Go with ur man it’s fun…
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I’d have a blast going with my bf. Got a little salty when he went without me, but mainly cuz I wasn’t there…
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Go with him see what they do and then tell him you’ll give to him better
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I went with my husband the women paid more attention to me than him he hasn’t been to a strip club since
Leave the poor guy to do his own thing
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It’s the …they can do stuff you can’t? For me.
My husband and I have gone to the strip club together and it wasn’t a big deal for me. But if you told him you aren’t comfortable with it and he still goes that’s right at all.
If you aren’t comfortable with it, that should be enough for him to see that he shouldn’t be going. Now me personally, I don’t care. I used to go with my ex to the strip club all the time. It was fun to me. But everyone is different. And if you have expressed how you feel about it and how much it affects you, he should be eager to stop doing that which hurts you. A man who is truly in love, is willing to make sacrifices. He doesn’t sound like that man to be honest.
Another tidbit of advice, self confidence comes from within. You cannot expect someone else to give you it because if you do, they can just as easily take it away. Find your worth on your own and be your own happiness. No one can take it if it comes from yourself.
Find an all male strip club. Go for a girls night out and go watch other men and see how that makes him feel.
And when you’re in a relationship you dont get “a night to not worry about another person” this man lacks respect for you. Leave
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When people show you who they are, believe them. People get addicted to that sort of thing. Is going there more important then you and the telationship?
Go to a male review and see if he’s ok with that. Bet he won’t be. If he can’t respect your boundaries than kick his ass to the curb.
Never compare yourself to others, we are all beautiful in our own way! but also keep in mind these girls tht are dancing at the clubs r their to make their money not to be with ur man, i would recommend going with him its fun n honestly you can see the environment and different body types tht are at strip clubs, n sometimes tht can help add “excitement” into a relationship not doing anything with then but going together if tht makes sense, but i would talk to him on how his choice of words hurt you and u didn’t appreciate it.
Si te incomoda no vayas y déjalo si te hace sentir menos
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Work on yourself and your body. Look better. Get dolled up and go out by yourself. See how fast he doesn’t notice. 
A real man will respect your wish, if you don’t feel comfortable with him going he would not go.
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Well two can play that game you should go see a male stripper. And talk to him about it and see how he feels
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Your low self esteem is your problem and you should have counseling to work on it. Dont make your low self esteem his problem bc it’s not. His problem is going to strip clubs and I wouldnt like it either, low self esteem or not. I want to say you are not a victim but you’re acting like it. You have every right to demand he stop going. If he can’t stop it would be a deal breaker to me. He needs counseling too and if it were me and he kept going I’d end the relationship.
I wanna know what they can do that you can’t. Dance on a pole? Other than that get your self sexy and give him his own lap dance for free
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Depends on YOUR relationship rules.
Leave. U deserve so much more respect than that!
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It makes me insecure as well cuz I dont have a big butt guys desire but I also don’t mind him going. He can look but he can’t touch lol 
Just go take all the money out of wallet, pour him a drink, and stick your boobs in his face. That way he can be broke, drunk, and see boobs. Of course they can do things we can’t! I’d puke for days if I slung around and upside down on that pole. It doesn’t hurt my feelings. I just think it’s dumb. I have better things to do with my money.
Wouldn’t happen with me that’s just me
Ok so every relationship is different, but for mine, we go together. I buy him a lap dance sometimes, and sometime he buys me one lol…we have fun with it and most strippers will pay more attention to you than your man, and that can be a lot of fun, plus it allows him the imagery of YOU with another chick. And honestly strippers have actually been a huge boost for my own self confidence, especially when they’re more into me than my husband (who I still think is out of me league)
He shouldn’t be going places like that if he’s in a relationship. He should be satisfied just with you. He’s not gonna change so if you don’t have kids with him just let him go for good cause he’s not gonna stop going that’s for sure
My husband use too go years ago before we dated . When we got together he stopped going on his own never had too ask. That’s how it should be
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Listen it don’t matter how you look if he wants to see other women he will! Also if your feeling bad then you need to do something to build your confidence and stop walking around feeling sorry for yourself! I also think your making something out of nothing!
So give him what he needs at home
Sorry pig leave
Coz of what he is saying to you and how he is treating you discussing
But if you really trust someone then you wouldn’t care where they where
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Girl just leave him. Clearly he has no respect for you or your feelings. Like seriously fuck that. Throw his ass to the curb.
But I personally use to go to strip clubs with my bf I was dating at the time and his friends. We all had fun going but he just never cared to go it not his personal cup of tea.but we normally would go cuz his friends wanted to. He never had lap dances or any one one with another stripper. Just have to have boundaries when going to such places is all…
but your dude sounds like a bitch, for saying that to you.
