You cannot put him on the birth certificate unless he signs the paper. So it’ll go without his name on it unless he signs it. If you go for child support at some point once paternity is established he’ll then be put on it.
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If he isn’t around during the pregnancy and doesn’t bother to ask once he knows, just leave him off. You never know if you’ll meet someone down the road who will love you and your child as their own. Will want to adopt them too. Not having him on the birth certificate makes it that much easier.
I would leave him off! He clearly doesnt want any part of that sweet baby’s life. And you and your baby will obviously be much better off without him!
I would leave it up to him/ask him.
I think regardless of whether he is on the birth certificate, he can still claim rights in seeing the child, and you can still get xhild support.
Try taking the emotion out of it, and do what’s best for your little one without the animosity.
Maybe make it clear to him, that a relationship with his child doesn’t automatically mean that he has to have a relationship with you. And also that if he doesn’t build that bond with the child when the child is young, it will be harder for him to gain a strong relationship as the child grows.
Leave the ball in his court xox
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Give the baby your last name. Leave him off the birth certificate. If he’s on it and you ever want to travel internationally, you’d need his written consent. Spare yourself the trouble if you can do so.
To me, naming the father on the birth certificate is stating a fact- not asking the father to be part of your child’s life. I think it is important for your child to have their full family history available to them, so in the future they can make their own decisions x
Give the baby your last name. That way in the future if you meet someone who wants to adopt your child it is easier. I am going through this right now. Hasn’t seen “our” daughter since she was 9 mo old (she’s 15 now) my husband wants to adopt her but her father won’t terminate his rights.
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I wouldn’t give the baby the last name or put him on birth certificate. He lost that right when he suggested abortion.
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From my understanding when I had my kids is you can give the any last name you chose but you can’t put the father on the birth certificate he has to sign the papers… or at least that’s what was told to me at the hospital, that he had to present to sign with his signature not me just putting him down
You were a 1 month fling, he doesn’t want a child, don’t do it. Don’t try to force someone to be a father when he doesn’t want to. If things were reversed and he wanted the kid but you didn’t, you would just get an abortion and it would be the end of it.
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I would save the trouble and not put him down on the certificate. He suggested you get an abortion that should tell you right there 
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He needs to sign the birth record so unless he accepts it I don’t really think you have a choice but to leave him off.
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It’s up to the father if he wants to be named on the birth certificate… it’s not your choice to be despitful and leave him off it… if he wants his name on it then why deny him that, it’s his child too… what I really don’t understand is why would you want to keep a father off your child’s birth certificate but yet want to claim child support… if you don’t want the father to have anything to do with the child then leave it at that, why make him pay money for a child that you have decided to keep and refuse him access to… far out childsupport is one of the worst things to of happened… if you can’t afford to have a baby on your own then that’s on you… childsupport only makes people resent someone more, specially when you deny parental rights and access… people need to think about their child and how this will effect them in their life… just my opinion and no doubt it will get hate but ohh well… if you’re strong enough to have the child on your own and keep the father off the birth certificate and deny access then be strong enough to do it financially on your own too…
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Name your baby whatever you want doesn’t have to be bio dads last name and you can still claim child support with paternity test 
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I would leave it open. He can request a DNA test and court services later if he so chooses. But if you list it on the birth certificate then it’s likely a court battle will ensue.
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I’ve got 4 children and my 1st and 2nd children have their dad on their birth certificate
My 3rd daughter’s dad was a fling type thing and he made it clear he didn’t want anything to do with her ect so I didn’t put him on
My 4th child has her daddy on hers and so will this baba xx (same daddy)
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Nope.
#1 terrible sperm donor
And #2 Because your baby is the one who has to sign/hear that last name the rest of their life and you’ll eventually have to tell the story of what happened.
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No birth certificate and the baby should have your last name.
If he doesn’t sign he can’t get on. If you do a paternity test then he will get put on. I don’t receive child support my sons father doesn’t see him and he’s on the BC. He claimed he wasn’t the father (lies) took a DNA and he is the father. Anyways I still don’t get child support and my son is 9 and he’s never cared to ask about him or see him. Now, I wish I just wouldn’t have done the DNA test so my man now could adopt him. I’m hoping that since he’s never supported, never tried to see him and all that, that I can get him of the birth certificate easy. We shall see. You don’t want all the headache. Just let him be it’s early anyways and he may have a change of heart. Good luck to you, and congratulations on the bundle.
