why is the toddler in your bed??
Why is the child in your bed?
I think the child needs his/her own bed …pronto!
And, I agree with your husband!
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Child needs his own room. If dad goes to work to tired to do his job and loses it then what? I understand if your sick for him to get up and help but after work he should be able to come home and play with his child at least an hr before going to bed
Where you going to be when dad loses job or gets hurt from lack of sleep?
Don’t make an idol out of your child.
Take the child to the living room and give him a drink from his cup read him a book with a soft light when he falls back asleep put him in his own bed children should not sleep in their parents bed it’s not safe maybe your husband can help on the weekends but he does need his sleep you can sleep anytime
The baby needs to sleep in their own bed for starters
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You first need to put you toddler into his own bed
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Put your kid in his own bed, three is a perfect age to begin the transition
I was blessed. My toddlers slept all through the night
OMG woman Get that child OUT of your bed!
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Now is the time to put him in his own bed in his own room. ( the toddler, not the dad )
Put the child in his/her own bed and room and you both can sleep.
My stand on this is u didnt have this baby alone and when u need help he should be there
Put the child in his own bed
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Turn baby and housework laundry grocery shopping etc to him for 24hrs then see what he says
Men get 8 hrs…moms get 4 hrs…moms work 24/7. Baby needs own room, learn self soothing
The baby should be sleeping in it’s own bed
Toddler should be in his own bed.
Put child in his own bed.
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My niece is going through the same thing, right now. Prayers for you both .
Put the toddler in their own bed.
Put the kid in his own room now! Problem solved!
Not stepping in that mess! Been there , have my own resentments!
My opinion, put the toddler in his own bed
If you have no help and don’t take care of yourself You cannot take care of anyone else
Put that kid in his own bed n you sleep in yours
Sleep is important for everyone , Maybe nap when the baby does and let your hubby sleep at night . Maybe then he will have more energy to help with things at home.
Also contact LLL ! That organization has expert information on issues like biting and weaning etc.
Child needs his own room
Your child is too young for either of you to get any sleep !!!
Let your kid sleep in a crib in another room .
A suggestion for weening. It worked for me. Each time he wants to nurse, remove one ounce of milk from a bottle and add back that ounce with water. He will stop wanting it the more it becomes water. Give him milk and juice in a sippy cup during the day.
My comment to that is plain and simple. (IF HE WAS MAN ENOUGH TO HELP MAKE A CHILD , THEN HE SHOULD BE MAN ENOUGH TO HELP TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD. POINT BLANK.)
Put the baby in it’s own bed. It’s time
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Your child needs to sleep in his own bed period
First of all get the child out of your bed! Then start working on the rest of your lack of common sense.
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time for his own bed if not his own room
Time to get your child in his/her own room.
Baby should be his own bed!!
Your sleep is no less important than his, your job is no less difficult just because it is unpaid work. My hubby helps out at night whenever he is asked and offers when he isn’t asked. He took the bulk of nighttime wakings to help out when when we were weaning. I can’t imagine a healthy relationship where that wouldn’t happen. It might be that he just doesn’t understand or respect what you do during the day. I would suggest having him take a week off work as soon as possible and be in charge of looking after your little one day and night (expect for any breastfeeding you still want to do) hopefully you’ll get more help when he has walked a mile in your shoes.
The Mother shouldnt have kids.
Co-sleeping, in my opinion is never a good idea!
4 are 5 hours of sleep is all a man needs
Put your child in his own bed and make him stay there. Wean him from the breast during the day by cutting out the breast more and more each day, by either a bottle or sippy cup, depending on his age. I can assure you that one or two nights in his crib, with you nursing in a rocker or chair, your lives will calm down considerably. How old is your child?
