Your first mistake is letting your child sleep in bed with you!
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No family bed / no nursing a toddler in the middle of the night / never did either. Read “baby wise “- it address self soothing from day one and scheduling feedings.
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My ex was a hands in dad when my kids were babies he helped in every aspect the one thing I did do was when the kids were up in the middle of the night I’d go in the living room or in there bedrooms… never let them sleep in our bed. I was a stay at home mom and it was the best time for me my ex would come home and take care of the kids and I’d be able to relax get my hair and nails done whatever I needed! It just a courtesy to leave the room while he’s sleeping to go to work in the morning! That’s what worked for us…
No. Take the kid to the other room. You can take a nap during the day with the kid. He’s out there working to provide for your family and he cannot take a nap. I did it with 2 kids WHILE working from home.
Get your toddler out of your bed! Or you will have an 8 year old in your before you know it! (And more trouble than you know). You and dad need your privacy. YOUR alone time as a couple. In his own room, your son will get used to waking and going back to sleep. He’s two. Don’t go fROM breast to bottle…have a sippy with water . its healthier.
When we weaned our youngest, he was 16 months old and we were all co-sleeping. (We were both working and I pumped when on break at work.) I slept in another room alone for one week to accomplish the nighttime weaning. In your case, could this be done when hubby is on vacation from work for a week? It takes a village to raise a child, and certainly two parents must work together to meet developmental goals like weaning. You need his help! 
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Your first mistake was letting your child sleep with you, you will probably have a harder time getting him out if your bed then you will weaning him. When you and your husband decided to have a child it was a commitment of 2 and each should be equally involved, his job ends when he clocks out a stay at home mom’s job never ends, you need your rest just as much as he does" you don’t get to leave your work at the office. He enjoyed the process of making your child, now he needs to put that much energy into helping you raise him. Your sleep is just as important has his, maybe more so.
After 1 yrs old, your child should not be on your boob. Give him a sippy cup of regular milk or water. Are you going to be like that movie “Grown Ups”. Lol. And your baby should be in his own room. Put a twin size bed in there for yourself if he wakes up. They won’t be able to acquire independence if they stay sleeping with the parents. Just my opinion.
I think the tv thing is a bad habit to start. Something else you’ll have to “wean” your child from, as well as the co sleeping.
Child needs his/her own bed, own room. I’d give mine a sippy cup of warm rice milk to get back to sleep (teeth are fine, never had a cavity). Let hubby sleep so he can work. I’d grab a nap with the babies (I had twins) when they napped during the day. Not ideal, but better than nothing.
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I would advise:
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If the baby is at least 5 months old, at bedtime give them a couple of ounces of rice cereal(very thin)
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During the day give your baby soppy cups or a bottle,
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If the baby wakes up at night ( they may not after the cereal) let them nurse. Trust me, the combination of cup/bottle during the day and the cereal before bed will dry up your milk a little at a time and soon they will be weaned.
I guess I’m a little outdated but if your husband needs sleep to be able to work, You should take the child out of the bedroom when he wakes at night. On days that he doesn’t work he can get up with the child and give you some rest. It would be good for the child to have his own room so you could stay in his room when he gets up at night. It’s hard when they are young but we’ve all been there.
All I can tell you is my experience. My son couldn’t be breastfed but did co-sleep with us and was not the greatest sleeper. My husband worked full time and I stayed home with our son as well, but my husband always got up with our son when he woke in the middle of the night. He loved taking care of him and always handled the nighttime issues.
My brother and sister long share caring for the children he works full time and she stays at home but he knows that it takes to to raise a child
I think it’s time to start weaning the baby from sleeping with you. If the baby was in his/her own room with a monitor in yours you can at least hear him/her when they wake up it will be hard at first but baby will adjust and mom and dad should get a better sleep. Both parents can take turns getting up to give baby a bottle or sippy cup.
