Children shouldn’t be forced to do sports, ask him what he likes and go from there, maybe he’s into music or enjoys reading, but don’t ever force a child to do something he doesn’t like
No they should not be forced to do anything. Band swim lessons. Sports nothing
I never played sports and I didn’t get into trouble
One does not stay out of trouble, one has trouble thrust upon them
Omg, forcing a kid into sports to stay out of trouble is a horrible idea. Let them do what they are interested in. I have one son who is very athletic and I have another who is more academically focused. Both don’t get into trouble. It’s ok to push hobbies but only ones they think they might like.
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If he’s being forced and it’s going to make him miserable it is probably going to create trouble because he will most likely feel resentment. If not sports does he have another hobby in mind that he might want to get involved with?
There’s other options for extra curricular activities besides sports.
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I agree that he should have some sort of extra curricular activity but it definitely does not have to be sports. It could be book clubs, debate teams, coding classes, whatever he is interested in. Being made to play a sport is not only detrimental to his wellness but it will also drive a wedge in your relationship with him life long. Would you want to be forced to do activities you hate? I highly doubt it.
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No he should not be forced to play sports, I agree to that.
However he should be involved in some extra curricular interest, whether it be art, music, science, robots, or book clubs, or volunteering with animals, children, elderly.
Find his “niche” & get him involved. & Make husband realize that not everyone is into sports, but everyone can have good things in their life by having other interests & hobbies.
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they should be in some extracurricular activity but sports should not be forced. If he wants to paint flowers, so be it. If he wants to dance or take aviation classes, or cooking classes so be it. NOTHING should be forced, other than education, and even with that, there should be choices on electives
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I think sports are important, but there are other things.
For me sports isn’t about just keeping them physical. Its about learning to take direction, working with a team, learning how to discipline yourself to do better.
That being said not all kids enjoy sports. Perhaps that would be interested in something like band, equestrian, a local outdoor group (fishing, camping)…
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Being pushed to be something or someone that he is not will CREATE trouble
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If sports aren’t a child’s thing find another activity or group to be involved in.
My sons have tried: robotics, speech and debate, strings/music lessons, volunteer groups, art camp, all the sports, FFA and I know im forgetting some… 
My point is find something that suits their interests and builds their character.
They will eventually find out what they want to play or do. Forcing gets you nowhere
I think every kid should have something to do to keep them busy. Whether it’s sports or art or music, anything to keep them busy. If your husband wants to keep him in shape maybe your kid will like martial arts. It’s not a team sport but still good exercise
If i was forced to take sports id be depressed. I tried them and never got into it
Find something else that he is into instead
I agree to get him involved with something that will help give him structure and a schedule. But it doesn’t need to be sports, especially because it’s not something he likes. He could even start a pet walking or paper route job. But I’m sure he has other hobby’s that could parlay into classes, etc
Instead of sports maybe he is interested in art, music or drama. I think it’s important to be involved in things but I wouldn’t push something he doesn’t like. My grandsons do both…sports and play in the band, sing in the choir and act in school plays.
If you make him when he doesn’t want to, he’s gonna rebel… he’ll probably get into trouble just so he can be kicked off the team that he didn’t want to be on in the first place
Being forced into an activity you hate is a punishment, find something he does like (not sport related) and let him be himself
Not everyone likes organized sports!
To answer the question… no.
Have him start a dog walking business or something to do after school. It doesn’t have to be sports or school related at all. He just needs a hobby or something to occupy his time.
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There are other extra curricular activities to enjoy besides sports.
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Let him find an activity he’s interested in…
I purposely didn’t introduce my kids to sports. Had they liked them I would have been more interested but why?
Sports seem like a nightmare the older kids get! Families that do sports are always rushed and running. We like to relax over here
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Forcing someone to do something they dont enjoy is a total waste of time
They will fight you the whole time. Wont put any effort in and be stressed and angry leading up to practice…therefore defeating the purpose. Let him find something he enjoys doing
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Every child is different and should be treated differently, especially in extra curricular activities. My son hates sports, but loves to dance. So he takes dance classes.
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Let your husband build a man. Stop cuddling the boy. Sports is necessary in raising a young man. Or just let him be lazy at home playing fort nite. Your call.
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My son isn’t a huge fan of baseball, but I make him play. He’d play football year round if I’d let him. It’s not good for kids to just play one sport all year… So baseball in the spring and summer to till football starts…
I never forced my kids to play sports. Would you want to be forced to do something your not interested in, don’t like or feel uncomfortable doing? Not everyone likes that kind of stuff. Find what interests him. Maybe archery, fishing, hunting, art, music…why does it have to be school sports?
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No. If he isn’t into sports, then he isn’t into them. Ask him what he would like to do and support it.
There is other things he can do. Take some advice and help him find it. Like music. Or art
Maybe see if he’s interested in music or you could always ask him what he wants to do… I wouldn’t force him to do anything but maybe meet dad in the middle and tell your youngest to test the waters and try out different activities… There are more extra curricular activities than sports, just find some things going on around your area or programs that the school offer and tell him to pick one.
