I swear I will never understand how people can be this controlling in a relationship…sounds like this is a YOU problem, if you’re seriously so insecure about your guy looking at something he’d never get then maybe you need to work on your own insecurities and self image problems. 
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What’s the issue? You find disgusting, disrespect, being unfaithful? Talk to him about it! Watch it with him, without him? Just because your married means you have to die inside
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This is something you need to communicate with your husband about. I personally don’t mind. But communication is so important in relationships.
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I never even cared to worry about that! Let him be
It’s 100% ok with me. I watch porn, so he should be able to too. And sometimes we watch it together which is even more fun 
All things in moderation 
To each their own. I wouldn’t mind it but I’m not you.
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He would not like it if it was reversed and you were looking at other men. He is trying to use the double standard of “I’m a man” not acceptable. It is cheating plain and simple he is looking at other women and giving them his attention and anyone who says this behavior is okay clearly has not set any boundaries and their partner does not respect them. It goes both ways and do not allow what you are not comfortable with!
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Your feelings on this topic are valid! It’s our actions we have to watch when we’re uncomfortable. I used to have an issue with it… Several issues actually. It was triggering to say the least, but now that I’ve grown more as a person, I have a healthier (for me) outlook. A lot of people assume that marriage means you have to give up whatever your spouse is uncomfortable with and call it a boundary. That’s not necessarily a boundary. Interfering with someone’s autonomy is controlling and better described as a rule. A boundary would be me telling my husband that I choose not to inhabit the same space while he’s watching porn. He still has his autonomy and I still control me. Nine times out of ten, I will want to watch alone or with a partner, but there’s always a rare occasion where guilt and shame take over. It takes a lot of work to overcome triggers. I just have to remind myself that it’s normal, healthy, and push forward away from the trauma that caused me to have those issues in the first place. Purity culture was just as damaging as other things for me. I hope you and your spouse have healthy communication and can figure out a way to manage while respecting each other’s autonomy.
I consider it disrespectful but my husband don’t give af he does it anyway and then makes up the most dumbest lie and actually thinks I believe him…
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I’d be more worried if he didn’t watch it . Maybe work on your own insecurities!! Cause it’s that that’s an issue!! As watching porn married or not is normal
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My husband used to watch porn. I talked to him about how I felt and he doesn’t anymore. I always felt like he would come try to have sex with me after watching it and it made me feel bad about myself.
People are so accepting nowa days. This is NOT a “normal” thing for men/husband’s. He needs counseling and he needs to realize the seriousness of his addiction.
If he’s watching it…he’s thinking about it!
Won’t be long before he’s acting on it!
Seek help
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If it’s a problem for you, then you need to communicate that with your husband. I personally never had an issue with it. If it causes drama in your relationship, then it’s a problem.
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Alot of women will tell you it’s OK, alot will tell you it’s wrong and a million things in between.
Me? I am definitely not OK with it at all.
Have you told him you don’t like this and how it makes you feel? If so, If it’s done in secret, lies about it, hides it, gaslight you etc could be an addiction (yes it can be an addiction and destroys relationships and lives) or it could be that he is honestly doesn’t respect you or your boundaries in this area of your relationship…
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Ummmm, I’m married and we both watch porn. Sometimes apart, sometimes together. Has never been an issue
At the end of the day we ALL find other people attractive and if you say you don’t you’re lying to yourself. You have to set your boundaries with him and if it’s something you aren’t ok with then you need to tell him that.
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Porn is normal for anyone and everyone. Married, single or anything in between.
You probably show him no affection and he probably gets laid twice a year so can’t blame him
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Would rather my hubby enjoy watching porn than going out and doing said porn, spice it up watch with him…
Some people dont care some do it’s ur Choice i think it’s a form of cheating noone can tell me different 
so don’t bother idc
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I’d like to know who tf keeps laugh reacting about a person’s feelings. Everyone is different. Communicate, if it makes you feel bad, YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID… same if it were him. Out of respect for each other. All these women talking down on other women for simply asking opinions is why I hate groups like these in the first place.
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I don’t see a problem with it because I watch it too. 
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Hear no evil, speak no evil, see no evil… That’s what comes to my mind. I try to guard my temple.
