You can’t put him on the birth certificate with out him there and signing his part… Under father it will be “unknown”
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I know it probably hurts that he suggested that, but women consider abortion all the time. Why would you cut all contact just because he’s scared to be a dad? Give him a chance. Tell him you aren’t aborting, and he can either have contact or no contact at all. Put him on the birth certificate because the child deserves to know who his biological parent is no matter what was said or done. You can also get child support even if he wants no visitation/contact. If you cut contact without even giving him a change and don’t put him on the birth certificate, question whether that decision is for your benefit (because you seem to just want to “wipe YOUR hands clean”) or is it what’s best for your child? Again, people consider and suggest abortion all the time. Doesn’t mean they don’t step up and be an amazing parent if the baby is born.
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I wouldn’t add anyone else’s name until there’s a paternity test.
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He’s a flake and will most likely disappoint the child with his empty words. Cut your losses
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Don’t put his name on the certificate or he’ll have legal rights. Protect your child.
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I think for the sake of your child put the fathers name on the birth certificate but give your child your last name , because eventually your child will ask who the father is…. And I wouldn’t let him get of scotch clean he should have to pay child support it’s his baby so his responsibility! Either way you will be a great mother and make the right decision when the time comes!
Nah don’t put him on
Leave his name off. Hopefully you don’t need or want anything financial from him so just don’t contact him anymore. There are many resources for single parents if you don’t have a good support system/family. Prayers and hugs. 
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Put him on the birth certificate. The child would want to know his father one day.
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Honey you can not put them on the birth certificate and still get child support it’s his loss if he does want to be on the birth certificate but you can still get paternity done
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Idk how it is in ur state, I’m in WV and unless married u can’t put fathers name on unless he’s there to sign his information, I wouldn’t do it unless u go to court and have it proven that way he can’t just take off with baby
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Save yourself the heartache and leave it blank. You’ll end up fighting the system if you ever need help, probably fighting for child support, cause he most likely won’t pay it, fighting with him even, cause he will use his rights to make your life and your child’s life hell.
You can’t add his name without his consent anyway. Its really a non-issue.
Don’t even bother he said he wants nothing to do with it
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Do not put him on… keep his contact info in safe keeping if there is ever an emergency… like super last resort
No leave name off.that way he will have no rights
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I wouldn’t put him on the birth certificate if that’s his attitude. I would file for child support. You might need it later on…or put it in a savings for his education.
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I haven’t even bothered to read any other comments. But leave that name off the birth certificate and wipe your hands clean. You CAN support that baby alone and will do a fine job of it. Mama’s make it work. Best thing I ever did and 9 years later she’s all mine and I don’t have to deal with anyone else’s drama!!
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I say no. His name doesn’t have to be on the birth certificate for those things to happen later down the line.
I would really think on it… my only concern is a lot of situations like this don’t always end up with a “dead beat” on the other end. I’ve seen first hand a man who didn’t want the baby because he cheated but his wife for whatever reason couldn’t have children, they made up and plotted against the birth mother to take the baby from her. Went through the courts and everything, they thankfully did NOT win full custody but some of these turn out to be like lifetime movies….
A child’s life is nothing to play with. You can still keep record of who he is for when it is needed to be known but if you don’t even really know this man, and he doesn’t even want the baby or you, you really don’t know what type of situation you’re taking yourself and this baby into.
Good luck momma, wish you a safe and healthy pregnancy. Hope you’re able to figure out what’s best for you and baby. 
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He can sign a knowledge of paternity paper and not be on the birth certificate. That’s what was done with my first son. I took him for child support (never got anything from the pos)
2 different things. Put him on the birth cert and go after him for child support. When the baby is born, file for sole custody. Custody and child support are 2 different things. Even though father’s think they ‘get what they pay for’ it doesn’t apply to children. He can pay child support and never see the kid.
Hell no!! Hé wanted to abort.
If the baby is born and hè wants to see The baby you should let him. But wait with al the ‘legal’ stuff
the child has the right to its father’s name whether or not you want it, but the man that will raise this child will always be Dad
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If he wants his name on it, he can get his name on it.
Bye bye bye. Save ye heartach an pain. You got this!
Everyone should have the right to their lineage!
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When u name the baby use your name and his incase the child wants to look him up when he’s older
He doesn’t have to be on the birth certificate in order for you to file for child support, I wouldn’t add him but if you want you can also add his last name and not even have him on the birth certificate
He has to sign these papers.
