This is like my ex saying he shouldn’t have to pay me child support while he has his son for a month for extended summer vacation.
It’s dumb. The money isn’t for you, it’s so you can keep a roof over your kids, food on their plates and clothes on their backs.
I would be annoyed in this situation. But you agreed to what you agreed to.
It’s for the kids. So not paying that week honestly makes sense. Because he will have them
No he should not pay you for that week. He has them so that money is already going to their expenses for that week. If you have your own expenses thats not his problem. He seems to pay weekly thats more than most do voluntarily. Take him to court if you dont Like it. But uf he has the kids why should he pay you. The money is Child support for the kids not you.
I would personally have him pay it and I would give it to my child to have his own money to spend on vacation if he was older.
If it was court ordered he would still have to pay. It may be time to go to court honestly
I would tell him to keep the money and spend it on the kids for vacation…. I don’t see why he should pay you if you won’t have them for the whole week. He pays you for clothes/food/child care needs and yes that may include bills but if they aren’t there then they aren’t using anything he’s paying you for…
If it’s court ordered then yes. They don’t care when he has them it still gets paid regardless. If a child isn’t in daycare for a week you still pay them.
Get child support court ordered because it’s going to always be a struggle when he wants to dangle money over your head like that.
Also, he’s allowed to take his kid/s on vacation.
Get the court order. Then there’s no choice. Also-he manipulated you once to feel bad for him. Don’t let it happen again
Ladies, child support is between HIM and the STATE. Get to court or the drama will continue.
I mean they live with you the whole month 7 days doesn’t take away your children’s expenses for the month. He should be happy he doesn’t have court ordered child support cause they would make him pay regardless of those 7 days and probably a lot more money than you’re making him pay.
Me and my ex have 50/50 and he still has to pay child support
The money is for the kids, not you, so the dad should keep the money to spend on the kids.
Get a court order bc hall are way over complicating this. Support should be a set amount monthly based on how many days of the year each parent has the children.
Why should he pay you when he has the kids? The money he gives you if for the kids… clothes food toys outings stuff like that. You aren’t spending any money on the kids while he has them so why would he give you money ?
There’s no way he should be paying you while he has the kids.
It’s about your kids he is spending time w them… why would you want to take away from them…
Seems like everyone says no, but I disagree. And I feel like if you had a formal child support arrangement the court would too. That’s why all that ish is in place.
He isn’t paying your bills, child support is for the children. if they are with him that week, the no. He doesn’t need to pay you.
You are a fucking joke 
them kids aint your paid “job” an im sure he didnt sign on for paid vacation either be happy his ass is takin them lil simple
Vacation is extra curricular. It is not a necessity, so he should still pay. That’s what the court would tell him.
His “support” money shouldn’t make or break your bills.
That money should be for the kids regardless 
he shouldn’t be paying your bills.
The court wouldn’t let him not pay so he should
That’s why u gotta go to court. Verbal agreements never work out ever lol
They should be paying for the month regardless
Same thing with the manipulation
I’m not being rude but did I just read this right do you have a job? This this kind of thing I can’t stand …he helps you out with $ and ur wanting a week of $ that the kids are not there… some of us don’t get $0 & we do it all on our own .I think you need to sit down & thank God for a man tht is at least trying to help out… be blessed be greatful… & no he shouldn’t have to pay that week. Spend it on the kids… ( this my views only )
Get the court order.
He defenitly has pay support reguardless. His choice for vaccation.
When my ex has taken our kids for a week I tell him not to pay me for that week.
I’ve only myself to feed and he has 3 kids so really needs that money because they do. Not. Stop. Eating. 
What a stupid question.
You need to get a court ordered set amount and don’t feel sorry for him. Or you’re going to be constantly battling with him.
