Make that police report and get a restraining order on him
The abuse will only get worse if you let it. File charges you donāt want your kids seeing this. Not to mention the fact that most men that abuse their significant other eventually goes on to abuse their children.
Seriously. What is wrong with people? Stop posting on fucking social media! You KNOW what to do. You KNOW itās wrong. YOU have to be the one to do it. No amount of people telling you the same things you already know is gonna change anything. Get the hell away from people like this! Demand better!
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Please press charges and maybe a restraining order to keep yourself and son safe. You and no woman deserves to be beaten on.
Report it please. This only gets worse. Protect yourself and do not go back.
Are you CRAZY? THROW THAT SORRY PIECE IN JAIL, N O W !!!
Call the police. Then make an appointment at a shelter for abused women.
I think she started itā¦
Yes thatās abuse get the police involved
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Get a PFA to protect yourself and your child/children. Then if he breaks the PFA put his ass in jail.
yes you should have called the police right away
If you are asking what to do. Then you are not going to do anything. You just want someone to agree with you not to press charges. This is a not a question. Press damn charges get restraining order. This IS abuse.
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Iāve been there. I did nothing. It took me a while to realize this ā¦but YOU DONāT HAVE TO JUSTIFY HIS ACTIONS AND TAKE IT ANYMORE!!! Report him this time. What if he gets like this alone with your kids one day? What if he acts like this to your kid if the kid tries to call you for help? He needs to know that this is not okay, NOW. Do it. You will be glad you did later. I regret not reporting mine right after separation when he put his hands on me that last time. Because then he did it to my daughter, 14 at the time. You donāt have to justify and make excuses anymore. Do it!
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Police report, protection order.
Taking your phone is a felony. Assaulting you is also not legal this foesnt get better. Press the charges file the injunction.
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Absolutely yes that is abuse and you need to press charges and get a protective order
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Yes this is abuse! If you are scared about him, file a DVCPO (restraining order with or without charges you pick) that will get his ass out of the house same day you file. No man should be beating up on a woman or threatening her to do so.
Heās an abuser. Report it. Donāt wait like I did 50 years ago. He held a loaded shotgun in my face. By Godās grace I got away. But I still remember the fear.Run for your life. Iām praying for you.
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Yes youāre being abused.
Sounds like my ex 
Girl, be smarter than I was- report this guy before it gets worse because it will.
Next time you may not be so luckyā¦. Press charges! You got away relatively unscathed and are on here to talk about it. What if you donāt have this opportunity next time. Just takes one blow to permanently take you out. Sorry to say it to bluntly. But I think you need to read this.
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Call the Police and file charges that you make sure stick. He is an abuser and will continue and will get worse! It will affect your child horribly until you take control. Been there, done that!!
Yes it is abuse. You let him get away with it once it absolutely will happen again. I will say this is not the place for legal advice. It depends per state. He can be charged for Interfering with a 911 call as well by taking your phone and smashing it which is a Felony. Plenty of other charges i can think of just based off what you stated. Get an order of protection and walk away. However this doesnāt sound like this is the first time it has happened based off what you wrote. If you want help youād go to the police not fb. You have to put your foot down. Not trying to sound harsh but I have been there, and it does not get better!
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If you donāt think this is abuse I couldnāt imagine what āabuseā you have endured 
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Well, I think if you can handle so much of violent behaviour you are strong enough. Quite impressive
It is also a felony to stop someone from calling 911 these days if Iām not mistaken, might be a misdemeanor but either way thatās a crime. Get off Facebook and call the cops.
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Yes. If he did things your friends/ parents wouldnāt do to you why should he?
Definitely charge him. He assaulted you and deprived you of youāre fone. !!!
Have the SOB arrested!!! YES, he abused you!!!
Please report this. Please remove yourself and others from this situation. No amount of apologies can guarantee your safety or that of your child. Prayers for your heart and soul. This is abuse. Be safe not sorry.
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So you said he burnt you, threw you on the ground an left bruisesā¦ an youāre asking is that abuse? Please make it make sense.
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Yes itās abuse!!! It will continue and could become worse. Get away from him and get a protective order. Do it for your child, they are seeing/hearing this whether you think so or not. It will be etched in their memories. Change it now
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He assaulted you amongst other thingsā¦ He should be in jail!
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No questions asked Charge him He is not going to change Once an abuser always one Unless you get help 
Everything he did was abusive, definitely (and technically)!!! You need to get away from him, and yes charge him.
Press charges so they believe you if anything were to happen again. Get a firearm and get trained. If you donāt believe in having one there are self defense classes. I hope things get better but you have to stick up for yourself.
Absolutely you should have him charged. Once this behaviour starts, it doesnāt stop. Think about it this wayā¦ If he treated your son like that would you think he needs to be charged??? Itās no different because itās you. Keep reminding yourself, you deserve better.