Surely he can get in the spare room … co sleeping is not great… you are tired busy all day but so is he … its so not easy at all weve all been there … chin up and hugs
Try to get the little one into their own room and bed. The bed can be big enough for you and the child to sleep in and you can choose to stay with them the whole night,the rest of the night after they fall back to sleep, or just until they fall asleep at first. The light from TV’s and electronic devices can actually keep people (adults and children)awake longer/more often. Try keeping the lights off and playing quiet classical music, relaxation music, white noise type music such as ocean waves, tropical rain forest, nature sounds. Dad can always help on nights when he doesn’t work or maybe once a might if the child is waking multiple times. Ultimately, it will be whatever works best for you and whatever you are most comfortable with. You know your child and family best. Good luck and live that little one to pieces! They grow up way too fast!
Dads need to help too!! It is not only the moms that need to take care of the baby. Also, time for baby to get their own bed and possibly their own room. Being a stay at home parent is not easy as it seems. If he doesn’t like the wake up call maybe he should sleep in the living room
Why in the hell is that baby sleeping in your bed?? Babies should be in their own bed. Get the kid in a crib in it’s own room. Parents roll over their babies all the time. You’re lucky you haven’t smothered that child. This is child neglect.
Im a stay at home mom too an it is also a full time job loke i tell my husband he gets breaks at work where he can sit in peace when i dont have that luxery. I think when a man helps making a baby he should also help with baby. Cause as a mom we loose alot of aleep too during feeding our job is 24/hours a day so i dont feel sorry for a man thats qorks 8 or 9 hours a day . jist my opinion
I would say it depends on how dangerous his job is, like driving a commercial vehicle all day requires sleep for concentration. Or a mechanic job, or dangerous testing. If he can limp by at work while being drowsy he should help with the weaning a couple night of the week, especially days off.
Try setting a room up for your child. You can always sleep in there with him, when he is asleep you can go to your own bed. Yes, little one may end up in your room if he wakes up. Have a water cup handy and get back to his room, and no t.v.
I would have been considerate of the idea this man needs his sleep to go to work!!! The other room would be the better option since you stay home you can nap later.
First of all the child should not be sleeping with you. He or she should be in thier own bed or crib. The baby needs to know how to sooth themselves! And unless it’s the weekend your husband needs to get his sleep for work. He should take over on the weekend so you can have a break. But first things first that child goes into thier own bedroom / bef
You as the mom need to take care of this. That is the point of having the luxury to stay home and not work.
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When our children were young my husband and I agreed that since he goes to bed later than I do, he would take the midnight feeding. I would take the after midnight feedings. That worked well for us. I would go to bed at 8pm (after the baby went down) and got a good solid 5-7 hour sleep. Before then, I was so exhausted from waking up during the night, I found myself nodding off during the day and with a toddler and newborn that was “no Bueno”. I stayed home for 12 years with my kids. I finally told my husband “if I was our babysitter, I’d fire myself” I was just exhausted! So we did the midnight/after midnight thing and it really worked well. Good luck! My 2 are adults now. You do have a job, being home with the kids is a FULL TIME job!
I’m not a fan of co sleeping with a baby. Also since your husband is the breadwinner maybe the night shift should be yours . In the evening she could do things to help you. Cook, play with the baby, let you have some time for you. Whatever night he doesn’t have work in the morning it’s his turn to be up with the little one. Just my opinion. Not everyone thinks alike.
Time to also wean the child to his own bed in his own room. Everyone will eventually sleep better.
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I didn’t work and my husband worked some long hot hours so I just took control and handle it then he helped with all the rest and weekend was great but my mom raised me to do the most when they got in school I went to work drove school bus 33 years loved it . But everyone does things a different way this was just mine . Hope it works out
When I had my children I was told to make sure the baby had his own room. Never take baby to bed with you. When it’s bedtime he should be put down in his room. He will sleep better and know this is his space.
I know time changes but I did exactly that with both of my babies and they are 13 years apart. They liked their space
Your husband has to answer to his boss at work and needs to get rest. I was a stay at home mom and I took care of the kids during the night so my husband could sleep. It doesn’t matter if your job is half done, but your husband will get fired.
