The disrespect. Get. Out.
For one even if you are the most beautiful woman in the world you still will not be the only beautiful woman in the world to restrict your man from looking at other women no matter where when or how is not going to prevent cheating if he wants to cheat
It is not your man’s job to make sure you have a healthy self-esteem that is your job his job is to make you feel secure but he cannot make you feel secure if you are already so enormously insecure that’s not how that works
Unless your man is rich nine times out of 10 those strippers don’t want him
Work on whatever it is that has you feeling insecure
In my opinion we are all human. We see other people and have thoughts on some without actually carrying through on a thought. A strip club isn’t much different. If someone wants to cheat, there isn’t one damn thing you can do to stop it. He also can’t make you feel beautiful by not going either. Only you can make you feel it so that’s on you, not him. In the end, as long as he comes home to me and his member is only being touched by me then so what I don’t care. I am beautiful with or without him and if he wants to look then so be it. He would even if I didn’t approve anyways.
I feel strip clubs are meant for single men wanting lap dances and horny men that cant get a woman…lol
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Look a strip club been in with my husband just wanted see what the oolala was all about. All girls do is dance. Guys can’t touch them. They get them hot horney for you. That’s it . Unless yr a movie star I say go with him. Hell get a lap
Dance yr self telling ya male dancers go further then females
Yr worked up over nothing stripper is fantasy end of the night yr who he is going home to
Whatever you’re not comfortable with you’re not comfortable with. From there it’s your choice to accept him wanting to go or not. If he still wants to go and will do so then you need to choose to leave or not. End of it. Find someone who respects what makes you comfortable, or accept his reasonings as to why he feels it’s ok and allow him to go. You cant force him to not go, and if he doesnt care about how you feel well. There’s your sign.
Tell him to hit bricks.
He ain’t worth this pain you feel. And obviously not the one for you.
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Bet if you were to do and say all those things too he would be the hurt one.
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Time to said good buy Felicia
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Fully naked, not half naked!
Get rid of him if he can’t respect your feelings!
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A strip club is a just a strip club. I go worth my man all the time. Nothing wrong with it. Just because u have self steem issues u shouldn’t make him feel bad. That’s selfish
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I go with my husband but best be damn sure he’s never said anything like “they can do things you can’t” cause I would take that shit as a challenge… That he’d lose
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Simple. Go to a male strip club and tell him they can do things he cant. Play it right back and see how he feels about it.
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I agree with you girl. Its not selfish. Im hard on myself too. And i wouldnt like it either. But my husband said he doesnt see the point of strip clubs. If it makes you uncomfortable that should be the end of it. I understand the being uncomfortable with your body.
A vibrator can do a bunch of shit he can’t do either, so tell him to kick rocks and buy you a rabbit
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Your relationship is yours, no one can tell you what to do or how to handle it! Everyone has their own opinion about strip clubs! I honestly feel if someone loves you and has respect for you, then it would not be a hard decision for them to say okay if you don’t like something and it makes you feel uncomfortable and causes you to feel like your not good enough then they would respect your feelings towards the situation! It’s not being selfish to ask your partner to not go to a strip club because of how it makes you feel! My boyfriend and I have had the conversation of about strip clubs, he knows I don’t care for them and if someone need to go their to fill some type of fantasy after you tell them how it makes you feel then honestly they don’t care about respecting you! A relationship is built on respect and love!
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I don’t see anything wrong with it. my ex went to strip clubs every now and then, with his friends. I would ask him about and he would tell how it went etc etc. he never paid for a lap dance and he only spent 20$. it wasn’t a big deal for me. it would have become a problem if he started going all the time. Now, that would have been a different outcome.
Maybe you should go see the men?
