No he shouldnt lmao are you kidding. I can’t believe there’s a whole post to debate that.
Support is to provide the square footage required for a person. So rent or house payment is still due so I’d so yes he still should.
Yes, you had to get them ready to go & make sure they had clothes to take & hair cuts & shoes. Your expenses didnt stop just because he had them a few days.
Plz cut the guy some slack and let him enjoy the time with kids. There is lits of absentee dads out there. He is doing his best
Get a court order or you’re gonna have to deal with it
If he pays you weekly, then has the kids for a week…no he shouldn’t pay, he’s covering all the expenses for that week so therefore he should have the kids money for that week?
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You both sound petty. Get a court order
I mean, will it honestly make that big of a difference? That’s what I’d be looking at. If he’s not paying that much in the first place, I’m sure it’s not going to hurt to miss one week. Especially if it’ll be easier for you both
If he’s paying weekly, and you don’t have them for the week… then it’s like he’s just giving you money that could be spent on YOUR kids… just let the kids have a good time with their dad and chill out.
Vacation would never determine his weekly support. However if an original order was put in and he had them 7 extra overnights. Then the support would be lower.
I don’t think he should have to pay you for the week he has them, tbh. If one week hurts you, re-evaluate your expenses. Sounds like our BM, kids were on vacation to their grandparents and she was mad we held onto child support until they came back. But she sure enough blew us up wanting the money while they were gone. I do think he should pay if it’s not 50/50 just not while he has them.
On another note if it’s 50/50 (not saying OP) in general I’m sorry I hate that men have to bust their ass to make a living to provide child support. If you can’t afford them when they’re with you, don’t have them. 
EQUALITY, go out find a better paying job yourself as a mother. Bust your ass to take care of your household.
The courts would surely make him so I’d say YES. Why should you have to go without in your household (rent, power, phones, etc) because he has the kids? Life’s basics still need to be paid on.
Yes he should… the childrens expenses (house they can fit in, bills that go with it) do not change because they go on vacation…
Let him have it if you don’t want the fight but that is 100% your choice
You need to get your stuff on paper legally…
It’s called child support why the hell would he have to pay if he has them for a week its not to support you so I don’t think he should have to pay
Consider yourself lucky. My 14 and 12 he olds dad has never paid a dime. For anything
You’ll be a MUCH happier person when you aren’t so dependent on your ex.
I highly recommend that.
Let’s put it this way… Child Support is reimbursement
Oh and to add , y’all stop acting like you don’t know bills fall on different weeks . 
No. I wouldn’t want it.
Yes kids are full time so then should be support…
What does your order say? Most times it’s supposed to be paid and if not he will be in arrears…which creeps up quickly to larger amounts. He may also feel like if you let it go once he’ll assume it’s the norm. My ex refused to pay and owed 6 digits in support because it just escalated.
No. Child support is just that, for the child(ren). He has the children for that week, so the money is for them. Deal with it.
Screw the money, let the kids have fun. Wtf
Ladies: don’t have children unless you can support them yourselves. WITHOUT the man.
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No he shouldn’t have to pay that week he’s got the kids.
Maybe you should send him money for them on those 7 days for taking care of the kiddos
Why would he pay that week?
No. Plain and simple.
Even though you don’t have the kids for a few days, you still have to pay the bills, you can’t ring the landlord and tell him you’ll only be using just the one room this week 
You can still get child support go sign up for it
One, he’s taking your kids on vacation. It’s gonna cost him more to take them on vacation even if he is staying at his mothers beach house, than he would be paying you in support anyways. 
Second, you sound greedy. It’s not court ordered, therefore be lucky you get anything at all. Third, I’d be thankful as all hell that he was taking the kids on vacation & if that was me, I’d feel bad taking money from him for our kids knowing he’s taking them on vacation & has things he needs to pay for, for your kids too…
I swear, some of y’all don’t think. You just want money money money.
Don’t get me wrong; I’m completely for child support. I get it myself… however, I would never force him to pay me for a week that he has his kids… GREEEEDY.
Some women are just greedy be thankful you get a week free without kids. I don’t know a man that would freely give money without the courts help! It’s one week! Figure it out 
He still has to pay lol these boys will never grow up
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Do you still gotta pay rent?
