i only read the first line, there is NOTHING in this world that would cause me to turn over my rights to any of my kids.
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I have actually signed the papers at one point, it broke my heart but I couldnât keep doing it.
I broke when I did.
The judge denied it. Thank God. Today I am there everything
And they are mineâŚ
I know it hurts. But you are so loved and you can so do this.
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I would seek more treatment. Also, donât listen to those who are passing horrible judgment.
You will live to be haunted and regret this decision,not to mention the mental damage to this child,you better wake up,he didnât ask for all this really you shod feel ashamed of yourself!this is terrible
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Sweetie, it sounds like you have PTSD and postpartum⌠Those are two different things. You really should see a therapist who specializes in domestic violence to help you. Also, if your x is dangerous then work on changing custody around and a projection from abuse/restraining order. Depends on what fits your situation. Distancing yourself from him and healing from the abuse you endured can help you start to come with your childâŚ
If your mom or someone can help with your 3rd child if you go this route⌠To give you breaks and stuff⌠Itâll help a lot. Signing over your rights is a permanent thing.
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that poor baby boy
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Sounds like he would be better off without both of you. Hes an innocent child its not his fault you and his dad brought him into the world. Your taking it out on him because your boyfriend wasnt like your husband well get over it not everyones the same. Try putting that poor little kid first and stop thinking me me me.
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Sounds to me like you are not adjusting for your third baby. You need to cut down work hours to bond with your son. and remember u owe it to him and to his future wife to make him better than his father. Why sign off your rights to a person who u find isnât a good person. Your ex boyfriend and ex husband are apples from two different trees. Donât compare them. Put your big girl pants on and you can do it
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Whatâs wrong with you all? If you were reading of a mother killing her child youâd all be screaming âwhy didnât she give him to someone elseâ come on, no wonder women kill their kids because they feel like theyâve no other option because of all the judgement from everyone else. Fathers can get away with this but mothers, no, mothers get judged from top to bottom. Mum, you need to do what is the best for all of your babies. In your heart you will know whatâs the best. I actually think it makes you an outstanding mother to be able to admit you feel like this towards your own child, it canât be easy at all and it sounds like itâs actually eating you up. Iâm so sorry.
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I am very sorry that you went through this with your ex, but the first thing I can think of isâŚ.
If he was such a terrible partner and you are afraid of him, you have flashbacks of all the horrendous things he didâŚ
It is an assumption but⌠Iâm assuming he might be horrible to the child as well? And you would leave him with such person? There has to be a better wayâŚ. 
too many kids suffer these days because of poor decisions of adults and it scares me to think what this little boy has to be going through 
Please try to get helpđ˘ Hugs!
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I think you should speak to a doctor about postpartum depression. Iâve heard that it can go undiagnosed for years.
Also, you can have drop offs and pick ups arranged so you donât have to see your ex. That would at least stop the major triggers.
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It sounds like you are incapable of caring for any of them at the moment and should seek help before this becomes a headline on the news of mom killed the son. I mean that in the kindest way possible. Mental health is something to take seriously and should not be ignored. I think giving your children to their fathers, for the time being, maybe in their bed interest.
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Sounds like you are projecting your feelings for the father onto the child. That boy is innocent, thatâs awful.
I literally felt like I was reading that as long as things were convenient for you such as easy coparenting then you could happily parent a child. Parenting isnât supposed to be easy and you chose that person to have a child with. Honestly though if you are like that then itâs probably best he be signed over. Please donât continue a relationship with that innocent child and hurt him even more.
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I think you hold onto so much resentment from the father you take that and put it on your youngest child and thatâs not okay i think you need to heal from the trauma you went through with his dad and stop projecting that hate onto your baby. Your right he didnât ask to be hear so donât treat him like itâs his fault he has no control who his parents are . But he is here and he is yours so you love him with everything you have he is not his father. Donât give up your rights you will regret it for the rest of your life. I do advise you to go to therapy and work on yourself and love yourself a little more get your meds adjusted and remember that your not in that situation any more. That baby love you unconditionally and you should fight more for him and your other children because this affects them too.
