I’d. B3 real care. Full. With. This
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When you invite someone into your marriage you’re asking for problems and breaking something sacred. Sometimes fantasies are just meant to stay just that. I’ve seen relationships change after they’ve experimented. First it starts with just this one thing and then it becomes more. If ya’ll are happy now then stay in the lane you guys are in.
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Would he be cool with another guy at times? There’s your answer.
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Boundaries respect, and communication are the key to any relationship. Monogamous, polyamorous, etc.
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Definite divorce is in the future
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I am a bisexual woman. I’ve had experiences with couples like you who just wanted to spice up their sex life by having a threesome and they almost always seek out an unsuspecting bisexual woman.
Do not do that.
If you just want anonymous one night fun, hire a sex worker or put up a profile on Fetlife listing yourselves as interested in a unicorn. DO NOT contact women and ask for that because it essentially reduces her to a sex toy. It’s dehumanizing and disrespectful. You can contact women on Fetlife who have profiles identifying themselves as unicorns ONLY if they say they are open to being contacted. Otherwise, you put yourselves out there and just wait for someone to contact you. But don’t hold your breath, they’re called unicorns for a reason.
Just be honest and open. If you’re interested in someone tell the truth. I had a few run ins with a couple that was open and honest. It was an experience lol I was definitely curious. And we’re still friends (only friends). They are still happily married with beautiful children. I was approached by both and we took it from there. Be prepared to answer alot of questions and just take your time don’t rush anything. It definitely should not be taken lightly (even if it is for fun) you are also dealing with another human being with emotions. You can play together! But people are not toys.
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Don’t do it! Things like this destroy many great relationships! Been there, done that!
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I suggest counseling and reading your Bible!!!
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You mean…”lately we’ve been talking about divorcing”
Are you kidding? N O
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This is gonna be a couple on Jerry Springer later:crazy_face:
JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!
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If you’re actually interested you ll have to find a swingers group or poly group. But this goes against my nature. I’m still POed my husband lied to me about his ex and hides his relationship he currently has with her. I found out recently while my husband and I were together (not married yet but I was pregnant with our 2nd) that he went on a trip with her. Now I know that has nothing to do with it. But maybe this does. My 1st husband’s cousin tried to get me to have sex with him trying to convince me his wife and him are swingers and even though his wife would be made she wasn’t included she would forgive him. I apparently was a fantasy of his. Yeah it leaves an open door for that kind of behavior once it becomes more comfortable.
Never ever invite anyone into your relationship most definitely not your bed
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You both were sick enjoy each other that should be more than enough
Be single then play…
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It’s an awful idea. The idea of u being in a relationship is to stay loyal. At the point where u bring someone else in, neither of u are being loyal, even if u are doing it together. It will lead to hurt feelings and questions that some get fully resolved etc. Its just not a good idea
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So many people here with fragile relationships and in serious need of some shadow working to fix issues they are ignoring needing fixing. My soon to be ex, and no it never happened and has more to do with his abusing me, suggested a three some and was really pushing it but he wanted a guy with me. Diagnosed narcissist with sociopathic tendencies oh hell to the no is the answer. Another guy I was serious with, it was an open relationship and it never caused an issue. It was his mom who caused an issue with his custody rights to his children and then she lost them to DFACs that ended that relationship. Those "wholesome Christian values " that so many are freaking out over here right in this thread. Now he is a really bad alcoholic with serious suicidal tendencies. Sadly I can’t be there for him or help him because he refuses to “drag me down with him”. So if you think you two are equipped with a strong foundation and relationship built upon that solid foundation, go for it. If you have any doubt, which if your here asking you do, then it probably isn’t going to be for you. You’ll know if you can just say "yeah…let’s go for it " without asking for advice.
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Don’t start that stuff
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Have fun. And then kiss your relationship goodbye!
No it will ruin your marrage
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DONT DO IT! Will ruin ur life. Been there done that!
Fantasy is different than reality. Really think this through because your feelings might change when the time comes. For a lot of people, threesomes bring up a lot of insecurity and jealousy.
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It’s really not a great idea to invite someone into your marriage and your bed, the bond of that magnitude is not to be shared under no circumstance
Everyone is bashing her but I know happily married couples who whine and dine a third party before bringing them into the bedroom and they have been together much longer than 11 years. I think the big factor here is if SHE is as into it as him. If your husband wants it more than you do, then you need to reevaluate things. However, if you are just as interested and have legitimate interest in other woman and have very open and honest communication with your husband, set ground rules beforehand and what not. Like what can he NOT do and vice versa…I don’t see what is wrong with it. Of course you hear the horror stories of it broke my marriage and what not but you have to have a solid foundation of trust and honesty. Not every relationship is created equal! What floats your boat doesn’t mean it would float mine. You do you!
