You’re way overreacting you have to take into consideration the age of your grandparents and how they were raised and how they grew up and how your mom and dad were raised by their parents back then that’s how you disciplined a child tapping is not beating your child or spanking your child it’s tapping him to teach him no and I don’t know your child but there’s a lot of plants that are toxic or poisonous and could potentially hurt your child tapping him and telling him no isn’t going to break him nowadays with all the false allegations of abuse and all that crap you can’t even look at your child without CPS being called it’s Hot because he was messing with something he wasn’t supposed to mess with isn’t going to kill him he’s not going to get traumatized over it way overreacting and you’re punishing the grandparents evidently your grandpa apologize for it you need to just let it go
You’re over reacting and taking it way too far.
You’re the problem in this country, he will suffer the consequences of no discipline or no spankings, sadly so will we. You reap what you sow.
If you really want your child not touching thing in other people’s home Stop removing thing in yours and teach them just because they can reach it not a toy. So this no longer a problem. This can be done with things that won’t hurt them or they can’t break or eat etc a good example is plastic plant they touch you so no not a toy and give them a toy but it starts by teaching them no and that not all things can they touch
Undisciplined children become Undisciplined ADULTS.
If my grandparents whipped my child I wouldn’t say a word. I don’t want a whipping 
Please someone tell me there are not parents out there really like this… I lost brain cells trying to understand this if it’s true it was a tap not a smack up side the head like some children need these days
Girl grow up !
Your poor grandpa said sorry !
You’re overreacting.
I was spanked as a kids. Kids need discipline. All thus crap with people being scared to spank a kid is ridiculous. It was a tap. Come on people. If people discipline their kids, then maybe these kids would learn a lesson. But parents just let their kids get away with everything these days
Stop being dramatic. We as grandparents don’t put up with a child not listening and whatever you do obviously don’t work. My gosh they ain’t beating your child. Depriving a grandparent because you are mad is selfish.
Discipline them now before the penal system does.
Yes, you are over reacting, a ‘tap’ is not a hit, teach your child not to touch things if you don’t want other people to GENTLY discipline him, children learn what is ok at one grandparent;s house is not ok at another and will behave accordingly. Do not hold this against your grandpa, it not like he did real harm, like giving him a sip of beer. I hope that puts things into perspective for you.
Don’t listen to most of these people 
. That’s your child and what you say goes. PM me if you want to be in a better group that follows gentle parenting. And shame on y’all for bashing someone who wants to raise their kid differently from y’all!! Y’all are the real problem with this world. I’m seriously appalled that the majority of the comments on here have been shaming comments!! PM me hun and I’ll get you in a better group cause this is ridiculous
Who cares he didn’t beat him bet he stopped touching the plants. That’s what wrong with the world no consequences or so little children are horrible. Let someone discipline if you won’t, or if you do obviously not working. No respect!
Grow up woman! You send your kids to grandma cause you don’t want to pay for childcare! Your kid starts swatting grandma’s plants and she swatted his hand?!?!? I’d have swatted his backside! Kids need a little discipline. She didn’t grab a belt… a swat on the hand was appropriate! Get over it!
I think you are overreacting but these comments are straight up sad. She’s not a terrible person nor a terrible mother nor is she “what’s wrong with this world” for asking this question. She ASKED, I’m sure because she feels on some level that she is overreacting. Y’all are grown women up here talking about “teaching kids respect” and y’all sound like you never learned it yourselves. Support and give helpful advise, or keep your mouth closed. Do better smh.
You are doing too much. Especially if it was just a tap on the hand…
Wow…how fucking ridiculous. Sounds like your child needed it. That was perfectly acceptable discipline. More people need to be less like you.
Good grief I hate to be in your shoes when your kdis become teenagers you do not correct them when they are in the wrong then how are they going to learn That is what is wrong with alot of these kids now days.People are scared to correct their child when they do wrong afraid of CPS or having the cops called on them. believe you me when I was growing up my butt got whipped, my hands got smacked, I grew up respecting my elders, Knew what was right and wrong. You keep that baby from his grandparents your not only hurting them you are hurting that child to. Let me tell you for a fact you do that. When your grandpa passes away that is something you never going to take back that you did to him and it will work on you for what you did and the things you say. You only have 2 sets of grandparents your moms and your dads. Then you have only 1 mom and 1 dad. You people better wisen up because when they are gone that is it.