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No, they shouldn’t go at all…lol
“A night not to worry about another person” take a good look at that big red flag waving in your face 
You have different wants and needs, do both of you a favor and find people that share your views. No hard feelings and you’ll save yourself from the pain you’re about to endure
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I’m the same way. With strip clubs and porn. You are not alone. If he feels this way then you deserve better. You deserve someone who will put your feelings first. You don’t make the one you love uncomfortable just because you want “a night to enjoy by himself without worrying about another person”. Single people do this. Poly couples do this. But not a relationship where it’s 2 individuals
He’s a loser has no respect for you. Move on.
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No, it puts the image of another women in your mans head.
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If it makes you uncomfortable, he should listen and not do it. Idk if this is just me but I would go with my boyfriend 
Several ways to handle it… 1-go to a male strip club let him see how it feels( he wont, i have tried it) 2-dump him. ( you will still be hurt, but he cant hurt u further) 3-go with him, see what excites him that they do so u can do it. I was lucky enough to find a man that says i do it all for him. So maybe 3 will work… but you still risk the chance he will still go which in case u will find out if it cause u cant do what they can… or hes just not satisfied enough with you only which in case u would take option 2.
Load your butt up, get some ones and go with him!!! 
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Disrespect and degrading you and your body is not love. Treat yourself better and find someone else who will love you too. Man who makes excuses to cheat is a dog.
If ur not secure enough in ur relationship to let him go then its prolly not a relationship you should be in just looking at someone else is not cheating … if ur in a relationship with someone who makes you feel beautiful and loved it shouldnt be an issue but secondly if he does not respect your feelings hes doesnt love you and still not a relationship you should be in.
if you have trust who cares?? I get the self esteem issues … just remember he chose you. To me a Strip club is no different then a man having a crush on a celeb showing Tits in a movie! If trust is there then you are fine!
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If my man was to say its because “they can do things you can’t” he would be out!! No point girl have some self respect!! I think what you should do is leave him, spent some time with yourself try and accept who you are, treat yourself and find yourself a man who will love you for who you are! Remember you are enough and you are beautiful!!! Wish you only the best! 
Get over ur self and learn to move on from ur past if u have that many issues with ur self maybe u should brake up with him and work on ur self before getting into a relationship and making someone fill like crap because u have low self esteem
Gather ya girls and make it a night out make yourself feel and look a million dollars girl go strip clubs and where ever the night takes you 
no point staying home worry about his ass
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Get out now. That’s horrible. I would kill my man if he said or did any of it
Well said Steph!! That’s my girl
I felt same way as u but I went to strip club. The ladies were all over me more then they were on him. I actually watched and learned how to dance and be like that. It did help. Never been back. U should go check it out. U may learn something from it.
I think you people should be more concerned with your grammar than a stupid strip club.
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I feel if any woman thinks her man dont check other women out or guys who think their chick don’t check other guys out are clueless and in denial.
We as humans are not biologically made to be monogamous, we are made to find a mate and breed…and continue, not with the same as before. Simply put we are bred to breed.
With that being said. Even if you are in love. Even if you are loyal. That does not mean you are not attracted to others.
No I dont like knowing my man finds someone else hot. No I don’t like the thought of my man thinking of another woman. But guess what…we women find others hot…we women find ourselves thinking of a different man. Still loyal. Still in love.
ITS HUMAN NATURE!!!
All it comes down to is communication. Trust. Honesty. Let your side be known and understood and make an effort to listen and understand. Learn to compromise, learn to work together, learn to make the best out of the little things.
I aint no expert at all. Guess what I’m trying to say is no matter the situation…no matter the relationship…EVERYONE LOOKS AT WHAT ATTRACTS THEM and there isent a fucking thing wrong with it.
You two aren’t a good match.
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Never liked them .
But I do love the female body as long as she has a head with a common decency
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When i read the comments and i look at the profile pictures of the people agreeing with the boyfriend then their comments are understandable.
Take it from where it comes.
So you’re saying that you don’t look at other men and think that they’re sexy ?!? If not I’m calling bull$hit !! I literally will send my sister videos of other men and her husband knows we do it back and forth !! She maybe married but she’s not dead !! One can look at the menu as long as they don’t order from it !! 
