Absolutely should not be going to another woman’s house alone if y’all are married. That’s so disrespectful. Go to a marriage counselor.
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Friends yes that’s OK but not hanging out alone I’m sure if you were doing the same he would feel it was wrong as well
The purpose of a friend boy or girl is to b that a “friend” knowing your limits to the friendship boundries as there called, I would never put myself in a position that would hurt him or his wife it’s called walking away! Jealousy is exhibition ones lack of confidence to relationship in my opinion! If there going a cheat there going to do it ! Unnecessary leash, sorry to see u go! But go!
Yes, stop implying men can’t help themselves you’re giving them a very low standard to live up to.
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My husband has friends at work that are girls and we all have male and female mutual friends. But out of respect he would never even think about going to hang out with another girl. That’s just RESPECT. Not a trust issue.
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At the end of the day he could cheat wether he has female friends or not so… I see no harm! My hubby has female friends and I get on with them and I have male friends, some of which he doesn’t like 
but it’s about trust!!
Nope. Husband and I agreed in the beginning that friends of the opposite sex was not an option. We’ve now been married for 35 years. Our relationship means more to us than having friends of the opposite sex.
Would he be fine with it if it were the other way around? Spending time and being bestfriends with another woman is wrong in my opinion…because the time he is spending with her takes away from you.
Not acceptable.
All that time needs to be put towards his own personal relationship. Theses days, so much lost of integrity.
It’s healthy for both males and females to be friends with the opposite sex. I dont understand why both genders feel that is unnecessary… if you cannot friend someone and be loyal, perhaps you should check your values and beliefs. If he met her and there was some type of emotional connection that interested him, obviously he should back off from you and her until he figures his own needs. And I’m sorry to even say this right now, but using a religious belief against him for being friends with women is lame. I’m a Christian and I have never thought my person couldn’t be friends with the opposite sex, that’s an excuse. You’re uneasy with the feeling of her because she makes you nervous/jealous. Talk to her, talk to him.
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If they’re not intimate or romantic friends than why not? Is there trust issues in the relationship? Are there control issues where you need to pick and choose his friends?
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Honestly I think friends are fine it just depends on your level of trust for your husband and knowing that he wouldn’t do anything like cheating and if you aren’t comfortable with it just be honest with him and tell him you aren’t comfortable with it if you aren’t
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Having a friend no not a problem, hanging out alone that is a problem. Would definitely not be okay with that at all
I’m polyamourous so I say the more the merrier 🤷 I think you need to examine why you feel you don’t like it. If he’s already given you reason to suspect he would cheat, why be with him? I would tell him to invite her to your house for dinner and see his reaction. If he’s all for it, no need to worry she’s probably just someone hes friends with. If he makes a million excuses why she couldn’t come to your house, then there might be something to worry about.
Would he like it if it was d other way?
It’s hard to know from that small bit of information. Sure, some guys are trustworthy, but those ones usually care about their S.O. and want to make sure you’re comfortable. I think it’s wrong that so many women are shaming you, because a lot of men do mental abuse tactics that would leave you feeling shattered and unworthy (which would be exactly what a mentally abusive man would be trying to make you feel). If that’s the case, the last thing you need is women shaming you for being abused.
I would say that blatantly doing the visits after you said you were uncomfortable, and blaming your religion gaslighting btw, are not signs of a partner who is interested in your wellbeing. If this friendship were this important, he would have no issue hanging out with both of you until you became comfortable with her. I personally don’t feel comfortable hanging out alone with someone’s spouse. I would rather hang out with the couple.
I think, if you’re feeling this way it’s because you’re intuition is telling you something is not right. If you don’t trust your man it’s for good reason.
It’s not the friendships between a man or a woman, it’s the trust of the one you’re with.
Some are just not trustworthy. Having a friend of any sex should be alright because it’s up to your man to make sure it goes no further.
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Friends yes. Hanging alone no. Constantly texting no.
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My husband doesn’t hang out alone with girls and I don’t hang out alone with guys… it’s like a golden rule for us.
If you trust him there should be no issue.