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No. You will regret it in the long run. This too shall pass. Why would you give up rights to your child to a father and his family that you are so scared of, threatened by, and literally makes you sick so bad? Bond with your child. Pull those big girl panties up and go fall in love with your son. And give up the fear and anxiety that baby daddy and his family are causing you. Thatâs your right you give up. Find a way and fight for the love of your child. Get meds, therapist, do anything and everything you have to - to get right in your mind. But donât give up your rights to your baby to a monster! You will regret it in the years to come. You can never bring back time! In blink that baby will be grown⌠turn to God, Prayer, drs, friends,family, support groups, anywhere. Get help. Get your head right. Do everything anything you have to do to get right. But donât give up that baby. I will be praying for you. You got this.
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If you are abusing your son or withholding love from him because youâre hung up about going through with the pregnancy then by all means sign over your rights cuz your son doesnât deserve to be treated that way. I had a stepmom who watched me drown. She treated her kids differently and that still hurts me to this day. Your son is gonna have a lifetime of abandonment issues. If you do stay in his life donât treat him any different and it better be just as good as your other kids as well. Your son didnât do anything wrong. You shouldnât take out what your ex did to you on him thatâs not okay.
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First of all can I send you massive hugs for being so brave to write this.
The fact that you are admitting that you havenât bonded with your son is a massive step.
You donât realise but you do love him. I know this as you are thinking of what is best for him and you are worried that you are not good enough.
It sounds like you have ptsd from your relationship. Have you ever considered getting someone else to collect your son from his dads so you donât need to see your ex.
I 100% would go to your doctor and explain it all and tell them that you are struggling and need help.
The thing to think of is if you leave your son with his dad he is extremely likely to become the same as his dad.
Try not to compare your relationships with your kids. Your son was brought into this world at one of the hardest points in your life and you have struggled to bond with him so you constantly over think everything with him.
Have you ever thought of taking a week off work and taking your son away and just spending the time with him without your other kids ?
If it comes to it and you really canât do it and you feel you need to sign the documents please donât!! There is other ways but once you have signed your rights away thatâs you there is no going back. You could tell your ex that at the moment you canât cope so you will no longer be able to live up to your part and he can have full custody but your not signing your rights away. You never know what the future holds and you may start to improve and want to get back in touch with your son. If you have signed your rights away this would be almost impossible.
I wish you strength to make yourself better which will then make your family better.
Please reach you to a doctor or a mental health doctor.
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Postpartum. You were already pretty bad with depression when he was born. Donât do it. Youâll regret it. Go to therapy for domestic abuse. The damage youâll do to that little boy if you donât at least try everything possibly. Your kids need you to live for them. If at the end of doing everything humanly possibly to love this baby who didnât ask to be here. You still feel the same. 
Mom is God in the hearts and minds of her children.
If youâre not going to be a good parent to your son and project your resentment onto him itâs best you give him up. No child should grow up with that trauma. Itâs going to lead to him having mental issues.
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Sounds like post partum plus PTSD from the relationship. Have you gone to counseling to deal with the issues from the relationship? Talking about your relationship and dealing with that trauma may help a lot
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You ladies need to learn how to listen and give advice and not be judgmental! As soon as someone posts something, you guys are so quick to judge and shame the other Mom. Itâs beyond ridiculous, you guys should be ashamed of yourselves!
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See a psychologist weekly and get therapy ⌠sounds like ptsd along with pnd ⌠you can do this ⌠see other doctors and explain tell them everythingâŚ. You are a good mother and you have got this ⌠
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First of all. Iâm so sorry to hear this. You are a good mum. Despite how you are feeling you are doing your best to give him everything you can.
I think it sounds like you have PTSD and Post-partum depression. I think you need to talk to someone that specialises in these. In the mean time. If you want to chat to someone that will listen without judgement please feel free to contact me. Xx
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If youâre afraid of his father think of the behaviours that your son could development living with him full time, so no donât give up your rights⌠Can you get respite, someone else to help you with your son? Being full time with an abusive ex isnât the best solution.
