Why are people laugh reacting??? This is dv and this person could be in serious danger
Please please reach out there are many supports available. It will get worse please leave. My heart is breaking for you
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Girl say Bye, Bye, Bye
What do you need advice on? You know what you need to do. Go before you canāt, before itās to hard to leave
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Dez Hatch to get drunk and do ādumbā or āridiculousā crap, as you say, can be understandable and maybe even expected depending on the amount of alcohol consumption. But what this young lady describedā¦throwing a toaster, smashing bottles and threw everything off of the countersā¦ that is crossing the line into violent behavior and is unacceptable. As someone who has been on an abusive relationship, so had that I had to literally hide in a shelter for abused women. This is how it starts. And it will only get worse. If you think his actions were just dumb or silly, please educate yourself. And I pray that you never encounter someone who does act like that.
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Yes walk. Age irrelevant but far to young for that. If drink affects him he needs stop the drink but as young likely he wonāt
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Isnāt too early to run 
if heās a new boyfriend you donāt want to wait and see what will happen staying in the relationship
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Get off Facebook and pack immediately. Please
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Stay away, it wonāt change no matter how much he says it will. Also consider checking out Claires law, he could have a history x
Run fast!!! It will only get worse!! Talking from experience!!!
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So, whyād you want to hang with an alcoholic with rage issues? Donāt need that in your life. Get away ASAP.
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Do you live with this newly titled boyfriend or does he live with you? If he lives with you then you might want to get him out of there. If you live with him then you might want to hurry and get out. But if you donāt live together I would simply tell him itās over. Tell him if he wants you back heās going to need to get help and be sober for x amount of days.
Run girl. Sounds exactly like my ex. Before you know it heāll be throwing the toaster at your head. Sounds harsh but itās true.
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Walk away hun. My sons father was like that when he drank and eventually took his anger out on me. Even though u might want to stay it is best to leave
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If you need to ask then thereās your answerā¦
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Heās gonna try to suck you back in hardcore! Tell you anything you wanna here, most likely tell you he wonāt drink ever againā¦ This is how the cycle starts, please donāt stay or let him make you feel bad for him when he sobers up and remember its not your fault! Donāt let him turn it around on you. Leave
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This sounds harsh but thats gonna be your face one day. Walk out that door as soon as possible.
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First he throw things, then hel throw things at u, then hel direct all his anger towards u, but be "sorry " afterwards. Trust me ive been there. Leave him, alcohol is no excuse.
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Piss him off ! A leopard never changes his spots
I totally agree we all do stupid things when drunkā¦but this is violent behaviour and unacceptable. Because you put your salad back in the fridge he thinks its ok to throw stuff around ?
Take it from one who knowsā¦this is only the beginning. The violence will escalate every time he gets drunk. He will start to drink more often and before you know whats happening youre lying to coverup the bruises and scared to disagree with him because thatās another excuse to get drunk and abusive
If its your homeā¦ When hes sober tell him its over. Pack his bags, change the locks ā¦ Call the police if he turns up drunk and abusive after that.
If its his homeā¦pack and leave. Please donāt get stuck in this situation
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Watch maid on Netflix and run!
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Donāt walk but run from that one unless you like abuse. He wonāt change no.matter how much he says he will
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As stated above if it is your house put his stuff out the front, change the locks and if he loses it call the cops. If it would his house pack your bags and leave
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RUNNNNNNNN heās got problems BIG TIME!
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He lost it. Time to lose him.
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Donāt force something not even relationships. I lived with an alcoholic for 10 years. Everyday I prayed he would get better. What I didnāt realize all those prayers made me stronger to leave. If he is doing this shit now it wonāt stop. He will be sorry make excuses for his terrible behavior. Tell you it wonāt happen again. He will be a good boy until it happens again. Donāt get caught up in this vicious cycle. It wonāt stop. The newly entitled boyfriend needs to go get help. And if there are children in the home get him out. Take it from me Darlin itās not going to change it will get worse. It was hard to leave him and for 3 years I was so lost. But thatās all I knew for 10 years was living with an alcoholic. I had to find my new normal. Iām still working on that. But never again do I fear my home will be destroyed, my children are safe Iām not sitting at the top of the stairs all night guarding their bedrooms because he feels the need to āline the kids outā only wanted to give them the āDad Speechā when he was intoxicated. Iām not yelled at, pushed around, called ugly names, and Iām not stressed, worried, or in a fight or flight mood all the time. It unhealthy in so many ways. Get out our get him out. Petiod.
