I do the same thing, we have a mutual basis on porn, chicks and our sex life. We check out chicks together and enjoy personal porn time 
we never turn eachother down for porn but we donāt mind it at all
Porneia is frowned upon by the church and can lead to unrealistic expectations. The actors are often exploited and I think personally is disgusting!
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My husband watches porn. We watch it together. We check out other women together. He loves the shit out of me. And I trust him. He doesnāt talk to other women. Or comment on their pics and videos. Iāve never had a problem with him looking. I check out other dudes. I would never cheat, or talk to other men. I think you just have to be confident in your marriage. Im confident my husband can look and still be faithful to me. Itās never been a question in my head. I guess it just boils down to, do you trust that he would never jeopardize your relationship?
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The way I see it is hes watching a video of women he will probably never meet in his life and hes not sleeping with them hes coming home and having sex with me so no big deal but I mean I watch it with my man so itās all with what your comfortable with to me watching it together helps us learn new things to try and spice up our sex life
Every person has different boundaries, personally I donāt mind as long as it doesnāt become an addiction and interfere with our relationship. I watch it sometimes as well.
If itās something that you arenāt comfortable with, you need to have that discussion with him about what you are and arenāt okay with and decide where to go from there. Either heās okay with respecting that boundary or heās not (which is his right as well) and if itās not something heās willing to stop doing you have to decide if itās a deal breaker for you.
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I dont like it but itās not the end of the world. Hiding it is a completely different story though
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For my marriage, itās crossing a massive boundary unless we are doing it together however we donāt because it just causes issues between us. However this has been an ongoing established boundary in my marriage. If you donāt like it or donāt feel comfortable with it, your needs are not being met, etc then you need to be talking to your husband about it and establishing boundaries.
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My husband use to watch them and I didnāt like it, I tried to explore that world with him, but he was still secretive about it, the whole problem is these girls are acting for entertainment and 
not authentic not one bit, so if he is looking for an act and no actual connection thatās a lonely life, you can always try and spice up your marriage and try new things to blow his mind!!!
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I honestly really enjoy porn. My partner and I have a great sex life but sometimes I do enjoy solo activities. Iād be bummed if he no longer wanted me watching it so I see no reason why he shouldnāt be able to. Everyoneās different though.
Those who say its normal. When its clearly not. U have a problem too. Periodt.
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In my marriage, we are mutually fine with it! I probably watch more than he does
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I donāt care i watch it to
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Itās ok to look at the menu as long as your not ordering anything 
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All men like to look at what they canāt get itās how they are programmed unfortunately.
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I donāt hv a problem w it !ā
Why is he watching it and not giving you that attention? Ask him this question. You and he need to discuss this. Thereās something missing in your marriage and you both need to sit down and discuss it. Marriage is about communication. If you canāt talk about everything how are you going to stay married?
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Me and my partner watch them together and I have no worries with it
Itās not allowed over here! I have my hubby an ultimatum early on
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Watch porn with him.
I personally donāt think porn is a problem, but a lot of TikTok stars are very underage so that could potentially be a whole other set of red flagsš¬
That something you shouldāve discussed before marriage. And if itās just now an issue something you should address with your partner. What we all do in our relationships has no bearing on yours bc we arenāt you. I donāt dictate what he watches or if he watches nor what he does with himself. He doesnāt dictate to me either.
Nobody can answer that for you. Itās your marriage. If you arenāt ok with it then that is what matters. You husband should respect your feelings on this.
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For some women itās cool for others itās not. Set boundaries within your relationship. Most ppl watch porn. Itās normal, but if you arenāt comfortable with it tell him.
This needs to be a discussion between you two and yall need to figure out whatās ok and whatās not. Whatās ok for one marriage may not be ok for another.
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I would be highly red mad. If heās not happy looking at you and thinks needs other women he is dead wrong
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It isnāt a THING in our marriage neither of us have ever cared for itā¦ we also feel and see it like thisā¦ if we needed entertainment from someone other than each other there is a issue that needs to be fixed!