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They just cause bullshit been there done that
Also, I have the privilege of knowing multiple poly families. They are the most beautiful and loving and healthy relationships that I have ever seen. People who’ve been together for more than 15 years. It really depends on where each individual is mentally and where you are along with how your relationship dynamics are. My soon to be ex…hell no…someone else…aight…we’re tight like that. Case by case really.
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The man I am going to married. I was dating him and the mother of his child at first. We were all together and happy for awhile. She got jealous and said he was cheating on her with me and left. I stayed. All I have to say about it is…be careful!!! Make sure to talk about EVERYTHING. What you are ok with and what you are not ok with. Make sure there are boundaries for everyone. Find someone that you guys dont know and will never see again. Best bet go out of town then you know you wont ever see her again. But dont listen to all these haters. You can have a 3 some and it not ruin your life. Just have to be able to talk and COMMUNICATE with each other about everything. Good luck!
The key to things like that are communication. Communication with you and your spouse, communication with you both and the woman you bring in. It’s very important to set boundaries and make it very clear that some boundaries, if crossed, are relationship ending.
Also, it’s really gross how many people on this page entirely discredit poly people. There are many, MANY people who are completely fulfilled in their poly relationships. Just because someone’s shitty attempt at a threesome didn’t work out doesn’t mean yours won’t. It’s about finding the right people to indulge with. If it ends up being something neither of you enjoyed, you can walk away from it. If it is something you both enjoyed, you can pursue that course. Ultimately it is your decision and all these bitter women shouting “i tried and it didn’t work” need to realize that was THEIR relationship. Not yours.
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Y’all really never heard of polyamory huh? Monogamy isn’t the only relationship dynamic out there.
Granted this isn’t that, this is unicorn hunting and unethical af.
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I’m gonna say this: I thought of it with my ex. I brought it up with him. (We ended for completely unrelated issues.)
Going with someone you both know only works if you want a poly relationship. But 3somes are fun as hell! Get a dating app. Use pics of the both you. He’ll even use Facebook dating. And just find someone who is down for some casual fun. Make sure y’all have discussed boundaries with each other first and that when the third comes in that you share those boundaries and also respect hers if she has any in place.
But nake sure you are completely ready for it and know that emotions wont get complicated. I have been the third for a couple and it was great. They are still doing good. I was not the first they invited in for a night. I know you have a lot of negative comments in here. This is a topic where a lot of people decide every relationship only works one way. So i wanted to make sure you knew that there was at least one person that has seen it done successfully a few rines.
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Find a dating site, make an acct and state exactly what you are looking for. Weed through the responses and come to an agreement with your husband. Also set very clear boundaries and expectations for you both… and then have fun!!!
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I works for some people… I have some friend that have been together for a few years and getting married who do 3 somes… there was one person that caused crap between them by trying to steal her man… thats the only issue they had and they do it often… it makes their relationship stronger… but it doesn’t always work like that for everyone so just becareful… a different friend it ended their relationship and her bf ended up with the woman the 3 some was with… its definitely a risk
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Someone is bound to get hurt eventually
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Don’t do it. You don’t need to add fun and exciting things to your relationship…stay bored and unsatisfied…do not live life to the fullest and your relationship will last forever…oh …and always listen to everyone elses advice on how to be in your relationship…
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There’s gotta be a lot of trust & communication with you & your partner ! I’m gonna say go with it & have fun 
most ppl saying don’t do it have never done it Or had their husband leave them for said person which probably let jealousy take over & push their partner away to other said person … let me know when you guys do I’m here for the update how amazing it was 
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Get it queen, also in my 30s doing the same 
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It destroyed my marriage of 20 years. My advice is don’t. At all. Stop entertaining the idea.
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Do what make you and your hubby happy!!! Currently looking tooo:stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye: works for us! We also been together over 10 years:heart_eyes:
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Leave the fantasy a fantasy! I don’t know how your relationship is. But I’ve known alot of people who’ve done this and some it’s worked out great for but some not. One of you might end up jealous and it’s understandable and the other might really like it and want more that can cause a major divide. I think you should make a pros and cons list because you know you and your husband well. Good luck with whatever you decide 
Oh honey. Do not mess with fire. Do you not care about the future of your marriage? Is this what people do when they secretly don’t care if they destroy their marriage but want to act like they’re “trying new things” and being “fun”? Okay do it. But remember this comment - all of this will come back to bite you in the butt. Do not play around. Unless your plan is to end this relationship.