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I don’t know if this is just me - but him watching adult films (Porn), it turns me oooonnn 
Like, yaaahhhhh baby you tryna learn new moves or try something new? Whatever it is. Daamn, let’s spice things up 
But each to their own lmao I personally don’t find it a negative thing, we’d actually watch it together for fun
I don’t care if my partner watches it as long as he’s leaving me alone for a night tbh lol. But seriously if you have an issue with it you tell should talk to him about it. You deserve to feel comfortable
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If it bothers you that much and you’ve already spoke to him about it… Leave? Don’t understand why people have such a big problem with it, they’re not talking to anyone, meeting anyone, they’re just watching… Try watching it yourself? Ask him what sort of things he’s watching? You’ll probably realise it’s no big deal.
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Everyone’s feelings and relationships are different if you don’t like it and want him to stop then you should speak to him and he should respect your wishes. X
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I show my man the porn
We watch together or when we can’t be together but tbh I probably watch more thin him lol. But it depends on how you feel about it.
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Oh gross. It’s just porn, there’s nothing wrong with it, but definitely something wrong with you if you’re that controlling and insecure.
For me porn isnt an issue, I watch porn I wouldn’t get upset if my husband did too. But if hes always looking at pics of other women that would bother me and if I was looking at other mens pics often I feel that would bother him, theres a difference between having a wank and desiring something else.
I have been married for many years and my hubby loves porn…one can only fantasize lol… personally I don’t find it exciting but I watch it but i haven’t seen it on Tic toc i think I shall go check it out …guys usually hide it from their wives because some think its disgusting…and watching doesnt make them think any less of you…I don’t consider it cheating I think it just gets them horny if anything…TRY watching it with him …if anything it will make your bedtime way more exciting…i really dont know why females would be asking for their hubby to stop it just makes them sneak and watch …maybe he is bored so its excitement for him
Porn destroys marriages.
Sure it’s fun to watch it in secret, hell even better when your with your husband or wife.
But after a while the need for your SO dies.
The lust for your partner dies.
You get to a point where you don’t even want your SO to touch you or make love to you.
Your marriage bed should be pure without the filthy stains of porn dragging your marriage towards destruction.
It’s a slow death sweety. After a while you won’t be good enough. After a while he will want more and more and more and then it’s over.
He needs help💞
If it bothers you then it bothers you and that does matter. It doesn’t bother me I’ve watched it on occasion but I’m into all people not just men. But if it does bother you then you should have a discussion, you’re not any less valid just because somebody else may feel differently about it!
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I personally watch a lot of porn so no, I would never be mad at my partner for doing the same. Unless he is on onlyfans legit paying for his or my friends nudes i see no problem with it he doesn’t know these women and he will never have the chance to actually see them naked in person so🤷♀️
My husband and I recently had to find ways to spice it up and that’s how we get ideas. Just have a talk about why he’s doing it.
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You need to tell him how you feel and he should respect your feelings and stop
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It’s not ok if your not OK with it this thinking of he’s doing it to himself so I don’t have to is how relationships fail if your intimate yourselves then maybe he justbhas a high sex drive, tell him how you feel every relationship is different some woman are ok with it but some are not and that’s also ok
I think it depends. Each relationship has their own boundaries.
Not ok with it. It’s cheating. Walk away. Best advice.
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I never cared if my Ex watched porn or not. Im just not the jealous type and as long as he doesnt ignore me for it Im fine. Men are visually based.
Sometimes we watch it together 
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It’s human nature to look!
I don’t mind my other half watching it as long as he ain’t denying me and isn’t taking him away from me to watch it
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It used to bother me when my husband and I first started dating. But I don’t know i just kinda grew out of it I guess. Personally for me he could be doing a lot worse. And like some other ladies have said, maybe watch it yourself, there’s something out there for everyone. And then when your comfortable maybe introduce the idea of watching together. But if it honestly bothers you that bad I would just tell him to either A) be more discreet about it or B- stop watching all together. But I don’t think it’s a big deal personally.
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Watching porn is a sin. It is not good for anybody to watch and certainly not good for a marriage. Love is something totally different than porn. No wonder so many relationships die. Love and marriage is giving yourself totally to your spouse, it is about sacrificing and holding together through all normal difficulties and problems. That gives, ultimately, much joy and real, deep love.
To tell the truth I really don’t care.
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Are you that insecure?
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I think most men watch sometimes. Super models husband prob watch too. If its not ok tell/talk to him
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A couple not being okay with watching porn is unhealthy to me.