Yes he physiclly and mentally abused you. You need to get a restraining order, and press charges against him and also for property damage
This is abuse. Get away from him immediately babe!
Iāll put it this way, would you press charges against someone who did this same exact thing to your child? We sometimes forget our worth, while simultaneously going above and beyond to make sure our children are respected, cared for, and loved - donāt forget youāre somebodyās daughter too, and you deserve all those things as well. If you would press charges on someone who abused your child in a heartbeat, I think the answer is clear.
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Hell yeah press charges and donāt look back!
Whatās so scary is you keep referring to 'this timeās. Girl! There shouldnt be anytime that is acceptable for anyone to put hands on your or tackle you to the point where you are physically injured. Time to leave. Your son is watching (might not this time because it was 4am) and you donāt want him to learn this behavior. Leave and never look back!
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Why does there have to be a this time or next time!!! No man should EVER put his hands on a womanā¦ How do you know there will be a next time? By allowing this, your teaching your son that this is okā¦ Please go get help! Get a restraining order or somethingā¦
Yea he absolutely did! Gosh this is distressing you even have to ask. I just want to give you hug. Go to the police please.
I am so sorry that you donāt recognise abuse, it isnāt always physical. But in this case yes, he did abuse you. He disrespected your boundaries and physically hurt you. Please call the police and press charges, take photos of all over injuries, also go over to your neighbour and report to them what happened so theyāre aware and can call the police if he returns 
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The things I found most alarming Iām this post is that several times the OP defended the ex. Protect yourself and your child/children. This is NOT okay.
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Yes, itās abuse.
Assault and Battery
Malicious destruction of property
Endangering a child
Goodbye and good riddance. File the charges and get a ppo.
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Girl yes thatās abuse?! Just bc he didnāt punch you doesnāt mean he didnāt abuse you.
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Coming from an abusive relationship Iād have to agree with Ashley Karpel on this one but keep in mind an order of protection is just a piece of paper. You have to be very diligent in āwatching your own backā and be very aware of your surroundings at all times! Abuse comes in many forms. My best help getting out and keeping my children and I safe came not from an order of protection ( yes I had one for my children and myself) but from a womenās abuse shelter in my area, Freedom House. Abuse RARELY ever gets better. Iām very thankful we were fortunate enough to survive but I had a family member that didnāt survive her abuser. So been there survived that but will NEVER let my guard down even tho my children are now adults.
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Also highly recommend counseling for you and your children. I was bought up by a amazing set of parents who instilled in me to never take any kind of abuse from anyone. And I really thought man Iād never put up with that until I was so deep in it that I didnāt know how to get out of it. Abuse on any form really screws with your head. I really and seriously thought this really isnāt abuse, itās really not that bad etc. getting out and getting thru it isnāt easy. Easier said than done!
That abuse that are chargeable. Destruction of property alone should make you eligible for a restraining order
At any time someone puts their hands on you with the intent to do harm or with out permission is assualt.
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REPORT his ass. If you donāt who knows what he may do to the next girl. He physically laid hands on you as well as took your property away so you couldnāt call for help then damaged a window. Donāt let him get away with that you deserve better.
Yes this is abuseā¦you donāt even need to ask. Report it now. Next time you could be dead.
He physically tackled you to the ground and you got hurt because of itā¦what part of that doesnāt scream abuse?! YES!!! Itās abuse and I would press charges. Take care of it now before it gets to be to late.
It is illegal to take someoneās phone the way he didā¦or at least it is in Michiganā¦thats a big crime
maāamā¦as a victim you should never down play your trauma (he didnāt do x this time or it could have been worse or its been worse before.) The point is he put his hands on you, has substance abuse issues and (the least of my worries) he damaged your personal property. You press FULL charges on that man child, you get yourself a protective order AND you take his ass to court for those damages while he is sitting there and rotting on DA charges. If he has the money to have all those substance abuse issues, he has the money to pay for those things to be replaced while he sits in grown up ātime out.ā Protect yourself, press charges, and heal. Youāre a victim, you donāt have to downplay your trauma or abuse
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He layed his hands on you, so YES, especially with whatever else is happening. Get protection and help, now
Umm yes ā¦ he grabbed you tackled you down and you have bruises regardless is the burn was āon accident ā that is abuse
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The next time you might be lucky enough like me to wake up in ICU with permanent damage and health issues or you might not be so lucky and be deadā¦ if you donāt do it for yourself at least do it to protect your childrenā¦ for years I didnāt call cops and dealt with abuse until I was knocked out cold almost dead in my driveway by the man I loved most in this world. He doesnāt love you if he can do those thingsā¦ you need to press charges and move on and stay strong for yourself and kidsā¦ I will be praying for you to have the strength to do what you need to
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My Husband back in 2004 was Drunk driving but Police brought him back home. He waited until they left then he Hit me hard on my Right Jaw ( broke it ) it Immediately Bruised . Purple and blue. I Called Cops back. They seen my Jaw . Took him to Jail for 6 Days , he had to take Anger Management Classes. I packed up next day Uhaul Truck moved out and Never went back 3rd time. They cant do that to you .