If y’all have set specific rules and boundaries and are both comfortable and agree with no pressure on either of you to do something you aren’t 100% wanting for yourself, then there are sites you can use to find people like that near you. A lot of people just want to meet up for that and not have to run into them at the grocery store or some such, so they look at places to travel to and meet up.
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Feel free to message me! I need some more mama friends!!!
They call women who are interested in having a threesome with a couple a unicorn for a reason.
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This could go both ways. But you need to understand this could destroy your relationship. Are you willing to take that risk?
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I really think you are crazy. If you have a good marriage why mess it up. It could just be a twosome and you are put out of the picture, just sayinh
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Bad idea opening one door opens more and I know just how this played out I mean from what y’all want to how it will end just saying I went through three year divorce not over jealousy we had a great marriage to! Was married 13 years
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I wouldn’t invite another woman in unless your ready to make this marriage a 3 way…someone’s gonna get hurt and it’s going to be you! Leave fantasy as just that!!
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Once you open that door there is no going back
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I’ve seen this turn into some bad stuff. And everyone of the couples said. Naw. Not us, we’ve been together 27 years or whatever.
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No love the one u with
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We just went through this and now I’m heart broken! Ruined a 6 year marriage
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Don’t be stupid! F up a beautiful marriage.
Don’t do it… you open that door you won’t be able to close it.
It could turn out good or bad, it all depends how truly loyal your husband is tho
Jealousy becomes an issue, you might say it now I won’t get jealous but it will happen. Wondering if he thinks she’s better in better. A lot could go wrong like she could end up pregnant.
Katie Bilderback well first step is to find a pineapple
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I’d so GO FOR IT. We were going to do it years ago and I chickened out. I regret it. It was a woman that neither of us knew and she lived close to us and was about to move out of state.
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If you have a good life and a great husband don’t ruin it. When you experiment it almost always turns out bad. One person in the relationship always ends up experimenting on there own without there spouse. If you have a good man why risk losing him? There are a lot of women who would love the opportunity to take him from you. Don’t be over confident thinking your relationship can’t be ruined because it can…
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Well from what ive went threw with my daughters dad who im no longer with because he just kept fuckin her an everyone else an everything. So good luck with that. My husband now he dont do shit like that but im bi an i love females but he just chooses not to let me bring nobody around.
Communication. No feelings. Keep a mindset of adults having fun. There’s Unicron web site. Communicate about STDs , safe sex and play, meet the girl. Or like me and my husband we had a friend that we was joking with and one thing led to another and we’re all stuff great friends. Don’t look for a relationship just fun. If you meet a girl that seems shady. I wouldn’t. Be picky. Fun, then drop . No feelings attached.
Nope, seen too many relationships fall apart because of the third person.
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its ok as long as both are comfortable and agree
Two is enough threes is a crowd…you will be asking for trouble…your choice. . If it’s not broken why mess with it!!!
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Don’t it ruins relationships
This just means he wants to see you pleasure another woman. He wants to hear the other woman moan etc. It’s just gonna make him wanna do it to someone. He might be wanting you to do it to get you into having a threesome so he can play too. My ex wanted to have a threesome and be a swinger couple and I found out he was just sick and has sick fantasies. I never done it but thought about it. Your marriage and or relationship isn’t real if he wants this. He’s gotten tired of you. A real man only wants his woman
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yeah…um no. if you allow another woman into your marriage you are doomed. basically telling your husband it’s ok to fuck other women.
If you got a meaningless relationship and no love for anyone by all means go ahead you got nothing to lose
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I would advise against it. However, if you MUST experiment, then it should be a foursome instead of a threesome. The playing field should be level.
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A bed is made for 2 in a marriage….open it up to a third and you open up a box of trouble
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Don’t do it. You’ll screw up what u have now
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Seen way to many of these experiences going wrong. One ended up pregnant and it wasn’t the wife or the feelings went farther then what they should have etc etc … be careful
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You guys could consider hiring a pro…
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Dont. Someone always catches feelings. If u must then Hire an escort that way it’s just a business transaction nothing more.
Con 1… You’re looking for trouble!
