If you must. Buy yourself a real life sex doll ,then uses your imagination,that way no one can catch anything,better still kept as a fantasy
If your happy married donât do it. Your husband may end up liking the other person and end up with her instead of you. Attraction is a thing and then divorce after that.
Just think of all the different STDâs you could catch
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My opinion, you TWO are married. Made the vows to keep only to one another till death do you part.If you dont want to uphold the sacrament of your marriage just tell him you want a divorce because you cant be or want to be faithful⊠wanting your cake and eat it too is just a very selfish action. You are old enough to understand the vows you made, you just want to rewrite them to suit yourself. It is also a sin to commit adultry, if that matters. You are walking on slippery slope of ruining your marriage over a fantasy. Fantasies are not to be acted on.
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âIâm boredâŠlet me fuck up my relationshipâŠk!!â
I have seen a few divorces because of swinging
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It could potentially ruin your relationship, are you willing to chance it?
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Everybody whoâs telling her itâs a bad idea and itâs gonna ruin everything smh⊠yâall either are insecure or werenât in the right relationship. Itâs all about communication and boundaries!
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Dont ruin your relationship when its going well. Once u do it theres no going back to the door its about to open.
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Nonsensical Use common sense A happy life isnât all about sex
PM me. There are plenty of places you can go that you donât have to interact but can give you lots of insight on what you may be into. I donât want to go in detail because of the page we are on but if your truly interested I can share some things with you.
Seems like a logical thing to do in the age of COVID-19. 
Seriously though your man is going to be more into her. It doesnât matter what she looks like SHEâS NEW and sheâs different from YOU. Would you be cool with them going behind your back cuz thatâs what happens cutt out the middleman. Unless she is like a Masc Lesbian youâre playing with 
but you do you
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I got divorced over this 
I wouldnât it got crazy after we were both terrified we were cheating it ruined a very good relationship
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Personally I wouldnât do it unless thatâs the grounds your relationship started on. Usually starting in a monogamous relationship means you have the preference to the one person and being together for 10+ years seems more like itâd bring issues rather than relief. Thereâs allot of things that could go wrong opening up that door. Get some toys have him tie you up roll play with each other exploring other options first would be the best thing if you still feel like doing it go for it but I wouldnât be surprised if things ended absolutely terribly.
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Dating app but look in a town a few hours away so that way you wonât know her and she isnât easily assessable to your husband
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Yea no. My bed is mine and my husband is mine. My body is to be shared with no one other than my husband. This is a perfect way to ruin a marriage. Not a chance in hell.
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I was that 3rd partner! I slept with my friend & her boyfriend.
Long story short, they split up.
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Make sure you are 100 percent positive. I know a couple whom are both bisexuality and very happy. They date others, solo or tg. They sleep with others, solo and together . But they know they love each other and they know they can only meet so many needs. But they are very happy with their situation.
HOWEVER, they began their relationship in this way. It wasnât a means to try something new or save the spark. It is who they are.
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Sounds like yâall want to use someone for sĂȘx then dispose of them. People are not sĂȘx tĂžys. Donât.
Been there done that had a great time lmao
You can rent a hooker in Vegas lol
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What are you gona do when he leaves you for the other woman, Iâve heard of that happening.
If your 100% you can handle it mentally then do you. But I suggest proof of recent std testing and be very careful about getting another woman pregnant if he does end up joining yall.
My only experience is the âonly you playing around with another femaleâ will get old and either it will have to stop or he will join.
Not really a threesome if all he does is watchâŠ.
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Honestly I personally wouldnât do it. Good relationship gonna go south
I wouldnât⊠once it happens you canât undo it and it may ruin your relationship
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I had a threesome and then foursome and it was awesome and donât regret it you need to find someone who isnât going to try and get with him behind your back and yes we are still together going strong
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Pros: nothing
Cons: everything.
