Should I steer away?

I need advice, I'm only 22.. I told My newly titled boyfriend ( he's had a drink or 12) I was going to make my salad (which was pre-made from a grocery store and single serving) And only needed dressing he came in the kitchen said I'll help. I stated no I got it, he insisted and so on. I just eventually placed it back in the fridge and said I can just finish my toast. I walk in the living room and I heard smashing and breaking of things from the kitchen. He threw the toaster, smashed bottles, tossed everything from the counters. He lost it.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should I steer away?

That is emotional abuse run.

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Newly titled ex boyfriend it should be. Please run now. As fast as you can.

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When I was in a relationship like that it got bad quick. The following week he broke my nose and went to jail. Packed his stuff and sent him on his way.

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Yes, lashing out over something the small what happens when it is something big and important.

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Men who hit or break things when they are mad are just making sure you know that next time it could be you. Run. It’s too new for violence to being showing up and you not take it seriously.

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Not sure what your question is. Please leave honey. I lived in that when was a kid. It was hell

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Leave that’s the first sign he’ll turn physical abusive in the future and no it doesn’t get better either

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Girl don’t walk, RUN. They show them red flags. Women most often times just look the other way! Here is yours

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Sounds like you have a boy not a man, and a future abuser. Run now before it’s to late! Hope you don’t have any kids with him. :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:

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leave, asap. Newly titled boyfriend, can be retitled as ex-boyfriend. Red flags right in front of you.

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Red flags, girl leave

BELIEVE ME, he will only get worse especially if his responsibility multiplies, such as bills & kids. Some men cannot handle responsibility.

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Speaking as a DV survivor leave before he starts putting hands on you. It’ll be easier the earlier you do it. That’s not the first time he’s done something like that and definitely won’t be the last. The longer you stay the more manipulation and trauma bonding happens and it will be harder to leave.

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If you’re fool enough you need to ask just do what you want. You’re not seeking advice

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Run far and run fast

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Yes. Run. Also he’ll apologize and say it won’t happen again. It will.

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Get out now while you can!

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Leave. Next time he may hit you.

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Fuck Yes you don’t need anything like that in your life. Next it’ll be you

If you have to ask you already know the answer. Please leave before it’s too late and he becomes actually physical with you

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Break up before it’s too late.

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Don’t be another #GabbyPetito

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Run. He’s likely an alcoholic who will suck the life out of you.

Ask my sister what happens when you stay with a guy like that

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RUN for your life!!!

Big red flag . Leave

Is this a serious question? :face_with_raised_eyebrow: This MF had a fit over some small :poop: like that, it’s time to run and don’t look back. :woman_shrugging:t4::woman_facepalming:t4:

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Bright. Red. Flag. But you already know this.

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Big time. Id be scared

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End it now!! It will get worse…

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Been there… ya def have to leave. Sooner the better

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Run. Like. Hell. People don’t do things drunk that they won’t eventually do sober. If he flies into a rage and tears the house up, soon he’ll fly into a rage and slap you. Then one day he’ll fly into a rage and punch you. He’ll apologize and cry. The next time he’ll punch you and then kick you when you fall. It will never stop. Leave.

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Just HOW RED do you need the flags to be??? Go NOW

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Get out while the he is at work and dont come back .regardless of what he says or does

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Girl, if you value your sanity or your life, run now and never look back.

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Ha what a psycho time to get rid of him!

:flushed::flushed: do you even need to ask? Wtf… run as fast as you can and do not ever look back :bomb::boom: this is out the gate

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Yah that’s a hell naw

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Im sure he said he was sorry and it will never happen again…over and over again too didn’t he? if he did hopefully you’re not gonna fall for it! Cuz the next time he has an episode it will probably be his fist hitting your head and your head hitting the floor!! Please get out before it’s too late and your parents are looking at you in a casket!! :face_with_symbols_over_mouth::pensive:

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If he can’t keep his shit together during the “honeymoon phase” of your relationship, then imagine just how bad it CAN get. By the way it’s already really bad. This isn’t normal behavior.

You need to run while you can

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Run don’t walk. It will only get worse.

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What advice would you give your sister, daughter or bestfriend. Ok now do that asap .

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Girl run and don’t look back. I was in a 8 year domestic violence relationship. I was stupid and ignored all the red flags because he was my high school sweetheart. He beat me even when I was pregnant. I stayed until it got so bad that if I tried to leave he would try to un alive me. He always said sorry over and over I believed him. He even had people watching our house while he was gone and call him if I tried to leave. I wasn’t allowed to see my family or friends I wasn’t allowed to have my cell phone when I did go out I had to wear long sleeve and pants and sunglasses even in summer to hide the bruises. Get out now while it’s early. If he’s starting that now it’s only going to get worse. Run run run do not walk

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He will definitely murder/ rape you one day

It doesn’t get better he won’t learn or change you will learn to accept it even when it happens infront of your kids. No run. Red flag

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Ditch his ass! You’re 22! Don’t waste your youth on a loser :sob::sob:

If he can’t regulate his temper what happens when even more rides on the outcomes of your disagreements.

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Woahhoho girl you need to leave if he’s having fits like that. Especially over a damn salad or you being independent and doing things yourself

I wouldn’t put up with that, drunk or not he is still responsible for himself.

That is abuse. RUN. Don’t look back he has a problem

That’s emotional abuse. Get the hell out.

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Get. Out. Now.

Been there, done that and it only gets worse.

Please please LEAVE!!!

Red flag. Run before he starts taking it out on you. Yes it will happen.