4 year olds definitely know when they are being obnoxious. You are being dramatic.
I have a rule in my home. The face and the hands aren’t available for punishment EVER! EVER! And I only swat the butt in extreme circumstances. However, they were in grandparents home and being hard on the grandparents so I would have asked to swat the butt if you feel a swat was absolutely necessary if it were me. But to not send the kids? They are your grandparents. 4 year Olds are difficult for anybody let alone the elderly. You can make your own choices, but I don’t think I’d react the way you are. But I will say these comments are freaking ridiculous. Whether you agree with her parenting style or you don’t, still her child! Shaming a mom for not raising her kids the way you say she should is a tad wild
Yeah ummm, I agree with you being upset. Don’t put your hands on a child for any reason. However, he did apologize and most likely will not do it again.
What are the other ways in plural? Because a nice talking to will still end in them looking you dead in the eyes and doing it again. Lol Grandpa’s reflex was correct.
Let your grandpa and grandma discipline you kid, because you obviously can’t. That child should of stopped touching from the first time he was told to Stop! Stop raising little cry babies!
Omg a slap on the hand!!
Please!!
Way over reacting! Respect your parents! Did you turn out bad? Or did they beat you? Slapping a child’s hand, that is not listening, is perfect discipline! A 4 year old is not stupid, he was pushing the limits and grandpa slapped him, that is perfect parenting. Taking that child away from them, after they loved him enough to correct him is cruelty beyond measure!
At least some one is trying to teach your kid some manners…
you should be thanking him…
A little pop in the hand never hurt a child…it teaches then to keep their hands to themselves…children need discipline.
Girl, don’t let these people shame you. If something makes you uncomfortable you do what makes sense. The bottom line is respect. If it was a genuine accident, it won’t happen again. If it continues, I would definitely keep them away. People who hit children are very broken, trauma-led individuals. It’s never okay. I’m a mom who uses gentle parenting and have never hit my child. There are better ways to handle things and don’t let ignorant people tell you otherwise
A tap on the hands will not traumatize your child. When i was a child. I would get my hands slapped or my ass spanked… I grew up with nothing but respect… and I raised my kids exactly that same way… and guess what . My kids know how to respect others and their property… if your methods of displaying your child worked then your grandfather wouldn’t have needed to tap your child on the hands because your child didn’t listen.
Your one of those people who voted for Sleepy Uncle Joe didn’t ya?
Really a tap on the hand?
I mean, if the kid wouldn’t stop, that means grandpa asked him/ told him multiple times and the kid just didn’t listen. A tap on the hand or the bum is to get their attention, not to hurt them. You’re overreacting and punishing your kid and your grandparents for no reason. Let them see their grandchild
Good Lord girl. If you get this upset over a tap, you better keep his ass home for now on:joy:
Uhh a tap on the hand and you’re uncomfortable? Seems a little dramatic or like you have some underlying things to work out. I wouldn’t be too upset over a tap especially if kid was messing with my plants 
Lmaoooooo I can’t keep ur kid home and grow up u talk like he beat him with a wire hanger or a switch off a tree
Wow, you are over the top. If my 4 year old wasn’t listening at the grandparents home I would expect that they would get olafter them. It was a tap on the hand ffs. He didn’t beat them.
You know your Grandparent’s better then any.of us,Domwhat.yout heart tells you to do!
This has to b a joke.
Buy them a squirt bottle so they can squirt your child in the face when he’s doing something he shouldn’t repeatedly 
I think you’re over reacting. But that’s just my opinion
You are overreacting
You should give the grandparents a good whack, see how they like it.
He apologized. I think you could ask that he not do it again because you don’t agree with physical discipline but he did apologize. I think not allowing the grandparents to see the child over a small tap on the hand is a bit extreme.
I can’t believe one tap would do this to you, time to grow up ,I raise 4 children help raise 6 grandkids .All were great kids and very little problems ,but i would use my hands and spank if i had to .Life is short live it.
Get over it. Be grateful he has grandparents. That hand “tap” won’t mar him for life!
