Nope, there’s no reason they should hang out on their own. Why can’t they hang out with you present? It’s disrespectful to you for them to not include you. Your relationship with your spouse takes presidence over any friendship. He should want to bring his friend around you. If she were a true friend she would automatically see you as a friend and want to include you in their friendship.
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It is disrespectful if your uncomfortable with it. I don’t feel it’s a problem having a friend of the opposite sex. However, you have to put some common sense to it? Are you invited to come along? If not then no that sets it up for things to happen. Do you trust your partner? If not then there are bigger problem. I have make friends but would never go to their home without my husband and my husband has female friends but he does not go to their home. There is a boundary issue here and a respect issue he is not respecting you.
Its ok to have friends that are girls but he ain’t hanging out with her without me ! And married men shouldn’t be hanging out with another gal and him married point blank !
My husband has a female cousin that I feel very inappropriate what about that
I’ve been married 10 yrs and never has my hubs went alone to a girls house friends or not it’s more of a matter of respect than trust.So ya id definitely have a problem with that!
My husband had several female friends he dated. Now we are divorced. You decide.
My husband and I dont have friends of the opposite sex. It causes too much jealousy and trust issues.
From a female that has mostly guy friends I wouldn’t worry about it. Unless they give you reason to. My best friends are guys.
What does being a Christian have to do with it?
I havent seen a man’s opinion on this matter yet just womans on facebook where are all the men
There is nothing wrong with having a friend of the opposite sex when your are married or single, however with that being said if they are friends of his they should also be friends of yours. Married people don’t hang out with friends of the opposite sexes houses without their spouses included. It’s just not right. My husband and I both have friends of the opposite sex but we would never entertain them alone without the other one. Has nothing to do with trusting one another. We have been happily married for 22 years. It’s just inappropriate. We are also Christian. We also don’t have trust issues. We just respect marriage.
If it makes you feel uncomfortable then he should respect that. Period.
I don’t think it has anything to do with trust I think it’s just wrong and should be doing it, never put yourself in a position that something could happen
Here the truth, If hes going to cheat he is going to cheat and that very well may mean there is a break down in y’alls relationship that needs to be addressed. Now for me I think that if you take issue with the friendship no matter girl, boy the thing is it causes a problem for you and that friend should be a real friend a respect your feelings. And since you don’t say if infidelity has been a problem before if not and you have no reason not to trust him the include his friend in some thing maybe take time to get to know her and maybe you may gain a new friend as well but if they are not willing to put effort into your feeling then its not ok. One of my oldest dearest friends is a lady my ex was dating before we were divorced and 30 years later we still laugh about how we met. And the i had others that did not end will and he was my friend and he tried tohit on me
Of course. If you trust him and you love each other there should be no problem.
I trust my husband and l know he is faithful. So be friends with whom u want. I know where ur heart is
A friend to talk on the phone once in awhile ok but hang out at her place- huh no
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I agree with Laura Hayes Spaugh on this one.
Wake the Hell up. Hell no. He wants to hang with a
Friend it should be you
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Depends on the friends personality when dealing with me.
It would depend on the type of “friendship”
My husband will NOT be doing that!
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YES! Men & Women can be just FRIENDS without anything going on. My best friend is a guy
To me that is not ok.
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Being Christian has nothing to do with it
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Annnnd that’s how I lost my first husband.
Nothing comes before you, but God !!!
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Me and ny husband have same argument he has female"friends" but they are ones he has for backup i dont like them as friends he says im just jealous and hes not allowed female friends. Those arbt friends. His actual female friends he dont private message
Not unless they are mutual friends of ur spouse. Absolutely not!!!
Your correct not right
My, husband will not, lol have one. I’m his friend. lol
Wow… I think it all depends on the situation…in this situation I would say no.
No way that’s how affairs get started.
Dont ever believe that they are just friends lol that is side chick.
That’s weird. I wouldn’t be comfortable with that.
I don’t think they should it could destroy a marriage
No femail friends. Especially going to each other’s house. No, absulity never.
sounds like its a girl frie
Hell. no.
Having opposite sex friends is fine, but going over to their house to hang out alone… INAPPROPRIATE!
Um no I would not be ok with that no way
Hanging out alone is a big no.
Go with your gut instincts.
If you are bother with it them no
There’s only room for one female in a relationship/marriage.
If it makes u uncomfortable then he shouldn’t do it… Period!!
My husband said every married couple should not have any other gender friend it’s inappropriate.
If u can’t trust your partner u dont need to be w them
It’s an issue that they spend alone time together. Have you met her? My hubby had a female friend who never met me or made the effort to…She crossed boundaries and asked my hubby if he wanted to screw when I was out of town. I had a bad gut feeling about her and told him it was her or me. Needless to say he chose me.