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Female friends yes. Meet alone no, only in public or my presence
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Sorry clicked the wrong emoji but if you were separated meaning not together then he did nothing wrong in my book it’s not like he cheated but if he has history of being unfaithful then why would you chance it again because then its clear he’s having plans, now if not one time during your whole relationship he ever cheated then you just have trust issues that you need to work out on your own also at the same time if he’s going over to “her place alone” then that is a no because that is asking for trouble things happen and you really don’t know her true intentions but you can tell your husband you’re going with not because you don’t trust him but because you don’t trust her with him and express your concern now after that if he tells you no he’s going alone then yeah be on alert and let him go then watch his attitude when he comes back if it’s unusual then you know and leave but I say this because you can’t stop anyone from cheating if they want to they will only one that can prevent it is you so why stress over it in my opinion
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Yes. If you can’t trust your partner you shouldn’t be with them
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I mean… If you trust him what’s the issue.
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I feel its disrespectful to you, for him to go to a girls house alone
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Ughh, believe no good is going to come from that.
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No way !! Sorry ! That’s just me tho!!! Not ok!!
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Hang out with a man friend and
See how he likes that
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Not alone nah…simple
I believe they can if there’s no physical attraction…after that i dont…
Sorry. Girls. That’s a side piece. Straight up
Trust or leave. Simple as that.
Don’t be a foolish. Would he like if you had guys for friends
Sounds like you played that game duck duck goose
It’s not about religon it ok for him to have female friends it is not ok for him to “hang” alone there should always be a third person
Oh wow! Ya it’s not a good idea for a man already in a commitment to have girl “friends” it makes their partner very uncomfortable and jealous. How would he feel if you had a boy “friend” that you spent alone time with? He wouldn’t care for it would he? I think it’s very disrespectful to put you in that position and it shows that he doesn’t care about your feeling on the matter. Honey if I were you I would have a long talk to him about this. If he doesn’t respect your feeling don’t put up with it. Men usually end up having affairs this way. It’s proven and it has nothing to do with you being a Christian. I’m sorry your having these problems. Its not saying he can’t have friends that are girls it’s a matter of being alone with them. Maybe become her friend too and respectfully request they don’t spend time alone. Any moral woman would understand
Well, alone in her house, no way of proving innocence if any rumours start, not wise. Not illegal either, but definitely not wise. But it’s up to him, if you trust that he’s not a cheater, then no problem. If he cheats, then good, you don’t want to be married to a guy like that anyway. But the fact remains, even if he’s not cheating, are you going to be able to believe him? And that’s why they shouldn’t be alone in private, always have witnesses.
On the other hand, if you do accuse him and he can prove his innocence, he should leave your insecure ass.
You cant control who he is friends with. He is allowed to have friends regardless if they are male or female
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So its ok for ur girl tp have guy friends but a guy cant have. Girls as friends screw that. Thats y i stay single
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Y’all some jealous ass weird chicks.
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My husband has female friends & female coworkers who feel the need to tell them about their periods & life drama like he wants to know. But yet again he shares pregnancy bump pics, ultrasounds, baby/kid pics. So he kind of deserves it.
My husband can go to their house & leave traumatized because now he knows too much. Women tend to upchuck their baggage on him.
Girl you have issues. You’re controlling & you need therapy. Grown adults can be friends & have 0 sexual feelings. Why can’t men have friends that are women? I better hope you don’t have guy friends because if you’re a hypocrite.
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You’re suggesting women are only interesting or worthy of knowing if sex is involved or you’re suggesting that’s what your husband thinks
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As long as there was never a sexual relationship between them, for me it wouldn’t be a problem. But then most men are probably not as open/honest/communicative as mine, so he never leaves me with any reason to worry or doubt him.
I trust my husband. What’s he gunna do? If he’s gunna chest he will cheat. Nothing you can do to stop that an being controlling isn’t gunna stop it it’s just torture to yourself to live like that. Girls if you have a wondering man, that’s mans gunna wonder no matter what.
why not as long a they are faithful.
no different to females having male friends
its just about trust
So a man can’t have female friends? What??? So you cant have male friends??? Seriously you have a jealous issue, and honestly if I was your husband I would end the relationship with you.
Should married women have male friends? For what exactly?
Honey, you don’t have to be a Christian to smell that fishy ass mess.
Do you know this female?
Has nothing to do with religion. It’s about trust. Just cause it’s a female friend doesn’t mean it should be a problem at all. The fact that it is, you have trust issues. Y’all need to work on building trust.
U a fool he getting his nut off
He’s getting that ass dummy