If he is good to your little one, you have won the lottery. Pick your battles!
I would let it ride and donât worry about him and if your little one itâs okay with everything then I would just have fun with the your new friend and to heck with heck with your X he broke the agreement, his loss
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You both are really fast. Is your kid already rather do people to?
Let it flow you donât show him nothing or tell him nothing. Yâall not together no more so he does not have to know nothing point blank .
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I donât understand why you would need to meet them. Who cares whose dating who really as long your child is safe and happy. If you insist just wait until itâs been 6 months or you could meet each otherâs partners on Christmas or your toddlerâs next birthday?
Going through the same thing with my daughterâs father. We broke up before she was born. Sheâll be 6 this year. I feel like I donât have to meet every single one of his "girlfriends ". But it would be nice to meet the ones he knows heâll be long term with and have around my daughter the most. One thing about my daughter is she tells me everything when she comes back from her fatherâs house. Please know she is never forced to tell me anything. She just like to talk alot. I donât ask to be best friends with the girl. I just want to know who will be around my daughter. The guy Iâm with now set up a day for them to meet, offered him a ride, and everything. His response was he Saud hi to him one time when we picked up my daughter so he felt like he met him already.
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My opinion is you wait quite a while before introducing a new significant other to kids and when that is about to happen exes should get to meet first. Not everyone that people date turn into a relationship or should be brought into kids life. If you share custody, date when your kid is with ex
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You know me and my ex made that same deal. I even gave him the opportunity to meet my bf. My bf is fine with it. But it still hasnât happened. The thing is I trust his judgement and he trusts mine. We co parent very well. We were married 12 yrs. I respect and he respects me.
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Keep new bfâs/gfâs away from children and exes until there is a reason for them to meet. Kids and exes DO NOT need to meet every fling
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I honestly wouldnât sweat it, he hasnât adhered to it, your child is happy enough, unless you have legitimate concerns i wouldnt push it, in all honestly if it isnât done openly and with the best of intentions on BOTH sides, then the co-parenting isnât at a place you should push it xx
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Is the partner in the kids life? Because if someone was constantly around my kid in an intimate setting, Iâm meeting them. But if the partner isnât around your kid, then no, yâall donât need to meet the others partner
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My ex is with someone for 4 years they donât live together. They are off an on. I just finally met his girlfriend this year after 4 years and she initiated meeting me.
Now she is insecure and apparently (according to what my daughter said) gets upset about me texting my ex about our daughter and when I pick up/drop off our daughter at his house 
I told my ex to dump her ass! He can do better. She is causing trouble with us co-parenting our child she can hit the road. So next time I see her in person Iâm going to have a few words with her.
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Thatâs odd, wanting to meet each otherâs new partners??? No thanks. You need to trust each other that you both will do the right thing for your child.
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I would just let it flow. Itâs nice that you want to hold up your side but you want to do more for your ex than he is willing to do for you. If kids and stuff have no problem then just let it go. If he insists on meeting your new man then agree to meet his new woman. Sou ds as though he doesnât care though.
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If the father is a good father why canât he be trusted to make a good choice of who he brings around the child? If heâs not a good father and not always present and he himself isnât a good person then question it. Thereâs no need for the mother to âapproveâ or âdisapproveâ (because thatâs really what itâs going to be) if the father is a caring loving father who is capable of making a good choice for his life and who he is with.
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sometimes you have to pick your battles, since you just met this person in the relationship is new why would you introduce this person to your child. I donât trust everybody around your child. Yes of course itâs much easier if everybody could get along and follow the agreement that you agreed upon. But it doesnât always work that way.
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Keep your end of the deal. Always keep your word.
Your child will have years and years and years of watching both of you and seeing which one is honorable and which one is not. Which one keeps their word and which one does not.
I raised two sons with an ex after we divorced. sure, we didnât like each other but we love our children.
So both of us, where they were concerned, always did the right thing . where they were concerned we always spoke well of each other.
You bet there were days when I wanted to scream out the truth to them. But hurting them has no value.
AlwaysâŚ. keep your word. Do the right thing, your child is watching you.
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Just let it flow went though it years ago and they have a step mother loves them very much so they are lucky to have 2 moms
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Too early to meet esp for kids. Unlrss its serious, which u cant know unless its been a yr or more.
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I wanted to meet my exes girlfriends that were going to be around my son alone. The father had a problem with it. My concerns were what if something happens to the father while heâs away from home or something happens to my child while his dad isnât home (emergency)? How do I know who to talk to about picking up my child? What the person looks like who had my child in their care? My child is my priority. Date whom you want but life & emergencies happen. Whether I like who youâre dating or not, youâre gonna do you but I need to know who Iâm picking my son up from or whoâs caring for him when youâre not. My ex was in a relationship with a woman dealing with CPS. I wasnât judging her but the reasons were unknown to me so I had a concern that wasnât put at ease and quite a few times I had to pick my son up early from his dadâs place because CPS was at their home. A big mess. Communication makes things flow easier.