He should NOT pay you when he has the kids
Well if it was court ordered, they would still make him pay. Vacations make no difference…
I’d let him keep it so he can give the kids a good time.
Personally i think that week will be covered.
The fact that she says “my kid” and not “our kid” shows how self centered and selfish she is.
And no, he shouldn’t pay her a damn thing if the kid is in his care, in fact she should pay him support for that week “equality and all”
That’s not how any of this works lol
Child support isn’t just used for when the child is at home.
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You still have to pay for a bigger place during that week, so f*ck him.
I don’t think anyone should count on child support to pay their bills.
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Um…no? Why is he still paying you “CHILD support” weekly, for a week you don’t have the kids? 
YOUR “ongoing expenses” are not his problem, what he gives you is for the KIDS…ima stop right here though becuz… 🤦🏽♀
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To all you ladies saying he shouldn’t have to in all reality if she had a court order he would have to pay so I say yeah he has to pay you y’all ladies are crazy.
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If he has them, he shouldn’t pay. It’s not his job to pay your bills it’s his job to financially support his children…
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I think you’re trying to manipulate us to feel bad for you because no he should not pay your child support when you don’t have your kids
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Smh. Depending on the situation as I know everyone’s is different. I would be happy that he was paying without even being forced to by court orders plus involved with his kids…but if it’s causing an issue go to court 
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Support is for a portion of daily life care, including rent & utilities etc.
Does a landlord or the electric company provide a “pause” when someone takes a vacation? No way!! It should be paid!!!
Yes he should if ya had a court order he would still be paying child support for that week! Those bills aren’t gonna go down just because he has them for a week and the courts would still be making him pay for that week as well, they arent going to exempt child support for that week just because he has them.
First of all, go through courts. They’re there to protect your and your child’s interests. And no, never heard of child support changing to reflect vacations and such. Even when children spend entire summers with the non-custodial parent. So regardless – but especially because he’s attempted to circumvent your agreement – go to court and get the FULL amount your child is entitled to. That would mean additional opportunities and a better lifestyle for your child. Extra curricular activities, classes, travel, entertainment, college fund installments, etc. etc. Don’t let him take your kindness for weakness!
I think if your not supporting them from a week wether it’s a vacation for him or not hes still paying for them and also not earing income for the time off to take them on vacation I don’t see why you it would be an issue for him to not pay for a week don’t think that’s too much to ask and love tha fact that he is taking them on vacation I wouldn’t make a fight out of it momma hes tryn to do good I don’t think it’s malicious
If you feel any other way it should be court ordered. He’s not responsible for your upcoming bills NEVER count on child support as a main source of income you’ll be disappointed of you do even with court ordered payments
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If he pays weekly and he has the kids for a week then no you shouldn’t receive a payment for that week. Why would you get a weekly payment if the kids are with him. Why don’t you pay him for the week he has them!
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People still pay child support court ordered if they take their kids on vacation.
There’s no excuse for him to not pay you the money due just because of this get away. Sounds like you may need to make some changes and take him to court. Stop allowing him to manipulate you.
Best of luck love 
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If you guys had court-ordered child support, he would, in most cases, still have to pay the full support.
I say just take him to court and get it court ordered. I highly doubt they will let him not pay a week because he decided to take them a few extra days.
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yall do understand that there will still be expenses for the children, even tho they are not there correct?
Medical expenses, day care, ect…
Sounds like she isn’t getting much to begin with, and if it were court ordered, the state wouldn’t “pause” his child support if he wanted to take them on vacation…
Vacations are privileges, even when I go, I know I have to save extra money, and I know my bills don’t get put on hold, nor does my rent get pro rated because I was gone a week. He wants to take them on vacation out of the kindness of his heart, that’s super sweet of him, but he should not take away the “support” of his children
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The child support is for the kids. If he will have them that week, then he needs the money to support them for that week. So no, he shouldn’t have to pay.
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I feel he should pay. Not out of greed or anything but you still have rent to pay, utilities to cover that all help in supporting the children. When a court decides on child support they dont take into account what days the kids will be at the other parents. Now with that said, because it is a summer vacation I’d wave the support for the week maybe with the condition its divided up between the kids to spend during their time away.
Yes, he should still pay. Child support is to support the child’s needs. This includes putting a roof over their heads. It’s not like she doesn’t have to pay rent the week they are with their father. File a motion with the court and then take the granted motion to the DA/child support enforcement and have it go through his wages.