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You best be good to your son for real. He is literally a gift from god. You need to get some rest and take care of yourself. Get some organic food based vitamins, and a better mental health team. Iâm an only parent of 3 kids. I had all 3 for the first 6 years. Imagine having all your kids with no help from the dads⌠kick those bad thoughts out of your head and focus on your blessings.
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Sorry dear you are going thru this⌠iknow its hard for you yes, bt trust me we are mothers, we are created to love our children no matter what⌠Its natural love no matter the circumstances. You are going thru alot, u jst need help and to calm down. Please this is your child, with dad or no dad, this child deserves all your love.
I think that In the end of the relationship you hated this childâs father but you continued having sex with him
You got pragnat and then hated the baby. You need to give the child up at least temperarily and see a good therapist or you may end up hurting the child who is innocent In this whole mess. Stop playing the victim. The child is the victim and your going to cause it to have problems.
Is ur ex bf a good dad to him?
I feel like your resentful towards him kus of the dad.
If u donât feel safe, put a restraining order on him. Go to court to get meet ups to where u both can exchange the babyâŚ
Ask for a leave from work and apply for unemployment, u need to get urself together for that child
Donât give up ur rights
U can do it mamaâ¤ď¸
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Your ex is narcissistic. So it doesnât matter what you do he will never be normal. But please donât do what he did to you out on your son. Also do not give your child over to him. Itâs probably what he wants. Please love your child. I know itâs hard but none of this is the childâs fault. Please see a doctor or a health visitor or even Womanâs Aid. They will all help you. Iâm sorry I canât help you more. X
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I have one child and I am a recovering alcoholic. It was very tough I never got in trouble with the police or anything but I battles this for 12 years not even knowing finally I went to rehab than meetings and Iâve been sober over 2 years and I have my little boy. I know our stories are different but there is help. Donât give up there is always hope! Just fight mama! You got this!
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I wouldnât. However, you can sign over temporary custody until you get your shit figured out, if you want him or not.
Donât feel pressured by the judgment. Postpartum depression is very real and your situation calls for it undeniably. Iâm sorry you feel this way. I know what it feels like to feel like they deserve better than you. AutomaticallyâŚthat makes you worthy. You want the best for them. Iâd continue to fight if I were you or just 50/50 custody and keep it strictly about the little one. If you feel the dad can be dangerous to your baby then absolutely fight. Fight and then deal with the therapy stuff later. Only for the sake of his well being. You are not alone in feeling this way and youâre brave for admitting all of it to people especially yourself. Thatâs a huge step in the right direction. Donât be scared. All kids wanna know is that theyâre loved. Take care of yourself and recruit a village (hoping you have some support) to help you out here and there by babysitting or playdatesâŚwhatever. Youâll be okay. Itâs just gonna take a lot of time. You can do this! Iâm 33 years old and I think my mom still to this day has trouble separating her love for me from the horrible person my father was. Itâs a natural reaction. Because of thisâŚwe are not close. But guess whatâŚshe had custody of me anyway, I understood more as I grew up, and I respect and love her just as much as I would if we WERE close. That doesnât change. Please for the love of godâŚignore every single harsh judgmental comment on here.
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Donât do it. You may change your mind about him. Once you sign away rights thatâs it. Final. When I had my son I thought he would be better off without me. I wanted to give him up for adoption, luckily I didnât and I came around eventually. Heâs my world. I think what youâre feeling is normal. I think it will eventually get better, I think signing rights away is a permanent solution for something that may be temporary.
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Donât seek advice from complete strangers. Find a well accredited counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. Get help. Do not treat ur child this way.
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Yes, get new docs, yes get checked out for PPD and PTSD too.
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You need help. Itâs not safe for your son to live with his father full time. I donât know where you are but if youâre in Melbourne Iâd be happy to help⌠I have 3 boys and could give you some respite and have him when you need a break x
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You need to see a good counsellor for post natal depression, go back to your Dr and donât leave until they refer you. It is common to feel this way with PND, donât be so hard on yourself.