I would communicate more, first, before anything. I don’t see the breastfeeding and weaning the toddler off to be the issue. There is a different problem here and that is between you and your husband not being able to communicate. You wouldn’t be coming here to ask your question, in the first place. Good luck.
Baby needs his own bed and room. Yes its nice to have hubby help, but if he has to get up for work be considerate. Your at home and can nap when baby naps, he cant. If its a week end then its hubbys turn to let you sleep. And why a sippy cup in bed. I didnt read the whole rant. But that does not make since. A bottle would be easier to handle if you want the child to relax and go back to sleep. Keep the TV off. Why give the child a reason to stay awake. My last thought is when does mom and dad get their time. Get the kid out of your bed. You might find out your both happier
My first son would not wean and I was going nuts and giving in. Dad worked 12 hour nights every day, no real days off. He finally took two personal days, sent me to his moms and he stayed with the child for the full time. Problem was solved that first 2 days/nights. I was fully rested, the child was sleeping without waking up wanting to feed and Dad had a much better understanding of what my days were like. It was extremely helpful when the next two came along because he understood and often took the night shift with the next kids.
Forget the co sleep. Easier to wean if in own bed. I don’t know what’s happened over the years but people don’t seem to deal well with children today.
If on own won’t smell that breast milk. Just like learning to sleep all night they learn and snippy cup is great. However as husband already doing so much by your own admission I don’t think he will be open to getting up and do it.
All you have to do is put the child in his own bed shouldn’t be sleeping with you two anyway he probably would sleep the whole night
Let the man sleep! How hard is it? I have been a working mom and now a stay at home mom. I can assure you that my job outside the home was 10 times harder than being a stay at home mom. I have the freedom to just go to sleep when I choose now. I didn’t have that freedom when I worked and neither does a father who is the sole provider. If my kids needs something now, I am the one who gets up with them. I let my husband sleep because he has to work the next day. When we both worked, we took turns getting up with them. Why is it so hard for people to understand that a man providing for his family IS PART OF BEING A DAD! He is doing his part by making sure they have food and a home. He can have kid time after work hours and not during his sleep.
This is your job.You are blessed to be supported by your husband.He also helps out .Most women don,t have it as good as you.You are truly blessed.
I respect your decision to co-sleep, but I think all of you would sleep better, if your toddler was sleeping in his own bed. Plus, it would give you and your husband private time. Then you and your husband should take turns getting up during the night to see to your son. Once he has had something to drink, he should be tucked back in and get a hug and kiss. Then you should go back to your bed. If he gets out of bed, immediately take him right back and say it’s bedtime. Eventually, he should sleep through the night without having anything to drink. Whatever you decide to do, good luck.
You are not the only latent and he’s being really disrespectful to you by even saying anything. It’s been proven that being a stay at home parent is equal to 2.5 hours. I would recommend moving your child to their own room if possible to keep any issues down
Put baby in their own bed. Even breast fed baby’s should not wake in middle of night to be fed after a few months old. You are making it harder than it has to be. Let the child self sooth .
First of all your child should not be sleeping with you. The child should be in their own room. If you want to wean then do a complete job, put the child in its own room and wean. When he/she wakes up during the night then you can go to the other bedroom and settles the child back down. I dont blame him for getting mad, he is working, he helps out when he comes home as well as on weekends, he should get a good night sleep before going to work
I was a stay at home mom and my husband worked a lot of hours, he needed his rest and because I was ho.e I was able to rest. However he should be supportive of you too.
Having your child in your bed is probably not a good idea as at some time they need their own space and you and your husband need privacy. I am not trying to say I know your situation just my thoughts on how it was for me. I hope you can both work it our for the good of your child and each other.
You might find your toddler would sleep more soundly out of your bed. My daughter breast fed her son and when she weaned him she bought him a toddler bed. She said the first week to ten days were rough, but now he knows, he sleeps in his bed, in her room. My youngest was the only one of my 4 kids that slept in my room. He started out sleeping in a toddler bed, then we moved his bed to beside the bedroom door. Once he got use to that, we moved him to his own room. My last trip to visit my daughter, I watched my grandson while my daughter had a girls night. When he got Tired he took me up to my daughters room and climbed into his bed and covered himself up. My daughter was shocked because he never voluntarily went to sleep in his bed without her making her sleep there.
