier for him to move on. My ex behaved like this and I followed up with one of his girlfriends after I left the marriage and the lies he had told both of us. She and I are really good friends now and have been for may years.
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Yep. Then pack his stuff up and tell him he got the divorce he wanted
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I would call her to let her know she can come get his shit on the porch that he is moving in with her.
She ain’t the problem, he is. Throw him away and live on.
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If he told her you were in a divorce, then make his dream come true.
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And then divorce his a…
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Kick his a$$ to the curb and make it reality!!
I’d leave my cheating ass husband. I don’t understand women/men that stay with people who can’t respect their partners enough to keep themselves to themselves.
I’d take the husband and drop him at her front door
I’d be packing his bags and kicking him to the curb!
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I would! But I’m not the putting it a nice way type.
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I would tell her so she knows he is a POS too.
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Get mad at the man, not the woman.
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No, bc the prob is your husband
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I’d let her have him.
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Should make that divorce a reality
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I think even if she could put the truth she would dump him
What you should do, is not message her.
Get all your ducks in a row and keep all evidence.
Go file for divorce and do not leave the marital home since you’ve got the kids.
He is the one who has got to go.
Be smart.
Also, he is the one to blame here, not her. She owes you nothing.
He, on the other hand, married you. He owes you commitment, being faithful, etc…
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Best way to get back at the “other” woman ,is to let her have him! 
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Yes message her or even call her
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