There’s plenty of activities for kids besides sports, find out what he’s interested in and enroll him in those.
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I think they should do it one time to learn but I’ve also chased my daughter down the track yelling at her to run so she did band lmao 
Find an extracurricular that he maybe interested in
Doesn’t have to be sports… maybe get him an instrument ? Karate? There are tons of other outlets he can try
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No if u force them to play something they do not want to, they will not put in all effort. So you will be wasting ur time, husband time, and kid time. The time can be put towards something they r interested in such as a instrument, it art, or music. There could be resentment built up too towards you and dad and it is already tough enough being a parent of a teen. I have a 15 ur old boy 
. The struggle is real. Good luck
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Never force kids to play sports
If he isn’t into sports, there’s tons of other activities to put him into that will keep him out of trouble.
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Doesn’t have to be a sport necessarily but maybe something extra curricular. There are many things schools offer besides sports. Keeping him busy isn’t a bad idea.
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Never should u force anything like that on a kid seriously
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Nope. Only rule in my home is that they start something they have to complete the “season”
My son was in Cub Scouts and wanted to quit. It runs for the school year so he had a long haul before he was allowed to quit.
A good rule to have is that they need to be in an extra-curricular activity. My daughter was in an art club in middle school.
Don’t force him, you can absolutely find another outlet he is into though to keep him “out of trouble”.
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No! Some people love physical activities, others despise them! Sports won’t keep a kid out of trouble either. Some of the biggest trouble makers tend to be jocks
Let kids do whats fun for them. They have their entire adult lives to have to do crap they don’t want to do.
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Don’t force him to play sports because it will cause him to want to rebel however I do agree that busy kids stay out of trouble so maybe encourage him to join clubs or other activities that would fill the time that sports would.
definitely don’t force him… yes, sports are great for socialization etc but they’re also prime spots for peer pressure as well as drinking and drugs etc. maybe explain that to your husband for a different view.
Nope! plenty of things besides sports.
If you have to force then they are not getting out of it what your wanting or having any fun.
There are a lot of other things available to them besides sports. Not all of us are athletic, and we just feel worse about ourselves when we’re forced to play.
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He needs to do something active, he will thank you later! Lol
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Strongly encouraged but never forced.
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No. I would try encourage a activity they are interested in.
There are more ways than one to stay out of trouble. Find out what he is into.
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Offer alternatives, but insist he be involved in something with his free time! Sports aren’t always the answer, could be band, chess, clubs at school! Lots of opportunities.
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Sports are not for everyone. I would be seriously depressed if I was forced into sports. I’m not into it to begin with so being forced would suck any fun out of it. There’s other things, work on cars, learn a trade, build something etc.
There are other activities besides sports that kids can do. Maybe ask what he is interested in?
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Don’t force the child to do something they aren’t excited about. Would you want to be forced to do something?
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Sports are good they do teach life long skills and are good to stay healthy but a kid hates it than no. Most households have rules that they have to be in some sort of activity not necessarily sports per say but something so they are active. So it depends on the household.
His choice but it will not keep him out of trouble.
Do not force him find something that he likes
video gaming is now a sport but forcing someone can cause extreme dislike of said activity see what he is interested in and what he might want to do you may get an answer that makes sense based on him forcing someone to do something that they do not enjoy creates resentment
Maybe he would like martial arts. He shouldn’t be forced to be in a sport if he doesn’t want to.
I wouldn’t force a child to do sports. Let them decide what they are interest in. Maybe piano, dancing, art, etc
Encourage all types of activities and clubs.
Yes because you NEVER see an athlete with a criminal record…
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I had one child that loved competitive sports so he played 3 dif sports each year . My other child didn’t like competitive sports but I did want he to do something organized so she did marital arts and got her black belt after several years , it was physical and she only had herself to compete with . I think it really teaches invaluable skills.
No… maybe choir, band, drama etc is more appealing for them
No I don’t believe in forcing your kids to take up sports or activities unless they want to. Obviously he’s given sports a try here and there and doesn’t like them so no. Sports doesn’t keep you out of trouble. There are many jocks and athletes that get in all sorts of trouble.
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Sports just may not be his thing and that’s okay! What about other hobbies, is he into art or music? Even if it’s graffiti style or electronic? Find what stimulates his brain. There are plenty of other interests out there, he just has to find what works for him! I’m glad you want to push him into doing something, just make sure it’s in the right direction for his own unique taste.
Does the younger kids have interests? Does he read, draw, something? Maybe he wants to do that instead of sports. By middle school he should be starting to think individually. If sports aren’t his thing, don’t push it. I never played School sports. Only what I had to do in gym class. Figure out what he wants to do. Be ready for lots of options.