I say the child needs to have their own bed. Love the answer about a bed and TV in the other room
Let me just say that first of all, parenting a toddler is a full time job by itself.
To assume you’re just sitting around all day or sleeping isn’t fair and maybe dad needs to see what goes in to a full week with being a stay at home dad and I bet he would love to just go back to work.
Secondly, I have been a full time worker while being a single mother and juggling it all but it really is the sleep factor. I can’t be productive on 3 hours of sleep per night I would be a zombie. And probably not the best mommy.
However, parenting isn’t just the mommy’s job. It takes a village to raise a child. Perhaps there’s an auntie or grandmother who would take him for a couple nights to help wean? And suggesting a separate bedroom for the toddler upon weaning
So my 7th didn’t self wean and I weaned her by giving a paci and snuggled her up at night. I work part-time and my husband full-time but he used to wake up in the middle of the night and turn on the TV when he can’t sleep and it drove me crazy. (Now he watches his phone and I can’t hear it. And not enough light to wake me up.) So I would not introduce the TV in the middle of the night unless you are willing to go in another room. Or get him a tablet to keep the light level and sound level down as a courtesy.
Who earns the money and supports the family? Moms lucky enough to stay at home have their work too. Perhaps dad can take over the cooking at times and other non-sleep-related duties.
Our kids never slept in our bed. Went from a cradle to a bed with sides, to a bed of their own. What’s up with letting them sleep with you! That will certainly be hard to break! Just saying… Everyone is different!
First of all, there is no need to have a TV in bedroom. I don’t care how low the volume is, the light and changing colors take away darkness of night for sleep. It is rude to disturb dad’s sleep like this. Be happy you can be a SAHM. I didn’t see any mention of a 2nd child. SO, when this child naps, you need to nap, instead of expecting Dad to nap during his lunch break!! You say it’s the best time to get things done. While that may be true, you CHOOSE whether to take a nap or stay busy. What is more important for you? I hope you aren’t choosing to keep up with your followers instead of getting a nap. I will tell you, EVENTUALLY, child will sleep through the night. Dad can help with child in evening & bathe child. I have family whose Dad works and Mom stays home. Dad does NOT get disturbed during the night. Mom breastfed, but doesn’t have TV in bedroom. When Dad gets home from work, he helps with kids. The just-turned- one year old is now drinking from bottle/sippy cup. Dad takes the 3 and 5 yr-olds for walks, takes them hiking, but lets them use grabbers to pick up trash along path, and is on bath duty for all children. Sometimes Mom chooses to go along for walks and hikes. Youngest is in stroller, or back-packed, depending on path. They are awesome parents! They enjoy taking camper out on weekends. The children are very loved and are taken care of very well. Parents chose to give up social media years ago. So I am saying ‘this too shall pass.’ ‘Don’t blink.’ Children grow so fast, even though it might seem to take forever in your struggles. Hat is off to dads who can provide so mom can stay home with little ones, and help with children when home! Hat is off to moms who can stay home to nurture the little ones, give guidance to them, do this virtual schooling, take care of house and daddy. Raising a family is a lot of work!! Good luck!! It will all work out!!
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I only had my daughter in are room , while she was in her bassinet. When she didn’t fit anymore she went to her own room. A toddler is to big to be in your bed😆
If you have a bedroom available for him get him to sleep in his own room. Leave a cup on his bedside table . Slowly decrease his breastfeeding and supplement with another type of milk and food throughout the day. You may have to lay with him in his room for awhile until he gets to sleep but it will help him feel comfortable in his room. Your husband can’t really wean your baby. Only you can.
