Don’t let the toddler run the house. Parents need to decide on the rules and stick together. No one needs to be awake watching tv at 3am
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And one more thing,get rid of the guilt. Children leave the nest,but your husband will be there forever. He comes first.
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Husband works and pays the bills. You wean the baby in it’s own room.
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Take charge of that toddler. 1. Make him sleep in his own bed. 2. Wean him and be firm about it.3. Dont let him run your life.4. Dont let him cause a rift between you and your husband. Kids will take and take. This is all better for him as we learn soon enough,we dont get everything we want in life.
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I say the husband can take the garage. It’s his child too. Take some adult responsibility. What if mom wasn’t there? Who would he blame for his bad day on then? Privilege has many forms, doesn’t it?
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Don’t have children .
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You are teaching your baby to wake during the night and watch TV that will become his/her habit and not sleep through the whole night. I suggest putting him in his own room as he will earn to self settle and not smell the milk. Is he eating solid food, if so make sure he has a snack with high protein before bed. It will take quite a few days for the new to make sense to him/her. If they wake and doesn’t need Brest for nourishment a sip of water is fine.
Yes, if you are a stay at home mom then it is understood that you will get up through the night so your husband can sleep, but say to your husband say Friday and Saturday nights he can get up with baby.
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The child needs to be put in his own room. I think having him sleep with you only satisfies you. Dad needs his sleep. I also believe each of you parents need time for yourself. Sure, the baby will cry for few nights but he’ll adjust.
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The child needs to be in thier own bed. Learn to self soothe. Not wake everyone up in the night. A cup or bottle of water. Then you and your husband can get some sleep.
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If your husband is working to provide for you and your child he does need his sleep more at this point in your lives. Not enough sleep could endanger his life. I can sympathize with your predicament of not getting sleep. My youngest didn’t sleep all night until she was around three. It’s hard but it’s worth it. It’s a bonding. See if your husband can help out more on weekends when he is not working. You also should think about a separate bed for your child if not a separate bedroom. It will make for a better relationship for all in the long run. Best of luck.
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Your child needs to be in their own bed. Your husband should be able to sleep without you entertaining your child in the middle of the night. You should have taken him out of the bedroom. He though should realize kids do wake up in the middle of the night too. Distraction from breastfeeding is a good option.
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Time for the toddler to be in their own bed.
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Kids need their OWN beds. They need to figure out how to comfort themselves back to sleep once you’ve determined they have everything they need. I used pacifiers until 2 and a”blanky”. Crying does not hurt them. Kiddos need to adapt to our schedules not vise versus it’s a process. I’d admire a man who wouldn’t make me feel guilty for being a stay at home mom who understands not all nights are restful and helps no matter what.
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Since you asked I will tell you my opinion. Your toddler should absolutely be sleeping in his own bed. You may have a couple tough nights but you can never convince me this is a good decision for your toddler. To be in his own bed with his favorite blanket and stuffed animals is the best thing ever. And the whole biting thing. Well I would 100% be done with nursing. No judgment but be done!!!
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Once they’re old enough to wean, they can sleep in their own beds. You’re starting a very bad habit that will be harder to break the longer you do it. Both of my kids were breastfed and slept with me until around 1 1/2 old. I bought them their own beds. Get a routine going…bathtime, book time, bedtime. Your child will be fine, it won’t traumatize them lol. If this was a newborn or infant, I would tell dad to suck it up, but he’s right…his sleep is being sacrificed for a toddler needlessly. I know it’s hard mom, but it’s time, wish you luck@
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Breastfeeding a toddler? Wow my son drank out of a cup long before then. He also had his own Bed ! That’s why they make cribs & toddler beds. Since you asked I’m giving my opinion.
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- Put the child to bed in their own room, not yours.
- Child wakes in the night, get up, go to their room and soothe…do not turn on TV or entertain…night time is for sleeping.
- Do check to be sure child is dry and if thirsty give a drink of water
- If you feel you really can’t manage every night, discuss with husband how he can take a turn getting up on nights that he doesn’t have to work next morning.
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In the first place your toddler should not be sleeping in the bed with you and your husband. He should sleep in his own bed. I trained all my children to sleep in their own beds from infancy.
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I don’t think a toddler needs to nurse in the middle of the night. Time to quit the family bed…
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I agree with your husband, he needs his sleep to function at work. You and the child can nap during the day. Maybe it’s time for child to sleep in his own room
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Put the child in own room and own bed. If the child is not near you they can’t smell your milk and you and your husband will both get a good nights rest.
