Lol no. That’s not how it works at all…but since there is no court order if he chooses not to pay you, there really isn’t shit you can do about it. I feel he should still pay the whole amount agreed upon.
I guess one thing to take in to consideration is also the $$ that is paid each week. If it’s say $10 for the week, or if it’s $600 a week, that he’s meant to pay… maybe try and come to a mutual agreement.
If it was a court order document. They would still take our child support the week he has them.
So yep, I do believe he should pay
My son still has to pay when he has his kids for a week
Get a court order for support and custody to make everything legal…
My ex is 48,000 behind in childsupport, hasnt seen the kids in over 9 years. Be grateful you even have this to fuss over!
No he shouldn’t. Not unless you’re buying food and whatnot for that week.
I feel like the week he has them you should take the money and give it to him for the kids use food / souvenirs etc.
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If you’re not doing thru the court… Sit down and talk to him about what is fair.
If he has them for the week he shouldn’t have to pay you
If it was ordered child support then he would have to pay. However, since it’s an agreement and he’s taking the kids for the week, is it really going to kill you if you don’t get that weeks payment? It seems that you’re acting as if the child support is an actual income that will never go away which isn’t the case. I’m sure he can use that money on the kids during the vacation.
Make him pay them bills don’t stop just because ur kids aren’t there
And yes he needs to pay.
Doesn’t matter If she doesn’t have the kids. She still has then full time…
I have court ordered child support. Vacations are considered gifts and he still has to pay regular CS. Granted I haven’t received CS in almost 10 years 
If it was court ordered he’d have no choice. So YES
No he shouldn’t…your being petty.be grateful you have a father that contributes.
Are you supporting the kids at his house too? If not then no? Why would he pay when he has them
Your expenses arent his problem- those kids are. No he shouldn’t be paying for them being with you when they will be with him the whole time
I have never met such petty, money hungry, childish women… you shouldn’t have a kid if you can’t provide for your kid alone because you never know what the next day holds. If one week of child support has you butt hurt you should do some soul searching. Let that man enjoy his time with his kids. You don’t pay him when they are with him. Sheesh get over it. And all you other women talking crap…. Explains a lot. I have an ex and we went through court for custody. I didn’t even ask for child support. Why when he doesn’t want to be around anyways and if he did want to be I still wouldn’t because he needs his own money to provide just like I need my money to provide. Y’all will be humbled soon enough smh and idc how much heat I get for this bs
I like how after all the comments this post got edited lmfao! Get a court order then so you won’t have to complain about it. You never stated all the last part in your original post to begin with 
Yup he still need’s to pay.
Summer breck and Holliday’s don’t count at lest in Alberta
My main question is …how is him telling you he still needs to pay rent and live too manipulating??? It’s true…
No he shouldn’t, when my hunny gets his child for his time they credit him and he doesn’t have to pay those days he has them and it’s through a court order and ors.
So u have them 365 days night a year minus 7 days…he should still pay if that’s the case x
Better get a job if you want your bills paid
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I honestly believe there are just a lot of bitter other women on here who don’t know what it even feels like to be a single mama & need that child support. Ya’ll defending the men because it may take some money away from you, who cares about what their kids need, right ?! You are what’s wrong with this world. Men can’t continue having kids with someone, treating her like shit (most cases) & moving onto the next one, not caring what happens with their kids & enjoying watching their ex struggle to do EVERYTHING by herself!!!
Wow some of you mothers are so greedy I’d hate to be the father of your kids. I have 7 and I don’t ask any of my children’s dads for a cent. My youngest child’s dad has a personal agreement of 50 a week and even than I won’t chase him for it
If you don’t have the children then no!
He may spend not much for child support and keeping in mind I was a solo mother 9yrs with my twins and have had not one cent from their ‘father’. If he were actually involved and offered my children his PRESENCE then I would much prefer for him to spend money on our babies when he has them …that’s what it’s all about…the kids. Not about who’s getting more or treating kids like chess pieces in a game of chess. .like pawns…and keeping in mind in Jesus name that the cost of living IS high and yes you have the children but would you not also receive the govt payments for those children also? And if he’s paying SOMETHING and giving them his TIME …is that not what matters? I think you both need someone to mediate and help you healthily co-parent and sit down with each other and have an honest conversation. Lay it all out…I think it’s absurd to expect him to give YOU everything…about YOU…when you need to understand because you are separated and him wanting to be in those kids lives…he does have cost of living…him making sure he is also set up and ok IS what’s best for those kids…know what I mean? I’m not your enemy please do not misread or misunderstand me here. I grew up without a father also and honestly having an emotionally unavailable toxic mother was no better…she did her best though on her own. Anyway…please have a think and prayer about this because in all honesty I was almost speechless reading this…it sounds petty. I’m yet to read everyone elses opinions but I’m just speaking the truth/what’s on my heart and felt convicted to do so … Each to their own. Bless you and I pray the Lord can give you both peace and unity for the kids sakes.
if it was court ordered you would have to sign off saying he could skip it…I don’t agree with any of it
People gotta learn how and what child support is!
Ummm all I can say is that child support is for the children….
The court order doesn’t say per week. It says per month. Call you attorney and have he/she send a letter to him. He’ll pay eventually
Maybe you need to nail down a court-ordered plan.