You’re over reacting! You would think the child got hit with a wooden stick on the palm of the hand multiple times like they used to do back in the old days! A tap is nothing.
Ur joking I hope 
Think about it. There NEVER were mass shootings back when children were tapped or spanked as a consequence for bad behavior. They have not learned about consequences. I think grandpa was right
You are way over reacting, don’t punish your kids and the grandparents because of this.
Hey I bet he will listen to grandpa now
You have a right to feel how ever you want 
we can’t help our emotions. However your Grandpa said he was sorry. I’d forgive him and give him suggestions on how to handle a similar situation. I leave hitting as a last resort.
Oh my goodness, maybe they should of waited till you got there and slapped your hand ,then told the child …that’s what happens when you have been told something is naughty …don’t want your child to grow up and have handcuffs slapped on,because they are doing something wrong …
You new fangled moms. SMH
I honestly suggest you not take him over there, if they can’t discipline him and you aren’t doing it at home either, then the child is just going to turn into a nightmare to watch and your grandparents aren’t going to want to deal with that 
Obviously he hasn’t learned not to touch things. I would start there at home so when he goes somewhere else he will behave.
Lol. It’s a tap… is your child alive and well? Fed, loved? Taken care of? If yes … let it go
I think if you feel you are helping the child by not tapping then he should be well minded and not do anything to cause them to have to correct , my daughter started that way to but soon learn it takes more , but don’t kill your grandparents over a little tap and it can not seeing them they are their whole and would not hurt them.
Really? I mean seriously, they are the child’s grandparents and your uncomfortable with grandpa tapping the child’s hand? Asking if your over reacting is a huge yes! He didn’t beat him and he said he asked the child to stop multiple times. You don’t like it that’s on you don’t send them. But later think to yourself was it really worth your child not seeing them or having any relationship with them over a tap on a hand.
I’d probably start with a call to the authorities. This sounds like a dangerous situation.
Wow no discipline in your house!!
You might as well get a D.O.C number for you kid now!
If you don’t discipline your kids society will have to later while you’re sitting there crying he’s a good kid!!
Hes 4. He literally should be listening and maybe the lack of discipline is why he wasnt. If it was a 1 yr old okay. But hes 4. My 3 yr old and 4 yr old would listen to their grandparents without the need to be popped. Thats on you.
You are being stupid!
You are overreacting. You need to teach your kids to respect what your grandparents say. What kind of grand daughter are you that you Would allow such disrespect and show the kids you take their side over grandparents when they were in wrong. Showing kids that people are not allowed to discipline different when they are in others house. Your seeing yourself up for hard times ahead. They need to learn consequences in different households so they would not get tapped. I think it is a great lesson. We didn’t hit in our family household either, until kids got out of control at older age but when they got that first spank, all things changed for most of our kids.
I am laughing so hard at this I am wheezing! I just wished I would have been “tapped” as a child! I was not beat but when I was told more than once not to do do something I got my arse whooped and then I finally listened. Your child being “tapped” is not going to hurt or kill them! Get a life and make your kid listen!
… Send the kid to their grandparents! it’s obviously not an unsafe place my grandma swatted me once my mom corrected her and that was that. No second chance even? The intent was obviously not to hurt the child, apology was given, and they love your child… The more love in a child’s life The better, the difference in parenting styles and relationship building is very important and will likely help your child!
Some of you are weird as hell! How you going to get mad at her because she’s raising her child and a non-violent no hitting home? It doesn’t matter if it’s the grandparents oh, if they know that she’s raising her children without physical reprimand that should be respected. It’s no different than if somebody hit your child you wouldn’t have the same energy.
He’s 4! If he can’t listen and do as he’s told then apparently he needed the TAP! Children need discipline and apparently he doesn’t get any kind at home or he would have listened to grandpa! Sometimes a little smack on the hand is all they need and then comes the explanation of why he should listen!
These new age parents are scared of their kids! Pop them on the hand now or the cops will be popping them later!