Turning on the T.V in the middle of the night is never a good idea. That’s like rewarding the child for waking up. Your child should be able to sleep through the night and if not, you should consider a small bottle. Should also stay in their own bed! Try keeping the child up a little later. Do not give in, once you start, the child will be controlling you! And yes, if your hubby works and helps out in other ways then by all means do not disturb his sleep!
I was very lucky my six children all slept through the night after two weeks and in their own bed only time spent in our bed was when they had croup
Sorry mom. I agree that dad needs his sleep. Either get the toddler into his own bed in his own room or you and him can both move to another room and let your husband get a nights sleep.
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Baby needs his or her own bed or you will be dealing with this for years. I did that with my first kid,ended up sleeping with us til she was 8…
Go in the living room or put the child in their own room. You are fortunate to be a stay at home Mom. Not many are these days
No im sorry but if he is working and you are not then i think you should just do it and yes maybe dad could sleep in another room during the week nights so you and the baby dont wake him. Its the worst to have to go to a stressful job after losing sleep. Its the worst for me as a woman mother of 3 who raised my kids alone most of their lives with out their father. Dad can sleep in seperate room on weeknights and you guys can sleep together on weekends with him helping with child at that time. Sorry. Hope this helps
Wow who really gets uninterrupted sleep mystery friend Jesus Christ help them love communication is very important don’t think because you don’t work out of the home you’re job being a wonderful mom has a lot of other things cooking cleaning making sure the baby is safe laundry get a pay check for every thing your doing food for thought
I’m not too sure of what to tell you cause my fiancé works a full 8 hour day and still understands that from time to time, I still need help. Even when our 6 month old was a newborn we were both up. We found out that shifts didn’t work for either of us cause when the other got woken up, we wanted to continue sleeping cause we were so sleep deprived. In the end we just had the attitude of ‘well we may as well both become sleep deprived’ cause we weren’t throwing her on the other one.
Perhaps you were not ready for a child? It’s NOT a mom OR dad thing. It’s a BOTH of you thing! I’ve went to work on less than 2 hours sleep many times. Grow up and accept the gift God’s given you!
First a baby shouldn’t sleep with adults in the same bed, but if you want to do that you need to break that habit before the baby is 3 month old or it will be harder.
You say he’s a toddler. If that’s the case he should be in his own room.
Many times when an old baby/toddler wakes up in the middle of the night it’s not because they’re hungry. It’s because they want attention or comfort.
I had 5 kids, and my husband did middle of the night feedings on the weekend, and also let me sleep in on the weekend and got up with the kids. He was even working 2 jobs with the 1st 3. I did the middle of the night feedings so he could sleep and be well rested for work.
I was blessed my babies all slept through the night by one month old.
When they did wake up I comforted them and offered them water to drink. I know it’s a little different for nursing babies and I had friends who used this tactic when they were trying to wean their babies. Most were eating baby food or table food by then.
When nursing goes on too long it’s being done to comfort mom as much as baby and could cause issues later in life.
This is why co-sleeping is the worst. My daughter had her 3rd child and started letting her “fall asleep” with them Well let’s say she is 3 and will not go in her elm room to fall asleep. Her other 2 14&17 never slept with her. She has to carry her into her room once she is sound enough asleep. She stays asleep ok. But if she don’t fall right to sleep that keeps bother her and her husband awake.
A cup of water and distraction is not going to pacify a hungry baby. Like what everyone else had said, baby needs to be in his room. For one thing, it’s extremely dangerous for baby. You can roll on him in your sleep. This has happened plenty of times. You both can take turns taking care of him at night. But when it’s not his turn he doesn’t have to be disturbed. You need to work out a different system because your way or his way is not working and simply give frustration and resentment.!