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Have you guys tried toys and role-playing? I never understood why hetero couples always jump to 3somes, then next thing you know theyâre crying how their relationship is ruined.
If youâre truly serious about it, look into swingers groups, Im sure there are probably some on here, or maybe look int being a polyamorous relationship. Im not suggesting advertising for bisexuals like I saw some on here do, because as a Bisexual myself, just because we like both sexes, does NOT mean weâd be down for that. Also someone may be attracted to you or your husband but not the spouse, and assuming their down just because of bisexuality is offensive af and someones feelings are going to get hurt. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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If this is what you really want to do set the ground rulesâŠwhat is allowed and what is not this is the most important thing along with communication.
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Ive had 2 3somes with my hubby. Both are friends of mine and we had fun. You have to have strict rules and know that they will be followed. In ours, hubby played just as much as me
What if he wants to do more than watch
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You may be very sorry. He may like her more then you.
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One word: Donât. I have seen more marriages fall after doing this then I care to count⊠itâs very sad.
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Donât fix what is not broken.
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Your cheating on each other
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Ignore everyone. You know your marriage best. If you both are interested and consent, do it! Set healthy, mutually agreed upon boundaries and have fun.
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It ruins marriages donât do it
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Sorry but I think this is a disgusting idea but to each their own I guessâ:face_vomiting:
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Not one good thing about this
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Just plain old dumb and stupid. What you guys are
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Open and honest xommunication is key if you are interested in adding a person to the bedroom. There is a social media-type of website, similar to facebook, but exclusively for kinky people, Fetlife.com. try making a couple profile. I would encourage you to read and explore the site thoroughly before you jump into anything too extreme; it has crazies just like any other place. Iâve had with 3 or 4 different encounters through the site over the years, and most were thoroughly enjoyable.
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Not every marriage gets broken, not every man cheats afterwards, not every woman gets jealous and sometimes the third becomes their girlfriend not just one or the other! Sometimes the third moves in and becomes part of the family! Not my relationship, but I know a couple who moved in their third and she has been in our family for 11 years now. Their third even gave us a grand daughter and they raise all four kids together!
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Video or it didnât happen. P.s. send me the link. Or open an onlyfans for excitement
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He will fuck anything even you
Tinder maybe but thereâs the what ifâs and or she wants him to join type of situation iâd say as long as your not jealous have a trusting foundation and set the rules you two want in the beginning it should be a nice experiment
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Of course every couple is different, however my husband and I have been together 22 years and as long as everyone is consenting adults I see no issue with it. There needs to be âboundariesâ or rules set beforehand and communication is absolutely key. Itâs a lot of fun in my experience (plus I pick the gal haha) Everyoneâs relationship is different, though. 
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You will ruin your no marriage
Thatâs a big risk
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Donât do it.
If you have to ask for opinions , then I feel like thereâs hesitation on your end. If yall have amazing sex together , then keep it that way.
If itâs not your thing. Donât comment. People are allowed to do with their relationship as they want. There is nothing wrong with bringing other people into the bedroom IF THATS WHAT THEY WANNA DO.
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Just make sure this is really what you want. I know 2 different couples that had open marriages and threesomes and it ended in divorce for both of them.
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This is awful 
why make a mess out of a good marriage. Also this is sin and God does not approve.
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God created Adam n Eve. Not Adam n Steve. Nor Rita Sue n Bob too. Just Adam n Eve ⊠why? Coz in a loving respectful marriage that is exactly all you need. Think carefully ⊠" experiments" can go disastrously wrong ⊠youre gambling with your relationship. Personally, i find mine too precious n i have more respect for it ( and him ) to wanna gamble with it. LIKE I SAID MY PERSONAL VIEWPOINT
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Use a professional escort. However it will most likely become a limitless can of worms as to what you may both consider doing next to get sexual gratification.