You married him, he loves you, he’s with you, porn doesn’t mean he wants to leave you, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t find you attractive.
We’re human, looking at other people is normal.
Love yourself first and porn wouldn’t be an issue in a relationship.
Just because one watches porn doesn’t make it an addiction either. The fact that your addicted to finding something wrong with it in your own head, Your only hurting yourself thinking the way you do.
I’ll watch it with him, I don’t think anything wrong with looking - I look
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It uses to make me feel really insecure but I’ve learned it has nothing to do with me or his attraction to me plus I don’t need him to validate me anyway I’m confident in myself regardless so I just let it go. He don’t even know that I know at this point lol
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It shouldn’t matter where he gets his appetite as long as he comes home to eat
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Some people let their SO get gang banged and fisted behind the chicken noodle shop. Some people don’t. Every relationship is different and just because one couple thinks it’s okay, doesn’t mean you have to. Cheating is when boundaries in your relationship have been broken. Set that boundary with your man that you don’t like it and if he doesn’t stop, then it’s absolutely cheating and you should leave
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P*rn can be a very sensitive topic and these boundaries should be set earlier on in a relationship.
Whatever your opinion is on it, it’s valid.
If he can’t, or doesn’t care to stop after discussions and agreed-on boundaries are set, it’s probably an addiction—and/or a lack of regard to your feelings on it. So, it’s up to you to decide what to do with this info, and how you want to live YOUR life. All of this can definitely be a complex compatibility issue between you both. It’s also a huge problem when either one of your lust and desire to look at others starts interfering with the intimate side of your relationship or marriage. Any live/interactive sex sites, or watching content that links an ability to communicate or make comments directly to an “actress” is cheating to me. I suggest couples counseling—and if he won’t go, counseling for yourself to sort your mind out. Best of luck. 
I think it’s weird af, myself and a problem.
My fiancé has never ever ever watched porn since we’ve been together. Why would he when I’m right here to do the same things the girls on them videos are doing lol
Put out once in awhile
Back when I was married my ex-wife said that all I ever thought about was sex. I explained to her that a man in the desert dying of thirst. His only thoughts would be of water
Its just porn. Jeez, lighten up
As long as he’s watching it at home does it matter
Not!!! And that comment, who cares where he gets his appetite from a long as he comes home, … just a little FYI, it won’t be long til home isn’t where he’s gonna be fed! 
he’s already looking for other food, 
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I don’t have a problem with it 🤷
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It has nothing to do with being insecure. It’s disrespectful & goes against God and our vows. Sanctity of marriage. It’s cheating. Sadly society has been taught this is ok and I feel sorry fir those that accept their spouse watching this crap. My ex of 22 years did. And I too felt pressured into watching it with him which I hated. I think some of us have higher moral board than others & if it makes you uncomfortable & he doesn’t stop then you take it & anything else he does that goes against what God says & make a decision. Therapy, acceptance or inevitably divorce. My ex of 22 years didn’t just stop at porn. Point opens up cheating cause eventual the point isn’t enough for them. Don’t let someone tell you you’re insecure about it either. You just have more respect for yourself than they do regardless what they say.
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As long as he asks me first if I wanna have sex. If I’m not in the mood feel free to watch porn.
One rule though, cant watch porn if it’s someone we know in person! Not tryna hangout with a girl my man wacks off to lol
Its your relationship and your feelings. If YOU aren’t comfortable with it, he shouldn’t be doing it.
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24 yrs here and I wouldn’t like it but it’s not us
Some ppl have no issue and that’s fine for their relationship. If you say it’s not ok then it’s not, period, u set your own boundaries, and your husband should respect you and your boundaries.
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Do you look at other men? Of course you do. If you say you don’t that’s a damn lie. It’s human nature. I don’t care what my husband does cuz I know how good our sex life is.
Search yourself ,I suppose it bothers you if you felt prompted to ask the question so personally I would find it dis-respectful to me.If you feel the same then talk to him,but Be sure to approach it in a good manner and explain to him how it makes you feel. Best of luck
There’s nothing wrong with watching porn unless they either know the person they’re watching personally, or if they’re completely neglecting you sexually. The best thing to do is sit down and talk to your partner, not listen to people on the internet, because this kind of thing doesn’t have a right or wrong answer - only opinions
Absolutely not:no_good_woman:t3:
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It all depends on your marriage rules. Some people view that as not okay and some are okay with it. I personally don’t care if my partner watches that stuff because I also watch stuff.