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I’m gonna go a little different here. When my children where breastfeeding my husband and I both were active duty military so we both had to get up and leave the house for work. The child co slept with us until they slept through the night. Weaning was easy but if they woke up in the middle of the night we took turns on who would get up and comfort them and but them back to bed (we never used a TV as I was afraid this would start a habit of getting up just to watch TV). Fast forward, six of my children are adults and still have two teenagers and now two grandchildren. We’re both retired now, he works outside the house and I stay home and homeschool the two youngest and watch the grands while my daughter goes to nursing school. If the grands (ages two and four) spend the night and wake up in the middle of the night my husband and I take turns getting them.
For me, being a stay at home mom feels so much more tiring than working out of the house. And remember I was active military. Lol
Point of the story, when it comes to marriage and parenting it is a “team” effort. If you can’t be a team and work together it will cause issues. So will not having a martial bed (mom and dad need their alone time together too).
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I understand where you’re coming from. We started with twins. We didn’t co-sleep, but I was the one who got up during the middle of the night to feed and change them. Very rarely did he get up to help. It would have been nice to have that support. Unless your husband works on heavy equipment I think his employer would be understanding if he was tired from lack of sleep. Work together to come up with a solution though.
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I’m not sure I quite understand but if he is a toddler if at all possible he should not be in the same bedroom as you and your husband or nobody’s gonna get any sleep he needs to have her his own room and if he hast to cry a little bit at night go in and sue them but do not give then offer him the sippy cup if that doesn’t work let him back down through them a little bit and walk out of the room he will learn to sleep through the night I know it’s hard mom but you can do this and I know he helped make the child but I do agree he needs his sleep and he will get that if you put that child and it’s own bedroom
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I think the first problem is you should have weaned him a long time ago! A toddler nursing is not necessary, also your child should be in its own bed, not with you and your husband. Good luck!
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Sorry to sound harsh but going to work is easier. (I have done working and stay at home mum). Personally I would book a weekend away with some friends and let him see how much sleep you actually have to manage on. Maybe then he will have a more realistic and sympathetic outlook when you get back.
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My mom had 9 babies! They slept in a bassinet/ crib! Never with my parents! We had 1 tv in the house! If the baby woke up mom got up out of bed and tended to the baby. Back to bed in their own bed! I did the exact same thing! No problems!
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I always took my son to the living so not to bother my husband. He works i dont.
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When my kids were babies I took them to a different room because my husband had to work early and I felt it was my job since I didn’t work. I never put kids in my bed in fact I slept on my daughters floor holding her hand just so my husband could sleep, I did this for a year. Husband went on midnights and I broke her from it. I was there one that took care of my babies since he provided for us. I believe he should help by giving a bottle or cup to baby sometimes it’s easier if someone else does this. Good luck to you. I’m old generation so I know things are different now.
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Either Dad can sleep in the living room, or it’s time for a bedroom for the child, or a toddler bed in your bedroom. Enough nursing too. I nursed all three of mine and loved it, but when they started drinking from a cup good, the nursing stopped.
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Stop breastfeeding immediately. Offer a tippee cup of water nothing else. Your baby needs to be in his own room. Never allow your children to sleep in your bed. It is up to you to make the changes and let your husband sleep. Be firm or your child will never learn. A few days of fussing and lack of sleep for you won’t hurt. I raised children too. Can’t be wishy washy !
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they shouldn’t need to nurse in the middle of the night if they are a toddler. Definitely time for them to be sleeping in their own bed. And turning on the TV in the middle of the night isn’t going to but the toddler back to sleep it’s just going to keep them awake!! If the child is old enough to watch tv it’s old enough to sleep in his own bed!
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I am appalled at the number of responses criticizing her. Who are any of you to judge? I’m sure you were all perfect parents and did everything exactly right. To those of you PROVIDING SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT…KUDOS!! Honey…do what’s best for your child. Your husband is a grown up… he’ll be fine.