Get a mediator for doing hand overs if seeing your ex feels unsafe. Trust your instincts and if you feel your baby is unsafe with him then talk to child protective services.
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Sadly I knew someone almost with this same exact story⌠and they signed their rights away. Only YOU know what you can handle.
In any of the situations there shouldnât be neglect for the baby. And if you truly feel that is the best option for you cause youâre about to break yourself , then that would be the best option. Because whos to say youâll get in a funk and something would happen to either you or baby.
You yourself knows what you can handle. Other peoples opinions are irrelevant.
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How would you feel if your parents resented you and didnât want you just because a relationship between the parents didnât work out?! He will resent not only you but being alive as well with your negativity and hatefulness towards him. Adoption could have been an option as well. I feel sorry for this poor innocent child who didnât ask to be brought into this world and then made to feel unwelcome by his own mother. He deserves better.
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I dont think you should be taking any of the advice or judgements or validation given here. This is the wrong place for reasonable answers.
Seek professional help elsewhere until you get the answers you are looking for. Second and third etc professional opinions might help.
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Unlike all these other comments⌠you should seek out a attorney, and see what all your options are⌠you cannot make your heart feel, something that it doesnât⌠the courts can work out a creative visitation schedule for u, so u could spend time with your son , and work on your relationship with himâŚu do not need to give up full custodyâŚ
I hope you can get some help. A son is such a blessing and the most precious relationship to have in life.
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No matter what your ex did that is your child and for the life of me I canât even begin to understand how you can love your other children but not this poor innocent child!
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All i have to say is put your self in the shoes of your child how would you feel if your mum gave you up because she didnât want you! Then imagine being in the shows of your so called âlovedâ children and imagine giving them away! Sorry but give your head a wobble and be a good mother how anyone can dislike there own children they carried for 9 months and gave birth to is beyond me! That child needs a mother and a father to step up and be a mother too ALL of your children you canât pick and choose what child to.love
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I read self(ish)ness here. Being diagnosed is one thing, but if you arenât being treated medically and doing weekly counseling visits, you arenât TRYING. If you are, then your routine isnât working . If youâre a single mother, you should be able to receive some type of support or dig to find ways to.
However, because you have so much HATE for this childâs father that you are taking it out on his poor self, you need to make it YOUR priority to make sure heâs loved and taken care of before dropping him like a hot plate of pancakes and âforgettingâ about him. Clearly you have much more than anxiety and depression going on, and it is heartbreaking for both undeserving parties .
He needs someone who will love him and care for him. He doesnât need to hop from home to home. I pray he learns to forgive you as he gets older and I pray you learn to forgive his father and most importantly, yourself .
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First, pray and let God guide you choiceâŚ
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If the â3rd childâ has someone who loves and treats him well I say sign him over⌠itâs not fair to him to go through this⌠Iâm sure he can see you adore 2 kids but not him, even if you think he dont he does⌠Iâm sure its gonna hurt him either way but i feel like if you feel like this toward your own child it may be better for him to not be around
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I could never resent my child you are takin the hate you have for his dad out on him and why sign rights over to a abusive man smh
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There is no good answer to this. He deserves better. Heâll never get it because either way heâs lost his Mom. My good thoughts are with you.
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I think you need help and work healing the trauma the father caused. Some trauma based therapy. I think the way you have been treated by the father you are subconsciously associating it with the child. And the way you were treated while pregnant probably has a lot to do with as well. If you are loving mother to your older kids you can be and are capable to be with your youngest too. I think kids need their mom and you can get help working through the trauma.
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Iâm thinking youâre not in the right frame of mind to make a decision like this.
You obviously had a bad experience with your ex and felt you couldnât cope with another child which you feel was forced upon you.
Please donât sign away parental rights till youâve had a proper diagnosis and treatment âŚyou may regret it for the rest of your life.
Post natal depression is a terrible thing and can stop you bonding . Especially when you add ptsd.
