We have passcodes but it’s to keep the grandkids off our phones not each other
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If someone you’re married to won’t give you a password it’s because there is something to hide. Idc what anyone says about “you don’t need it”. While I do agree that trust should be there in the first place to NOT go through each others phones, if there is an issue or fight to give up the passcode, it’s because there is something on there they don’t want you to see. As a wife he should respect you enough to give up his code, even just for the peace of mind. The fact he downright says no and locks you out of it means he is doing shifty shit.
He’s hiding something.
I know my partners password just like he knows mine…if u jave nothing to hide why be sketchy and even ask that
I don’t go through my husband phone. I haven’t felt the need. But I can anytime I want to and vice versa. Something is wrong if your partner has something to hide.
If he doesn’t want you to look through his phone hes hiding something… my fiance and I for 5 years never had locks we didn’t know. If there’s nothing there there’s nothing to hide.
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My husband and I have access to each other’s phones but I don’t feel the need to look at it. But he is always welcome to look at mine and I can look at his.
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move on honey… he is hiding something. My husband and I do not have passwords for anything! We are an open book, as marriage should be
My husband would let me have his phone but I have no interest or reason to. 100% trust
We don’t have passwords…and we use each others phone all the time…
Me and my husband’s are the same password. Lol. He has free access to my phone and I to his.
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I have mine as thumbprint but my boyfriend knows the override password so he can get in my phone whenever he wants and he doesn’t have a password on his 
We have the same password.
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He’s something to hide hun, he’s definitely cheating, make him let you see, if not he’s cheating on you… 
I don’t know, I feel differently. I don’t go through his stuff and he doesn’t go through my stuff. Everything else in our lives is out in the open, I don’t see why I have to snoop through his stuff and him through mine. I have conversations on my phone from my friends that are private conversations and I don’t want him to read them. And these are female friends. Sometimes I feel like we need to have our own private things.
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We got passwords because we have nosy kids, but he knows mine and I know his.
I think I’d be kind of disturbed if he said I didn’t “need” to look at his phone.
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I have a password on my phone but he knows it. Nothing to hide here, he’s always welcome to go through anything on my phone as I’m not hiding anything from anyone if I were to ask him to see his phone and he responded in that manner I would probably start to assume the worst just because I haven’t had the best record of exes that deserved trust 
I’m pretty sure my FaceBook is logged into our shared desktop computer and again, it wouldn’t hurt my feelings for him to go through any of it because I’m not hiding anything! If there is not trust then it’s hard to imagine a future!
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No that’s not cool hes hiding shit and you are always gonna have a problem until you leave
We know each others codes
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D I V O R C E should be your password.
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No. I would not tolerate this. You know it is bad
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key words…. you’ve “had issues”. If he isn’t cool with you seeing his phone, and he’s given you reason before——what makes him think he has a right to your trust? Because he truly doesn’t.
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We both have passwords on our phones but we both know each others.
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I had a password (high school teacher), but my husband had my password and a finger print, so he could always access if he felt need. All about trust!!
H E L L N O!!! Throw that whole man in the trash where he belongs!!!
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His password is our kid’s birthday 
mine is our anniversary. It’s just common knowledge among us.
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We both have passwords ( so our kids cant get into trouble, we had an Amazon accident with our daughter when she was 4). We know eachothers passwords. But we dont actually use them often. Mostly I check and make sure his volume is up so he actually wakes up to his alarm 
Marriage is about trust. If you dont have that you dont have anything.
No passwords here. Also, I’ve never looked at his phone. I’ve been with him 22 years. We have a strong trust and bond.
We have the same password but we also have trust and a healthy relationship. The last two are more important than a password.
I know his he knows mine same with Facebook accounts… We’ve been together since 1992. Married since 94. We don’t have anything to hide from one another…
No… we only have passwords to keep kids off of our phones. We know each other’s password.
No passwords on his , I have on mine cuz the kids and banking stuff … but he knows it … after 11 years, that would bother me
No I know my husband he knows mine. What is he hiding. Look under a light sometimes you can see the fingerprints
I have my husband’s password and he has mine but we don’t go through each other’s phone because we trust each other. Your husband not wanting you to go through his phone is a huge red flag 
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We have passwords but we know each others. I dont always let my husband look through my phone unless he really insists. Just because sometimes I talk mad shit to my sister not only about him though lol. I can imagine he does the same
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We have passwords on our phones because we have children but we know each others passwords and we get on each others phones just for fun
My bf and I weren’t even official yet when he put my face on his phone to unlock his screen, so yeah, that’s sketchy
No. If I gotta go thru your phone then I don’t trust you. I give privacy and expect it in return. If he’s doing something I will find out, I don’t need no dang password to a phone to find shit out
I have one on my phone(banking apps make me have something). He does as well i think. But we hand each other our phones and leave them unlocked unattended. Not a whole lot of stir coming from out phones. Neither of us really care if the other one has it or anything. Lol
Yes you should share passwords. If you have nothing to hide then hide nothing.