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I was a SAHM with 3 children 5 and under. It’s the hardest job on the planet! You actually need more sleep because YOU are never off duty. Men seem to think that you sit around all day and the house cleans itself, the children are always well behaved and you can sleep whenever you choose. He’s gone back to the 50’s and seems to think that if he’s paying the bills that his life should go on as before the child. He helped create that life and it’s his responsibility to enjoy the fun as well as be a full partner in the difficult stuff. Now is the time to set some firm expectations and boundaries. He needs to step up, especially if you plan on having more children. For you, find a good therapist and check your behavior. Think about the possibility of codependency and maybe couples counseling would be a good idea. I’m praying for you because 30 years ago I was you. God bless you 
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Put the child in his own room and when he wakes up go to his room away from Dad. Dad needs sleep to be productive at work. Sleeping with child is a fairly new idea but not a good one.
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I’ve been a stay at home mom, now I’m retired. I didn’t have family to help, we took care of our own kids until they were old enough for school. The husband works to provide a home for you and your child, let him sleep. It is hard to be a stay at home mom. But your toddler shouldn’t be in your room if you have space for their own room. It will take a lot of stress off the whole situation
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One, toddler needs its own room and you both need your own privacy and space… two… if the child drinks from a cup stop
Breast feeding… if you want them to still have the milk pump it and store it…your husband believe it or not is right in some respect as you need your sleep and privacy and that child needs to learn boundaries and have their own room
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Babies/toddlers should not routinely be sleeping in the parents bed. This is an unsafe practice to begin with. The child needs to be set up with his own room & there is also no reason he or she needs to be breastfeeding during the night.
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I put my daughter in her own room and crib the day she came home from the hospital. I am a light sleeper so doing this helped me get more zzz’s . I still got up to breastfeed once every night, but after six weeks my daughter was sleeping through the night.
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I personally think it was insensitive to turn the tv on and wake your husband when he has to get up for work the next day. I was a stay at home mom and I got up with the baby every night because I could nap the next day if needed. My husband worked 12+ hours a day and didn’t have that luxury. I took ALL of the night shifts for this reason. He needed to be rested to work his job on his feet all day. But that is us. If you’re going to turn the TV on for your toddler (which i think is a huge mistake - you’re stimulating him during a time of rest) you need to go to another room.
All of that said, your toddler should be sleeping in his own room. I don’t quite understand co-sleeping though it can be convenient (lazy) for those breastfeeding moms.
If you both worked outside of the home I would completely agree he needs to help in the night because you would both have to go to work the next day.
You asked so these are my opinions.
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That child should have had its own room and bed a long time ago. That’s why you’re having this problem.
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Your husband is a saint compared to many other husbands. He should be entitled to at least 8 hrs. of uninterrupted sleep to be able to go to work every day at a job outside the home.
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Yes dad should help out. And you can put cold cabbage leaves in your bra to stop the milk from coming out my daughter was 1 yr old when I took her off breastfeeding and straight to the sippy cup. Next time just turn your phone on to watch some tv or movies and my son was 13 when he started sleeping in his own bed. So good luck 
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Your child has trained you, not the other way around. First the child should be in his own room. Second, if he wakes up let him cry. He eventually will go back to sleep if he realizes mom isn’t coming. I too disagree with the tv. Toddlers shouldn’t be watching tv. It’s your responsibility to break this habit of waking up in middle of the night. Toddlers should be sleeping all night. Your husband should be able to sleep all night and not be disturbed by this child.
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You are breastfeeding, so you are the only one that can wean the baby, Now as for having your baby co-sleep with you , that is also fine because he or she is old enough, But if your husband has to get up to work & you have the TV on in your bedroom, Yea I can understand him getting mad, I would too, Even if the sound is down, the TV is on, You should have taken your baby to another room & done this,
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I will not give my 2 cents on where a healthy toddler should be sleeping… She already said husband is great and helps after work and on weekends. Sounds like they have just this one child. It doesn’t take forever to wean, she needs to bear this a little longer and not involve dad on work nights.
Child needs to be put in his own bed! I was a stay at home mom and I always got up with the baby, he works up to 14 hr days. On the weekends he took care of her so I could sleep in. My how I loved the weekends. So I guess I agree w your husband. Good luck.
I wish i would have seen this post earlier, lots of mom shaming on co-sleeping . If done safely baby should be fine. I’ve co-slepted with all 4 of my kids and now 3 of them sleep okay on there own… Just because co sleeping isnt something you do doesnt make it wrong bad. Weaning isnt easy. I slowly dropped out a feed at night even while co-sleeping. Just offer sippy cup with water or pacifier. Sometimes have dad put baby to bed helped me .