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It’s ok to have friends if the opposite sex, but not hang out alone…
Ask yourself why you are married to someone that you don’t trust.
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My husband has a couple female friends he has had for years. One was a co-worker he worked with many years. I know I am number one in his life. I’m not intimidated…
My husband and I have friends of the opposite sex. We never hang out with them alone really. We have a friend and she would stop by when I wasn’t home, but she would still be hanging out when I got home from work, so it wasn’t weird and my male friend comes by occasionally and plows my driveway and has come to look at my vehicle and help my hubs figure out what was wrong with it…
I think if you have friends of the opposite sex it’s not weird as long as you are welcome to hang out too.
Id never go chill with my dude friend at his house or anything like that and my husband would never chill at a females house… but that’s just us.
We don’t care if each other has man or woman friends… There’s boundaries and as long as those are respected then it’s cool.
Female friends? Of course.
Hang out together alone? Hell No!
I do not think it’s ok !
No friggen way
Trust no one
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I would no like it at all. Nope.
That’s a NO from me 
Religion has nothing to do with respect and boundaries.
Men can have female friends just as females can have make friends.
Now if said husband is respectful then he would never attempt to go “Hang out” with any female.
People don’t just “Hang out”
My husband has many friends both male and female, and likewise I do as well.
Now I do not allow any males in my home when my husband is not home, unless it’s family.
I don’t worry about him crossing that line because he and I both are on the same page with regards to respecting the boundaries of our marriage.
If one wishes to “Hang out” then perhaps one can do so with ones spouse along too.
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my husband and i both have friends of the opposite sex, while i dont hang out w my guy friends alone at our place or theirs my husband had 1 female bestfriend that i hated so i never hung out w them but i wasnt too concerned w her… i dont mind if hes in public w his friends he had a bunch of girls hed go out w while he was down south for work and i met them all at least once visiting some even came to our wedding i wasnt concerned about them either… i dont think he should be at their place alone or ours and he shouldnt be leaving me to go hang out which he doesnt hell join them when im busy w my parents or work stuff or sick and dont care if hes home or not lol… i guess i go with case by case basis lol if i get a vibe from the girl then im all over him “enforcing rules” if not then i try to supportive of them and make new friends… since weve been married though his female friends have dwindled as he tends to find the hotmess idiots that only talk to them when life is shitty lol
No he sure wouldn’t want his wife to have men friends
#norespect
Follow him one day. Creep. See what they be doing 
invite ya damn self
If he gets upset, then baby girl they fuckin cause there is no reason you can’t be there
Hell there’s no reason for him to be there
Not to hang out by themselves. NO!
Even if their friendship only staid a friendship there will be gossip and gossip can ruin a relationship just as fast as an actual affair can. This is not a situation any of these people should be putting themselves in.
My husband and I do not believe we should have opposite sex friends. Nothing good usually comes of it. If you don’t feel right about it, then it’s not ok.
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A “friend” he met while seperated…Yeah, Id bet my tax return she isnt just a “friend.”
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I’m a Christian , just bc ppl are doesn’t mean you can trust them!! Again No …Hell Naw… No Way …Nope…Nada…No y’all Not wise
Since you two were separated - it’s really none of your concern. You stated you are a Christian…so I’m surprised you automatically think if a man has a female friend they are hooking up. Christian followers trust.
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Nope… not ok. And most men dont hang out with women unless they are receiving something in return. PS. THIS WAS MY HUSBAND’S ANSWER.
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Wow lots of insecure and not trusting people commenting. Women and men can have friends of the opposite sex. Both my husband and I do. We love honor and respect one another. It is not an issue. This has nothing to do with faith, in case you haven’t noticed all the pedophile priests and family values yahoos.
That being said, it sounds like your husband is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Why don’t you get yourself a male friend and hang out at his place? See what your husband thinks about it then.
Nope. Very disrespectful to your wife. Also, I find that lots of women are very petty and seem to find pleasure in thinking that someone’s husband might be available for them.
He can have female friends but to respect y’alls marriage and you he shouldn’t hang with her alone.
He’s Muslim? If so he knows that’s a damn lie! It’s a sin. If there are 2 people together (like that)Shaytain is the 3rd!
Married men can have friends that respect you, know you, want the best for you and she’s married too!
In this situation the friend was with him in a manner YOU were with him. That’s never correct! It’s better for him to cut the ties with her and make his marriage work if not, honey leave, and don’t look back!
So he’s not a Christian?
Honestly it’s inappropriate to hang out with a friend of the opposite sex and to be alone at her place! Christian or not married or not. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and he has only done that ONCE while we’ve been together and I was in the apartment we were living in. He did shut the door to the living room while she was visiting and I went to the door and pulled him aside and told him do NOT close the door while you are in here with her it’s rude and I’m not comfortable with that. The ONLY REASON I was so somewhat ok with it is because he has been friends with her before we even met.
Nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but hanging out alone is not right and disrespectful towards you and your marriage. There are lines that you don’t cross when you are married. People say that things won’t happen but there’s always that possibility. Every marriage is different but if it’s bothering you then you need to say something. He needs to respect you and how you feel more than his friends. Also if he met this “friend” when you were separated and he doesn’t respect your wishes about not hanging out alone, then I would question if something is between the two.
No way. We women aren’t allowed to so why should a man
Child hood friends okay. Long time work friends maybe. A bitch he messed around with or met when y’all was separated HELL NAH!!! And if he feel that strong about maintaining said friendship with her over your wishes. Then tell him to take his funky ass over there with his friend!!! Ain’t got a thing to do with being Christian. Better yet flip the script and get you a “friend”. Let’s see if he keep that same energy!!!
Only if she gay …wait… Aww Hail Naw
not good he us a jerk
Depends on the women. Some you can trust and some can’t. Depends on if they dated
Big fat FUCKKKKKKK NOOOOOOOO
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You either trust your husband or you don’t 
Not sure why every female on here thinks it’s inappropriate to have female friends. Your husband is a human being and should be able to make friends. It’s unfair to make a friend and then you come back into his life and now he’s not allowed to be friends anymore. My husband has female friends. He isn’t my property and I’m not his boss.
It’s like this if you have a good solid marriage okay maybe however I just don’t think or feel that if you’re married you should have a friend that’s a girl or if you’re married and you have a friend that’s a guy and they’re not heterosexual that’s okay but if they are any no right no no no no no
If this is even a question and a public conversation than you already have your answer.
In my eyes it has nothing to do who is friends who or when, it’s a matter of what’s a red flag in your moral compass (as a human, not religion). As someone who’s now divorced, had mistaken red flags for butterflies, and allowed another to make me feel crazy while he disrespected my boundaries- far too long-… The struggles become much deeper than anything outside of the relationship.
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I think the fact that he met her during the separation might be the issue because during the separation he can be looking for somebody romantically
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Why be in a relationship if you can’t even trust each other with the other gender? Seems kinda controlling and honestly a little unreasonable. I’m sorry. Im not saying your awful or anything but girl you deserve to be in a relationship where you have such confidence in your man you don’t need rules like that
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I’ve lived and I’ve learned. No matter what you do to keep a man from cheating, he will find a way if he’s going to cheat. What a better way to quickly find out if you’re wasting your time than to let him be alone with another female and see what happens. If they are getting all they need and more at home, they have no reason to cheat. If you can’t trust him to be alone with another female, maybe you should reconsider the relationship. If you’re punishing him for something an ex did to you, that’s unfair. I have guy friends I hang alone with and he has a couple of girl friends he hangs with here and there that are also my friends. We trust each other and are confident with ourselves and our relationship. There’s a lot to be said about trust, honesty and respect.
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Trust your gut. He should respect that it makes you uncomfortable, just as he would want you to respect him if the roles were reversed
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As long as it’s understood what a friend is. And what are healthy and clear boundaries it shouldn’t matter if it’s male or female.
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My husband has female friends. I trust him. No issues with it. He doesn’t hangout with them alone at their house though. But if he did I wouldn’t care. I know hes not stupid enough to cheat on me. I have no trust issues with him though. I see no issue with it.
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My husband has female friends and I have male friends. We have never been in a situation though that we are alone at the others house, but I trust my husband and until he gives me reason not to, I trust that he will make the right choices regardless of the situation he is in. Have that faith in your husband.
NOPE not okay!! also find a positive and supportive page to ask advice I find this page is full of rude inconsiderate assholes who probably wouldnt take their own advice!! Your not crazy your not insecure and these people are just RUDE my heart feels for you love 
My husband once told me a married man does not have a girl as friends ( meaning hanging out together alone) ; however it is ok to have friends/ co workers that’s a girl
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I’m not religious, but my man would need Jesus if I found out he had female “friends”
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Ask to meet her and hang out with her with him. If he has a problem with that then something more is definitely going on, if he comes up with ANY excuse or reason you can’t or shouldn’t meet her then they aren’t just friends or possibly messed around during the separation. Coming from experience.
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A female friend is one thing, but a female friend he met while you guys were on a break? I’d keep a close eye on it and tell my husband I wasn’t comfortable with them being alone until I got to know her and her motives. If she doesn’t want to hang out with you too, that would be the red flag to look for I think.
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I’m all for people having friends but hanging out alone at her place and him meeting her while y’all were separated is a big red flag.
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I think it’s abusive to control who your partner is friends with 
if you don’t trust them, why are you in a relationship?
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Well if I was just friends with a man I definitely would not hangout with him alone…always in a public setting or group!
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