Personally I’d put him on there, more so your child can see who their bio dad is later in life, and have it legally recorded that he is, depending on where you are, sometimes they have to agree to signing it.
You don’t have to put him on the birth certificate. If he wants rights he can take you to court for a paternity test and rights to the baby. If he isn’t going to be involved then you definitely need child support. You didn’t make this baby alone.
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Just becouse he does not have this name on it does not mean he has no rts he can force a dna test 1rst. You need to think of child put this name on cert but also go to lawyer you can file abandon mental chug or full custody tell him you raise child by self the child later in life might need histery of dad if you Denise him what if the have hereditary concerns ect
No amount of child support money would make me put him on the birth certificate. He spoke his mind, there’s no changing it later on, it’s not a toy, it’s a child. I’d be on my own with the baby. Someone right will come along 
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Yep. This way the child knows which parent wouldn’t grow up and man up.
I say no. You can tell your child about him when they are old enough to understand. Sounds like he wants nothing to do with your/his child and you will be better off in the future. Good luck.
In WA state you are immediately giving him rights by putting him on the birth certificate. If it were me, which it has been, I would leave him off. It’s not malicious, he can make the effort if he chooses. So far my son is almost 7, and it’s still just me and him.
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Nope he doesn’t want it now plus they will go after him for child support down the line . Don’t add him but you can always send updates if you wanted every couple of months 
Every child should know his/her father 
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Researching family history discovered my grandfather has no father listed on his birth certificate. His mother has passed so we will never know… just a consideration 
Or maybe ask yourself, how would you feel if you didn’t know who your parents were. If you were to die, then any chance of your child knowing who its father was is denied by the choice not to.
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Ok realistically how many woman have considered adoption or abortion when they first found out and then when they heard that heartbeat or felt that first kick changed their feelings. Why are men not allowed the same feelings? Men don’t go through the physical stuff so it takes them longer to warm up to the idea of a baby and typically arent even very bonded to said baby until they see it and hold it. And then they can be really great fathers.
I guess Im the only person here who thinks that he should be given every opportunity to be a Father and if he then chooses not to he should absolutely be held financially responsible. Just cuz he’s not on the BC doesn’t remove his rights it just has to go through a court process first. AND That baby deserves the opportunity to have BOTH parents (and spouses and FAMILIES) loving it. My daughters father is MIA but his family is AMAZING and I am sooooo grateful for them. I am so glad I took him for child support and he made the choice to be a dead beat.
But don’t label this guy before he has a chance to prove himself.
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He told you to abort - absolutely not. He clearly wants nothing to do with the child nor wants to be involved.
He can put it in there if he feels like. If you’re not married, Utah makes the father sign paperwork to even be on the certificate anyways
been in the exact situation with my first. Was nuts about the guy but I was being used then he demanded I abort or adopt out the kid because he won’t help at all. ORS disagreed 
Nope. He said abort so he’s pretty clear on where he stands. Coming from a single mother leave him out of everything.
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Don’t put him on and claim child support
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Depends on the state. If he decides he still wants custody he can still file and the court will order a DNA test to prove paternity based on your text notifying him he’s the father.
But just want to add, it’s not cute to shit on someone who is likely unsure about wanting to raise a child with someone he was hooking up with for only 4 weeks. As a women, you should know that men are not held responsible for shit. You chose to have unprotected sex with a guy you were dating for a 4 week period of time and it sounds like your mad he decided he didn’t want you.
Babies don’t keep men boo and your 12 weeks along, after he processes the news he could man up.
I know in my state if the father is not there to sign the birth certificate if you aren’t married he cannot be put in the birth certificate. I would check your state laws. But honestly if he doesn’t want the child now I wouldn’t force it, you’re better off without someone that won’t be consistent
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Are you in the U.K.? I thought you could only put father on BC if he was there with you. It might have changed now though. Good luck xx
In some states they use the mom’s last name so if your not married the baby won’t get the name. They would have to sign a PA to have their dad’s last name and you can still get child support without the last name.
Wipe your hands from dirt let him go get your c s a don’t let him take the piss
I put my sons absent fathers name on certificate, he never signed though.
My son has never met his father and has no desire to. He’s 19.5 years old now. Didn’t get one dime of child support. If he (son) ever wants to meet him he knows how to get contact.
nope!! make it easier on yourself and leave his name off of it girlfran!
congratulations on that bundle of joy🥰
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You don’t have to, however, don’t ever plan on collecting child support if you don’t.