Women in transition would help…

No excuse for this behavior. He’ll tell you its the liquor, don’t believe it. End the relationship in a safe manner because he might become explosive again.

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If this is how he acts about a salad he is very controlling. Leave safely.

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Run baby. Run far and fast. The anger gets no better. I promise.

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Whose house was he breaking stuff in?? What’s the needed advice? Run?

Why are you even asking you know you need to GTFO like now before it’s you he’s putting hands on :triangular_flag_on_post: :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:

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Yes, please please get out now. Drinking or not that is toxic abusive behavior that WILL lead to physical abuse to you. Get away asap. Now even, if its possible. Trust me, you are not safe with someone like this. Please take this advice from someone who lived threw this and it was misery and pain.

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Leave!!! It only gets worse!!! He doesn’t have to hit YOU to be abusive.

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Girl run! Don’t let him use the excuse that he was drinking and it won’t happen again. Y

Yea wrong he broke stuff n went on like tht but wats so wrong with him wanting to help geez we whine they won’t do anything n help with nothing then hav women like this tht crack the shits coz u hav a man tht actually wants to help u starting to see tht they can’t win either way

Wow. I’d definitely pack my crap and leave.

Uhm. Run. Run fast. And don’t look back. I don’t give two shits if he’s been drinking. That’s not an excuse.

Run. He’s going to have your family bury you if you don’t leave. Leave before you say you didn’t know a way out. Leave before he manipulate you into thinking you can’t. He’s going to blame the bottle up and down, left and right. It’s not the bottle. That is him and people rarely change. He is showing you right now who he is. And it’s going to get bad if you stay. Please, love yourself more and step away. And don’t look back no matter how much he tells you he’s sorry and says he won’t do that again.

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Run as fast as u can get out before he starts bashing you Hun I’ve been there and got out

Run…run as fast as you can from this guy!

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When he shows you his true colors, believe him. He’s not only toxic, but dangerous. Even if he only gets like that when drinking, he KNOWS he gets like that when drinking and still chooses to drink. Send his ass on his way. He’s not worth it.

Lose him, if he got that angry about a simple thing like this it will only get worse. It’s still early in your life. Find a man who compliments your life. Not one who you will be walking on eggshells. Life only gets harder and you need a partner not an opponent

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What!?:flushed:
Girl,:weary:.

I know it’s post pandemic and we’ve all been lonely but baybeee, he’s NOT it. Promise🤞🏾

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Watch the Netflix show called Maid. Domestic abuse comes in many forms.

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Oh no. Get out and never look back. That’s only the start.

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I pray you remove that destructive negative energy from your life.

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Do leave sweetheart. It’s the best thing you can do - it’ll only get worse and he may become violent towards you.

My ex partner would turn over the slightest thing and once threw a pan of rice over my head (which I’d made), and tried to strangle me the following day because I said I didn’t feel like making a meal for us as I wasn’t hungry.

Please run - good luck xx

He wanted to spend time with you and you decided to just put it away and eat toast…:roll_eyes: you rejected him. Don’t you think he feels that?? No…its all about him showing rage. No one thinks about the fact she legit rejected him…

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I would gotten that toaster and put around his head and called his mother to get her BOY , no way would I put up with that shit you shouldn’t either

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Honey RUN!!! Run fast, run hard, and never look back!! I’m pretty sure most of us speak from experience… this NEVER EVER gets better (it gets worse) not they don’t change (they just get worse) … Please run.

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Run cause it only gets worse. I have been married twice and wish i would have seen the red flags both times. Please run before you are to afraid to leave.

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Run…dont walk…run!!!

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Yikes…I hope he is no longer your boyfriend

Sounds toxic, like teenage games.

WTF?!?! He got mad because you wouldn’t let him help pour dressing on a salad? I’m sure more has happened since you sent this in to be posted. I hope you have the sense to get out. If not go now! Grab your necessities & leave. Get hold of a DV agency. Stay in a shelter awhile if you need to.

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Just leave, it never gets better just gets harder to leave…

Whole lot of nope right there. Get out and get out fast!

Run as fast you can, and block him on everything, his new title will be exboyfriend. go before it’s too late and you are a victim and it’ll be harder to get out of it

Don’t bother steering just run. Trust me. It only gets worse. Don’t waste time walking on eggshells around an alcoholic. You got this.

Tell him congratulations on earning the newest title of “EX-boyfriend” :1st_place_medal:
Don’t be a statistic girl, you deserve so much more :heart:

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Get away from him before it gets worse it WILL. Im 43 yrs old ive had 2 unreasonable(alcoholic) men and this is only the begining. Its harder to distance from him the longer you wait. I feel like i will prob be mental over livin with that for the rest of my life get away ASAP

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Run for the hills dont think about it do it,your life will be in ruins if you stay with this madman go go go!!!:scream:

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Um ok. Lol. . Hes obviously intoxicated, people do the dumbest and most ridiculous crap when they are. :woman_shrugging: but it’s cute to see all you perfect drinkers here haha

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Do you really want to live the rest of your life like this? You’re only 22. Far too young to be walking around on eggshells.

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Oh, you gotta go. As fast as you can.

Def run. But in saying that, were you deliberately trying to head fuck with him? Why would you make a fuss about making a salad and refuse to let him help

Please walk out the door :pray::pray::pray::pray:

One drink night for him prolly cost you 100 + in apppliances and someone being violent
Drunk bc you didn’t want his help what if you didn’t want sex ? I guess people would be saying something else