We also don’t use physical discipline and have been in a similar situation. If it was genuinely just a reaction and unintentional, I would give it another shot.
If he sees nothing wrong with disrespecting your ways of parenting and continues to discipline in ways you don’t allow I’d 100% keep him away. I’m sorry everyone has been so invalidating on this threat♡ It’s frustrating how often we are criticized because we choose alternative discipline strategies to hitting.
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You are definitely over reacting. A tap on the hand is not hitting and is sometimes literally the only thing that makes em stop! Be grateful you have grandparents to send em too and CHILL…its really not nearly as serious as you’re making it and you won’t even remember it in 20 years.
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Definitely over reacting. You need to find another babysitter 
Your being insaine. We spank in my household I would have zero issues! Good luck 
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Damn I remember getting my butt beat when I was younger. Now and days you can’t do that because some parents call it “abuse” there’s a difference. Think about it, he was raised different. He could have asked how you discipline your child. With all due respect I do think you are overreacting.
OMG REALLY ?? A Parent that would keep their child away from their grandparents is wrong on all levels !!!
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over reacting, he didn’t beat the child he swatted his hand… wow even as adults we do that to other adults when they try to touch something their not supposed too.
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Overreacting way to much!
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It probably hurt your grandfather more than your son just with the way that you reacted. You are very lucky to have that childs Great Grandparents in his life. They can teach your son so much and you are willing to destroy that over a tap on the hand? What if that plant were something dangerous? Your son needs to learn the meaning of NO and that there are consequences if you don’t listen. Whether it’s a tap on the hand or a burn from a hot burner, there are consequences. I’d prefer the slap on the hand.
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That’s normal from their time of parenting I wouldn’t worry. I mean my parents spanked me and I turned out okay. Not saying it’s right but when I was a kid a threat of a spanking got my arse in line right quick lol
You are overreacting ,a little tap on the hand probably stopped the touching ,YOU will learn that children need to know there are consequences for their actions.
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Judging by the massive amount of people laughing at this post you might need to knuckle down before your child is old enough that the government will knuckle down in a way you can’t stop!
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Definitely over reacting
Definitely over reacting lol
Definitely over reacting. A tap is not a hit
Are you serious!
you would deny the grandparents and your child time together because of a tap on the hand!!! Good Lord!!
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You have to remember they grew up in a way different time then us. It was probably first reaction, he is sorry about it. Don’t use the child as a pawn to hurt them, he is clearly sorry. At this point you are being more ridiculous
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Wow, this generation of parenting is crazy. You are way over reacting.
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it is definetly over reacting.
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Not enough mega eyerolls in the world world for this one…
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You’re overreacting. It would be one thing if he didn’t apologize but he obviously feels bad.
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Absolutely overreacting,a little tap on his hand won’t harm him,
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That’s what is wrong with kids today , no spankings , no stand in corner and no telling the NO
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Completely horrible for you to consider not taking them over there… definitely overreacting considering he apologized and said he didn’t mean to… it was a natural reaction from someone not quite used to the new ways in this rediculous world!
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Overreacting in a big way. You said tapped not smacked and that leads me to believe he was trying to get his attention to listen, not inflict pain to punish.
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Absolutely over reaction!
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This has got to be a joke…
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I literally Eyerolled reading this. YES, this is way overreacting. Chill out, sit down with your grandparents and gently remind them. They are from a different generation, and it was a knee jerk reaction, that is not hitting. Do t deny them this relationship over a swat on the hand.
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You’re overacting. This mentality is what is wrong with kids and the world today. I’m sure he didn’t hurt him. At 4 yrs old he should know not to touch something when he’s told don’t touch it.
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You’re the one who needs a slap on the hand for even thinking of taking your kids away from their loving grandparents… 
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You are more than over reacting
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You are over reacting
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As I run to town, and I see kids (every trip these days) disrespecting their parents, throwing fits and tantrums in public and running around stores because they are not taught what is appropriate. I’d say you might want your sweet child to do better, be better and be successful. Not only at life but as a citizen all around. My daughter is 27. She was swatted on the diaper, smacked on the hand and spanked 2 times by me in her life. Know the difference between abuse and discipline! Obviously you need their help! In more than one way! Your not that child’s friend. Your it’s parent. Do the job of a parent. Your child should know right from wrong and what’s expected of them by age 12. After that what’s done is done and it’s about cause and affect consequences. If you don’t do your home work you get a 0…
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Are you for real??? He didn’t beat the kid with a belt for Christ’s sake and he apologized. Just WOW….
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He apologized and recognized he was wrong. Tapping on the hand isn’t that big of a deal. Kids need to listen and at 4 they’re testing boundaries.
You need to recognize that some people don’t have family and family time is IMPORTANT. don’t deny your kid time with them if they aren’t toxic.
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Hitting… and spanking are two totally diff definitions.