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It doesnāt bother meā¦however paying for it from particular stars does
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A lot of women say they donāt want it but they watch 50 shades like itās any better
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As long as itās free I say go for it. Always been that way even before I got married. BUT a line is crossed when you subscribe financially. There is so much for free so not waste money on it.
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Totally ok with it. I also enjoy porn myself. I donāt own my husband, what he chooses to watch during his own time is his choice. I would never expect him to stop finding other people attractive just because we are married. Itās not an on and off switch. Ask yourself why you feel insecure about it? Does it stem from body image issues? Poor self esteem wonāt be fixed by controlling what your partner is watching. Thatās an inside job. Love yourself, practice self love.
Do you feel as though itās effecting your sex life? Then discuss that with him. Work on way together to spice things up. 
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Itās just a videoā¦most men look at it either way as long as he isnāt doing anything then watching a video idc no big deal
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Watch it with him or if you donāt like it then leave him to watch what he likes.
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I watch more porn than he does. Doesnāt bother us
No. Porn destroyed my marriage.
I just tell my hubby to watch what he clicks cause some of those porn videos have spy ware and viruses. Other than that no issue here. Lol
I think if you donāt like it then its disrespectful, how you feel is important and valid. Have you talked to him about it? Wnen i got together with my soon to be ex husband I specifically said if you feel the neex to watch porn or drink too much I donāt want to be with you. Well he lied to me on both things, 5 years later, I came to realize the extent of his porn addiction and alcohol abuse among other issues. He also called other women babe, used sexual language, etc. I feel if your with me then there should be no reason to get off watching other women. I hv no problem wearing outfits, sexy lingerie, use toys etc, you want to see a naked woman take a picture of me, u need a video to watch if im gone ill give you one lol but you need to respect my feelings and my needs and if you canāt then find someone else who doesnāt care if you watch porn as much as you do. Im one of the women who do care and a lot of women donāt but that doesnāt make your feelings less important. He needs to respect you, and care enough to stop
I think itās fine. Butā¦theres also a difference between him liking to watch or watching it with wifey and NEEDING to watch it. Constantly and like in an obsessive way
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Iām very insecure so yes this would bother me. Iād feel like Iām not enough for him. It does matter to me what my husband is doing with his body. No I donāt own him but itās also not ok for him to stick his d!ck in someone else either. I know thatās not the same as porn but in my mind heās listing and fantasizing about sticking it in them. Thatās not ok with me when he could come to me and I can take care of his every need. I learned a long time ago that my feelings are valid and so are yours. If itās not ok with you and itās crossing a boundary then that needs to be discussed. IMMEDIATELY. Iād also have a problem if he was lying about it or spending money on it. Call me what you want but I canāt be with someone that watches porn. It just makes me uncomfortable.
I watch more porn than hubby does 
My man watches porn and Iām good with it because he watches it for its purpose. He doesnāt spend hours on sites with naked chicksā¦chickāsā¦ simply uses it and thatās that. We both do.
Have kids, and you wonāt care heās watching porn. Haha you may even be thankful. The only time porn is an issue is if you want to have sex tooā¦ if not then let them look.
I donāt care unless he starts using porn over me. Thatās when it becomes a problem. Hell, my fiancĆ© has the app on his phone for itā:rofl: I watch it & Iāve watched it with him. Plus, when I was pregnant it helped him not bother me so much.
Thatās OUR relationship though. Itās 100% okay if youāre not okay with it, because thatās yāallās relationship. Nobody else can tell you whatās right or wrong for yāall.
Iām personally not okay with it, but I respect that other women do. Itās all to do with what your comfortable within your relationship.
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Wait what?? so he watches their normal tik toks during the day then watches their pornos later??? Iām confused here
Thatās kinda next level shit there.
Donāt careā¦ as long as I still get what I need!
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We watch it together 
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Let him watch it. I believe a wife should be here hubbies own pornstar,cos honestly if you not going too,then somebody else willā¦ So let him watch it and join in the fun
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If it makes YOU feel uncomfortable then no other validation is neededā¦ Everyone is different. Some women are ok with it and some women arenāt. Donāt disregard your feelings!