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I have my fiancés password and he has a fingerprint set on mine… but I’ve never checked his & he’s never checked mine… but we use each other’s phones
Me and my husband have been married for 19 years and we have passwords to everything that each other has. I can ask him at any moment to see his phone and he will hand it over I do the same thing. I feel if you don’t have anything to hide why can’t you let your spouse see the phone
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This is how I see it the both of you should trust each other to why you don’t have to look at each other’s phone but I’d your spouse has a lock on his phone then he has something to hide cause why else would he lock his phone …
Smh okay well you don’t need this phone now. Smash. Next
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We both have access but have never felt the need to snoop because neither have given the other reason to question their loyalty.
After a mistrust or cheating and one partner forgives the one that screwed up has to be 100% open and assuring to make forgivness eaiser.
Any shady behavior will not gain trust.
I have not had reason to check my husband’s phone but I have no doubt he’d let me look at it. We habe pass codes because our toddler often trys to grab our phones now.
My bf says we could trade phones any day if I wanted. I think you should be able to feel good about your SO going thru your phone and vice versa.
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We have passwords but only because not only do we have a 4 year old who likes to mess with things he has a tendency to put his phone in his pocket and not know he’s called people or opened apps lol. We have each others phone passwords and I know all of his pw because he forgets them and if he asked I’d tell him mine. We have almost no secrets (don’t tell him about my amazon spending haha)
Our phones have passcodes bc of banking info but we have each other’s passwords to phones, email, banking, social media, game consoles, etc we don’t keep anything from each other.
Yeah NOT COOL, secretive behavior is absolutely not okay. It’s literally just a way of him telling you that he has stuff to hide. He either needs to let you know the password, take it off, or explain what exactly he is trying to keep you from seeing. Real love doesn’t keep secrets.
My husband i went thru this… Caused issues forever… Made me go as far as hacking into his accounts… Needless to say he was hiding shit, we broke up for awhile… We have since fixed things… Not everything but its work! And we now has eachothers passwords… I dont go thru his shit tho unless i feel i need to.
Nope,10 yrs here. And my husband and I share everything 
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Yep. Had exact same issue. He was cheating. We are just waiting for Judge to sign the divorce papers.
He has something to hide
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I knkw how you feel… My fiance has a password on his phone I don’t know it but he gets pissed if I put a password on my phone(i dont have one) I cant even touch his phone without him snatching it away I cant look at his phone when hes on it cause ge turns away from me or turns the phone off. I have nothing to hide so I don’t care if he goes throw mine… So I’m in the same boat as you and yes in the past 9 years hes cheated plenty of times
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I believe if you have a password on your phone then its a indicator you’re cheating or hiding something or to keep your child off your phone. If its happened once it will happen again. Give him the ultimatum and its eithee you or this phone shit. Trust your gut.
My husband and I know each other’s phone passwords and will hand each other our phones without hesitation if we need to look something up or make a call. Nothing to hide to care. Passwords are only there for other folks and kids
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We have each other’s passwords and there shouldn’t be an issue with it. If he wants to check stuff out he could and I can do the same. If it’s been an issue before then I would really have concerns about what he’s doing that you aren’t allowed to see. That’s the opposite of a partnership and honestly a bit sad. Are you allowed to lock your phone ? Or is it a that only applies to him thing. It’s insane that after 11 years that you can’t use his phone. I don’t know what you found before but if he’s locking you out chances are he’s going right back to whatever it was and he only took care of whatever it was to stop you from harping on him. So whatever upset you didn’t upset him that’s not a positive thing. I would try a real conversation and if that gets you nowhere I personally would wonder about the relationship. 11 years and you don’t need to use his phone. Good luck.
My husband and I have been married 16 years. We have each other’s password on everything. If you have nothing to hide or doing wrong it shouldn’t be an issue. Good luck. 
That’s a hell nope from me. After I found things (and found out about things thanks to what I found), part of the agreement to me taking him back was that I would always have 100% access to everything. Every password. Every social media. Etc. he gets zero privacy. He did it to himself.
OK I don’t ever need to go through my significant other’s phone… but that to me that’s a huge red flag I never have any passwords on my phone that they don’t know the answer to because there’s nothing to hide on my phone.
Like i want them to shamelessly use my phone and visa versa?
Yeah my husband and I know each other’s passwords.
Hell me and my husband have passwords on are phone cause the kids but he knows mine and i know his
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I have a lock on my phone but if my bf needs to use my phone for something, he can. He never remembers my passcode but I have no problem telling him it. In fact at this point I’m like, “how many times do I have to tell you this before you remember it?!” 