First mistake was so-sleeping with your child. Yes you are now parents have a little one to care for, but you are first husband and wife and need to maintain that relationship for a strong bond. You should have the child in it’s own room with a monitoring device. You breast feed great! Have a comfortable chair , feed and put baby back to bed, go back to your room. If the baby needs your care at night so be it, but let your husband sleep during the week as he has to work and do a good job. Remember he answers to a boss and you don’t if your to tired to get something done today it can wait until tomorrow. You might want to put a small TV or radio in the babies room for yourself. You can take a nap when the baby maps and your husband can’t nap at work. He can help you out on the week ends when he isn’t working. You are blessed to be able to stay home with your baby, appreciate it.
put him in his OWN BED, stop nursing, if he has teeth and bites bottle or sip cup
Idk if this is your first child or not… but you are teaching him to get up in the middle of the night to watch TV. Along with water, now you’re setting yourself up with a hard potty training situation. You have to be firm with going back to bed. I’m not against cosleeping but there comes a point where they do need their own bed and area so they get that understanding that it is bed time. Not sure why you think you have to sleep with him by going to the couch with him, he should be sleeping alone. And you just said he smells milk so if he’s not by you, he won’t, problem solved. It’s important for your marriage , child comes second to mom and dad being happy in their marriage and with themselves. If you don’t have a second bedroom, a toddler bed at least in your room can give you that space. Yes that man needs sleep, as a working parent, it’s absolutely tiring to work all day and come home to kids. Sure he should help after work and weekends. I’m unsure why your toddler still wakes up to eat though, generally babies sleep all night well before the age of one… maybe you can get the doctor involved? I feel like this screams your toddler runs your home. I don’t like comparing, I’m unsure if your child has any medical issues but my kids were all sleeping all night by 4mos old and what I’ve heard from other moms and doctors is this was a fairly normal age. Toddlers don’t need food in the middle of the night. So my question is, has yours been pacifying on you in the middle of the night? I think this is a doctor question when we go there.
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I have a few things.
I agree, toddler should have his own bed in his own room.
I think dad should be understanding of the goal, but since you are a stay at home mom, then dad (the bread winner) should be able to get his sleep. If he isn’t well rested, then he could make a mistake at work that costs him his job, and with no other income, that puts everybody in a bad position.
That being said,…
Electronics stimulate the brain. They wake you up. They do not induce sleep. The tablet/tv is only stimulating him and waking him up more. Along with the light and sound to keep everybody awake.
If toddler woke so early, yes, I think you should have gotten out of bed, let dad sleep, and when toddler went back to sleep, then you do too. And it’s likely he would have slept a little longer, meaning you do too. (Hopefully)
I stayed at home even my kid were younger. It’s a hard job.
I feel your pain. We fought about things like this. But, now that my kids are older, I see the importance of Dad and his needs for work to take care of the family.
I’m wondering why a baby sleeps in the bed with his Mom and Dad! If you must have him/her in the same room for the first few months, put that baby in a crib. There are bumpers to protect the baby from hitting it’s head and hurting himself. If there is a room for baby then baby needs to be there, set up a monitor to hear baby if he cries.
he does need his sleep, maybe baby isn’t ready to be taken off the breast but you are ready, let husband sleep go into the other room.
If you expect your husband to work full time and provide for the family you need to compromise and allow him a full nights rest…this helps him to be functional and hopefully. more availability to assist you and your needs when he arrives home. Sacrifice to each other needs is necessary to survive a marriage. Meet in the middle. Go to the other room when he needs rest and express to him your need for his assistance when he is home as a husband and father
Put your child in his own bed. And you all can get some decent sleep. If he is a toddler he could be waking because you and your husband are restless and you could be restless because you have a toddler in your bed.
Don’t let work be his excuse to not parent. My husband only thought about work. He had a family!! I was a stay at home mom. I did all his running around and raised 3 kids basically alone. Now they are grown and gone. He regrets missing games, practices and just spending time with the kids.
Go to bed earlier and leave your bed when child wakes up so your hubby can have a more productive day at work. When he comes home, have him give you time to rest! That’s a compromise for both of you ! Also, why is baby sleeping with you? Baby needs own bed and bedroom! Let him cry a bit and he will learn you are not going to run to him every time! Believe me, I’ve raised 4 children !