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Marriage is a huge commitment and if my future husband ever thought about that i would start questioning his love for me NO REAL MAN would want to see their wife sleep with Someone else your body belongs to him. Also sleeping with people brings different spirits 
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You will ruin your marriage this kind of stuff never ends good
Thereâs apps for that
Hire a professional. Itâs less mess and they know what there doing so it doesnât get weird.
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This is the worst idea ever! Do not bring another women into your relationship unless you want to ruin it.
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Itâs a fantasy of mine too, but Iâve learned that after itâs done Iâll be mad af. If youâve never expiremented like that before then Iâd take it slow and donât jump all in yet. After itâs over you may feel differently. Iâd try to find a stranger that has been with a novice couple before. Meet her before you invite her over tho. Craigslist is a good start tho there are groups on Facebook as well
You and your husband are sick and twisted. Youâll be sorry when he wants HER more than YOUâŠweirdoâs
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Young one - you have a good relationship- donât do it. This opens a can of worms - trust n believe me - you might get a way with doing it once but after that - self confidence comes in to question by one of you-
Donât go looking for someone if itâs meant to be âthe opportunity will present itself - â this to can cause problems - good luck - seriously only you two can really make that decision.
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Asking for trouble. Donât even know what youâre thinking
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Heâs getting bored with you, why else bring in another female. Youâll wish you didnât once he ends up liking her better than you 
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I donât normally post but I feel like I should balance out these ignorant prudes on here. I would say start slow and maybe people watch at bars/restaurants and see if you agree on the type of person. Then get up the courage to strike up a conversation with them and see what happens. Seems like the most organic way.
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Set rules an boundaries and stick to them be open an honest with your husband about what your okay with an what your not okay with. Communication is key.
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This is not the person that owns this account however if you and your husband are truly soul mates you will make a pact no matter what its you and him till the end and if either of you stray without the others knowledge then thereâs no reason to be together. Iâve been married for 24 years and we have had a girlfriend that we look at as a second wife that has been in our life for a wonderful 3 years and we all love one another and as the husband my ladies have no wants. #LOVEMYLADIES
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Trust an rules. U both have to be comfy cause there is always difficult emotions that pop up after.
Now I think we all know!! Your inviting trouble in your marriage
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You never know what VD they may have.
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Some of these comments
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What in the absolute hell am I reading???
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Fantasy should stay just thatâŠyou will regret it. It will change your marriage and how you view each other. Your opening the door for an affair to be allowed. Heâs bored and will want more.
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Why do you think we.needed to hear this. Not a good marriage
K.
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You start that shit, and youâre heading for divorce. Guarantee it
Try a dating app! Put a profile up of the two of you! But set boundaries!
Make a profile on pof set rules and boundaries⊠I know someone in Missouri doing the same.
A friend of mine did this and it completely destroyed her marriage. So just be careful and set boundaries if you do decide to do it.
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Fet life . Com
No spaces in it, just as written. Itâs a great place for anonymity and discovering yourselves together. Yoy need to have a lot of trust in yourselves, and each other. Really take the time to sit down and self reflect. Are you emotionally secure and mature enough to do this with your partner? Is he emotionally mature and secure enough to do this with you? Take the time to talk with each other about what you both want to get out of this. I understand it is a fantasy you both have, but fantasies font always add up to the hype youâve put behind them. Or sometimes they are too much. I canât stress enough about taking your time. With talking, figuring each other out, with selecting another partner. And please, donât forget to relay all of this to the person you are choosing. Have a serious conversation with them about the ideals you want to keep with your husband, but also by switching the dynamic to add a third. I wish you the best of luck. I, myself, am not emotionally mature enough in my relationship at this point to warrant this discussion but I hope you have great outcomes. And as always be safeâŁ
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No. Marriage is not a joke. Sounds like you and/or your husband are bored. If you have a great marriage leave it at that. Now you both need your own hobbies and have time to your own selves, while respecting your marriage. Do something productive like make a nonprofit or travel the world and help people around the world. Do something useful before you die.