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Oh honey that must have been scary. This is a situation that you have to make some hard choices because you canāt ignore his response to something that in reality didnāt justify how he reacted. This is mental abuse and makes me concerned for your safety. The fact that he was drinking and lost control over you asserting your independence, expressing you didnāt need help, is a major warning sign. I would be scared of how far it would go if the situation were more serious. The fact that you are newly titled as a couple and now youāre seeing his real behaviors is a problem. Statistically this leads into physical abuse.
You shouldnāt stay in this relationship, itās only going to become more toxic.
You really need to ask? Leave now while you still can.
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You know seriously you really shouldnāt even have to ask what you should do. Youāre young and Iām assuming he is too. There is lots of time to pick a partner and settle down, but get to know your partner first . Iām sure if your Mom and Dad knew what was going on they would without question want you out of there. There is no time to wait to see if he changes, he wonāt. Have you heard about that girl in the states a Gabby Petito that was murdered and now her boyfriend ends up dead?? It all stemmed from violence, do you too want to be a victim too? If itās your place have the police remove him and change the locks. If itās his place talk to your parents and tell them whats going on and make arrangements with them to move back in. If the place is in both your names once again call the police and tell them about the abuse and tell them you want out and that you need a police escort to pick up your things and to keep the peace even if you need to move a bit at a time, every time ask for a police escort, that way you are protected. Also it is well documented and if the lease is in both your names and he takes you to court the Judge will be in your favour. This guy has some serious anger issues and you DONāT want to be a part of it. Do NOT be another statistic of violence. Ask the police as well if there are any programs available for victims of violence so you can chat with other victims and get some advice as to best go about leaving or getting rid of him.
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From experience, I would definitely leave now. Most of the time it will get worse. Abusive drunks are the worst and they can get violent.
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Get rid of him before he hurts you
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Only the beginning run now. You will be next
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End it girl like in yesterday already. Thatās a big red 
& please donāt start thinking up excuses like he was drinking. End it please
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Run! It only gets worse. It goes from breaking, throwing, destroying things to becoming physical with you. Speaking from experience. I would get rid of him and never look back his way.
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Run. Donāt waste anymore time on this guy. And it doesnāt matter that he has had a drink or 12. Just dump him, please.
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Over a salad? Imagine if you were arguing with him. Either leave or be very careful
Drink or 12. That was far enough. Garner some self respect and run!!
He lost it because you wouldnāt let him help make your salad which was already preparedā¦ RUN!!! Run as far and fast as you can. He is dangerous and not someone you want to ever be around. He is a new boyfriend and is already showing heās violent itās only a matter of time, I say less then a year maybe even less then 6 months before he starts hitting you.
Donāt let him even bother saying āIām sorry, itās because I was drinkingā āIām sorry, Iāll stop drinkingā āIām sorry, I just had a bad dayā āIām sorry, YOU just made me madā āIām sorry, I was just trying to help and YOU wouldnāt let meā āIām sorry, I love youā āIāll k!ll myself if you leaveā so on and so on.
The drinking will never stop, maybe for a month or two just long enough to make you feel like he changed. Having a bad day is never an excuse to be violent, dose that mean he can be violent every single time he has a bad day? When they say their sorry then blame their actions on you itās not an apology itās manipulation and a way to make you feel like you w were the one in the wrong. The āI love youā is another manipulation tactic, if it was love he wouldnāt become violent weather itās to objects or you. The āIāll k!ll myself if you leaveā yet again another manipulation tactic. If you stay they may eventually k!ll you. And people like this are extremely selfish itās highly unlikely they would ever k!ll themselves because you left. They use it to get into your heart and head because you donāt want to be responsible for their death so you stay or come back and they get what they want and that a human punching bag. Do NOT spend your 20s losing who you are having your joy and heart shattered. Then try and spend your 30s or 40s trying to rebuild yourself and finding your joy and happiness. No person is worth becoming a shell of a human who is scared of saying and doing the āwrongā thing.