Say goodbye to him. If he can’t get it. And he said he wants a night where he doesnt have to worry about someone else… he isnt ready to be in a relationship
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I would turn it around - ask him if he’d be ok if u went to a dick fest and enjoyed it because it was not him… Dnt think he’ll like that very much
Go to a male strip club, say you wanna see a big one for a change 
But for real, that’s shitty of him to say that to you.
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You shouldn’t feel insecure. Most strippers have fake breasts, ass, u have lip fillers n etc. There nails r fake some of them their hair as well. I went once with my ex n we had a great time. Yea he shouldn’t have said those things but not all of them r natural anyways
Go with him. Go enjoy yourself some titties, get your self a lap dance. Let him watch. No lap dances for him. Just you. Might just fire up some fun bedroom stuff for you two.
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1stly. It should not be a question. If he had any respect for you he would honor your wishes. 2ndly strip clubs are not as tragic as you think. Maybe he wasn’t going to look at women but hang with his friends. Plus side women. People who truly love each other don’t dictate what they can and cannot do. There has to be an understanding of respect the allows you to trust each other and not make rules of cans and cannot.
My husband won’t go but I tell my hubby to go all the time lol
We have a healthy marriage it took me a long time to be secure in a relationship, I’ve been in abusive relationships in the past that made me dislike how I look.
But I look at it as I can’t hold what someone else did to me or made me feel against him, just like I don’t want what someone did to him in the past to be held against me.
With that being said if I wasn’t comfortable if he did go to them he wouldn’t go out of respect for me.
I’ve danced and have dancer friends, the majority are not after your man, they do their job and go home just like anyone else ( just like any occupation there are good and bad people ).
Imo There are women and men all over, some who wear less in public, and social media than dancers do, you can’t prevent them from looking at other people and honestly not letting them go doesn’t guarantee they won’t cheat, people who never go to strip clubs cheat all the time.
But saying " they can do things you can’t " is wrong, on every level.
That is an entirely different issue than going to a strip club.
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It sounds like you need to work on yourself. Learn to love yourself unconditionally. If he truly loves you unconditionally he would take your feelings into consideration… He’s not sure he one for you.
Some girls ok with their man going to strip clubs and since you are not then he’s not the one for you. Time to move on!
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He should be wanting to please you! If he can’t do that then you need to get out! My husband would die before he broke my heart like that! You need someone who puts you first! Not his half naked girls! Besides that, it just opens the door for other things to happen! Prayers for you!
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Time to leave him…eventually the right person wont let you feel that way!
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I think it varies from relationship to relationship. If she is okay with her man coming home with stripper sparkles on him …and some woman actually are. Cool to each their own! However if she is uncomfortable with that notion then it’s just a respect thing don’t go.
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Did he use to go before you guys got together and if he did, did you already know this is something he enjoys? 2nd…just because you have your own issues with your appearance and self esteem doesnt mean he looks at you as any less of a woman or it doesnt mean hes not attracted to you. I have bartended and cocktailed in many strip clubs and theres a higher percentage of men who go whos wifes dont know about it then ones that do. If hes open with you about what hes doing and you know where he is thats actually a good thing. Hes not lying to you about his where abouts. You should definitely get yourself into some counseling and try and figure out why your self worth is so low. Dont ever depend on anyone else to make you feel better about yourself but you! Maybe a relationship right now isnt for you until you can figure out why you feel the way you do about yourself. Can you clarify what exactly he meant by “they do stuff you cant.” That part is kinda thrown in there and nothing to follow it up for us to understand and people are just assuming the reasoning?
We all try and justify our own sins and your boyfriend is no different. Jesus said, that if you look at a woman kustfully you have committed adulterated in your heart. So when he says it’s not cheating g, he is wrong unless he wants to call Jesus a liar. Jesus knows that all actions and behaviors start from desires of the heart. Jesus said it is a choice you make in the heart which counts. If his heart is not faithful to you now, the.he will certainly not be faithful in the future. He has a choice to make. You have every right to want a man who not only lives you, but who is in love with you. If he is looking at other women, then he is not in love with you and no amount of compromise on your part will change that. You will only feel worse and worse as you trade bits and pieces of yourself for his sinful lust till you have no self esteem left. I pray God would ope. His eyes, but if not He would give you strength to make good choices for yourself and future. In His name who loves you, Jesus Christ, amen
My ex that way, whu he’s my ex.