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These comments⊠Wow yâall are rude. To each their own. Set hard boundaries and talk beforehand. Play medically safe (use protection/get tested). Make sure everyone is on the same page with expectations and what is and isnât consenting. To start with, check out fetlife, local swingers/bdsm groups, or go professional. Good luck and have fun!
Face it dear your marriage is not where you think it stands ! If sex is so awesome why bring in a 3rd person ? It seems like heâs as bored with YOU as you are of HIM youâre both playing with fire Ouch !!!
Doh dont put it on facebook everyone knows now just saying.
Sounds Like Toxic Monogamy Culture But Ok
Yâall didnât pass the vibe check
Its all bad trust me itâll complicate the relationship and cause problems
People really arenât open minded these days are theyđ each to their own but no ones âdisgustingâ for doing something BOTH partners want. It also doesnât mean neither of them dont love each other. Society is different now, people are more open to things and its all fun. Yes doesnt always stay just that, however majority time it does. So long as both of you are trusting then theres nothing to worry about x
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I know a couple that did this and their marriage ended because her husband enjoyed the third person more then his wife and ended up with her. So think about this.
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So long as youâre both into it for real then no harm done. Iâve had several personal experiences but I can swear hands down, it isnât something Iâd do with my husband. With exs who were just flings it was great but hubby, not a chance 
You got married for a reason, do you not love your husband? Do the vows you took mean anything to you? Do you have a family and whats it going to do to them once they find out? ( and they will ) maybe not right away but they will. What if your husband finds her more exciting? What if you find her more exciting. There are religious implications? I say no, stay with the vow you took. Donât mess up a good thing while you have it.
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I have been the âthirdâ in a couple of threesomes, but they were with my friend couples. You have to make sure you are comfortable with the third and sheâs understanding. I was just for the fun. There were a couple of disagreements, but we were able to talk through them. I was not there to break up a couple. Now if its MY relationship, Iâm not sharing. There will be no threesome. I am very protective over whatâs mine. Good luck.
Do what you want but talk and think about it really good because once itâs done itâs done. No going back and if it messes up your relationship that was yâallâs choice
In my experience they donât usually work out if the man is touching, or paying attention to the new female the partner gets jealous the emotions get up it never worked out for me
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If you donât want anyone you know, your conscience is telling you this is very very wrong and you are headed for misery . Evil is evil. Get the thril of God in your heart instead.
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Dear you are only inviting disaster into your marriage.Donât cry foul when your man is taken over by another woman.
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Be rest assured that you are inviting problems. Just avoid that fantasy coz it ainât worth it at all. You risk losing your marriage. If you decide to go ahead, all the best.
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Donât bring anyone into your relationship it is always a bad idea if your happy than be happy together it isnât worth losing the person that you love over a fantasy
No is putting it mildly, Iâm not sharing my husband with anyone ever
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It will ruin your relationship. Sex can only be with one, period. So who will watch will be the female of the relationship and that memory for him will Excell no matter what you do. Sex has to be with Sincerity or there is no relationship emotions!
I would have to say no way for several reasons. I know a couple who started with a threesome. When that got âboring,â they started hitting up couples to swap. They are now swingers, who do it with many people. Man on man, woman on woman, swapping, whatever. The point being, we all get bored at some time. But in a good marriage, you discuss it and rely on each other to spice it upânot count on another being to spice it up. I mean REALLY⊠Whatâs wrong with having a fantasy that you donât play out?! We all have them about one thing or another. We are living in a society today where we think we need it all and should always be entertained. We are accustomed to instant gratification. And thatâs just not right. So you live your life out with an unfulfilled fantasy. So what. We all do. I would bet, hands down, your good marriage wouldnât sustain a threesome because it will just begin a pattern of relying on others to keep the marriage going. Just my thoughts!
Once the fantasy is fulfilled it is no longer a fantasy. So then what would be next