I understand she is asking for everyone’s opinions but some of you are really making it seem like she is doing a horrible job on everything. She is asking for opinions and thoughts. NOT for others to bash her, put her down and make her feel like crap for even thinking this way. Some of you should be ashamed! Act like adults. Be kind!!! KINDLY state your opinion and stop talking like she’s the worse parent and wife ever because of her choices and thoughts.
Now, my opinion: I personally never understood co sleeping so I didn’t do it. But, I heard there is good that can come from it. But, your kid is a toddler so it might not hurt to start slowly adjusting your kid to his own room. Also, both of you should be taking care of your child together. He does work and he should get his sleep, as should you. You both play important rolls is your family. Maybe on the nights where he doesn’t work the next day he csn get up with your child. And, the days he works, after he gets home you get an hour (or however long) to yourself while he spends time your toddler. Then you can have some of that time back you might have missed (even though it isn’t the same). Basically, you too should decide on something together. Compromise. And both of you should be understanding of eachother.
Wish you the best. And whatever you two choose to do, if you feel it’s best for your child, then it doesn’t matter what others think.
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You made the child together, you raise the child together . He is missing out on his special time with his toddler.
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I’m going to be the minority here and say you get to choose how long you cosleep with YOUR child. It’s no one else business!!! Lots of other cultures cosleep so you do you!!! As far as hubby goes have an honest talk with him and give him the opportunity to communicate and come up with a plan together. Do not listen to a bunch of women who say let him sleep and get your baby into their own bed. Your child your decisions!
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I was a sahm and my ex husband never batted an eye about getting up with our daughter.( Who wasn’t biologically his btw) He always said he enjoyed that bonding time with her alone and he knew I needed to sleep also. He was also great about getting up with her when she was sick or anything just to let me sleep and he was the soul provider for us. We also co-slept until she was 5. Didn’t hurt her or us a bit. A marriage is about compromise. Raising babies is compromise. Mama shouldn’t always be responsible for taking care of baby just because dad needs to sleep… Maybe do some marriage counseling and get a professionals opinion and work on things with your husband if he’s being a jerk
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Maybe you and child cosleep in another room until weening is over then come back to bed together as family. I never believed in cosleeping with child your situation is an example. He works he gets the sleep. Your work now is the weaning. It will get better: but hubby is providing the income so you can stay home and do the work at home. He can help with your son together while he is awake like giving you breaks so you can take a little rest.
Lol. I was a stay at home Mom to three for twenty five years. Two with autism. My husband thought everything child related was my job. All night feedings, middle of the night trips to the E.R. for asthma attacks ( two usually in one night). Ten yrs of speech and O.T., aside from school, housework, etc.I work full time now and believe me, being a SAHM was WAY tougher than going to work. He use to think I could “ sleep anytime I wanted) Bahahah… did he want the house to catch on fire or what??? Well after 30 years of marriage I left. On my own for the last 10 and loving the peace. Put the baby in his own bed and get the sleep YOU deserve( if you can) to have energy to tackle the day. Treat yourself with respect. Its not a cake walk. Its the most important job in the world. You are raising the future.
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The first couple of months i understand baby sleeping in with you while he is breastfeeding amd waking often. After solids foods are started he should be in his own bed in his own room. Dad should also help with this decision. The toddler should be in his own room and it will help ween him off breastfeeding. And to dad. I understand where your coming from but your son or daughter should come first. You getting a full 8 hours of sleep after you helped making a kid is not possible. Sometimes you get 5 or 6 hours of sleep. Just like mom regardless if she is stay at home parent. Sometimes they don’t get to go back to sleep. They do cleaning the house and maybe prep meals for the nights dinners. My dad worked 2 jobs until i was 10 and if he heard me get up he was right there so my mom could rest. Its apart of being a parent
She’s saying she has a toddler. That kid needs to b sleeping alone or a least have that option. Both parents need their sleep. But im not sure when toddlers started getting up n the middle of the night. They should sleep all night. Seems like you have some problems n your house. If your child has teeth and is running around you can stop breast feeding. Your doing that to yourself. If you just want them to have the milk u can pump. But all of this is a common sense problem so u just need to think.
The baby needs his own bed and should never sleep with you. If you are so inconsiderate of your husband as to turn on the TV while he’s trying to sleep, it’s you who is being inconsiderate. A sippy cup??? Those things leak, get a bottle with a nipple that won’t leak on the baby. YOU NEED SOME PARENTING LESSONS!