No. He should not have to pay
Wow… Just wow. He’s taking the kids on a vacation during that time he will have the kids full time so what possible expenses will your children need when they are with their father?? Child support is for the CHILD not the mother. If you need money that bad get another job. Would you pay him for the whole week he has the kids if he were to ask? No, so why the f*** should he have to pay you?? You’re just greedy. Guarantee you, you just want that money so can have a nice week for yourself because you’re free to go wherever you want kid free. Pathetic
Yes, it’s to pay the child’s needs not an optional support. The child still has to have his medical care in place, his roof over his head, you have to maintain the nills paid for when he comes back for a week only to be away yes
And that’s why ya need more than just an “agreement” between yourselves. It also means there’s no court order of child custody… he doesn’t have to bring them back to you at all. Good luck.
Yeah I’m gonna say no on this one. Just bite your tongue and be glad that he’s giving your kids some attention and you a break this week. I know it isn’t something you anticipated and may throw off your budget but the time with them is really what matters just this once.
Nope. He has his children so therefor he’s supporting them for that week. Have a heart. I have 5 kids and I’m lucky to get 100$ a week lol don’t let greed get in the way.
Tell him he better pay, or you will take him to court. He’s already getting a discount, paying less than he would be. ALL your bills don’t take a week off!
He is not obligated to pay for your living lol.
He takes the kids for a week and has to spend money on them too for rhe whole week plus he got his own life.
Get a job if you think he has to work for your living.
I would take him to court. A court order for child support would require he pays every week. Just because he has them for a week doesn’t mean he shouldn’t pay. That’s not how real child support works in the system. It’s not just paying for food and clothes while they’re living/visiting with whoever, it’s the cost of the roof over their head, utilities, etc. He’s paying under the amount he should as it is. Not understanding how some people in this thread don’t understand how child support works
If it says every week then it’s every week. Unless specified, it is just what it is.
Who is paying for the kids to do things on vacation? If he is, why not let him off for just one week? Sounds like he’s making an effort, which is more than a lot of baby daddies do. He is not your source of income, he’s a supplemental income to solely help with the kids. Just missing one week while they’re in his care sounds perfectly reasonable. You want more money, work more hours. 
When its court order, they pay every week, he should, since hes getting a better deal
You can really tell the money hunger moms apart from the good ones in this comment section
Get a lawyer! This will happen again …but while the kids aren’t with u I don’t think ur entitled to support …
You chose to have a child or children he probably didn’t want, and child support is b’s this coming from a female. It makes it impossible for the paying parent to live. If you want to have a child, be able to financially care for it on your own. And stop being petty. He shouldn’t pay for that week because he has the kids and he may want to do something nice with them.
no. i don’t make my
kids dads pay for when they have thier kids - cuz trust me - they buying them food and whatever else expensive ass shit the kids cost while they are with them -
def not sorry but when your kids r with you fine when they are with him def not. He is not your piggy bank maam
Time to go to court.
Your children will not be eating or using utilities that week so I say no. So many obvious bitter baby mommas
Men shouldnt have to pay women’s bills for them
Oh my God totally feels like my situation right now
It’s owed, unless they spend 40% or more of their time with him. Child support amount is based on his gross Income. I get my children for half the summer still gotta pay.
I would say no he shouldn’t have to pay that week. He has them and will be covering their expenses. Yes understand the whole rent is still due and all that. But if he didn’t pay at all she would still have to pay it. Yes groceries will still be needed for the people staying in the house that week but the children won’t be eating any of it and they won’t be there for the weeks rent. Yes he is paying less than he would if they had went to court but that was their choice not to go through court process. This is how my husband and his ex does things and when we have his son for a week or more he doesn’t pay because we pay for everything while he is with us. It’s also a way of helping each other out and understanding the other persons point of view. It’s a week of no payment not the whole month. If both people are working there shouldn’t be an issue. Just have happy and healthy children!
Since you have a verbal agreement and not court ordered…I think that the dad is right. That’s nice that you have weekly expenses…so does he and that week he is also paying for the kids. Plain and simple. You sound money hungry and greedy if you think you deserve child support for a week you’re not supporting a child.