No, he shouldn’t. It’s not his responsibility to take care of your expenses while he has them.
No he shouldn’t if he has them and if you take the money for that week that limits the money he has for them while he does have them. You wouldnt want that
Man, I can’t stand parents like this. Why can’t they understand what child support is for? Housing (rent/mortgage), gas, electric, internet, TV, phone…it’s not like any of these bills will not exist or be reduced because he takes them for 7 days. Dafuq is wrong with people?
Personally I think because he has the kids for that week he shouldn’t pay because he now has the expenses for the week…
I also see where you’re coming from but child support is for the children not you…
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Why should he pay YOU when it would be a time when your children are in his care?? DON’T get me wrong, I absolutely agree that he needs to step up and pay up when your children are with you and in your care. BUT …its not his job to pay your bills .I’m sorry but this just sounds super petty to me. I’m sure that people will disagree with me on my opinion and that’s totally fine/okay with me .
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He doesnt owe u anything, hes paying for the food and transportation for the kids, u have nothing to do with that. U should have thought about court appointed child support before u made that agreement
What “other expenses” do you have ?? He is only obligated to pay for those children period. Not anything else. That’s your responsibility. No he doesn’t need to pay support for that week he has them, as he will already be spending money on them.
He should not have to. He will be supporting them while there, just because he makes a smart decision to take them somewhere he does not have to fork out a bunch of money shouldn’t matter. Flip the roles and see what you would say; you would say no because you’d be supporting them for seven days. Child support is for children. You opted for voluntary, so it is what it is.
No he shouldn’t have to pay the support while he has them BUT if you demand he pay it for the week he has them then EVEN THOUGH he has the kids YOU need to make sure to bring them 3 meals a day and make sure they have clean clothes on each day that he has them and YOU need to make sure you pay the portion of the lights/water and rent used by your children at his mothers house … those would be your responsibility for the week even though you don’t have them if he has to pay support for them for that week
Ok so here is a take not normal. But I’m a single mother who raised 4 boys with little to no help from their father for many many years…
No I don’t think he needs to pay you that weeks child support if he has the child that week. My reasoning is based on fact that my boyfriend pays court ordered child support all the school year, August thru May. He does not pay it June and July. Because he has his daughter for the summer months. Now I know it’s a week and not a month but his child support is set up weekly.
If you want a more permanent situation go to court. But every state is different and every situation is different. My friend has 50/50 with her sons father. No one pays child support, they split medical & school bills 50/50, but their son spends one week at father’s then one week with mother. It truly varies. If you don’t like the set up then go to court.
The money is for the kids.
If he had them, you don’t need the money haha.
Grow up
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Go ahead and let them go and don’t even bring it up. but this is your own fault for not taking him to court and getting a court order and it will continue to be a problem. so do yourself a favor and get this taken care of first thing Monday morning.
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He has a life too. You have to be able to provide for them yourself as well
Yes. Absolutely and if it were court ordered, he’d have to pay that, in addition to a portion of medical expenses and insurance. He’s getting off light.
He absolutely should NOT have to pay you. This is the problem with child support. Woman depend on it to pay THEIR bills. Your bills will be your bills regardless.
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nope. he should not have to pau as he will be paying for their needs while they are with him.
put yourself in his shoes. u wouldnt expect to pay im sure.
“I have ongoing expenses”
The point of child support money is just that, to support the child/ren. Not to cover the other parent’s expenses.
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Who tf is laughing at this? Seriously, you’re disturbed. To answer your question, no, I don’t think it’s fair. He’s just a jerk so say, well if you don’t pay them I will be forced to go through the state to mandate the child support and see what he has to say about that. He’s just being a cheap jerk.
In this situation he probably should because you sound like the kind of mother that will never let him take his children on vacation ever again if he doesn’t…
It’s mom’s responsibility to support the children also. And dad WILL be supporting the kids that week.
Get a court order and you won’t have this issue anymore. If it were court ordered it wouldn’t make a difference. Also, me and my ex-husband agreed on an amount after CS told us what the paperwork amount said. So you don’t have to kill him in CS BUT there needs to be an agreement in writing through the system. To protect you both.