I don’t think he should pay for a week that he has the kids himself.
Yep he should , because who’s to say you don’t pay your electric that week ? Child support goes on things that SUPPORT the child .
If you are not taking care of them for that week than what do you need child support for? He’s gonna be paying for them
Y’all don’t forget this was obviously not written up in their homemade agreement. So neither have a leg to stand on unless the courts get involved. 
I don’t expect my kids dads to pay if they take them away for a week. I also give my kids abit of spending money too as he does also when I take them away x
No… like why would he?? He has them that whole week, that money should be spent with him making memories with them…
I mean my ex still had to pay child support over the summer when he had them most the summer
It’s too impossible to remember everything to consider when you do everything yourself.
He is paying for all the children’s expenses, should not have to pay for yours.
Absolutely NOT. The kids are with him for that week. You don’t need that money as you won’t have the kids. Are you seriously pissed that you’re going to miss a week’s worth of money … when the kids won’t even be with you?? Wow…just wow. I fully agree that he should be helping out when the kids are with you, 100%
This is why u always need it written and signed
Get court ordered and no more drama he has to pay. But for me personally a reduced amount wouldn’t hurt for just that week
If it’s just the set WEEKLY amount then no, if you have a set monthly amount & ha hasn’t paid that in full then yes
If it were the other way around would he be so courteous to let you keep money for the week or say screw you?
So why do u need money for them when they are going to be away with him???
Tell him it could be worse. My friend has his son for 24 days this month and still paying the full month of child support.
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Child support will always trigger topic some people don’t see a bigger picture at times.
He shouldn’t have to 
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Omg tell him to pay it like normal and every one has to pay rent and live
If it was court ordered he we still have to pay so y should he still pay?
I mean, its one week? They’re with him ,like why would he pay you? Do you not work or something?
I’m wondering why he pays you weekly for child support. & how do you know if it’s less then if it was court ordered? 
Did you shake on it? It is legally binding agreement
Child support? What’s that???
Why should he pay you to have his kids?
Should do it through the books then there is no continued hassles.
Curious… Does he pay you during the weekends he does get them?
Ummm yea it’s fair. If he’ll have them the week then why make it an issue ?
Girl please do not listen to these negative Nancy’s because when and if you take him to court they WILL NEVER tell him “oh you’re taking them on vaca? Skip paying this week” lmfaoo 
that’s not how it works I tried to be the nice person with my son’s father as well and it was ALWAYS a different excuse or reason why he couldn’t didn’t want to didn’t have it etc so I finally got fed up and took him to court and he had to pay $150 a week and $25 for being in the rears cause in NJ they go from the date filed if it’s granted to you. Good luck girl
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No. You pay him for the week he has the kids. Lol
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Smh, child support is not alimony, you should support yourself and your living. If he has the children then he’s supporting them there, buying w.e they need. He doesn’t have to support your on going expenses because they’re YOURS. The same way he has to pay his own bills, so do you.
take him to court and make him pay what the court deems fair. end of all issues.
He has them, so why pay you the money he gives you FOR the kids?
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get a court order spelling out the details.
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Yes, the parent who has custody gets full child support every month.
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ok well what I say is never do an agreement without a court prefer. Been there done that
TAKE HIM TO COURT!!! This needs to be set through the court to protect you.
Why would he pay you for that week when he is in fact caring for them that week?
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It’s one week, let him spend it on the kids and have a good time.
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His only responsibility is taking care of his kids. As is yours. Not to pay your bills.
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Go to court. Never expect the other person to follow through if there aren’t consequences.
No, i dont think he should have to pay if they aren’t there for the week.
I vote it’s time to get a court order for child support.
he is not your responsibility…his problems are not yours…your kids are your priority…get what they deserve
Take him to court and let the law decide it. Plain and simple.
Don’t believe he should have to pay for that week.
Yes, he should still have to pay.
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Support us weekly weather he has them or not that week
Yes! Unless you want to remind him to carry insurance for that week, health, car and home… not to mention all of the other ongoing things… 
I mean… i dont think so . I wouldnt ask him 2 pay it if it were me because he would be the one taking amd supporting them for that week.
YES!!! It’s not for the weeks they are with you or not It’s to take care of thier needs all year long1
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Oh hell no… he pays 7 days a week 365 days a year.
Get a court order. End of story. A voluntary agreement can only work for so long.
Nope just be happy he pays when he should
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That’s money for the kids, if he has the kids then that’s their support. That’s not mom support.
The courts would say yes.
I know from experience.
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Tell him he either pays you what you’re going to domestic relations. End of discussion
Time to just go to court to avoid this in the future
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He should pay half the low amount.
No, don’t expect payment from him. That’s dumb.
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It’s CHILD support not baby mama support. If he’s got the kids then he’s paying for them already 
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…tell him you want the money and put the FULL AMOUNT he paid for the week on a pre paid visa card FOR THE KIDS for on vacation!!.
Judt get a Court Order. Saves the headache of non compliance or disagreements.
Get a court order if you think it’s unfair. 
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NO
he is going to have them WITH HIM
why would he give you money for THEM when they won’t be with you
If you go on holiday for a week do you stop paying your bills or rent 
no, they still need to be paid
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