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I know that abuse is abuse and what you said is def abuse please get away like others have said next time you might not be so lucky yes in my opinion you should press charges because you should always have it on record in case something else happens js will be praying for you and your child/children because they may not have you if you continue to put up with it and no one should ever put up with abuse i agree with everyone else also i have been through it my self and it never gets better and i thought oh i love him it wont happen again well i was wrong i got it worse the next time and i mean worse wont go into detail but i left by saying i was going to a birthday party with my children and went and hid for 2 weeks till court and i won and got pfa ,and my house back but left with the clothes on our back and a change of clothes for kids thats was the best thing i ever did and never looked back now he has a new wife in same situation so it def never gets better any onr that is abused or being abused should press charges i know its scary i was scared daily for me and my children but he went to jail for breaking his pfa a couple times then he just left me alone
YES, most definitely this is domestic violence.
File a report with local law enforcement, have them take pictures of your burn and bruises as well as broken phone and car window.
KEEP A JOURNAL
Itās the best resource you will have should you go to court. Date, time, event is all you need.
HE stated you should fear him, and you should.
I was a domestic violence detective for many years. When someone behaves in such a manner, their emotions and drugs and or alcohol are controlling them. The words āyour Honor, I didnāt mean to really hurt her, I just wanted to scare her straightā still ring in my earsā¦heard it too many times.
Please file a police report, you donāt have to file charges at this timeā¦but you have documentation should you need it.
If you want to file chargesā¦you go girlā¦also get an ex parte or order of protection.
Cameras are awesome to have around your home if that is possible.
Good luck and if I can be of any help ā¦send me a direct message
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I did not read the whole postā¦ Of course press charges! Do not be silent it will only empower to do more next time. He assaulted you.
Honestly I was sexually assaulted by our gardener 3 months ago. I filed charges because I did not want him to do this ever again. There are two little girls down the hill where he also worked. He stole my piece of mind. I have court on the 27th. I will be there if the district attorney calls me on the 26th. We all know someone that has been assaulted. If there is one there is ten women. Many people tolerate abuse. They allow there children to see it and that it is OK. File.
It kept running through my mind. I couldnāt stop the loop of visuals that kept running on and on for 3 days. I finally wrote it all down so I didnāt have to think about it anymore. Please donāt wait.
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Press charges! He put hands on you girl! He threatened and harassed you! Geta protection order. Take pictures of the burn and bruises and all property damage! Abuse is abuseā¦whether or not he punched you this time is immaterial. That statement broke my heart. You are strong and tough and will get through this!
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Yes he abused you! Emotional, verbal, psychological and physical are all abuse wether it was accidental or on purpose.
Call the police and file a report!
Go to court and file out the form for a restraining order!
Go see a lawyer to start divorce proceedings and custody and child support paperwork. They will also get you off of the lease and utilities and get you back your share of the security deposit.
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YES!! He committed assault and battery!! Domestic Violence!! And I think itās a felony to take someoneās phone so that they cannot dial 911. Report This Abuse To The Law Enforcement Immediately!!! 
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File a report!! Thatās is considered a terrorist threat (felony) not to mention the other things he did. Get a restraining order n get help. Iām sorry this happened to you. But take action now!!! Get cameras on your place.
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Girlā¦PRESS CHARGES! Yes he abused youā¦and sounds like itās not the 1st timeā¦him taking ur phone so u couldnāt call for help is a charge in itselfā¦no man is worth losing ur life forā¦it will only get worse
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He most definitely abused you you have bruises on you plus he destroyed your property I would definitely be pressing charges and making him pay for that stuff
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Stopping someone from calling for help is a felony!! Him taking your phone away to prevent you getting help is a felony. So YES press charges.
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Hun ALL of that is abuse. No judgment. Iāve been in an abusive relationship. Finally stopped watering down and stopped giving his actions and choices excuses! Took a gun to the head to get out ASAP. I took my dog and bounced hard. You have a kid to think about. Fuck that behavior. Drugs and alcohol and past trauma are not a good enough excuse. That boy needs serious help that you are not trained to deal with.
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Press charges and get a restraining order immediately!! Get out now while you still can for your child and for yourself! This man is abusive in every sense of the word!