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Baby should be in it’s own room AND bed!! A habit of it sleeping in your bed is never going to end! Feed right before bedtime, put him in HIS bed, kiss him "good night and give hugs w/expressed love. If or when he wakes up, give him a drink of water or formula, let him cry awhile, he will eventually go back to sleep. POOR DADDY needs to grow-up and take responsibility for his share in what he produced!!
Being a stay at home mom is fabulous!! BUT your job never ends, it is emotionally draining , and physically exhausting, and yes your husband should help it’s his baby to!
The child needs to have it’s own bed. Mom and Dad both can tend to the night time wake ups. Don’t know how old the child is so can’t tell you how long to let him/her cry it out. My husband and I both took care of our children at night. Can’t give too much advice about weaning since mine were bottle fed.
I co slept with both of my daughters and my husband we both worked, what I didn’t do was turn on the television in the night. I would wake acknowledge the need, and sooth back to sleep. They were weaned on their own terms one at 14 months the other at 26 months. The both were in their own beds by 28 months. With the occasional wake up in our bed. I made it clear that nighttime is for sleep
First off the two of you should figure out where the child should sleep NOT in your bed and preferably not in your room. Use a bottle or sippy cup night and day. No TV at night. Rock or comfort your child for a few minutes then put to bed. Repeat if necessary. The child will adjust but it will be stressful for awhile. Good 3
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How many times is the child waking? How old is the child? Definitely time to start transitioning to own room! It will
Take a few miserable days but it will be worth it everyone will sleep.
I will say we have twins and a toddler and my husband has always helped at night when needed.
I Never Breastfed
I Thought It Was Easier When My Husband Helped Out With Feeding Formula Than Breastfed. I’m Old Fashioned Anyhow
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old school the mom takes the baby in the other room letting the bigger baby sleep without getting awoke and the baby needs to be in his own bed if you no your baby has had enough to eat and is clean and dry let them cry alittle you don’t have to nurse every time your baby wakes
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Work with your husband on a plan to partner on moving your kiddo into their own bed - dedicate a week of tough love to it. It will be hard on everyone but it’s one week that will improve everyone’s life.
Time for your child to be in his own room. And if your husband is the one working to pay the bills have some respect and leave the room. No big deal. Women nowadays. Do your job as a mom period. Your husband has to work.
I was a stay at home mom and did everything for the children, household and husband because that was my job. However, I got no help when he came home and subsequently when I started back in the work force. It makes me laugh when men think you can do what you want, when you want when you have children. I was sleep deprived for at least 8 years. And guess what? Nothing changed after I got a “real” job.
First off, put your toddler in his own bed. Get up and give him a safe toy to play with snd go back to bed. Be glad you get to stay home .I worked full time and still had to get up with all four kids . My ex helped with nothing. Cherish those moments. Your child be grown and married himself before you know it.
No you should respect that your husband needs to sleep to be able to support his family and be safe at his job he doesn’t need to worry about being tired you should respect that Now whit tat said when he comes home and after a little bit he can give you a break. You should pump and save your milk so he can bottle feed or sippy cup your child so he can also build his bond with his child. I had three children and my husband was a trooper when they were young but I also worked we worked separate shifts on different days because we didn’t want someone else raising our children. He lived to read to them and they loved it as well. Now things did change and was different later on. But don’t create a problem when there is no need. While you are weaning your baby get them started sleeping in their own room. You get up before your babies schedule to wake up and be ready then you are ready and you don’t disturb his sleep. When he is off that’s a different story but talk to him and the TWO of you decide together. Also why isn’t your child sleeping through the night yet??? Hope this helps and yes as mother’s we do seem to do more in raising our children but your husband also has his role to fill as well. At least you are concerned enough to seek advice. So take what is useful from advice and make it work for YOUR situation. Best of luck and God Bless
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I think your first mistake is that the child sleeps with you guys … If you would have given him his own room or space with going to bed at night and letting him cry himself to sleep Etc you would not have this problem!
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Dad needs to get off his high horse and get over it. He has a child and loosing sleep is part of having kids. Stay at home moms and working dads (or the other way around if that’s the case) doesn’t mean one or the other gets to have “more sleep” because they are at home more. He’s a dad now, he needs to put on his big boy panties and loose a little sleep like all the other dads in the world do when they have kids.