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We both watch porn, and I have no isses with him watching it. I watch it more than he does. We have watched it together in the past too.
Honestly at the end of the day it doesnāt matter what others husbands do or donāt or how other wives feel about it. What matters is how you feel about it. Donāt let anyoneās opinion be the basis of your own emotions. Your emotions are valid. And if that is crossing a boundary for you than u need to decide what to do with that. Iām sorry youāre having a hard time. Hugs mama
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Iāve personally never been okay with it.
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As an ex married woman I watch porn always have always will
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Depends on your relationship and if itās been talked about or not if itās āacceptableā or not.
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Yes Iām totally fine with it as long as itās not interfering with our sex life
I really donāt careā¦
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I have no problem if my husband does, I know he is with meā¦
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That is why he filed for divorce after a 2nd Degree Felony Aggravated Assault and Felony Violation of Protective Orders against him.
Nope. Married men shouldnāt be looking at porn at all. Something must be wrong with him if heās doing that and not paying attention to his wife.
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Nope. Even if most of the comments here were comments saying it shouldnāt bother you doesnāt really matter. It clearly bothers you so he shouldnāt be doing it.
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Yes. Itās no different then us watching brokeback mountain or fifty shades of grey. Hell sit down and watch it with him.
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Iāve personally never been comfortable with it. Iām old fashioned when it comes to that though, but respect that some marriages are different. Personally for me, I still believe you should only be sexually attracted to your spouse and thatās it. Donāt get me wrong, I know weāre all human and find people attractive, but I donāt think itās okay in a sexual way if that makes sense. If itās bothering you, you need to talk to him. I will say though if heās being caught off guard, his first instinct will probably be to get defensive about it. Donāt get too upset if he does, just allow him time to process that you know, and how you feel, then try talking again. But you have to communicate or itāll eat you alive. Good luck!
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You can hate it or you can love it. You likely wonāt change it. So what you do is up to you. Would you be willing to watch it with him? Maybe play with him while watching?
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I donāt care if my husband watches porn lol so do i
I respect a man that doesnāt need visual stimulation from another woman or couple having sex to enjoy having intimate connections with myself. To the woman saying āI would rather he watch videos that cheatā why would you not prefer your husband or partner to not do either?
Nope,and if you have to ask then you already know what the answer should be.
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My husband watches it all the time with 
of my blessing. But we have a very full sex life so I donāt feel like I am missing anything. We have sex about 3x a week and have been married almost 14 years. If he were watching porn and ignoring my needs, bet your ass I would have a huge issue with that but being extremely satisfied in that department, I am just happy to let him do his thing while I relax on nights I donāt feel like being sexual. Personally I have no issues with him looking at it at all. It seems silly to think he would only ever want to look at me. But if thatās a rule you made because it makes you uncomfortable and he agreed to it, thatās what I would be more concerned about. But if there was no agreement, do you feel like you are missing out and ignored? Could be thatās what the real issue is thatās bothering you. Or maybe you have insecurities regarding yourself. I would try to decide exactly what part of it bothers you and go from there.
Wouldnāt worry me as long as I donāt see it
I think your in your right. A perversion is still a perversion no matter what society says. Talk to him and maybe seek him help a lot of men and women are addicted to it and need help good luck
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Goooood luck finding a guy who doesnāt!
And if yours says that he doesnāt, heās lyinā 
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Iām totally fine with it. We have watched it together as well.
Edited to add: with that being said, it is your relationship with your husband and you are entitled to your feelings which may or may not be the same as other women and thats ok. If it bothers you the person you need to speak to is your husband. JMO
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Some of us like watching it with our husbands 
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People usually get in a relationship to be with and satisfy each other, if he is accelerating his viewing and now watching it ālate hours at nightā instead of being in bed with you then heās going down the self checkout aisle with his video girls, you good with that?