If this was his first violent outburst itās essentially a test, will she stay if I lose my shit about something so ridiculous and the answer should be 1000% hell no. The longer you stay the worse it will get.
Always remember to love yourself first.
Run dont stay it will only get worse
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Run, itās just the beginningā¦
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Run. They smash things then they smash youā¦
Donāt think they change they donāt and donāt Let him play the I drank too much card either - not an excuse thatās a big red flag of his every day behaviour.
This is the beginning they get worse and they donāt change
You are worthy of better and you know how wrong it is.
You got the validationā¦ !
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What do you think will happen when you have an argument, drink or not. Smashing things leads to smashing you.
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Make him leave or call the police things will only get worse.
Wow thatās a red flag if Iāve even seen one 
if he got that mad over something so ridiculous, imagine how heāll react over a real issue or disagreement 
itās a sign and he did you a favor showing you his true colors early on 
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as a survivor of domestic abuse I can tell you it starts out with little incidents & doesnāt get better. If heās that triggered over something that minor, imagine if it was something that mattered. Please get away from him like YESTERDAY!!
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Red flags sweetie! Run and dont look back! Iām here if you need someone to talk to 
I wish you well
You learned something today. He has rage and anger issues. He may not have these issues 24/7 but the potential is there. He may be good to you 85% of the time but that 15% will wreck you emotionally and physically and give you baggage for when this relationship ends that you will carry into your next. You canāt build a life with someone like this. Donāt waste another minute with him.
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I feel bad for laughing at this 
itās just so ridiculous. And yes end it. Now lol
Why would you even stay with someone like that? Especially if itās newā¦ drinks too much and canāt control it. Clearly has some anger issues that quickly turn into violence.
Thereās no way that your interaction shouldāve turned into him destroying anything.
And whatā¦ are you expected to clean up and replace the stuff he broke too?
Run, run quickly.
Well, the violence is your sign that this situation could end with something worse then a toaster being thrown.
I would 100% say anger management is needed, but if heās not willing, you should pack up and go because you donāt want that kind of fire in your life.
On top of that Iāll sayā¦ just for future referenceā¦ I feel like someone wanting to help you with a salad no matter how āeasyā it is, isnāt exactly something to fight aboutā¦ like maybe next time say sure, will you hand me the dressing or something like, because those little moments can mean so much in a relationship. For future reference when you got yourself a Good Non Violent Man.
LEAVE NOW. Next time it could be you that gets smashed in the kitchen.
Aaannnnddddā¦youāre still calling him boyfriend?
Nope, huge red flag!!! It starts out with things and then moved to abusing you. Run and run fast.
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Umm wow yeah leave his crazy ass right where you found him 
Time to leave, thank me later.
Find someone decent who doesnāt break toasters.
Red flag, yes I would stay away.
Run. As Fast As You Can!
Tell him where to go
The red flags we ignore in the beginning are what we pay for in the end.
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Girl RUN! Run fast and Run farā¦ he definitely isnāt worth itā¦ his true colors shining right there
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Girl he has anger issues. One day he may take them out on you. You need to get out now.
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Over some salad?? I would walk out the door and not look back, if you just started dating and this is how he acts, imagine how it will be a few years down the road.
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Yikes imagine if you ruin his steak. I would go ahead and end things now!
Donāt let him see a box of KFC chicken !! You may get slammed to the floor. RUN !!!