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Doesn’t bother me in the least
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I don’t like it and hit the roof tbh if I see anything like that, be single and act single if that’s what your into, but nah I find it disgusting to be honest.
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I never understand why people out laughing faces on posts like this or act like there’s nothing wrong with it at all everyone is entitled to feel how they feel just because some people don’t mind their husbands /partners getting turned on by others doesn’t mean everyone has to be the same and be okay with it.
I personally wouldn’t be okay with it.
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It’s disrespectful and actually alters the brain according to studies so no
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I don’t snoop in my husbands stuff so I honestly have no idea what he looks at.
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I have no issue with porn personally we have been together 24.5 years
Watch it together 
a marriage that watches porn together stays together lol
Sorry to disappoint all you ladies. But 99.9999 percent of all men on this planet do this and it’s normal.
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If it upsets you or makes you uncomfortable then that’s your boundaries and he should respect that.
He should only want to make you feel beautiful and secure.
Although some women don’t care some it hurts them, cuts deeply and affects their self esteem and self worth.
He must assess whether causing you pain is worth it for him.
Where and who does his priorities lie?
Just be wary though that this is a hot topic. People who struggle with an addiction to it will have an overreaction to your choice of not viewing the content or wanting it in your home even though it literally doesn’t affect them and will often freak out and go in attack mode.
Have a chat with him and ask him to come to you with his needs rather than seeking out others.
And I hope he makes the adult decision to make better smarter kinder choices.
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It doesn’t bother me. I’m a SAHM, I have two toddlers, ages 3 and 2. I’m battling two different health issues right now and am still staying on top of everything that has to do with the household. My husband is an amazing man, very loving and I can honestly say wouldn’t never even think to cheat. At the end of the night, sometimes for days at a time, I just can’t give him the attention that he needs from me as his wife, and he understands that. I’d rather him watch a video of someone he will never meet than reach out to someone outside of our marriage. But, it’s your marriage, ultimately. If this was something you discussed for him not to do before marriage and he’s doing it now, then it needs to be talked about with him, but if you knew going into it, but didn’t discuss boundaries then, why would it all of a sudden be an issue now?
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Would you rather for him to be watching men? He is just watching videos. Is he meeting up with these women?
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Porn itself is iffy for me about how I feel about it, but I’d be more upset that he’s looking up specific porn stars and seeking them out on other mediums. Have you talked to him about it yet? If not I’d definitely have a conversation with him about how it’s making you feel, and how you guys are going to move forward.
I could be wrong but, the reality of this situation is that you already know how you feel about it. You’re just trying to rationalize it to make it acceptable. What was your first gut reaction? Go with that.
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Why would it matter what other married women think is okay or not okay in YOUR marriage? I’d say speak with your husband about how it makes you feel and how he responds is how you’d proceed or not proceed forward.
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Wrong if he knows it bothers you💔 wrong if it’s being done behind your back and u don’t know …what are u not finding?
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If you are fulfilling his needs/fantasies he will slow down on the porn people get bored with the same one thing all of the time
In my eyes it us adultery and not okay. To lust after another woman while married is simply unacceptable.
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It’s up to the boundary you set for your own relationship. There’s been plenty of studies showing how negatively porn impacts your brain and your views towards sex, women and men. Everybody starts laughing because majority of them do it and can’t comprehend that their actions might actually bother someone else and they don’t care enough to change it.
You’re not wrong for feeling how you feel. It’s YOUR personal boundary. Don’t let anyone try to make you feel okay with something that crosses your boundary and hurts you/makes you unhappy.
In Moderation is fine by me
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Honestly been married for 24 years now and if a little porn will bring a spark back into our sex life or make it more Interesting then why not! With marriage basically just makes it more fun
I think it’s disrespectful and rude.
I mean he could be out here acting out with other women instead. 🤷🏻♀
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Me and my bf had the “adult video” conversation when we first decided to be in a relationship. We agreed we both saw it as cheating, watching other people naked. So I would talk to him about it and put up a boundary. I got lucky with a man who sees it the way I do.
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Do you not watch the same kind of videos?!
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It doesn’t bother me at all. I never look in my husband’s phone but I’m sure if I did it would have search history of porn sites. It’s just never been a big deal to me.
I mean at least he’s not out sleeping with another woman
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Hell, we watch it together!
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I mean… we sell our own.
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