Yes! The rent is still due, the elec, daycare etc.! Men surely do not understand that the bills come EVERY month regardless! 
He pays you every week and I bet you didn’t help him pay for their vacation Consider the money for that week has chipping in towards your kids holiday
Greedy people like you give women a bad name make us men resent you
If this is a problem for you then it is time to negotiate child support thru the legal system. Problem solved. But as it is then just let him slide that week.
Many people seem to get the whole idea of childsupport wrong. Just because it is called childsupport does not mean it is solely for the child(ren). The purpose of childsupport was designed to make absent parents/parents not within the home unit financially responsible for the life he or she helped create. It was created to help the custodial parent recoup and/or assist with some of the financial burden that he or she endures by being the primary provider and caretaker during the course of the year. These expense include rent, utilities, food, clothing for children, car expenses (maintenance and gas), medical insurance, healthcare related expenses, and school related expenses (fees, school supplies, and etc) to name a few. The child(ren) benefit from and need all of these things in order to survive. When the noncustodial parent complains about childsupport and attempts to find excuses and means to evade playing his or her financial role it is usually because he or she wants to benefit from and lay claim to all of the things that the custodial parent does throughtout the year even though he or she played no active role to assist the other parent. When the courts calculate and set childsupport payment amounts it considers the parents (both parents) income or lack therefore, number of children the parents in question share with one another, number of children the noncustodial parent has outside of the home, lifestyle to which the child(ren) was accustomed to before the split (if applicable) and healthcare/medical needs (including medical insurance) to name a few. Once the judge has established that and sets a childsupport payment amount, it is put into a court order and ordered to be paid on a monthly basis regardless if the other parent gets the child(ren) for holiday breaks, summer vacations and/or weekends. Just because the other parent gets the child(ren) during those times doesn’t mean that the other parent is not required to continue to pay those monthly expenses while the child(ren) are temporarily away in order to maintain their normal lifestyle and routine. Furthermore, those noncustodial parents who complain about paying childsupport as well as complaining about how and what the custodial parents spends the money on would rather complain about it instead of participate more/gain custody to ensure the child(ren) are being properly and continuously cared for on a regular basis. Basically put…childsupport is a MONTHLY payment that was designed to secure and maintain a safe, healthy, happy and productive lifestyle for the child(ren) while residing with the custodial parent. So yes, he should continue to pay just as he would if it had been court ordered unless you and the other parent had previously agreed that no payment would be received when the child(ren) were in his care. Also, you should probably get court ordered childsupport so you and the other parent have no further issues like this in the future.
If you rely on that payment then I’d talk to him you worked with him. He should try to still pay
Personally I don’t think so if he’s taken them for a full week on holiday and providing everything for them I wouldn’t ask him to pay x
Your just being greedy eh that money’s for your babies to support there needs and wants and whatever they may need not for you !!! Selfish thinking gets you nowhere
Just let it go, it is more important to get along than voluntary childsupport. Quit nagging and be happy for your kiddos
No court order? I wouldn’t be paying shit then!
Let the court decide for you.
Yes he should. Just because he with them doesn’t mean their expenses stop. That money is used for clothes, food, utilities, extra circular activities etc … those things don’t stop just because they’re away for a week. Ex. If they play a sport that money is used to pay for it and that bill comes out every month. I’d let the court handle it that way you’ll never have to have this convo again and it’s guaranteed
Id say no, especially if he is taking them the whole week!
The mom still has to pay rent for the house they live in, buy food when they get back, do laundry, dishes, etc. Come on. Of course he has to pay
If he’s taking the kids for the week then he will be taking care of them. So he shouldn’t have to pay. Let the kids have a fun week vacation. And you, have some fun too. You have the whole week to yourself with no kids to take care of, take advantage of it! Stop worrying about the money! Enjoy your alone time