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To be very bluntly honest I felt this same way with my oldest son. His father was abusive and tried to take an ax to me and was arrested for it. I always loathed him and no matter what I did I put that negative energy towards my son as well. When he was almost two I had another one already with someone else they weâre 13 mos apart and I noticed how I was treating them different. I decided for the best interest of him and because I knew there was love inside of me for him subconsciously that wanted the best for him my mom and step dad adopted him and he became my legal little brother so I still stayed in his life. He has always known Iâm his biological mother and for years I stayed away and never associated with him much but now heâs in his teens and I have younger ones n just recently moved back home and weâre seeing each other more now. I feel I made the right choice and he has a very spoiled happy life. Donât let anyone judge you itâs not their place. Somewhere in you Iâd love for him and only you know whatâs best for him. Good luck
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This lady doesnât need beratedâŚsheâs asking for help, it must hav taken a huge amount of courage to write this 
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give him up. thatâs not your child. itâs the product of being abused. itâs almost like a r*pe baby. would yâall tell a woman to keep that baby too???
give up that child. let the man who wanted him keep him and raise him.
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How does ur son feel towards you is he attached to you? Is he happier with his Dad? Does he notice any difference between the affection you give him than his siblings?
Does the poor lil guy have any grandparents that love him? Maybe they could adopt and raise him?
What about aunties?? I donât know what I would do if I was his auntie, doesnât matter which side, and I found out that baby was given away without giving family a chance to give him a family. It wouldnât be good I can guarantee that
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Your child is not his fatherâŚ
You have to distinguish between an innocent child who DID NOT ask to be here.
And a grown man who treated you badly.
My ex husband I cannot stand. He raped me as I tried to leave his abuse.
I got pregnant. I resented my son for about a week. Then I remembered he was innocent and it is my responsibility to be his protector. You might need trauma therapy to get past your issues with dadâs abuse.
⌠so the abuse is good for him but not you? 
you need Jesus
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If you ex is as bad as u say he wasâŚwhy hand over your child to him full time? And if heâs a really good dad, then sign those rights over to him cause clearly that poor child deserves better than you!!!
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Wow this poor poor child! He has a really hard life ahead of him! Makes me so sad for him!
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Okay very bizarre the contradiction in your words youâre repulsed by the child yet you sit up all night crying and worrying about whatâs best for him. Those two things donât seem to mash. Absolutely give up every right to this child because you are not good for it. I canât even imagine how you are good for the others if you cannot be for this one? I have five children by two different fathers and regardless of abuse has or what they ever did to me I love to each and every one of those children for who they were not because partner treated me better than the other, and one of my children was even a product of rape by one of those people that I love that child the exact same as every one of my others. So I cannot empathize with you at all in your feelings not even a tiny bit. The only thing I can agree with is get that child away from you because you will harm him mentally and emotionally since you do not feel the same about him as your others, I pray that your ex-partner wonât be abusive to him as he was to you, if that is the case perhaps you should both sit down and discuss putting this child up for adoption where he has a real chance of getting two parents that could actually loved and want him, life is hard enough without a poor child having to go into life feeling this way by its parents. You totally give it up, if he doesnât want the child either please both give this child up to adoption for parents that really desire a child and could give this child a real future.
If you and the father just didnât get along but he will love and take care of the child Iâd say give him the child. You definitely donât the child to realize that heâs treated differently.
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You sound like a horrible person, that child is a part of you, just like your other 2 children are! Just as you stated, he didnât ask to be born, itâs not his fault you chose a shitty man!
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Tbh, seek another doctor.Also, dont hand the child over to the father if heâs that bad. Try adoption. Thereâs many families out there. Giving up a child to give the child a better life may be best for you if youâre feeling resentment with this child and I wouldnt want you to abuse the child. Iâm willing to help. I will take the child!
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He donât sound to safe to be leaving your kid with! I would seek more professional help. If you have family maybe they can help
You out a bit.
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Dies he abuse your son?
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He was is abusive partnerâŚthe only important question here is;is he a GOOD FATHER or will he also neglecte his son?
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I donât have any advice, just wanted to send some love your way 
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Its not almost PTSD. It is PTSD. Iâm so sorry for you and your babies.