Iâd be the bigger person and talk to your ex about setting up a time/place in meeting your new partner because thatâs what you said you guys would do, tell him to bring her along make it a thing, as a blended parent myself itâs much easier if everyone can be friends or at least mutually respectful, and itâs brilliant for the kid to see too
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I would only want to meet her if she was going to be around the daughter , if he hasnât introduced her to your daughter yet then I wouldnât push .
When I started dating someone serious I made sure my daughters dad met him since he was gonna be around her frequently
You can meet the other person all you want. If you donât like them then itâs your problem the ex has a right to date anyone they chose. Hopefully they are mindful of the kiddo. Same goes for you! Teaching your child as they grow what a decent human is like will help.
My ex and i had the same deal. Me and my partner met him at a park but according to him his new woman thought i was being controlling and wasnt over him⌠(even though i moved on before him and not with a online dating site, i was also the one to walk out of the relationship!)
Now the @##** is trying to replace me as my daughters mother, her parents even dismiss that i am my childs motherâŚ
People cant be decent in this day and age!
Peole are sad and so up themselves.
Dont give him ammo to use, set a date for the meet that way you can show your putting the benifit of your child fist not your own. If your ex doesnt show note it, note everything incase it goes to court but get legal documents to protect yourself and your child.
I wouldnât let my partner know until I was thinking of introducing them to my child.
That would be when I knew it was serious and going to be a permanent thing so about a Yr in??
I honestly wouldnât let my kid around another woman if I didnât meet her cuz then that person would be spending a good amount of time with your kid and you need to know whoâs around your kid
Simple Donât introduce your kids to new people without it being serious and alternate when you go on dates or find a sitter.
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Keep it simple your child is young. So no need for intros unless things get real serious. Just my opionion
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Personally Iâd keep to my word⌠donât lose your integrity just because he dishonoured your agreementâŚ
That being said you need to do whatâs best for your child, if this new man intends to be a part of your lives then your child needs to see everyone being amicable and stable 
Let if flow ! People need to understand yAll children donât have to meet everybody you dating or having sex with - neither of yâall took time to time to heal and already in a situationâ that is likely not to last anyway 
ââ poor kids be done seen several before you find âthe one â so naw baby let it flow if he ainât introduce you - she probly ainât his final destinationâ itâs almost like you just being nosey IMO
No need for introductionâs. Prob will not last anyway. Same with dating new ppl. No need to introduce to child until after many dates. Too confusing for your child.
I dated lots of guys casually, my daughter met none of them. The only boyfriend sheâs met is my SO of the last 4 years. My xh, her father, hasnât met him bc we donât share custody and I have a protective order against him.
My SO has a son and I met his mom after SO and I had been dating around 8 months ? We had met each otherâs kids on our first date (highly unorthodox but it was a super casual concert in the park event and that family he warned me about 
we had already met bc I was friends w his cousin). Ex-wife got wind of it and didnât want me (or any gf) around unless the relationship was serious (6m+). Ok fine, weâll respect her wishes. We all get along - me, SO, xwife, and her 2nd husband âŚ
Eh I donât think itâs necessary on either side the baby shouldnât be introduced to anyone before you make a year together
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Let it go. Until it gets serious I wouldnât worry about it. He didnât keep his end of the bargain. As long as sheâs happy. No bruises or attitude havenât changed be happy she has so many people to love her
at the end of the day, its nothing to do with either party, whoâs seeing who, once youâve split. The only thing tying you together, is the child. New partners are irrelevant in the equation.
My exes new flame is NONE of my business!!! That is unless my kids give me reason to believe so.
Donât rock the boat. Let it go. Move along with your flame and ignore his.
Personally Iâm a believer in âdonât change who you are and your standards because of someone elseâs behaviourâ if you feel that itâs whatâs right do it, no matter what the other party has done.
Only if they are moving in together in my past experience. Of course my ex moves from girls house to girls house so⌠but thereâs a big difference in living with someone and just going out on dates and ish
Every person that comes into a childâs life for periods of time is a loss when they go. If that person eased especially good with the child itâs worse. Best to introduce that person when the relationship looks like it might be permanent.
First of all, you donât owe him anything. And clearly he didnât feel he owed you anything either so go about your life and as long as your child is happy, thatâs all that matters.
First of all heâs already obviously broke in the commitment so I donât think you have a commitment to honor with him secondly I wouldnât allow him to meet said party because itâs really none of his business. I wouldnât want him (ex) to have the faults security of having an opinion in the matter
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let it be, good song from the Beatles
nope nope nope:NEVER ever ever make it a tit for tat. never. YOU model character that is what a child needs. Tit for Tat reveals two people concerned about each other more than they are concerned about the child.