Take the advice of all these people and just walk away from this relationship. I can tell you exactly what this will look like. He drinks, he throws your toaster, next morningā¦he cries (yes, he really cries) a d begs for your forgiveness. Heās so sorry. Heāll never do it again, ever. But you should please also not say or do xyz that upset him. Because he is so broken and he loves you so much, he canāt live without you. He will make you think that what happened is not such a big dealā¦you will convince yourself you over reacted. You love him and yeah, heās a little brokenā¦if you can just hang in there and show him that someone loves him no matter what, he will get better. Next week he drinks, you look at him funny (not really, but he says so) and this time instead of throwing a toaster he hits youā¦same thing happens again, same process, over and over until you actually leave or he kills you. Donāt convince yourself he is going to get better. Cut your loses and go now. Sincerely, the ex of an angry drunk thrower.
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Uhm I think you know the answer to that.
Coming from somebody who lived this, it only gets worse. Thatās psycho. And you need to realize that is a huge red flag. Run while you still can especially before you end up pregnant.
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Listen to everyone, this only leads to abuse towards you. Run while you can
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Please run. It only gets worse.
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Get away from him while you still can. I promise you it will only get worse.
Run NOW! If you do make it out in the end, that will be just lost time, prime years of your life, not to mention the friends and family he will cut you off from and the years it could take for you to become yourself again after the the relationship. It will only get worse!
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Red Flag. Run and leave.
From what you have sharedā¦ Get out. No explanation needed to him. Move on.
Thatās an immediate sign to stop speaking with him and leave. Do not get pregnant or fall for a loser like that who canāt control his emotions and gets sloppy drunk. You will regret it for life if you stay with someone like that.
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Yes get away asap! I know from past relationships experiences it starts like this. If he did all that over something stupid like that he will definitely get more violent.
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Red flag run like you crazy
Definitely a huge red flag! Runnnnn
Steer away? Run as fast as you canā¦
Heās a lunatic. Leave him before he hurts you.
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Time to get away from him
Oh, heās an angry drunk, huh? I think you know the answer! Run! Donāt even reminisce on that!
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Run run run as fast as you can. I was in a relationship like that for two miserable years. It was awful.
Uh yeh sounds like he has some issues if he gets mad I er something that simple then wait ti something really bad goes wrong he would really flip out it could be u next that he puts his hands on donāt allow it get away
Why is this even a question, and you guys JUST started datingā¦ you obviously know itās a red flag or you wouldnāt of asked it to begin with. Also not sure why you guys had to go back and forth in regards to preparing a salad? Always 3 sides but sounds like he was easily triggered regardless.
New boyfriend, easily triggered with anger issues when he drinks especially. Uh. 
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Get rid like yesterday
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Absolutely! Get out now
Get rid of him asap!
Being drunk is not a good enough excuse and your gut says it, thatās why you are asking here. Listen to that guy feeling, you know what you have to do
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If you have to ask then you already know in your gut what you need to do. It will only get worse from here, saying this from experience. Being drunk is not an excuse to act like this. I was always told drunken words and actions are a sober person thoughts and actions, and they just wait til their drunk to have an excuse to act out. Get out while you can and before it gets worse. He could end up throwing things at you next or hitting you. Do what you gut says, hun. Good luck.
If he lost it you too can loose him. He is childish tell him to hit the road.
Ironically if you forgive him and stay, heāll never respect you.
Yup especially since itās early. So good itās being caught now
Girl, GTFO now!!! Not even a question.
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Yes. Coming from someoneās whoās ex is an alcoholicā¦ go now before there are children or you feel stuck.
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run. like 8billion people in the world. replace
Iāve had a similar experience and these were the first signs before I ended up with a black eye. Get out as fast as you can because I promise you it will get worse.
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You are,stil do young and there is definitely more guys out there for you, who wil treat u the way you are supposed toā¦in a few years time u are going to regret staying with him. Its,surprising the true colors surfaced. I do hope you read all the comments, its going to be hard to walk away, but walk away u mustā¦I would love to know your decisionā¦each life is so important.
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Why do you have to ask?
you need to get out of this relationship asap . it is only going to get worse .next time he cold be throwing these things at you . you have had just a glimpse of what he is capable of hurry dont wait .
if that little bit makes him mad you need to get out now. it will get worse and the next time it could be you
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