Weaning my children from breast feeding was always the fun part, I worked 8-16 hrs a day would breast feed while home, then pump at night so my husband or baby sitter could feed them while I was at work, so weaning them wasn’t that hard to do. If every mother was able to do this while breast feeding, it would relieve them of this kind of undo stress.
First, I would put your child in his own bed. I agree that your husband needs his sleep to be able to work the next day, so talk the him and see if he can look after the child on his days off. You can get a good night sleep. Maybe your husband would agree to get up 1 night of the week. That way you’ll have 3 nights of sleep and he’ll get 4 nights of sleep. It’s not a good idea to let your child sleep with you or you may never get your child to sleep in his own bed, in his own room.
First, your toddler need to sleep in his/her bed, second thats your husband, he work and he need some rest, talk to your husband about sharing responsabilities at home and weaning your baby slowly on breastfeeding is a must!
Does he help you other times when he is home? Yes you need your sleep too but if he goes to work tired and not able to do a good job you risk him loosing your source of income. I would start taking the toddler to his own room to put him to bed develop a bedtime routine. If he gets up in middle of the night go in lay next to him reassure him that he is safe for not engage in alot of conversation as that will stimulate him and he will not want to go back to sleep. A drink of water is good but nothing else. After a week he probably will have adjusted to the new routine and sleep through the night. It may be tough week but be well worth it in the end. Maybe if your husband has vacation time you could encourage him to take it and he could help you with this process.
First of all your child should be sleeping in his own bed in his own room and the problem would be solved, and STOP breastfeeding
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Like you said, you are glad to be a stay at home Mom. So that means you dont pay the Bill’s and they have to be paid! You said husband does everything else you ask of him! Hell I say you’ve got it made. All he ask is give him 8 hours of sleep so that he may go out and earn a living. You both have a role in this relationship. Would you rather he dont get the proper rest he needs and risk a chance of doing something at work a losing his job? Then the staying at home Mom job would be out the question . Now you have to put baby in the hands of strangers. Baby will most definitely be weaned then. Mother just way out your options, because after all this advice you’re getting, only you will have to live with the outcome. So what’s more important…being a stay at home Mom or hubby not getting his rest to help with the baby? That’s out busting his ass to provide for his family? I wish I had a husband that let me stay home, I worked through all 3 of my children
It could be helpful if your toddler slept in his own/her own room. Just a thought.
I feel putting on tv is not conducive for anyone to sleep. Volume low or not light from it would keep me awake. I always let my husband sleep since he had to get up for work. That’s just my take on it.
Your husband should help you with the child that is a blessing to both of you guys ! And as a matter of fact he should help you with everything you need !
Once a baby is 11 pounds his stomach is big enough to hold enough to sleep through the night. Co sleeping is dangerous. If he is waking up it is not from hunger but from habit
First off, tv is not going to lull a child back to sleep. It stimulates the brain more. I would not use that as a tool. Second, your husband is probably not sleeping well having the toddler in bed with you guys. Kids are restless as hell when they sleep.
On the other hand, I was and am a working mom with both of mine. I’ve had to go into work running on less than two hours of sleep. With my second, there was a period of over a week (during a horrible back-to-back double ear infection) where I was getting 2-3 hours a night then still got myself up and to work every dang day. Yeah it sucked, but that’s what you sign up for when you have children. 
y’all need to sit down and communicate with each other, open-minded. Not playing the blame game, not a yelling or arguing match, TALK.
Why is the child in your bed! We have to teach them that they are not our masters and your child should be in his own room. Get a monitor if you have to. Yes, you hubby can help and be included when he comes home or on the weekends, realize that you both decided for you not to work and he should be supported for that. Unless you want to live with your in laws. I had two children in a small 1 bedroom home and was tired, but slept when they did and WORKED a 2nd shift job since we couldn’t make it on one. You can do it. But start disciplining now and teaching your child that he should be in his own room. Firm but loving!