Go to court you’ll have a set amount that the judge wouldn’t change for the month if he takes them somewhere period
Equality! His job is NOT to pay YOUR bills! Everyone has ongoing expenses…including him! If you can’t pay your bills bc he doesn’t pay for the week he has them…that’s on YOU! Go to court then…see where that gets you AND YOUR KIDS! What about them? Isn’t it more important to you that while they are with him that he be able to do fun things with them, feed them well and do ‘vacation’ things with them than for him to pay YOUR bills? And if not…why not? Why is that not the most important thing? Petty laziness is exactly what this reeks of 
grow up and think of your kids instead of your damn self. Get off your butt and get a job or another job if it’s not enough. CTB alone for 2 kids would pay half your rent at least so unless that’s the only money you have coming in then you should be able to do this. If not then maybe seek professional help to do a budget but ffs think about your kids their time with their father is just as important as their time with you!
I think he should have to pay. Just because he has them doesn’t mean you’re gonna only pay three weeks’ worth of rent. You’ve set your monthly budget based on your income and his support and his support should be something you can count on no matter what.
I think you’ll b fine. Child support helps, but shouldnt be the deciding factor on if bills get paid or not.
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We go through the court for child support my kids stay every other week with their dad during the summer they pay the same amount. My kids are with me the majority time when school is in. Plus my kids day only pays $40 a week for two kids which is absurd anyways. So no I don’t feel bad receiving money when our kids are with him for a week because I support them financially way more.
My kids father has them the whole summer and he still pays child support . We don’t have a court order just verbal agreement. Just because he has them for the week doesn’t mean he stops paying child support especially if what he gives doesn’t even cover half your kid expenses 
My brother gets a break for the Summer because his kids live out of state.
This is why I get everything on papers through the court. But my ex had my daughter for a whole year. He sent me child support. But I sent it back to him every month, since she was with him for a whole year.
Can you work? To cover your own expenses? If so I would advice you not to depend on child support even if it’s court oder. Child support is not only for the child, it’s money to help the mother out with rent, bills, food or any other item the child might need or any other house hold item that might be needed such as toiletries. If you wish to receive payments without having any issues with that other parent, you should file in court. Since it’s a verbal agreement he can do what ever he basically wants, and even if you might bring him to court because he didn’t pay for the week he took the kids on vacation most judges won’t even care to hear you out.
Your ongoing expenses are your responsibility. It costs a ton to take kids on vacation. Sorry Im
Team dad with this one
Too bad he has expenses too and has no right to give you a dime if he is taking care of them fully for that week…
Are you going to pay thier groceries and gas .
Don’t like it get a court order for something that pleases you.
Be thankful he has the opportunity to give your children a nice 7 day vacation. Those are called memories and there is no price tag on those.
Suck it up #MoneyHungry.
Children are NOT paycheques!!
Go get a court ordered custody plan and child support bc without the custody plan, he doesn’t have to return the kids…
The way I look at it if the child is not with you he should not have to pay. I am absolutely mind blown that so many women are so greedy I get it takes 2 to make a child but I am a single mother and do not take ANYTHING from my childs father. Want to know why? Because I can support my child on MY OWN. 1 week with their father and youre freaking out because you dont get 7 days of his money too bad go to work pay your bills learn to be self efficient rather than rely on others plenty of mothers go without help from the fathers why is it so hard to go a week? I am truly confused
I don’t think he should have to pay if he has the kids for that week, is it really that serious? I mean it’s one week. No if it were a every day thing where he was trying to get out of paying I would say that’s not cool but it’s just one week. You pick and choose your battles, I really don’t think it’s that serious. It could be a lot worse and at least he’s paying some thing every other week because a lot of women don’t even get that
Why would he pay you when he has them. Do you pay him when he has them? This is what’s wrong with this whole child support crap. Parents should share 50/50 custody and all responsibility 50/50 keep the court and government out of telling one parent or the other they have to pay for a kid full time they don’t get to see while the mother hollers I need more money. Well, let the dad have them half the time you won’t need as much from the dad and you’d be giving the kid(s) their dad back and the time they’ve lost. So ridiculous.
Court ordered child support would not exclude the time the kids were with him so voluntary child support shouldn’t stop when he has them either.
He has the kids? The NO. Get a damn job! Its not just HIS responsibility to pay your whole entire way out. Why do women think its a way out?? Stop having children if you cant take on the responsibility to take care of your responsibility also