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Don’t listen to everyone girl. If that’s what YOU BOTH WANT, Go for it! Everyone has their own opinions on this subject. But opinions r like assholes. They all stink and we all have one🤣 If u r a bisexual woman, and married do what y’all want. It’s not like u can instantly stop being attracted to women bc ur with a man. Yes there is pros and cons but make sure y’all both talk about everything. Communication is key, literally. Even when y’all start talking to someone else make sure she knows what y’all want as well. Bumble is a good app, y’all could make a profile together. Good luck!
That’s really a bad idea in my experience and extremely horrible bad idea don’t do it just say goodbye now Run for the Hills
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Friends with a swinging couple, married 20+ years, 2 kids. They were a swinging couple the entire marriage, had rules, the whole nine…. Husband ended up leaving wife for a young girl that they brought in…. After 2 decades of marriage!!. Im sure it’s worked for couples, but from my experience, thats an exception. If you’ll have been strictly monogamous, I would advise not to do it!
With that being said, if you decide, you need to have strict rules and boundaries to follow. It’s a fine line to cross just to experiment.
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It’s not a threesome if he’s not included. You both need to really look into it, see what’s allowed, what’s not. Research it, see where it led to for other couples and talk about what that would mean for you two. If you still both want to bring in another person then look into gay or bisexual women who would be interested in having sex with you while your husband watches. Literally just ask people you trust, and you know are clean.
It’s a horrible idea
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I suggest DO IT!
However, you both have to be 100% confident in your relationship. If you are not, you will ruin it. If there is ANY doubt in your mind, do not do it!
I’ve done it a couple times and just because you are bringing someone else in does not mean he needs to sleep with her if that’s not what you both want.
You can bring her in and he can watch or have sex with you while you please her.
Trust me, it’s still just as fun and exciting.
This is walking a very fine line between a good relationship and problems. But if you really want to do it most dating sites have other couples looking or try a swingers site. Good luck.
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No.
Marriage is a sacred place between man and woman.
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Jenaya Amber-Loveday Laley you only rent a hooker lol
Honestly lol, hire someone… they get paid for it and you don’t have to worry about her being a snake afterwards
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As a bisexual female, that is married and had a three sum early in the relationship with her boyfriend ( now husband); communication from all is key. Our three sum ended up being a one night stand, not because of us. But because the young lady just wanted to have sex with a female. I would have been fine with it, but the lack of communication is what made me put my sexuality on hold.
But now we are older and been together for 13 years, we are open to open our relationship to more.
I dated a guy who’s marriage fell apart because of it, ruined a 20 year marriage because she wanted an open marriage, threesome or to swing. He didn’t want to go down any of those routes because he seen the ending of his marriage, he finally agreed to swinging after a year of her pushing him. The whole group caught a couple of stds and six months after they started swinging he came home early from a business trip to her with two other guys from the group, apparently she had been sleeping with both outside of the group get togethers for over five months.
If you love your husband it’s not worth the risk. I’d add porn, locations, and toys to spice up your sex life.
.never done that before but I’ve heard of relationships going to shit after… But everyone’s different
Ir goes against the bible.
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Imo male sure you are SOLID in your marriage. Make a list to be perfectly CLEAR what will & will not be allowed. There can be ABSOLUTELY no jealousy from either of you or your marriage crumbles. NOW…as for finding someone there are apps to find partners BUT be careful. Me & hubby got catfished. This person was very good at it so that’s how they got me because I’m very thorough on shit. It’s been difficult for us. So good luck doll
If it’s what y’all both want then go for it, not something I could do and I’ve been married almost 19 years and we still have sex multiple times a week. There’s just no way I could let another person touch me or see my husband touch another person.
With that said, get on tinder or a swingers website and make a profile but don’t include any face photos. You can keep your secret but find someone in your area that’s down. Also, I would be wary unless you see their testing results. You don’t know what people are doing now day swapping fluids and getting this, that, and the other STD. 
Don’t do it you’ll be sorry
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be prepared to fuck up ur marriage
Sounds like a cesspool of depravity to me. You would be opening a door to pain and heartache, not to mention STD’s.
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Ewww no…but thats on yall.You would be opening up the door to a whole lot of b.s.
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Sounds great until you can’t get the image of your husband being pleasured by another woman out of your head and him being more excited because she’s new and exciting.
If you’re secure in yourself and your relationship then go for it… bit if there’s a shred of doubt… don’t!
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I’d never do this…why fuck up a good thing???
3 some could ruin your relationship. A lot of factors could make it a bad idea.
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It ruined my perfect marriage
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Why ruin a good thing ?
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Never invite another woman into your bed
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