If he can knowingly hurt you like this, then leave. This could just be the tip of the iceberg.
Jesus the projecting insecurities on to your partner has to stop. He can’t determine your self worth or self esteem. YOU HAVE TO DO THAT.
There’s a lot of comments stating to let the man do his thing…
In a relationship there needs to be a level of respect/boundaries. You said how it makes you feel.
Have you gone with him? I enjoy going but I’m Bisexual. I’d love to take my man with me.
We set boundaries and respect them. Try going and see, set boundaries and if he is still disrespectful. It’s done because looking at other women is what he wants to do, and disrespect you as his partner, he doesn’t deserve you and you sure as hell deserve better.
Where are you located? I’ll send a male stripper to helicopter his junk in your face and then we’ll see what he says.
I’m okay if I can go to then again my ex did work at one so id go hangout with him & drink while he was at work
There is no benefit to going in my opinion. But if one must attend such an establishment both parties should be in agreement.
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I love it and the girls will ask if you are shy before doing anything near a woman. So really it depends on how your man reacts. I love them and miss them the most out of the covid times
To each their it isn’t anything to be embarrassed about
Sounds like a dick who can’t spell… i wouldn’t put up with it… or if you want to stay with him still, just go to a male strip club and have fun
My now ex husband went from time to time. My rule, other than obvious keep it in his pants, was no sex when he got home. Horney? Aquaint yourself with Rosey Palm and her 5 sisters.
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My Husband used to strip club once a month with mates, he never really liked it. I didn’t mind. If you have an issue with it your boyfriend shouldn’t be going if he loves you. When he says does things for him that you can’t is very hurtful
It would honestly not be fair to you because how would you know if he was thinking about the one on the pole or are you? I think it would not be a good thing especially if it’s his suggestion.
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That just means he don’t value you and fired not respect you at all! Leave him before it’s too late
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Get rid of the boyfriend. No respect for you or your feelings.
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Go with him, the strippers are not necessarily competition.
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Sounds like you should work on yourself and your self esteem more than in a relationship. You’re low confidence is going to turn every relationship you get into toxic af. The fact that you think a man will never look at other women is unrealistic and if you don’t love yourself, you can’t possibly live anyone else
my question is what could they possibly do that you couldn’t cuz they shouldn’t be doing anything to him but dancing on a pole or around him. never the less I’m not about going out separately so my views are extremely bias
I just wonder if all these women who say they go with their husbands- if the husband would do the same and go with them to a male strip club? Doubt it
I have no issue with it
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With that kind of attitude, you need to decide if your willing to be disrespected and know this will not be the last time he does he does this. You decide if you want to be emotionally abused for the rest of your life or Not!
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My husband and I enjoy going together! We have a rule we don’t go separate. We do go to bars and clubs separate but never a strip club.
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I dont think its a matter of is it ok people in relationship go to strip club. Me personally…idc…ill go with… BUT if its not something you are comfortable with then he needs to respect that…plain and simple.
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This is probably going against others but could you go with him? I had never seen strippers until the pub I worked in did two strip nights one with female one with male. They were actually not particularly sexual and nothing like what I was expecting. Also the guys and gals doing the stripping were just regular confident people …I was very surprised
Run, he already basically says “I don’t care if it upsets you or not”. He’s gonna do what he wants however he wants knowing that you aren’t okay with him doing it. I think if a strip club is something you allow in your relationship then by all means. But I personally don’t see the purpose 
if you’re in a relationship what’s the point of looking at another persons body parts and spending money on them? It’s not love. You know he’s being a pervert when he leaves, come the hell on. There is no respect. He sounds like a player/f*ck boy. He will never stop no matter what you say. You’ll be in this loop of self doubt because of him and you’ll drive yourself mad. Love is actions not words. Remember that.
Let me him go, he’s coming home to you.
Go with him see what it’s about trust me not all strippers are skinny or even pretty I went with my husband once I know what I’m
Telling you hi e it a try
He is a dumb ass if he already knows how bad it makes you feel and he still goes just leave his silly butt if the is how it is now that’ you are justa being boyfriend imagines once you guys get together or married
Sorry but if he can’t respect u then I’d leave cause any man that truly loves u would listen to your feelings but any real man wouldn’t wanna stare at half naked people when they got a good girl at home just my opinion
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That sounds like he has one foot wanting to be with you and the other not. He just wants to go to the strip club for night and not worry about having a girlfriend? I’m not sure what your beliefs are but taking it to God would be best. And deciding if you are willing to put up with that.