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Good luck finding a guy that doesnāt watch porn. Youāll die alone
Totally fine if weāre watching together but if heās hiding it from me, Iāll do a tiktok vid and have him watch it lol
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I have zero cares if my husband is watching any kind of adult stuff. Itās online, not in person, we both do it, we know about it, and it has zero negative impact. I have no problem telling him āgrab your phone and take care of that yourselfā if Iām not in the mood.
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All guys watch porn.they wouldnt be a man if they didnt
Iām not ok with it. But I have reasons I need not to get into.
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I watch porn on my own sometimes, so does he, sometimes we watch together. We have always been open about it tho and itās never been a secret. Hell we even go to the strip club together occasionally doesnāt bother me. Because at the end of the night, heās laying next to me. Too many women want to control their husbands and expect them to never even look at another women, and in my opinion, that usually doesnāt end well. My husband can look all he wants, as long as he doesnāt touch!
Some men are built different. Not every man is into porn. If your man is, I guess express yourself to him. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable. Thatās the only advice I have.
Why not watch it with himā¦
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Itās absolutely disrespectful! The answer is no! Want to do all of that? Stay single
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As I heard in a TV show once, I donāt care where my partner revs his engine from as long as he parks it in the right garage.
I personally donāt see anything wrong with porn. Itās no different from women watching 50 shades of grey or reading mills and Boon books. Itās mainly for entertainment (yes, the sexual component is still considered entertainment).
Watch with your hubby simple
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If you drain him he wonāt need to lol
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This is a two way thing being in a relationship. He is still an individual and itās not cheatingā¦ All this talk of perversion in 2022 is laughable. I sense insane prudishness.
He is grown and that is his thingā¦ Many men do it as do plenty of womenā¦ Or do you think itās just him???
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Immature and disrespectful
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I donāt honestly care if my husband watches porn. I watch porn. What matters to me is Iām the only one he touches and loves.
This is a personal opinion. Some like it, some donāt. If my boyfriend is looking at pictures of other girls while with me I find it rude and shut it down because he has plenty of time away from me to look at pictures of other girls 
I know heāll do it, but he shouldnāt be disrespectful about it
I probably watch more late night porn than my husband lol. But the idea of him being upset about it would feel super controlling of him
I feel like this should have been discussed before marriage. Be with someone who possesses the characteristics you seek versus trying to change someone who doesnāt.
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Personally i couldnt care lessā¦let them dream its all fantasyā¦lol
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This always has and always be a touchy subject you wonāt find an answer here as its always 50/50 yes he should no he shouldnāt itās about personal preference and what you as his wife finds acceptable x
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Soo what LOLā:joy_cat: itās just videos on the internet at least heās not with them let him be
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Everyone feels different about this topic. It doesnāt do anything for me and I donāt bother watching it. My husband doesnāt care for it either. Plus, he married a red head, we donāt need it. 
That said, if it bothers you, either you two need common ground or he needs to respect your feelings. Talk to him about why heās decided porn needs to take up his time. Be ready to not like his answer though.
Disrespectful not at all ok
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Iām not okay with it & it is cheating in my eyes. There are men out there who feel the same way. Youāll likely find them in church. Iām sorry youāre going through that. Iām facing divorce over it. I donāt care what women say, if your man chooses porn over you- there is a problem.
Heās married not blind. As long as heās being faithful to you and not expecting you to change who you are whatās the problem? Men are going to look theyāre simple beings haha It might mean he just likes porn. Talk to your husband about it before you drive yourself crazy with other peopleās opinions chiming in. Ask him if he would be okay if the shoe was on the other foot. If the answer is no hopefully youāll come up with a solution. Talk to him about what youāre thinking
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ill be honest, i turned to porno when they stopped turning me on 
it happens
If you donāt like it, then itās not OK. Have you talked to him and told him your feelings about it?
For me it started out that way but over time I started catching him actually talking to women, dirty talk, then asking women to meet up with him.
So, obviously for some men it can lead to more. He is now my ex and Iāve never been happier!
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If this becomes and addiction, then it can be a problem.
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