In Alabama they won’t let you add the father unless he’s present at the hospital or unless you provide a marriage license.
Legal advice … If you are not married or you do not plan to spend your life with the person you had a child with DO NOT put a father on the birth certificate. That doesn’t mean your your child has no father that just means he would have to take you to court or vice versa for him to have rights it helps if he ever got a wild hair and wanted to take your child and not give them back!! Don’t say it won’t happen to you because it happens more than you think!! If you do not have a custody agreement through the court if he signs they have every legal right to withhold visitation til you take them to court and vice versa!! So do not put anyone on the birth certificate!!
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Wipe your hands an walk away. That was done to me when I got pregnant. Had a DNA done for government assistance and it came back to haunt me. I wished I’d never done it.
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I say don’t put on birth certificate and don’t contact him!
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you do not have to put him on the birth certificate to get child support. the court will order a DNA test to be done when you’re figuring everything out
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Wash your hands of him Good Riddance to bad rubbish
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In new jersey you can’t pit the father on the birth certificate with out his signature
She didn’t say she wouldn’t tell her child about this “father”. She simple wants to know if she should let this man who wants her to abort the baby any rights to her child. And I say no, wipe your hands clean of the man. I was left at 7 months pregnant by my “fiance”. I informed him when I had her, but I did not put him on the birth certificate, I was only 18 and scared if I did he could come back and clam her as his. And I am 100% ok with what I did. She will be 9 in a two months and he has never meet her. His family has…but he has never once come down to meet her. His mother, her grandmother is super active in her life. She knows about him, I never kept that from her. I have 3 other children and a great man and father to my kids, who’s my daughter absolutely adores. He is her Dad! So I say NO, Do Not put him on the birth certificate.
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Putting him on the birth certificate does not give rights. He would have to legitimize the baby to get those rights. Family member going thru this now that thought be bad rights because his name was on the birth certificate and nope!!
Wipe your hands clean of him
I wouldn’t put him on if he doesn’t want the child. In my opinion if a woman can choose to abort(which I fully support) then a man should have the right to not be legally or financially responsible for a child he doesn’t want but the woman chooses to keep.
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A few things…
First. You cannot actually put him on the birth certificate without his permission. It’s illegal.
He must sign an affidavit acknowledging paternity.
If you plan to put him on child support… child support enforcement can and will establish paternity through DNA, and that can be taken to court where a judge can (and will) order his name to be out on the birth certificate. In some places this establishment automatically get his name put on BC in archives.
The choice is yours, but you cannot completely refuse to acknowledge paternity but still draw child support.
It doesn’t quite work that way.
The decision of course has to be yours.
The only way you’re most likely to keep him off birth certificate and out of your life is to not file.
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If your in the UK you’d need father to be there to add him to BC, with out his name on it you can still go for child maintenance and unless he can prove it isn’t his child (DNA testing) he will have to pay maintenance
Speaking from personal experience my best advice is to not put the fathers name. Look out for you and your child
He doesn’t have to be on the birth certificate for you to file child support. In a situation like yours, I would leave him off of the birth certificate, give the baby your last name and file for child support. He helped make that baby, if he isn’t going to willingly help take care of that baby, your state will make him, at the very least, provide financial support for that baby.
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No I would not put him on the babys birth certificate and I would give the baby your last name. You can still file for child support they’ll just want to do a DNA test. I did not put my son’s biological father on his birth certificate and I gave him my last name at the time (I am married now). I still got child support for awhile they just had us get a DNA test done.
I wouldn’t even bother…
I would just wash my hands clean of him and walk away. Wish I would have done that with my son’s Dad. He told me when I told him I was pregnant that he wanted me to have an abortion. Now he supposedly loves his child, but doesn’t want to pay child support, and makes my life a living hell on purpose. Some men just suck at being adult, and parents! Good luck Mama and hugs to you.
Run don’t walk away from this creep!! You and your baby will do amazing! Do not ever let him have rights he doesn’t deserve
It all depends on the state but in my personal experience the father of my children signed the birth certificate and we were not married. When we split up and went to court he tried to deny the kids and was told he could ask for paternity tests to be done. Knowing they were indeed his he did not go further with it. He was given child support order and has visitation. In the event something happens to me he is first in line as their legal father to take the children, think about everything before making any decisions. If he doesn’t want anything to do with it leave it as such. He has to sign off on anything anyway unless you get a paternity and court order making him later… You won’t get financial support if you leave it alone, so be prepared either way for what can happen now and in the future… Keep record of any correspondence between you if there is any to use either now or later if needed…
I have a son with the love of my life. Someone I was with for a few years, and we continued to hook up after. I now have an almost 4 year old amazing son. He was never in his life, and I gave him plenty of chances. Don’t want anything from him just wanted him to be a dad to his son. He doesn’t want it, so why would I drag myself through court. Paying child support doesn’t make you a father, actually being there for your child does. If you can do it without, don’t bother. Less Of a headache.