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Maybe dad could help on weekends
When I had my youngest, I was single. I went back to work when he was 7 weeks old. Stayed up with him all night and went to work all day. I also took care of his older brother and sister. As a parent, you do what you need to to make sure your kids are taken care of. Parenting requires teamwork when there are two parents. Yes he needs sleep but his child has needs too. I agree that he shouldn’t be in bed with mom and dad. But that habit was already created and can’t be jnstantly changed. But it should be worked on along with weaning. Mom and dad need to work together as a team
Baby should be in a crib in his own room
You could just keep nursing. They will only bite a few times before they realize that when you say ouch they have hurt you. I nursed all five of my children until they were done.
Put the child in their own room.
Sounds like you started bad habits with your child.
I do think he’s being a little bit of an azz but I also agree with him too. I think you should go into other room with the toddler
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First get him in his own room & BED!!
My kids never slept in my bed when they were babies. they did sleep in my room in their cribs till they were between 1-2 years of age then they got the boot to their own rooms. My youngest 2 are 11 and almost 10 and they sometimes kick daddy to the couch to sleep with me but mostly only when they are sick or having a really bad day (11 year old has migraines and issues with mean kids at school). I breast fed all 3 of mine and never made hubby get up at night to help out cause I knew he needed his sleep to go make money.
What about the moms who work outside the home and still have to come home,fix dinner,do laundry,do dishes,go grocery shopping,run kids to school events,etc. Then they fall into bed and with a baby they have to get back up to feed child. Single moms know the demands of caring for child(ren) by their selves. Dad needs to foster their relationship with child by getting up and spending time with them. Weaning may be easy to do if dad helps and gives mom a break. Its not going to be forever.
Always…Always…take that nap!!!
Your child needs to sleep in his own bed. What is going to happen if you have more children? Your husband needs his sleep to be able to perform his job to support you and his child.
For one don’t co sleep with baby. Dangerous
Get that kid in his own bed
I understand your frustrations. Your husband does need his sleep as he is the only provider. It is great he does help you. Your toddler does need his own room when you breastfeed did you leave the room when the baby woke or stay in the room? This is a big change and it will take a little time, it will get noise at times when the baby doesn’t want the cup at night but you. And don’t turn on the TV you will end up putting a tv in the baby’s room. I hope this helps.
I don’t understand why the child is in your bed to begin with
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Put the child in their own room and deal with him there. Let Dad sleep and nap with your child during the day. This phase doesn’t last forever!
All these “daddy” side are ridiculous. It is just as easy for him to grab his pillow and go to a different location to get his whittle nappy out. Geez. It will not go on for long.
You already know the answer, so just do it.
Give your toddler a pacifier or make some bottles and keep in the frig. If he’s already a toddler, he should be able to feed himself!! He should also have his own room or space, not your bed! Your husband is right, he’s bringing home the money to take care of everyone, he needs his sleep! Mom’s learn how to deal with little or no sleep!
Put your kid in his own bed and stop breast feeding! It’s that simple
Any decent husband or baby daddy for that matter should help with everything! But I know MANY don’t! Sad!
Get a shot to dry up breasts. Place child in other room GIve child bottle at bedtime. If child unable to sleep drive him around in car until he falls asleep.
Kid is old enough to stop breastfeeding he’s old enough to sleep in his own bed
if he loses his job, you wont be a stay at home mom anymore. Let the bread winner sleep. Hes already helping as best he can. Would you rather he wrecked on the way to work cause he was too exhausted? Or lost his job for dozing off or something? Did you know that children that are overbabied often grow up to be selfish, winey adults, or incredibly timid? Not responding to rudeness from anyone, fyi.
First co-sleeping I don’t believe in and second seeming from breastfeeding is something a mother should be doing, especially if your stay at home. If your husband is the only one working then you should let him get his rest. Rest when you can, soon enough those nights will end. Its been said that children sleep sounder in their own room and bed.
You need to let your husband sleep!!
Your husband needs his sleep , to do a good job , his help should be employed during hours he isn’t sleeping . I never understood babies in the parents bed .
Co-sleeping is a bad habit to start.
Kids shouldn’t sleep with the parents for this reason alone plus many other reasons.