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If heâs a good parent to him sign him over and if heâs not put him up for adoption. The longer you wait the more it will devastate him, this poor boy deserves a mother that will love him as her own since you donât. Quit wrecking yourself about it youâve already admitted heâs a child that you didnât want and still donât want you canât force the bond youâve tried your hardest just let him go.
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I actually canât believe Iâm reading some of these comments! A woman is crying out for help with a situation that she is trying to find the best way to survive and you can all spout so much hate! You are all shouting about God and love and light and forgiveness and the likes but when somebody is going through a hellish time you turn on them. Bunch of hypocrites.
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Iâm sorry but if heâs abusive do NOT allow him access to your childâŚ
heâs your child - go do whatever it takes to get a good relationship with him going⌠let the older kids stay with their dad for a few weeks while you just have one to one time - maybe a holiday away - with your littlest⌠and do fun things to bond⌠just make it happenâŚ
Sacrifice is hard⌠but youâre a parent and this is what parenting is about⌠sacrifice sacrifice sacrifice!
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Youâre his mother, if your ex is as bad as you say he is, leaving your child with him shouldnât even be a thought. Youâre resenting a baby because of who his father is. Continue to go to therapy. Continue to try to bond with him. Donât give up on that baby. And definitely donât leave him at the mercy of an abusive father. You can still take care of him and give him a good life, you said it yourself that you love him. So use that love as motivation. Abandoning him to an abusive father is not the best thing for him.
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Please dont give up on him. I was in the same situation with my 3rd son. I had severe postnatal depression after I had him because I really didnât want anymore children but my ex begged me for 3 years to have a child with him. So eventually I gave in an just after he was born we split up for several reasons. Now 6 years on my boy is happy with me an sees his grandparents but his dad dont bother with him at all. I understand itâs hard and I understand your feeling of blame towards him but itâs not his fault. Please go speak to someone, trust me if you give him up you will never forgive yourself and when your sons grown he wont forgive you either. Good luck. Sending love an hugs xx
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If your ex is so vile, how could you leave a defenceless child with him. Iâm sorry that you canât bond with your son, but your duty as a mum is to keep him safe, and I worry how safe he is if his father is so abusive.
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If dad was abuse to you Iâm assuming heâs not the best parent to that child !!! Why would you leave that baby to his mercy if their is any question of abuse absolutely not!!! You have a responsibility and duty to care for that child weather the state lets you sign a paper or not your morally will be responsible for what happens to that baby !!! Do whatâs right for him not yourself !! And pray to god for help forgiveness and strength to support that baby 
My oldest son is the child of a very abusive relationship. His bio dad is not in the picture. My son is the spitting image of him. I look into eyes that are exactly the same as my abusers every single day. I have struggled at times because of it. However in saying that - I am traumatized by the experience I had with my abuser and would never consider allowing him to have the child because of it. If he wasnât safe for you - I donât know what would make him safe for your son.
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Baby girl most people donât know this and most doctors can miss diagnose this inless you tell them so they now what to look for you have bipolar depression with anxiety there are different forms of it I hope that helps you are a wonderful person and a mother
Very sad for the childâŚyou should of thought about this BEFORE you slept with himâŚits not his faultâŚI believe you would never for give yourself but if you truly feel you cannot or maybe irs will not be a good mom to him then give him up for adoption but its possible the dads not gonna agree to thatâŚgood luckâŚ
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Wowwww this chick is messed up. Your holding all this bad relationship and choices against this poor innocent child thatâs why you donât âwantâ him.
Iâm lost for words at how sickening I feel to read a mother feel this way about their own child. Your right, you should give him up to someone that can love him like his their own child and give him what he deserves, because youâve clearly got something wrong with you.
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I went through that, but I was the unwanted child. 6 weeks after I was born, she dropped me off at a friends house and bailed. The friend didnât know what to do with me. Shortly after the friend had a party and a couple saw me and the friend told them the story. The couple took me home that night and got temporary custody and went on to adopt me. I found out I was adopted when I was 12. I found out that she had kids before, and after me, and I was the only one she gave up. I struggled many years wondering what was wrong with me and why she didnât love me. As I grew up I realized just how lucky I was that my parents chose me to be their daughter. I now have an 11 year old daughter of my own and realize that if my parents hadnât have adopted me, my daughter wouldnât be here. The point to this is if you feel that you cannot raise this child without loving them, give them to someone who will.