Ohhhh stop it . You are overreacting smh
Get over it, tapping on the hand is not abuse, it is what they have done for years, if you take away the time from the grandparents, because of this, what will you do in an emergency and what if they say NO we can’t watch him, think about that…
They are babysitting for you? And you’re upset because the child has his hand slapped? Do not let them babysit again, that’s fine (why should they babysit anyway?) But to keep the child away from them is ludicrous. Trust me when I tell you… this is nothing. And if you react like this to a minor thing (he didn’t get his a$$whipped by hand, wooden spoon, switch, or a belt) you are going to have a rough way to go as a parent. Maybe you should teach your child what NO means. Maybe you should put the child in daycare or a paid regular babysitter or nanny. As a grandparent to 18 kids and a mom to 9(grown) the grandparents should not be babysitting… they should be able to be involved, visited with the parent(s), but they (we) did their/our “time” as parents. Our job as a parent is to turn littles into happy, healthy, productive, caring adults…and if we do our job right…we are not babysitting or raising our grandchildren.
This is the problem with this world today! Undisciplined children who are coddled become all these assholes and entitled adults we have in this world today….
Ok, I’m going to just 
and carry on! Obviously the grandparent’s discipline has made this parent totally difunctional!
Girl, he popped his hand… get over it and let his grandparents see him. It’s obvious your discipline techniques aren’t working or he would have listened when they repeatedly told him not to do it…
Really!!! You are gonna have to get over yourself on this one!!
If an adult can’t get a child to listen without resorting to violence they should not be around them
In my opinion, you are over-reacting.
Yta. Way over reacting.
So if he is reaching for the hot burner on the stove, you would rather they just say no and he not listen and let him burn his hand? A tap on the hand is very ok! You might want to consider disciplining your kid, so others don’t have to if you are gonna be this way about it!
Personally I think you’re over reacting. Would you have written this statement if he done it protecting your child? (For example touching something hot or sharp?)
You going over the top a little tap is not hurting your child a child of 4 when told do not touch should no what no is .there is a difference between just a little tap than a proper smack .you really don’t want to make a big thing out of this grandpa apologised .don’t think he will do again .
No, don’t stop. Kids need grandparents old school discipline will not hurt them. He is not beating them, a simple tap on the hand, is not grounds for terminating a family relationship. I really can’t believe the question was even asked.
A tap on the hand? Are there bruises? Did the child stop touching the plants?
Seriously, you are overreacting, kids need dicipline they actually crave it, if a simple tap on the hand gets them to listen then it’s a harmless tactic.
I come from an era where discipline was a butt whooping. A switch, belt, etc. It wasn’t abuse and we learned respect. These kids now days , many are spoiled, sass mouthing, self entitled brats.
Set boundaries but also let him be a grandpa. Trust me, your child is gonna remember and appreciate his heandparents💙
Oh no tap in the hand u making it seen like he whoop the child and he’s in critical condition in the Hospital. U know that saying it takes a village we’ll u going to have no village if u end up burning all the bridges smh
And the trouble with society today comes from
This is what’s wrong with people today afraid to discipline.
You are being dumb. What if he chooses to do something that is dangerous? He obviously doesn’t know what the word no means. It’s up to you to teach him what that means if you don’t want others teaching him.
Over react much , smh
Yes. Overreacting would be the word. Teach your Grandpa the things you do to get the kid’s attention when he won’t listen
Definitely making a mountain out of a molehill. Haven’t you ever in your lifetime just instantly reacted to something ? Sounds like you are just using the grandparents for your convenience not out of love for them and your child. Grow up and be more mature and understanding.
I feel more compassion for Grandpa. My guess: your kid will be disciplining you soon enough.
Totally over reacting. At 4 years old he should be able to follow a simple direction. Adults are in charge not children. Children need to learn to respect what adults ask of them
Spare the rod spoil the child! I believe in spanking and a tap on the hand is nothing
Grandpa did the right thing. You may not like it, but if your kid wasn’t being raised the way that is right in your mind, there would be no reason for Grandpa to slap his butt. A slap is just an attention getter and does not inflict injury like a belt, spoon, or other object. I have watched People like you raise kids that wind up in the correctional system because you thought you knew it all. You probably think raising your kid threatening them to the point it has no effect is the right thing to do.
Is parents and grandparents did more spanking these days like they used to it would probably be less school shootings and children not acting out this one is what children need these days
You literally used the word “tap” then said you don’t hit in your hourmsehold. I think you answered your own question, it was a Tap. Let it go.
Waaaaaaay over reacting !!!