To old to still be breastfeeding
No he has to work . Try to take a nap with your child during the day. Weaning is hard but it will be over soon.
Ear plugs and a eye mask
I nursed my son till he was 2. We told him that when he had his birthday and became 2 that he couldn’t nurse any longer. Become 2 is becoming a big boy - and it becomes against the law to nurse. He didn’t understand that of course but we followed thru. When I put him to bed the night before his birthday I told him this was the last. He asked for it the next day but I reminded him we were done. He didn’t ask again. … At 6 months at least he shouldn’t be nursing In the middle of the night anyway…
2 things: child should be in own bed, from the beginning, toddler shouldn’t still be breast feeding…
Ummm, that child should be sleeping in his own bedroom. And “co-sleeping”??? These new buzz words are a joke. I don’t recall either of my girls requiring middle of the night feeding when they were toddlers. They were both sleeping through the night by six months in their own rooms and did so from birth. There were plenty of nights they had bad dreams or were frightened by something and they crawled into our bed. My girls loved it and so did we, it was a once in a while special occurrence but it never became a habit. Not only because we wouldn’t have allowed it, but my girls liked their own space in their own beds more than being sardines in ours. Lol. I got snuggle time all day long with my girls and am so grateful and blessed to have been able to stay home with them. But when it was bed time, they slept in their beds and I slept in mine and got plenty of uniterrupted sleep. My ex didn’t think he should have to get up with kids since I stayed at home, but I also wasn’t allowing the kids to dictate the show. Establishing set routines and being consistent allowed it to occur with minimal struggle. Neither parent was taxed, he got needed rest for work and I was not ragged and running on empty and my kids werent unbearable to be around, for me and especially other people. Too many parents allow kids to call the shots and then wonder why no one seems to want to hang out with them and their kids.
Get the child out of YOUR BED! S toddler should already be sleeping all night. That way you both get the sleep you need.
A) never been a fan of bed sharing. EVERYONE needs proper sleep b) your husbamd can be fired for late arrivals, sleeping at his desk, poor judgement, etc. You cant. So if you like food, and being a stay at home mom, suck it up. C) he can relieve you in evening hours where you can take leave to exercise, take a nap or hot bath . Let him settle the baby down at night. D) bottles are still being made, use them. Baby needs to learn to self soothe in his own bed with his own nourishment if he desires. E) time for change.
Stop sleeping with the child
No he should not he not the one with the milk
Hmmmm…I didn’t remember reading a question about co-sleeping in her post. I’m assuming if the child is a toddler the couple has long since had the co-sleeping discussion and made that decision together as parents. I believe the question was should her husband be more supportive during this weaning period. One can see both sides of the issue, and frankly, there are many variables that would form my opinion. What kind of work does Dad do? (Big difference between working construction or sitting behind a desk as an exective, for instance.) How significant/active have you both decided he wants to/will take? There are very involved fathers and very distant fathers. All in all, the comments chastising co-sleeping are irrelevant to the question. Nothing is ever all good or all bad. It’s what they have chosen as parents. Respect that decision and offer opinions on the question at hand maybe?
He sounds like a jerk to me!
Put the child in his own bed
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Don’t over think it ! Let your Hubby sleep. Keep T.V. off less stimulus for all.
That’s the price you all pay for co sleeping.
He should be the one to go sleep elsewhere if he can’t help.
Raising a child takes cooperation from both parents.You give up normalcy until the child is weaned.Its called "PARENTHOOD"not MOMHOOD.
Tv is a bad habit to start,
I say pick your battles on this one …
Dump could’ve got off his ass and done something He cared only for himself
Child should be in his own bed…how do you cuddle or have sex with a child in your bed
What kind of job does he have?
Dad is correct on some things…
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My biggest concern about your husband not getting adequate sleep is if he is working outside the home and has to drive himself to work and back that could be really dangerous for.him and other drivers.
Stop complaining and work it out between you!