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Some of you are so cruel. I honestly canât imagine how you are feeling. I just want to hug you, my heart hurts for you. I donât even know what I would do in your situation.
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What I think you need to do is get some serious help. You said you did but it sounds like it is not working for you. Find someone else and keep looking until you find the one who can give you the help you need.
And about your son, if the dad is horrible personâŚthen why are you going to give him your son? Instead of giving up on your son, find someone who can help you mentally so you can be the mother he deserves. Leaving him and still raising his siblings is just going to mess him up.
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Itâs really very simple. Give this to the Lord. Ask him to let you feel what he wants you to feel for this child. You had him inside you nine months. There should never be a thought of quitting him. Thank God for the blessing he gave you, embrace that blessing and trust the Lord.
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It sounds like he was abusive. Why would you want to leave your child with an abusive person? Even if he was good to the boy it doesnât mean he should grow up thinking that behavior is okay.
So no, I donât feel like that should be an option. You need therapy. You resent your son because of who is father is. You need to work through that. Meds wonât fix it.
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Postpartum depression is a real thing & you have it. Find a new doctor.
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If you dont want that innocent baby there are sooo many people that are not blessed like you to be able to have kids please give him up !
This is so sad⌠when I was barely 20 I had my 2nd little boy and was struggling and completely on my own, but was trying and so close to getting on my feet. Not even a month after he was born one of my family members took him from me and kept him from me for no good reason because they couldnât control me. I cried for my son everyday until I got him back when he was 1 and somewhat felt the same way but never to the extent that I did not love him. I just felt like I didnât get a chance to know him. Please do not take your child for granted. Once you donât have him your going to feel awful and you will regret it.
If the father is as bad as you say how would signing your rights over to him be whatsbest for the child?
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Itâs your child he needs you so much youâre his mum he loves you. Go to the doctorâs please oy sounds like past trauma has affected you hence the ptsd xx
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Wow. I just want to tell you it took a lot of courage to come out and say that. Donât let these trolls shit talking get to you. I canât imagine how awful this must be but he is your child. I hope you find the right path
Why would you ever consider leaving your child with someone YOUâRE afraid of?!? Smh. Selfish and messed up⌠some people in life donât deserve kids and shouldnât have them. Periodt.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should I sign over parental rights? - Mamas Uncut
So sign him over to an abuser? Wow
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Please reach out to SOS https://savingoursistersadoption.org
and look up resources on the family preservation website for free resources for families in crisis.
My advice is yes, sign your parental rights over or just let your ex keep him full time as long as heâs a good dad. I really hope people will be kind and not judge you in these comments. I hope things get better for you and for your child.
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First and foremost please understand that you came to the internet and some people can be ugly. Donât listen to them.
Second i think you should do what you feel is best, letâs just call it for what it is, you didnât want him, you had him and you thought the love would be there and it wasnât. You canât change that, youâre trying to do the right thing but sometimes the best thing for you isnât always the easiest.
I would try and find a family counselor or something speak with them and let them know everything you said here and try and find the right family for him if giving him to his dad doesnât fall through!
Youâre a great mom, donât let these trolls that could come on here tell you otherwise!
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To me it sounds like youâre seeing your son as a part of your ex. Basically your ex has tainted your view on your child. I have no real advice. But from with everything you said, you obviously love your son and care for him deeply, just have a lot of issues with his dad. Maybe go to therapy about the dad and work through those issues for yourself? I wish the best for you
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Itâs okay to feel the way you feel⌠itâs not okay to abandon your child because you feel the way you do. Its a no from me. May not be the answer you want to hear but its an honest one 
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talk to a doctor again because there has to be a reason your not connecting to ur son. Donât give up on him or yourself. He needs you more then you probably think!
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