Discipline which is exactly what he did is necessary especially these days ! Your child and every child will b a better person for it !
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100% overreacting! Are you kidding me?
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Yes you’re overreacting,.
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Yes you are over reacting !
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This… this is what what people mean when they make fun of mom group posts 
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Wow really??? I would prefer my child to have had is hand smacked and he quit touching the plants then eat them. Discipline helps kids know their boundaries and a smack on the hand will not ruin your 4 year old. Seems like he gave the child ample warning and a little smack on his hand let him know that he needed to stop. Kids are going to always test boundaries and if you don’t nip it in the bud now at 4 then at 40 law enforcement will have to.
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Not to mention. There are things grandparents can teach that you can not. There is a bond that only a grandparent can give. You will only be punishing your child in the long run. I remember as a child pretty young child the 1 time my grandpa spanked me. I’d say as an adult it’s the most important whopping I ever got. It’s not the only one I got by far. But it’s the one I REMEMBER!!!
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Holly I’m concerned about you to over react to this level.
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WOW really! Folks, this is what’s wrong with kids nowadays. I didn’t beat my kids, but a tap on the rear or hand was nothing wrong with it. My boys are grown and very respectful, caring, and love there Momma. Almost as much as I love them
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This is what’s wrong with the world these days… no wonder kids are so entitled these days
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Your grandpa did exactly what he should have. That’s what’s wrong with most kids these days, parents don’t want to discipline their children these days and get mad when someone else does. Where they fk up is where they get fked up. I said what I said
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This is what is wrong with America, no discipline and using children as pawns to hurt others.
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my children got their hands tapped as soon as they were walking and they grew up fine and all have careers and good working habits and well liked. take them to church and teach them about God.
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Wow. Perfect example of a mom coddling her kids.
Have you seen the news?
Do you want your child to grow up being an entitled brat?
Kids need discipline and sounds like you do to.
Taking you child away from grandparents is a huge mistake.
Apologize to your parents and let that kid be with them. Grandparents teach children history, and are very important to his well-being
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Overreacting big time.
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Overreacted is an under statement.
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You are way over reacting. My 4 old grandson broke leaves off the christmas plant and knocked over another. Hand was not slapped in time.
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Don’t take your kids away from their grandparents because of a tap. Most of us grew up with a belt. They need them in their life!
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Over reacting omg god these parents today are a joke I never had grandparents I would of loved to have one now you are stopping your child on seeing them because of hit this is crazy
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He’s her grandfather. He can talk to your child and explain why he got upset and reacted that way. Ask that talking be choice of discipline. You don’t end relationships over this. Children need to learn to handle relationships.
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A tiny tap on the hand, get over it drama queen!
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i’m glad my mom didn’t stop me from going to my grandparents when they disciplined me… and I got my ass tore up (Definitely deserved it) by my grandad…
Seriously?? Yes hun, in my opinion, you are overreacting.
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I would accept their apology, but then also let them know they won’t be able to have the child alone for x amount of time. Then try again. Everyone on here is okay with it, and that’s fine it’s their opinion. But this is your child and you’ve made it clear hitting, in any form, is not acceptable. Hold your boundaries.
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Is this serious? A smack on the hand?!? Get over it.
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Lol I used to tap the top of the hand to teach my kids to stop ofcourse like grandpa said THE KID WOULD NOT STOP which means the kid was told multiple times before the alleged tap lol. Kids need further discipline sometimes relax. Seriously people have become so dramatic. You act like your 12 grow up.
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Everyone has their way of discipline. I think you are over reacting and when your grandparents are gone you will regret your actions. Not enough discipline, even a slap on the but or hand, is just what is needed sometimes. But yes I believe you are overeating.
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well i don’t think shes over reacting my mom did’t hit me and i’m fine the most she did was yell and i turned out fine
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Are you friggin kidding me? This post is idiocracy at its finest. 
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We don’t hit in my house either. Ur rules are ur rules anyine who wishes to be around ur kids needs to abide by those rules or not be around them. U can displine kids without violence and they will still grow up to be respectful and responsible adults. Do not listen to anyone on here that says its ok to hit a child because it is never ok to hit a child ever. Tell the grandparents they are never allowed to see ur kid unless ur there until they can learn to abide by ur rules
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OMG…this better be a BS post…
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No one puts their hands on my kids. He’s the adult in the situation and could’ve found a different way to discipline the child that goes with what you approve of as the parent. He was irritated and did what was easy. Gentle parenting doesn’t mean you aren’t disciplining it means that you’re not taking the easy way out and using force to control your kid…that being said I would probably have a discussion about your boundaries and let them know if it happened again it would be supervised visits only. If he truly seemed sorry and obviously loves your kiddo and wants to spend time with them he’ll adjust his actions accordingly.