My questions is how she gonna be in a relationship if she mentally disturbed by past events ?
Seems to me she need healing wit some therapy before she be in a relationship with anybody.
Focus on her self n let the simp be a free agents that he acts
Every relationship is different, my ex and I went all the time because it was a good atmosphere and good music, even if he went with friends I didnt mind but if you’re not comfortable with it he should respect that
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Just came here to say that 99.99% of strippers don’t want your man they want his $
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To say I love you are just words although it’s nice to hear them from the person you love but it’s the actions of your man that shows his love for you. Clearly by his comments, that he does not want to have to worry about another person doesn’t show love but it also doesn’t show respect. You need to respect and love yourself and leave this unhealthy relationship.
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I lost the ability to pretend that they are not just a con for my money. Also, once, I got a steady girlfriend it got weird.
First u need to love yourself for you qnd who u are and until u embrace yourself u will never be happy
Unfortunately you have a sexual dysfunction 
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I think this isnt a issue about him as much as it is about you… how can you expect someone to love you 100%, if you cant love yourself 100% of the time? Self esteem can be difficult, especially for women, because we are our own wordt critic. But for someone to respect us and give us our place, we need to give ourselves the respect and love we deserve first and foremost. If you cant, your partner cant either and you cant expect them to always givenin to your wants and needs just to make you feel better aboit your lack of self love or confidence.
Go to a male strip club see how he likes it
Why not you go to a strip club where men do the stripping and enjoy yourself and tell your boyfriend they do what he wouldn’t know how to do then dump him.
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That’s going to be different for everyone. Me personally, I don’t care if my husband goes to a strip club. Hell sometimes I even go with him. It all depends on that person’s marriage, beliefs, and how much they trust their spouse.
In a relationship there always has to be bounderies and if you aren’t comfortable with him going he should understand and respect you and not go. Instead he should take uou out and make you feel like a queen and because you strugle with self confidence he should make it his duty to always make complements to you and tell you how gorgeous your body is.
It all comes down to trust. My girlfriend would not mind if I was 100% honest with her. She has told me this numerous times. She also struggles with self confidence and body issues (she’s heavy set), but she feels it’s completely normal and natural to be attracted to other human beings. We playfully joke about our “lists” (famous people we could sleep with with no repurcussions or hard feelings). She openly expresses how attracted to certain people/body types she is, and so do I.
Neither of us would ever actually cheat on each other and we both know that, so it’s all playful banter. Human beings are attracted to other human beings and there is nothing wrong with that, as long as at the end of the day you have that one person you come home to/call/confide in/love/whatever your situation may be. It’s all about trust. If you have a trusting healthy relationship, you have nothing to worry about.
You are worth IT
And if he doesn’t see IT. Huis lose.
Even if you love him, you dont have to accept IT. Its your choice what you want to do
But it also hurts you so badly, and he doesn’t really care about your feelings
You need to care about yourself
You re the most important person in your LIFE, dont make An asshole, who thinks he can go to a stripclub without thinking hoe IT makes you feel
I really wouldnt put energie in that Guy
Go out and enjoy yourself with Friends
U said it yourself…
“why would he do it knowing it makes me hurt…”
Because he is a twat. If ur in a relationship ur a team. If u want to do something that upsets the person u “love” then u probably shouldn’t be!!!
No woman is enough for a man nowadays
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If he really used the spelling for two and four in that context I’d break up with him just on that alone .
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Smh those girls give very private 1 on one dances… If he aint seeing you as his only one…hes not the one…hes toxic say bye…theres plenty of fish in the sea and one who is waiting to kiss the ground u walk on
Are you a polygamist?!