I guess it would depend on your situation and whether or not the child support would help you
Honestly I wouldn’t contact him ever he wants you to abort his girlfriend probably has no idea about you guys and until they break up he will probably never try to reach out.
Child support can still be established without his last name if you want to go that route.
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Whether or not his name is on the birth certificate, you can still get child support. Having a different last name than yours can cause confusion on paperwork and makes it harder if you decide you really do want nothing to do w/ him. Plus, why would you want the child to carry the name of someone who would want them killed?
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A birth certificate I think has to be signed by the father if he wants to claim the child
Nowadays he would have to give consent & his signature to be on the birth certificate from the last I knew. So if he isn’t going to be around why give him that pleasure?
Can you put his name on the birth certificate without his permission? I know in some states the father has to sign the paperwork to put his name on the birth certificate
Every child has a right to know who there parents are good or bad…
You can claim child support without him on the birth certificate. Id leave him off. Claiming cs doesnt give him rights he would have to take you to court on a separate case for any kind of rights
Don’t put him on birth certificate and hit him for child support one year after birth — Unless you don’t want him to know at all, then maybe just wash your hands- I suppose the right thing to do is to tell him you’re having the baby and ask him if he wants any involvement, and tell him you’re willing to claim full custody and take full responsibility and not contact him again as an option, and if he takes that option screenshot it and save it in your files. Then hit him for child support after six months of abandonment lol.
He said get an abortion,he does not want that child. That is your child only!
This is a big personal decision. You can always add his name later. You could not remove it without difficulty. Those are the two simplest sentences to consider in a tough decision.
Same thing happened to me 17 yrs ago. I washed my hands clean, never put him on the birth certificate. About 5 yrs later, had to apply for state assistance, did DNA test per court. I decided on visitation with him and her, once he remained constant, I let her go more. Fast forward to present, visitation is now when she wants, he still isn’t on her certificate, although he has had the paperwork to get added, owes me child support that I will never see and have only asked for his help twice in her 16 yrs on earth. I view her as mine since I birthed her and he just donated the sperm to give her to me. I don’t keep her from him, it’s still my choice of visitation per court, he’s never fought to change it.
I’d call him and give him the option to show up and do so since you cannot put it on yourself anymore but I would give the child my last name and not worry about whether he did or didn’t- families come in every shape and size and fuck him if he doesn’t see the value of yours.
That’s his child, perhaps unfortunately, and said child deserves at least the financial support of both parents.
If he’s not going to be there when she’s born or anything, I don’t think they can put his name on the certificate. Both of you signing is saying neither of you contest who the parents are.
For the sake of your child knowing where they come from, I think you should put the father on there. Give baby your last name though!
You might just have peace of mind raising the child yourself with your family. But will the baby have peace of mind not knowing their father?
My sister had a similar situation. She left him off and is raising my nephew without him. If he asks about his dad down the road she will tell him. But we believe in not forcing someone in our kids lives that don’t want or deserve to be there. In the long run it’s about the child’s well-being and if dad doesn’t want to be there then he may not treat them right without you around.
U just can’t put him, he needs to be present and give his signature if it’s out of wedlock…at least that’s how it is in Texas. Later if he wants rights and a relationship it would have to come from him.
They will only put him on it if he’s there to sign the paper work at the time
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If you’re not married, unless he’s present to sign the birth certificate, he won’t be on it. If for whatever reason, you change your mind and want him on it later, you could change it at the court house
I would not put him on the birth certificate. You Gave him a chance to be involved and he didn’t want to.
I wouldn’t….and if he does eventually want to see the child, let him go through the hoops to get name on certificate and parental rights…that’ll show he actually wants to know his kid…, in my opinion, of course…
Either way it bites you in the arse.Did it both ways and now my girls don’t talk to me.
In KY the father has to sign the document to be on the birth certificate. Might want to look into how it is in your state
You can’t make the choice to put him on the birth certificate, you can choose to give the baby his last name or not. But only he can put himself on the birth certificate
Leave him off. If he wants to put in the effort with the kid, then he can put in the effort with the paternity test/courts first. Meanwhile adding him means at any point he can disrupt your life.
He has to be there at the hospital to sign the paperwork requesting the birth certificate. You both have to sign in in front of a nurse. Or later you both have to take the paperwork to a notary.
Oh hell no. If he decides to step up and do right by the child you can always add him to the birth certificate later.