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My bf is a co-owner and security/bouncer at a few establishments in our Area, I’ve heard so many nasty stories and seen the things some of these strippers do and it’s disgusting to say the least… but I trust HIM so I don’t need to worry about it… but it definitely comes down to how you feel and can you trust him … and stop doubting yourself, you are a beautiful woman and if he needs to get away and go look at these women then grab your girls and hit up a male strip club and have a blast girl:smiling_imp:
You need to leave now! He said they can do things you can’t… so it sounds to me he has already crossed a line. Your best interest is to leave.
Why don’t you embrace it alittle and go with him 
…sometimes I think the more we try and stop them looking the worse we make it… Nobody likes to feel their former freedoms dissappear or that trust is being questioned… I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and I always point out when I see a hottie… But I’m very open minded and comfortable ish in myself…I’m No stunner but i always hold my own… Perhaps being teased all night will Make him rush home to give you the best time 
When will we learn as women to stop putting ourselves thru unnecessary emotional stress over boyfriends? Who cares if a person says they love you their actions will truly show you. You will always have low self-esteem, self-confidence & “SELF” everything else until you learn how to truly love yourSELF. Validate yourself & stop giving others the honor of validating you for you…because when you do that every relationship you have you will always find yourself hurting.
This is so disrespectful and i couldn’t deal with such hurt inside at all.
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Don’t let anyone disrespect you. If he doesn’t care about how you feel than it’s a big red flag and that “but I love you” is bs. Walk away before things get worse or stay and prepare for a life lesson. Your choice.
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Go with him!!! Turn it into a fun experience! Trust me on this! Give em a dollar and ask them about their shoes! He will fall over off his seat because they won’t give two shits about him!!!
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Doesn’t matter where he gets his appetite, as long as he only eats at home!
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Girl go out with some female friends to a male strip club … enjoy yourself as he is enjoying himself
They can do things like what? Turn him on while climbing a pole? Or walk around naked because they’re confident? I get you were raised that way, but it is obvious he wasn’t hon. Seems like he is going regardless of how you feel. Honestly, you need to take a deep hard look within yourself and make sure this relationship is really what you want. Doesn’t seem like he is gonna stay home when strip clubs are the plan. Is that something you can live with?
If he knows it hurts you in so many ways, he shouldn’t go and I myself think it’s cheating. It6time to let this so called "Boyfriend " go. He has no respect for your feelings on this. Maybe you should find a Male strip club and go as often as he does to his strip club see how he likes that.
I have let my boyfriend go without me but we’re also open to the idea of going together as well , I completely understand the confidence issue but it also depends how often he’s going idk if your open too the idea but it wouldn’t hurt to go with him see how he reacts if he’d want you to go. As far as the disrespect that should have never been a comment that came out of his mouth.
Really depends on the relationship and what the partners are comfortable or not with.
And that’s how my friend of 20 years married found her husband in her car humping the girl at the strip joint
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You’re like that because you let a man define you, sis!
I used to be you.
Now, I don’t really care.
I personally don’t take offense in my man looking at another woman as long as he doesn’t cheat…
If he wants to check them out, let him, you check out other guys as well.
You’re not going there to look at women (I hope).
Looking is one thing, touching and sexual innuendos is another.
Girl im in the same boat my fiance’s mates say lest go strippers just to get under my skin and piss me off my partner knows how I feel about it and wouldn’t go my partner has never been to one as he understands my reasons
Talk to him about it and tell him how it’s really effecting you
He has no respect for you and certainly doesn’t love you.
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It’s really not that deep or serious
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Why should they want to in all honesty??
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I don’t understand why so many women are saying “I go with my husband”. She’s not asking if you think she should go or not. I can imagine she wouldn’t want to anyways and it could hurt her even more to actually see what he sees.
You’re entitled to your feelings and beliefs and no one has the right to tell you differently, for starters.
It clearly isn’t something you’re comfortable with and he should respect that. If he can’t put your feelings before his own pleasures than there’s a problem. I personally would set a boundary. Tell him you’re not okay with it and if he can’t respect that then he’s not for you, sis.
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The night he goes to strip club go see chip and dale dancers or do something you enjoy that he doesn’t. He’s going home to you that’s what matters. If my husband wanted to go to a strip club and have a drink it’s fine with me. As long as he is not drinking and driving he’s fine. Let him have his fun too. If it’s every night yes it’s an issue but work on your self esteem. Go buy the sexy dress and night gowns and have fun with them
Only you can change your self confidence. It doesn’t come from outside, and if yours does then it fragile.