If your little one is a “toddler” why is he sleeping with his parents?
Wondering, when did the little one start sleeping with you two.
If he is “biting” wheweeee time to
get the sippy cup
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Maybe he could do it the nights he doesn’t have to work the next day. I see no need for both of you to be up. I would definitely put the child in their own room. It won’t be popular with the child at first but needs to be done. The longer you wait the harder it will be. Whatever you do just be consistent. The child will get used to whatever you choose in time but consistency will make it work much faster. Cereal is great too.
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Put your big britches on and do what’s necessary for your working husband and the baby,my goodness please don’t have another baby you would turn into a basket case,I was 18 when I married and had my sixth child when I was 29,I survived and had 62 wonderful years before he went home to the LORD,I suggest you stop making a mountain out of a molehill and just get on to doing what’s necessary
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I am not a fan of cosleeping. I have only done it when necessary, and was thrilled to have my child out of my bed. At your child’s age, they should be in their own bed all night. You shouldn’t be tending a child that old in the middle of the night. They should be self soothing. Yes, there will be roughr nights adjusting. Get the hubby some earplugs and start transitioning him to his own room.
Dad needs to sleep certain schedule to be rested for work. I’m a grandma who takes care of 3 grandkids from diapers bottles softball practice and games so the parents can work and rest. The only thing I ask is that mom cook supper for the family when she comes home from work
Mom needs to do what she needs to do to put your toddling in their own bed and bedroom. You may have a few rough nights but it will work in the end. My husband worked nights for many years and I would let my son sleep with me but I had my son trained when he was small that when dad was home he had to sleep in his room in his bed and eventually, of course , he stayed in his room for good. And NO TV gets to be another habit
Agree that the child needs to have their room. I was a working mom but still fed the kids when I was home. After the kids started eating more of other foods they will sleep longer. If they get scared and are interested in a calming tv show they will fall back to sleep. Hope you are getting some mommy time to shower or eat a cookie just by yourself. I know you are trying to care for husband and child but you need 5 minutes too.
Please get him out of your bed and yes, the husband needs to help, though not harshly.
Maybe if he put him in his own bed and lay beside him, reading a bedtime stories. Anything is worth a try, hon. Good luck!
Dad should be helping… It probably would be even easier for the kid if he did… Kid wouldn’t have much of a choice to not breastfeed if dad got up with him. Its his kid too.
Your husband sounds like a great guy, helping with things after work. Some people need sleep more than others. Keep the sippy cup with water handy and put some fragrant cream on to at night to hide the milk aroma. This stage will pass
A child is a responsibility of both parents regardless of the mum being a “stay at home mom”. Your husband needs a reality check. I haven’t seen or heard of any mother being able to rest or sleep as she pleases, be it a working mom or a stay at home mom!!!
First toddler needs its own room if you need to put a small cot in baby’s bedroom while adjusting to no breastfeeding that would be better on you and baby and Daddy
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Maybe it’s time to set up a toddler room for your sweet boy. Make it a fun but peaceful place for him to have fun but restful. Start with nap time and praise him when he takes a nap in his beautiful room. Keep encouraging him about what a big boy he is. He will soon get used to it and enjoy his own space. It’s worth a try.
Hang in there. This too shall pass. Weaning is only a hurdle that must be accomplished and you, dad, and baby can do this. I was a stay at home mom too with 4 babies in 5 years and breast fed/weaned them all. Quite a challenge, but we managed. If your living conditions are that you must co sleep, now is the time to get a toddler bed and transition baby over. Offer the breast at bedtime and the sippy cup through the night, and then lay them back into their own bed. Soothe them with comforting words, perhaps a favorite song, rubbing their back. Assure them they are big, and everyone is sleeping and they should too. If the child is being difficult with excessive crying, that is disturbing to everyone. There are products on the market for soothing a child, lavender essential oil is safe and check with your doc on age appropriate melatonin. Maybe try a sound machine in the bedroom for dad. Naptime in the toddler bed will help him associate sleep time. I would not make a habit of taking the child to the LR and turning on the tv, this will set a poor habit for when he is older. And remember , this too shall pass. If you are spacing out the times you are nursing during the day, then he will soon outgrow the desire during the night. You have to decide the balance of nature over nurture, the need for food over comfort.
What in the world is a toddler doing sleeping in the bed with his parents - you should never have started this. If you are not careful, the dad may move into the toddler’s room.