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If he laid a finger on you and left a mark yes. Not only did he physically abuse you he mentally abused you and then he did damage to your proberty fuck yes press charges
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He put hands on you. He damaged your property (car window & phone). He threatened you. You need to choose to stay or get out of it. My suggestion is to remove yourself from him or get a Tpo to restrain him from coming around. If your son is living in all this then in Dfcs outlook is you are allowing it around the child if you donāt try to stop it or get out/away from it. What would I do? Press charges. Get tpo. Leave him. Seek help with a domestic violence program for housing and abusive mental relief. Stay strong. Iāve been through it too. Oh and remember God doesnāt tolerate abuse either.
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He laid his fingers on you !!!
Assault ABH !!!
Take photos of your injuries and contact the police ASAP x
He is an ex for a reason !!!
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You should press charges for all the above!!! He may not have hit you āthis timeā but next time he just may kill you. Dont take a chance with your life like that, get away from him and get a restraining order
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It is abuse. Iām so sorry that this has been happening to you. You sound a lot like I did before I left my now ex husband. You get so used to being treated badly that you arenāt even sure what to do if anything. Turn him in. It could escalate to worse and your kid needs you.
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Iām really unsure why your asking for validation, do what you have to do to protect yourself and your familyā¦no body deserves to be treated like that.
Lay the chargers and make him accountable for his actions.
Also put a protection order in place.
STAY STRONG, its to easy not to.
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Yes he did abuse you. Threats are abuse. Tackling some one is abuse. Yes press charges. Sounds like he needs help and if he follows through with the threats you can be in danger.
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You have bruises yes that is physical abuse. You need to press charges get him arrested and off the streets who knows what he will do next time. He physically harmed you, and damaged property. And by telling you that hes going to punch you in the face is a threat. I hope all turns out for you and hes out of your life for the sake of you and your child.
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You have got three kinds of abuse: physical, verbal and emotional abuse!
Yes you should report him, he has made threats and who knows what he could potentially be like next time, dont wait around for that!
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Absolutely this is abuse and domestic violence. Donāt every question it. If he restrained you, hurt you ro made you feel unsafe it is abuse
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Quit making excuses that he accidentally burned you. He already decided he was going to attack you therefore heās at fault. Trust me heāll do it again and again. Press charges to the fullest.
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You were abused. Notify police and follow through by pressing charges. Next time your son maybe involved.
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To me he definitely needs to get hel. Abuse is abuse no matter how you look at this situation. This needs addressed NOW hopefully they get him where he needs to be as well as place you in a protective place so healing can begin. Things will only get worse and for what ever reason why he needs to be delt with legally before others get hurt again.
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This time, this time. How many times has he laid his hands on you. Baby, there are people out there that will help you get out of that situation. You are NOT and never will be a punching bag for a coward. Stand up, walk tall and proud and take your babies and go. Do everything legal, police, custody but stand proud of who you are. Donāt hate, that is a waste of time and energy. Forgive and move forward to be the AWESOME person that GOD created and rear those babies so that they know you are a warrior for yourself and for them.
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Um hello just going back to the property and raising his voice saying bad things burning you all abuse honey.
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Press them charges for the safety and wellbeing of not only yourself but your child also. Take pictures of every mark left by him. And a hole in your arm is not an accidentā¦ Especially if he was already abusing you.
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The way he was treating you, effectively TERRORIZING you, is 100% abuse! Any time someone loses control of themselves and threatens you in any manner they are abusing you! Doesnāt matter if he never even touched you! Abuse comes in many forms!
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ok so what part of this are you questioning???..you are clearly an abused partner making excuses for his actionsā¦report him to policeā¦next time he may āaccidentlyā kill you and your sonās next birthday may be without youā¦ijs
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Yes press charges and get a restraining order if you have to. He didnāt punch you THIS time but next time, more than likely there will be a next time he could do way worse.
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It only gets worse from here. Press charges get out while u can . Iāve lived through much worse and am lucky to be alive. This is only the beginning. Get out now.
That is all abuse as outlined in the statutes. All he has to do is make you feel afraid for it to be abuse. Call the cops because next time it might be your kids that he puts his hands on
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If you spot on someone it is considered an attack. So it seems pretty clear. If he touched you at all, that is wrong and you can and should press charges. Next time he might have a gun or knife and you wonāt get to walk away. Press charges! I didnāt and lived in fear for many years
If you are asking if he abused you this time because you really donāt know, youāve been abused for a long time and you need to get some help. And yeah press charges if you can, you usually have to do it the day of I would think but maybe not.
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Press charges against him. Donāt allow him to get away with anything and if possible stop by your local er for pictures and documentation of what happened
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Love isnāt supposed to hurt at all, he threatened and attacked you. Those are all forms of abuse.
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Yes he did abuse you and you need to file a report and get a protection order next time you might not be so lucky
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