Good for you for not killing your baby.
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I wouldn’t worry about it…go on with your life without the headache
You can’t put him on the birth certificate without him being there to sign an acknowledgement of paternity that gets signed in front of a witness (the nurse for us), however, if you claim child support the judge will confirm paternity via DNA, and he will be put on the birth certificate, doesn’t mean he’ll get any parenting rights, he’d have to fight for those if he wants them. Sounds like he doesn’t though. You will have to fight for child support if you want it, but I encourage you too. Took two of you to make this baby. If you ever apply for financial assistance, they will help you/make you claim child support, unless it’s a domestic violence situation and going after child support would put you in danger. Best of luck you you and your baby
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Wipes your hands clean and move on!!
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I know you guys don’t care. But the child would like to know who his real father is weather you put it on paper.
I know from experience seen pros and cons
The child always wanted to know who
Don’t. Period. Even if you put him on it, it’s not sealed unless he’s there to sign it. So you COULD take him off if you choose to put him on and he doesn’t sign. That’s exactly what I did. 6 months in, took him off bc he’s a deadbeat and I was just being hopeful when I put him on the certificate.
Scrub those hands clean and enjoy your baby. When he/she gets old enough to answer questions just explain he was not ready to be a dad. When they are 18 if more questions come up give them his name.
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I know it takes two to make a baby…But it should be a planned pregnancy by both…too many women purposely get pregnant and these poor children have to grow up without fathers…We as woman could prevent pregnancy. We have control over our own bodies…I know in certain cases we can’t…but women seem to keep having baby after baby with no daddy…It isn’t fair to the children…
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No…don’t bother give your child your family name.
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I wouldn’t til trust can be shown til his intention is to step up … he can always be put on it in the future but for now I’d give no rights to someone who would ask you to abort and not be involved
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Why would you when he’s literally denying your child. I wouldn’t
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I had this same question when I had a 2 week fling and got pregnant he wanted me to abort or put it up for adoption. As he was on and off with his sons mom for 6 years. She’s from the north shore he lived in the south so she never knew and neither did I. I’m going for child support now as he makes good money doing landscaping we were together for 6 months.
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His name does not have to be on the birth certificate for him to be made to pay child support I know from experience if he doesn’t want anything to do with the baby now and he does later on he can have it added for a fee
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You get a dna test and have him pay child support
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Do it for the child support. I didn’t put my child’s father on the birth certificate because he was a very bad man. But your child needs child support.
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Give the child your name and sue him for child support and let him take you to court for any rights he wants to claim. Keep a diary so you don’t forget important comments he made that can help you in court. ie get rid of it. No follow your own heart in this.
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Do not put him on the birth certificate and file for child support and let him deal with the consequences his choice for being a douche… my ex is not on the birth certificate and they did not make me put him on it nor has he ever asked even for child support child support and birth certificate are irrelevant. Childsupport will just make sure he is the father by doing a paternity test at least thats what they did here in california.
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Oh my gosh make him pay child support!
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Wipe him out of it he’s not worth it he’ll be the one that misses out on the baby .
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Clean hands bright future with your baby
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Nope eff him and just cut ties
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You’re only 12 weeks, he still has time to get his shit together. But if he doesn’t change his mind or ways, just wipe your hands of it. Less stress for you and the baby the better.
Don’t claim child support. He doesn’t want your kid and clearly if it was HIS choice he would abort; so let him abort the option to ever know the kid.
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No, he doesn’t want any part in this.
Your choosing to keep a baby he has told you he dosent want to have any part in do not put him on the birth certificate and do not collect child support…
Your keeping the baby he is not !!
good luck!
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My son’s biological father told me that this baby is not his and that he does not want anything to do with it and caused a lot of problems during the pregnancy when I had the baby I did not put him on the birth certificate and to this day they do not have a relationship. Sometimes it’s best to wash your hands from the situation and just raise your baby
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wipe your hands clean now I wish I had done this because now I have a teen who hates me because he thinks I kept him from his father
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