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Lol that’s what grandparents do… I wouldn’t worry… I bet your baby will leave those plants alone now though…
Your grandpa is from a time where kids listen to their parents… for a reason…
Your baby will be fine
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You need to teach your child to listen, he wouldn’t have got his hand tapped if he would have minded his Grandpa after the first or second or even third request to stop touching the plants!!! Geez
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You are ridiculous 
your overreacting. Wow…
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Is this satire? Your kidding right
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You can’t be serious
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Plants can be deadly to a child. Quit being stupid. THIS is what is wrong with America right now. Snowflake generation
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Please your ridiculous. A tap on the hand isn’t a hit it stops a action a child shouldn’t do . My 2 year old granddaughter was standing on the arm of my couch . I told her get down we don’t stand on furniture. She smiled I counted to 3 she got down . Than smiled and did it again . Again I counted to 3 . Reluctantly she got down . At which time I said do not do it again you will not get another warning . She did it again I picked her up swatted her hand . Her feelings got hurt but not her. She will never do it again. My eldest granddaughter is 18. She to got one swat in her life from me . I Only did it once . It’s all I ever had to do . I have glass tables a lot of glass figurines all on kids eye level . You teach them boundaries. I don’t believe in hitting or spanking . But I believe in a one time hand swat .
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Or just let her eat the plant it might not be poisonous…I wouldn’t want to risk hurting her feelings.
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Did she really say there are other ways to get a 4 year old to listen?? I am Sure your grandpa told him no before “tapping” his hand! Yes, you are overreacting
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Over reacting, absolutely. A child needs to learn the word no. If it’s said then it means just that, no. Don’t touch is another phrase that needs to be taught. If the parents don’t make this authority, then they will grow up not listening to anyone who is authority, and I use that word loosely and for lack of a better definition. Respect follows that correction in disciplining the child. Just remember the child will eventually cross that path in school, in other homes, outside in the big world and mostly in the home the child lives in. And parents that’s your environment you rule.
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the child will grow up without respect for others…the reason children are rude is because rhey have no respect
This is major over reaction! A tap on the hand is no reason to keep the child from their grandparents.
You are a total dumbass
It’s your grandparents. Grandpa apologized now move on. Let your little one go over there.
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“Tapped” does not mean violence. Good gracious. It does not mean whipped it doesn’t not even mean swat. It barely means touched. Get over yourself. If you expect your parents to watch your child; then their rules apply at their house. Most grand parents are less strict to their grandkids then they were with their kids. You need to lighten up.
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YES you are!!! Just punish the grandparents for correcting you child.
Yes overreacting!! Be grateful that they are in your child’s lives…my father was a child molester so HE and my MOTHER ( who believes him and still married to him) have never met my children!! That’s a reason to keep them away!! A tap will not harm your child the planter could! A tap will not break your child the planter very well could have!! He is not abusing or neglecting your child!! At 4 he knows better and knows what no means or at least should and if he doesn’t you’re failing as a parent!!
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Yeah this is ridiculous and over the top. Do you realize most people feel bad disciplining a small child even if it’s just a tap on the hand, even worse if it’s a diapered bottom. This is the problem with some though everyone immediately goes to omg we don’t spank which leads to I’m your friend not your parent. Get over it and accept the apology.
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Waaaayyyyyyyy overreacting
Overreacting…maybe he should have listened…unless the grandparents abuse him in some way please take him back…
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Some of these comments are ridiculous! It’s what’s wrong with kids now days, no discipline and parents are pushovers. Discipline your child, teach them manners and respect and you respect your elders too for Gods sake. You don’t have to beat a child to punish them but a tap is not going to destroy him yelling is worse than a tap on a hand
My grandparents died 20 years ago and I’d give anything to still have them here and my kids to know them. You should treasure that not take it away.
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You are over reacting, a tap on the hand is nothing.
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I agree over reaction
WAY Over Reacting !
Tell me the secrete on how to get them to listen please I need to know for this one mom…
meeee
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Teach ur child to listen. I’d rather my child get a hand tap than to get extremely hurt. I mean I’m sure ur kid will know now not to mess with grandma plants.
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You are over reacting.
He said it was a reaction it probably was. How you choice to parent is up to you and your family, but reactions happen. Unless he’s given you other reasons to not trust what he’s saying you’re WAY over reacting.
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Wow. Overreacting. That’s not “hitting”. There’s a huge difference between discipline and abuse but today’s society has blurred lines so badly.
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Very over reacting! I’m sorry. He didn’t slap or hit your kid in the face head ect. He tapped his hand. They aren’t abusing him. Has this happened ALOT? No? Just talk to them and tell them you don’t like it. I’m sure they will understand. Don’t ruin your relationship with them over something so small. You will regret it if anything happens to them!
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Children are like dogs. Undisciplined and you have a monster
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Definitely over reacting.