For some reason once the baby is born men are not expected to participate in raising their child. I had this conversation with my husband the other day. I’m almost 6 weeks along and he has already said that he wants to get up sometimes to feed the baby aswell. (Formula) he is gonna help as much as he can because he loves being a dad. Nowadays for some reason when men stay home with their kids it’s called babysitting. Lol. The bar is low. He should not only understand that the baby is gonna wake up and cry he should be happy to help with his child. It’s only a short time of their life anyway. It will get better as they get older. However he does need to be in his own room
I can see both sides of this as a mom and a worker. Hard to do any job when sleep deprived. Even parenting.
He is the breadwinner and you should let him sleep, especially since he helps you out so much. Remember this time in your lives is temporary, so do a little sacrificing right now. Do you have a spare room? If so, if the baby is old enough, put the crib in there with another bed and don’t sleep with the baby. I would skip the water and let the baby have the breast or a bottle. The baby may sleep better with more milk. This is from an 93 year old lady who had 5 little ones, who wishes she was in your shoes! God bless you young people! Have patience!
Kid has teeth eating food, should be in their own bed not yours it appears you started off wrong. All kids always in their bed and weaned.
Best thing is to put the child in his own room. If he drinks from a sippy cup then he should be weaned. Bind your breasts and don’t stimulate them. Any pressure on them like a child being put on the shoulder to burp is stimulation. Your milk will dry up if it isn’t stimulated to keep making it. Good luck.
Time for baby to get out of your bed and into his own room you will sleep better and so will the baby try it, my take a couple of nights , he will get used to it
How do you feel about stopping breastfeeding?? Let it dry up give him the sippy cup and his own bed. He will be fine and so will your marriage.
Your husband is the bread winner, he provides for the family and needs his sleep, sometimes you have to take baby into another room and feed it, just do what you would want him to do if he stayed home andvyou worked
Baby should be in his own bed children should not sleep with parents all would be much happier !
My question Why is the child not in his/ her own bed Then if awake you take care of that child’s need and back to bed Dad helped on this But mom you are creating a bigger problem get the child out of your bed and no I’m not saying all your fault
Your child should not be sleeping with you at this age and I agree with the husband , if the little one wakes up in the middle of the night , take them into another room and comfort them till they fall asleep, you gotta ask yourself , would you like it if your husband woke up and put the tv on cause he couldn’t sleep and woke you up ?
Is a toddler she is talking about. That toddler should already sleep they the night. The husband is the only provider and he deserves to sleep. I’m reading comments of many people that says that child should already sleeps in his own room and no more breastfeeding at night. I agree if that can be done of course.
Never felt it was good for parents and children to sleep together in one bed just because of sleep requirements. See what is happening here. The Father needs sleep for the work and he is upset the Mother just does not understand where he is coming from. She does not see why he cannot understand her side. Well, they are both wrong. A child needs their own bed and room if possible. They sleep better and so do the parents. I do not think it is wise to start a habit of turning on TV and giving drinking water as it is only starting a habit which will be hard to break. Think before you do these things because they will re.member all of it the next day… I do think the Father needs to help but do it at an time when he is away from work. Let him help at dinner time, after dinner or anytime after that. That was when my hubby helped me. Also he helped on Saturdays when I had to do grocery shopping. He would fall asleep though and I would come home with every toy out on the floor and he was sleeping on the sofa. Both were happy though
I am agreeing with most of the people
My two daughters were in my room for the first two months of their lives in a crib
I woke up during the middle of the night feeding and my husband did the last night feeding around 11pm and the 6 am feeding before work
I did not breast feed though
My choice
He loved the bonding with his girls
After they slept thru the night they went into their own room learned to calm themselves and we both had a good nights sleep plus intimacy
It can be worked out if both parties can give a little
expectations are what you make them
I never felt that my daughters were my sole responsibility 24/7 but both of ours
Believe it or not my husband did everything to help
Bathed them
Fed them
Took them out for walks
Dressed them
Played with them
When they got older
He coached lassie league
Scored for their bowling teams
took them to Sunday school
It never ended
You too can work it out
Positivity rules 
PS my girls are now 51 and 55
He was a great dad way before others were
We ‘baby’ our kids these days. Should be on their own, in their own room.