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Nope I wouldnt force it on him. He will end up resenting you for it. Instead find what he is interested in and try to get him into that. He will be happier and you will be happy hes happy.
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I don’t think a child should be forced to play sports but I do think kids need to have an extracurricular activity. My husband was very athletic and played sports all throughout middle and high school. I was not athletic but I stayed busy with FFA and stockshow. We’ve talked about our expectations for our children’s upbringing and we agree that we won’t force them to do something that we love but they do need to have an activity that they are passionate about.
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Kids have different interests. Put him on a team he doesn’t want to be on and he’s only hurting the players because he’s not playing his best. Leave the space open for a kid who wants to be there. Putting your son in a sport to 'stay out of trouble" is laughable. Apparently he doesn’t know who instigates a lot of the trouble, bullying, and throws the parties in the hills. Find out what he’s interested in and go from there. He might be a kid who wants to stay out of the spotlight and just get through school.
Find something he enjoys, if he keeps being pushed to be like his brother he going to feel like he’s always being compared to him and it may make him feel like he is not good enough the way he is
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I don’t think a kid should be forced to play sports. Maybe the kid is into something else that they would rather do.
What about music or after school clubs? Book club, science club etc. or some other extracurricular activity that isn’t a sport.
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Find something he’s interested in. From sports to drawing art music. Whatever. They should both have the opportunity to do something that interests them.
I wouldn’t force them into sports but let them choose their own activity or hobby and find a group or club or lessons for that
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Maybe see if there’s something else he’d like to do? Extra curricular doesn’t have to be sports. But it is nice to have kids in something, it does help keep them out of trouble.
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Why sports ? I get one hundred percent wanting to keep him busy but sports isn’t for everyone. I’d ask him to pick two activities to enroll in.
Improv classes, karate, sketching, pottery, guitar lessons, piano lessons, Cadets, drama, painting classes. Chess clubs, bowling, photography, calligraphy, woodworking, graphic arts, cooking classes
So so many options
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I got into more trouble with my teammates than I did being by myself. Sports give you an excuse. Well, moreover an alibi. “Practice ran late” or some other excuse. Sports give them something to occupy their time, but they have never and will never be a “keep them out of trouble” option. I was not the kind of kid who got into trouble. But put a bunch of pre-teens together and someone is bound to come up with something stupid to do. Add to that, the absolute fact that he will screw it up for everyone on the team who takes it seriously if he’s not motivated. Then we’re talking a whole bunch of added pre-teen problems. If he doesn’t like sports, help him something else he’s interested in. Save everyone some grief.
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Never MAKE a kid play sports if he doesn’t want to!!! Waste of time, money and family peace!!! What DOES he like to do??
Does it have to be sports specifically? Why not something he’s interested in? Like a ready group, or film group. Even chess club? I agree that keeping kids busy is good but I don’t think it HAS to be sports?
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Maybe he should do band, orchestra or chorus. Makes your brain sharp and he could always do marching band
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Nope. I was the exact same. Oldest lived and breathed sports. Went to college on a football scholarship. My middle played some but wasn’t that into it. He preferred to hang out with the neighborhood kids riding bikes and climbing trees. Made my life easier not to have to shuffle two different sport schedules. Haha. Just have him find something he’s passionate about. I guarantee there’s something other than organized sports that he loves. But don’t force it
No he shouldn’t be forced to do something he doesn’t enjoy. There are plenty of other things he could do that he might actually like to do.
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I don’t think you should force a child to play sports. It is not for everyone. However, my rule is that you have to be involved in some type of extracurricular activity (sports, clubs, youth group at church, etc.)
Each kid is different if he’s not into sports he’s not!
Let your son choose. Sports are bot the only thing to keep them occupied and out of trouble. I have 4 boys, 9, 12, 18 and 21… They are ALL very different and have very different interests.
NO child should be forced to play sports if they are not interested in it ask him what hobbies he likes to
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I would never force my child to do anything they don’t want to do, definitely find a hobby he is interested in.
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Personally I think they should either be in sports or some sort of club/hobby. If sports isnt for your youngest then maybe scouts, or photography club or something… just my opinion though
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I think he should do something extracurricular. It could be sports, join a club, do a programming club thing if that’s his thing. Just something for him that gives him time with other kids out of the house
Art and music are good options too , not everyone likes sports.
There are other options other than sports. Like arts, music, theater etc maybe your other child is artistic and not athletic.
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I find kids that don’t play sports like musical instruments!
No. I ask my daughter what she would like to do. Since 3 yo it has been gymnastics. I asked after summer what she wanted to do at the dance school and she said, ballet and hip hop. At no time add she not wanted to go
Forcing a child will result in negative results and resentment to the parents! Parents must ask themselves “do you want to be forced to do something you don’t like “
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My 13 year old didn’t like sports, he has been in martial arts since he was 9 and is currently testing for his black belt. We found what he liked
Cause forcing teens to do things they dont want to always turns out well rt!?!?!?