If you accuse a person long enough, they’re more susceptible to doing it.
Find something you enjoy and take an evening to do it. It doesn’t have to be a strip club. The movies, dinner with a friend, etc.
Also from a comment you made, I take it that he’s given you the choice to go, but you don’t feel comfortable. So it’s not something he just wants for himself.
Be an adult. Ask him how his night was. Maybe ask him to tell you about a specific person. The talk doesn’t have to be sexual. Show an interest. And stop accusing or even thinking about it.
If you don’t like it and he won’t stop, then leave him.
It’s ok to set boundaries in your relationship that don’t jive well with other people’s relationship. If you set a boundary then you shouldn’t settle for a man who doesn’t respect it. Don’t let other people’s relationship define what you’re willing to live with.
If both parties are not okay with strip clubs then it’s absolutely not okay. He’s being disrespectful to his wife and tearing her down. Obviously she’s not comfortable with it dude so either don’t go or leave the relationship. no I will not debate this so don’t try.
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I think you need to focus on your self and heal your self. Love who you are first and fore most. Also I can tell you have never been to a strip club. Strippers come in all shapes and sizes.
I personally think it depends if he is just going on his own or is he going with mates. If he has mates that he goes with and are allowed to go he might think why you won’t let him go. Or if he has alot of single friends and they can just go and doent want to be left out. If this is the case your over reacting if he is going on his own though I’d be questioning him. Also he seems pretty trust worthy if he is telling you where he is going he could just lie and say they are going to a bar. Wouldn’t that show he wants to be truthfull
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I’ve gone by myself out of a relationship. Cant judge but Id want him to take me too. I have fun at them and love to support women while they work.
Dump him! No respect for you. It’s only gonna get worse!
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Sounds like he wants to be single and do as he pleases. Sounds like your not good enough for him. He has no respect for you.He is not the right one for you. The right now will not hurt you to that degree period.
If he’s still going and he knows your not comfortable leave him you found him you’ll find someone else
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I think the main issue is not about whether he goes or not it’s about the little disregard he has for her feelings. And how he’s just acting like it doesn’t matter how she feels. He shouldn’t want to look at another woman that way. Period.
Anything a person does knowing the other person doesn’t like it is cheating.
Why are you worried about someone who can’t use the correct to, too, and two? Move on, sis 
Jay Breen not us going together
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The phrase you used is " he claims to love me". That to me speaks volumes. You have voiced your concerns. He feels it’s not a big deal, ultimately disregarding your feelings. The he claims to love me statement says to me you dont know if he does or not. And I’m sorry sis, life is way too short to be anything but happy. If that’s how he gets his fulfillment and says they can do stuff you cant… that would be more than enough reason for me to walk away. Never settle, or get comfortable being disrespectful. And the way he dealt with this situation is just that.
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Your relationship is yours. Never been an issue in my house. It’s not an issue for either of us. So therefore it’s not an issue. Only you can decide what you will and won’t tolerate. Advise is always helpful to see other points of view but only your point of view will matter in the end.
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So, I usually say it depends on the relationship. But his response is pretty selfish. Even if he wants to go, a man who knows it makes his wife uncomfortable wouldn’t cross those boundaries. And a husband who loves his wife will accept that strips clubs are simply a no no in his relationship. He shouldn’t be so pressed about it that it would cause a fight. He should just accept it. All men like strips clubs. There are men who accept that it’s not for them and others who are pressed to go regardless and it seems like he can’t accept that it’s not for him. This is a big red flag that he doesn’t think you are enough… and I think it’s time to reevaluate your relationship.
Honestly my husband would never do anything that he knows would hurt me. But even though I’m heavy set and what you would consider not your every day attractive woman, I still wouldn’t stop him if he wanted to go because I trust him and he comes home to me. They’re just bodies and they don’t stay that way forever. I’m in no way down on myself though because you take me as I am or leave, it’s that simple. If he is willing to hurt you in any way I’d say he doesn’t truly care about you. Heck I would go with my hubby and he would have no issue with that. I truly enjoy women’s bodies myself because I wish I looked like that but it isn’t in the cards for me. Easier said than done but know your worth. I would just say oh OK cool while you go with your friends I’ll go with mine to a male strip club. See if he cares then?
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Hell no. For sure he’s out the door
It doesn’t matter what they can, your feelings and self love matters. If he cant see that and respect you enough to make your feelings feel at least valid then he’s not listening and he doesn’t have you or your best interest at heart. I’d say dump his ass and work on you and your self love. The come back is so much stronger than the night of tears he’d cause you.