You don’t have to give the child his last name to have him named as father
I was told same thing I did not put him on the birth certificate
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he has to sign the birth certificate or they won’t put him on it at all.
If he wants to be involved with the child,then yes I would. If not then I’d just move on.
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He wants to kill a human being to save his own skin, make him sign it, get the child support, and not sure he would want to see the baby
Actually, if you apply for any benefits for this child, DSS will go after him.
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He still has to sign it himself though doesn’t he or has that rule changed?
He has to choose to be on the birth certificate…
If he doesn’t want the baby and he was a 4 week fling I would just leave him off and give the baby my name. . .
Do not put him on there and don’t give the baby his name.
Nope i wouldnt put his name on or even your baby his name.
Pretty sure he has to be there to sign leave it unknown
Wipe your hands clean don’t put his name on anything
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From personal experience, don’t put his name on it.
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Definitely put your last name on the birth certificate however
He has rights to the child whether he’s on the birth certificate or not. The child has his DNA 
. The State can take his rights away, but until then, he has just as much rights and responsibilities to care for the child as you do.
Do what you feel most comfortable with.
No. Don’t put him on. Give him your last name and go for child support
You can’t write him in he has to be there to sign unless you’re married orher wise you have to get dna prove he is the father.
I believe he has to agree to be put on.
Can you put someone on the birth certificate if you aren’t married? Wouldn’t he had to sign a declaration of paternity?
Absolutely not. God forbid if there’s custody issues later.
Just tell him to fly a kite and do it yourself
Um yes you put thr blood father on that birth certificate…don’t you put some other man in that position. That’s their birth certificate not yours!.. is this question for real… or just leave it blank.
Depending on your state he would have to willingly sign a BC. My advice would be if youre seeking child support, file paper work requiring a DNA test/proof of paternity and go from there.
I would ask him exactly that. Are you here or not, then go from there. If doesn’t want involvement make sign over rights when baby is born
He has to be there for his name to go on it so if he shows up then fine. If not he will need to get a solicitor to witness him signing it, again give him that choice. You can’t force him but for your child’s sake you can only try.
That’s his child whether you like it or not.
How will you respond when your child starts asking you questions…like who is my father? One day that child will need their birth certificate
I thought I had only a story like this. I didn’t because in the end it was easier for me
He’s a loser do wot u wnt
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The Asshole needs to pay child support.
Wipe your hands it’s his loss
Just leave him he girl your better off
Wipe your hands clean quick
No way. If he cannot manup now , then it’s not worth it later…
Heck no! I wouldn’t put him on it
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Wipe your hands clean.
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I wouldn’t put him on it because he doesn’t want anything to do with the baby and its true that you could get child support from him if hes on it to help support the baby but it wouldn’t be worth it because then he would be allowed part custody and would make your life a living hell through his part time custody and always have a say in things so nope wouldn’t want him on there
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Do what feels right mama 
you know what’s best for your little one
Not sure where you live, but here he doesn’t need to be there to sign. He doesn’t want to be there and told you to abort… he pretty much answered this for you in my opinion 
and speaking from experience. It will be less messy when they are older when he may or may not, all of a sudden, want to be there. At that point everyone will be strangers, don’t want him strolling in after all those years.
#protectyourself
I would put him on the birth certificate, at the end of the day he is the father and your child later on down the line will probably atleast want to know who their father is, even if you are not talking etc
In the UK they have to be present at the registration to go on the birth certificate unless you have a statutory declaration drawn up which he’s signed confirming he wants to go on the certificate but won’t be attending registration. You can also add him to the birth certificate at a later date at any point but he will then have rights. He doesn’t have to be on the birth certificate in order for you to get child support from him! Good luck x
Where I live you can’t put them on the birth certificate unless they sign for it. I was in a similar situation so I decided to give my daughter my last name considering he didn’t even want anything to do with her and we didn’t know each other very well and just move on with my life.
If you’re not married, he has to be there to be put on the birth certificate whilst registering unless covid has changed the rules. So that might make the decision for you. X
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My experience is to wipe your hands clean and not deal with someone who openly doesn’t want the child is the easiest way. Not the nicest…but easier
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I would say no but you need to do what is best for your child. Think hard, get legal advice and go from there. Many prayers for a happy life for both you and your baby.
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Move on, don’t look back, and raise your precious child-gift by yourself. God will help!
Don’t cause yourself future complications with unwanted relationships.
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