Do you trust him to make a safe choice in who is around your child? If you do there shouldnât be a need to meet her yet.
Hold up your side of the deal. There is no need to be at his level. Youâre doing this for the good of your toddler.
If the child is well looked after there shouldnât be an issue, thatâs the number one concern not meeting the exâs new partner, get on with your own relationship paths will cross at some point donât make it âa thingâ
Let us go until you know itâs very serious and long term. There is no need for your ex to know every person you date.
Just let it be. As long as you two can co-parent, thatâs all that should matter
Neither of you should be introducing these temporary partners to your kid
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Well he made the deal and is not doing his part does not make it ok to be like him be the one that keeps there word and if heâs hiding shit itâs most likely he was doing it before you left
Pick your battles! Believe me, you will have bigger battles than this.
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There is no need to meet each otherâs partner
Donât tell him anything, however donât introduce your child or children to any new boyfriend yet, give yourself time to get to know him, one never knows what could happen to your children due to not knowing very well the new boyfriend
I honestly think that if thereâs a child in the mix then yâall gotta kill that bad blood, if itâs still there then just donât talk unless needed.
Wait until you know itâs a for sure thing with new bf.
Unless they are around the kid it doesnât Matter
Why would you want to meet a new girlfriend or vice versa? Sounds as though you cant let go of one anotherâŚ
You donât have to meet them and some you donât want to meet if itâs getting to be married again yeah coz ya want to for the kids happiness and yours knowing there a good personave
Why donât you arrange a meal the 4 of you? Then you can all meet at the same time
Go with the flowâŚmaybe it was only when it was long term or permanent
I would bring it up in conversation again face to face
If he just started dating them then no you donât need to meet them yet.
I wouldnât worry about telling him anything. Honestly and the girl heâs hiding⌠maybe a friend?
Let it go as long as your child is good
Let it flow for now. I would wait and see where the relationship goes firstz
I say let it flow. If your kiddo is happy thats all that matters
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Let it go leave as is no need to say or introduce anybody!
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When n if necessary then fine dont over think too early
Let your children live their lives. Donât bring them in your issues with your ex.
Let it go, it wonât help anything unless your concerned for your child
If heâs doing his own thing you do yours. End of the day as long as your child is taken care of by both parties whatâs it matter you have no obligation to tell him since he doesnât tell you. My ex is engaged to another woman and she refuses to meet me even after being around my son for 4 years. Unfortunately sometimes people are just immature. So just do you mumma xox good luck
Treat him like you want him to treat you.
The other female is someone you know
Did you set a time frame when you needed to introduce each other? If not who is to say you will not be introduced? Your mentality of what he does dictating your behaviour is a bit childish⌠How long have these new relationships been going on? If you feel like introducing the person in your life to him then do it, lead by exampleâŚ
The the key word here is he refuses to let me meet here!
As co-parents, you guys are supposed to work together and you have every right to know whoâs around your child. Itâs a respect thing. My question is, what is he hiding? If heâs not willing to let you meet this person then what about them or himself is making him not want you guys to meet?
He was probably already seeing her when yâall broke up.
Let it be until they are getting serious, and/or hanging out with your kid.
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I would let it flow to a point. I would try to set up a meet and greet. Maybe go out to eat as two couples. If she is in your kidâs life best to get to know.
Why do you have to see anyone at all . I never brought anyone around my child when they were young
Let that shit go. Do your own investigating on fb and if you see any flags then you have a right
Just keep walking in the other direction and donât look back⌠You owe him nothing
Suggest the four of you go out to lunch together
Meh⌠too much work just worry bout your own life you guys could go through many partners.
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Live your life. You donât need to meet his new girlfriend nor does he have to meet youâre. Just co parent, communicate regarding your child and live your life.
wait until you know if itâs someone WORTH introducing- he has ~
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I wouldnât unless you know itâs serious enough to meet your child . No use confusing children keep it simple
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Tell me you were too young to have a kid without actually telling me.
Unless they are living together I donât think itâs necessary
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Maybe he doesnât feel the relationship is going to go anywhere and doesnât feel the need to say âhey ,were just having sex,wanna meet here?â
If the other person is around ur child then you have every right to meet themâŚ
Why are you letting the child meet either of your dating partners. I donât get it
Horrible deal unless youâre with the new person 8-12 months. Otherwise you live your own life.
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Keep your child out of it for now âŚfeel your way âŚ
Mind your own business unless your child is bothered by it
Fuck 'im . Go about ya business .
You donât have rights after a break up. Your child life is now in the hands of the court system. No court is going to order either of you to meet the others boyfriend/girlfriend⌠you want control over your child. Donât separate or divorce.
you owe him nothing.
Let it go and move on