Actions speak louder than four letter words… love is never needing or wanting to look at another woman, ever!!!
Here’s the law of the universe and why it hurts:
Matthew 5:28
“But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
It’s adultery, no better than porn and right up there with murder and homosexuality.
Ask him if he had a daughter would he want her working there and would he go if she did?!
Sick, sick, sick, perverse and unwise is the mind that needs more than what he already has…
Proverbs 27:15-20
15 A continual dripping on a very rainy day
And a contentious woman are alike;
16 Whoever [a]restrains her restrains the wind,
And grasps oil with his right hand.
If you don’t want to go the Christianity route, let’s try scientifically…
What porn does to the brain:
Just to be clear here; it’s not an addiction, that’s the lie. It’s a temptation and a choice!!! Get real… (because the studies and consequences are horrifyingly real.)
Porn is normal. Strip clubs for events like bachelor parties, also okay. But in a relationship… nope. Not okay. Not on a the regular. Unless it’s for an event like a friend’s birthday/bachelor party.
If he wants to go for his birthday or something fine. But not on the regular, not with all of the free porn available. If he is a regular and going alone, there is something deeper here.
Leave him he doesn’t really love u if he’s willing to do this….he’s using u for something
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Seems like a personal issue and lack of self confidence, your insecurities shouldn’t hold your man for a fun night out w his boys. They don’t want want your man they want his $ . Ease up. And don’t be so serious. Go w him and have fun. Take a shot make some friends
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should people in relationships go to strip clubs?
I’ve had partners who were troubled by this and some that weren’t. Maybe attend with him. N see
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What things can they do that you can’t? That doesn’t sound right. And if you’ve talked about it but he continues to do it anyway, I’d reevaluate your relationship.
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Sounds like he would cheat if he got the chance
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Girl, you better get your confidence up. Maybe they can do things you cant because they have the confidence you lack. Love yourself, love your body…and most importantly, your relationships are not your parents.
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What does he mean " They can do things that you can’t "? Is he actually cheating? But I don’t think him wanting strippers is a good omen for the relationship.
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Go with him and you will have fun. Trust me they aren’t what you think. Men love a bigger woman x
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The reality of relationships is Cheating is defined by the people in the relationship. If its not ok with one then its not ok for the relationship. Does not matter the reason he should respect your boundaries. If he loved you he would respect your feelings.
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I’d kick him to the curb
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Your self esteem shouldn’t be based on your relationship with any man. Him going to a strip doesn’t harm your self esteem unless you allow it to!!!
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Not sure why those dope headed scam artists appeal to anyone other than a desperate old loser… not to mention the money he probably spends on them… but if he doesn’t respect your opinion then that’s all you need to know.
He should respect you. Period.
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I love a night at the strip club with my other half as long as I’m getting a dance too x
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No offense intended but alot of that sounds like you problems…probably ones you should of worked on before getting involved with someone who then gets punished by them…
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It depends on the relationship. It should be agreed on what the boundaries are for you. I don’t care if he goes. But if you have a problem with it then he should respect you
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Throw the whole man away. Clearly has no respect of your feelings. That’s the true issue here, not the strip clubs but the complete ignorance of your feelings. He sounds like a total a***hole and you deserve better
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If you’re single. Go to all the strip clubs you want. But if you’re in a relationship. No. Why do you need to look at other women? If I’m not enough. There’s the door.
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The fact he’s told you about it must show some level of trust on his part
He could not mention it, or lie and go anyways. You need to start loving yourself and showing that confidence. 
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Strip clubs are fine by me, he comes home to me. Better yet let’s go together 
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Go with him see wht they can do an learn a few things maybe 
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Get rid of him. Problem solved
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You shouldnt be in a relationship until you work on yourself some more. You need to learn to love yourself first and foremost. Now as for him, he is being disrespectful and doesnt care about you or hed respect your feelings. You should let him go and work on yourself before getting into another relationship.
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