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I may get bashed for this, but he’s right. If he only has a couple more hours to rest, he should be allowed to rest. My husband and I have 6 kids and I have had to take the kids out of the room to soothe them if they were being too noisy or playful in the wee hours. Should he help? Of course he should! But he is the one working to make sure the money is in the right place to pay the bills. You need to take a couple days (that hubs has off so he can help) and put that child in a toddler bed. I coslept with all of mine, but none of them had issues sleeping in their own beds.
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My babies came home to their own bed. It’s to dangerous to sleep with them. You roll over and they don’t have enough bulk to register you are laying on them. I take it that you have only given your child breast milk. Your medical staff didn’t advise you to feed formula as well.
Child should be in his own bed and using a bottle. He is old enough to hold the bottle himself. Do this even during the day. You may have to occasionally pump your breasts to have milk for the toddler but decrease the pumping fairly quickly. Put a stuffed animal in the bed with the child and maybe try some quiet music.
You should NEVER use TV to sooth a child! TV seriously slows brain development in infants & toddlers. Whatever you do…just DON’T put the TV on, for a toddler! One half hour show a day is the absolute max, you should allow a toddler…CERTAINLY no TV on in the bedroom, EVER!!!
You need to put your child in their own room and take care of him/her there and a t.v. should not be a form of getting your child to sleep, try reading to them. You are a stay at home mom and yes you may work around the clock, but when the child takes a nap you can too, I recharged at nap time, a two hour nap in the middle of the day goes a long way, your husband can not take a nap during the day, so him getting sleep at night is important. Weekends is when he can put in his time to help with children while you take some needed me time.
Your toddler needs to have his/her own bed/room. Your husband needs his sleep. No TV. Sleep with your toddler in their room until you wean. I know this is probably some type of cultural thing having your “toddler” sleep with you and your husband and continue to breastfeed way past 1 year old. My neighbor has 28 mo old who she stills nurses and the toddler co sleeps with her and husband. I don’t get it but it their choice.
I am going to assume dad has days off? I suggest you sleep in a different room and on nights dad does not have to work the next day, he takes the toddler and not only deals with him during the night but the entire next day and night as well if he has 2 days in a row, this will A) let you get some uninterrupted sleep, B.) help dad and toddler bond more and C) show dad how hard it is taking care of a toddler all day when you did not have a good night sleep!
Yes it’s your problem put the kid in her own be and that takes a couple on nights and then u can get back to being husband and wife from the old school and my kids grandkids and great r all finr
really Mom??? your breasts, you need to take care of your Toddler breast feeding…Should have been weaned a long time ago…and why is your child in your bed??? Get to it Mom, put your child in their own bed, wrap your breasts, and let your husband get his rest…
This mother is not telling herself the truth. She isn’t going to have a marriage if she keeps her focus on making excuses for her behavior. She has no respect for her husband and how is she going to feel when this man loses his job when he falls asleep due to her “needs”?
Your child should not be sleeping in your bed; it is very dangerous. A toddler should no longer be waking up during the night. The last feeding/juice, etc. should be before bedtime, but at that age, they should be sleeping through the night. And if your husband is working, then for you to watch TV in your bedroom is keeping him awake, you need to watch TV in another room.
Your child is a toddler and still breast feeding. My doctor had me wean the kids at 10 months. They could hold a sippy cup and felt so grown up. Also after 3 months of nursing your antibodies have done their job.
I’m very sorry if this offends anyone. It’s not meant to. I was a stay at home mom with twins. I didn’t breast feed so I’m sure blame will be cast on me already. But I’m ok with that. Having a 2 lb and a 4 lb baby in hospital for 6 weeks in NICU can explain alot. Anyways. My advice that you can take with a grain of salt is… 2 people made the baby and 2 people raise the baby. If you aren’t willing to help why did you become a parent? Again, let all judge but just because you are at home doesn’t mean you are eating bon bons. Keeping up with household chores etc used to be shared before kids and because your home is now expected totally of you plus a child… its alot. I’ve done it. I loved every minute of it. But to ask one person to do a job that was meant to be a family job is a bit much for anyone. Switch places for one day. See if he can cut grass, feed child, go grocery, shopping, cook 3 meals a day, have no dust or laundry piled up. Everything hung and folded and still have your spouse come home and say. You did nothing all day. Your life is so easy. That just might make you change your mind!!!