The fact that your partner is so offended by the idea of you touching their phone tells me that they’ve got something to hide. If you have to hide shit from your partner like that, then maybe just don’t be in a relationship. 
The only reason I see to lock a pho e would be kids or trying to keep something hidden.
Girl, he cheating. I understand that it’s crazy to go through your significant others phone but we still know each others passwords. Shoot we know each other’s passwords to everything and have only been together for almost two years. Shoot, I even know his social😂 He ain’t hiding nothing, but your man is.
Ummm… No. Why he need a pass code if he ain’t hiding shit.
My spouse and I use each other’s phones and if there’s ever been a password on one of them, the other person is told what the password is the moment it’s set up. We’ve both been used and cheated on plenty in the past so we take that stuff seriously and I would absolutely not be okay with the situation you described… I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that. 
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I would turn the tables. Start acting secretive… for fun.
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We have always had passwords and know them cause the kids but he’s never told me no to borrow his phone for a second mostly a quick pic I want he goes on mine to ! I never “snoop” but he never hides anything me ether to I have like 1 friend I talk to
Don’t most cell phones now have the option to unlock your phone with your finger print?? Both of ours do. We don’t want our phones to go missing and gone through at work so we want some kind of lock on them. If either of us asked to use the others phone there’s never an issue with that. You have to trust each other. If you don’t then you’re in the wrong relationship. Just straight up ask him…
My SO started out with passwords… and after getting caught a few times being a sneaky pos, we decided no more.
He willingly doesn’t use them anymore despite his love of privacy, knowing full well I can FBI that shit if I get a twitch up my ass. That said now that weve worked past alot if those issues, for my own sanity I dont go thru his phone, it creates more distrust from me even not finding anything and isnt healthy for either of us. I just ask and he knows I’m leaving his dumb ass for good I catch him lieing ever again.
Red flag. Me and my fiance have the same passwords for our phones. We don’t hide anything also we know each other Facebook passwords too.
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He’s for sure hiding something
My husband and I have the same password for our phones. We used to have each other’s fingerprints stored on our old phones too. The only time we weren’t “allowed” to go through each other’s phones was around birthdays and Christmas. Other than that, it was fair game.
Every relationship is different. My husband and I are very open in our marriage and share almost everything with each other. But others value more privacy. You can’t base yours off of other people’s relationships. Listen to your instincts. If you feel like something is off, then it probably is.
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We both have passwords on our phones but we both know. Each other’s password. We also use each other’s phones when ever needed as we have nothing to hide from each other. Hiding stuff and no trust would be a deal breaker for me.
I’m not gonna say he’s cheating, but without a doubt he’s hiding something(s) you wouldn’t like on his phone. (Porn, talking to someone he doesn’t want you to know about, saying things he doesn’t want you to see) A person WILL NOT hide their phone from someone for no reason.
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Sometimes people just like their privacy but in your case it’s really sketchy that he did it after you found stuff… I’d be questioning it too.
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Come straight out and tell him how you feel, tell him you need to know you can trust him. If he’s not willing to work on your relationship, then be prepared to walk away. Now if you’re not going to leave and settled for an non-honest, untrustworthy relationship then let it go and continue it n with your routine.
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Nope I would never put up with that , you shouldn’t either. He’s hiding something , I know the password to my husbands phone but he’s never given me a reason to feel like I needed to look at it .
If a password is on a device and he is hiding that device from you and not allowing you to see or to use it then he his cheating. Maybe not physically but definitely in other ways.
My husband and I know each other’s passwords as well and we both have full access to each other’s phones, we don’t have anything to hide. We pretty much have passwords because of our 3 year old daughter and her curiosity. I sometimes snoop through his phone if mines dead and his is available because I like to read and he even put a coloring app because I like to color. He usually doesn’t go through mine unless his phone is unavailable, like I said we have nothing to hide from each other, but sounds like he might have something he doesn’t want you to find out… I’d be careful though.
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Mine doesn’t have a password so my baby can play games without locking up my phone and I know his. I look whenever. but I’m pregnant and very insecure rn do he don’t care
We share passwords. We have trust. We don’t snoop on each other.
If you need to go through his phone then there’s already a problem.
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I have friends who won’t openly hand over their phone with their spouses (and I genuinely don’t think they’re cheaters or anything, they just wanna delete the girl talk and gossip first 
), and I have friends who keep it under passcode and never ever let their SO see… but my husband and I grab whichever phone is closest to us and Google whatever, or take it because we gotta run up the road real quick and need to call home from the store… never know which one of us (or our kids) will have our phone so we obviously don’t mind each other going through the others phone. I guess every relationship is different. But I would definitely feel some type of way about my husband telling me NO you can not look in my phone. I’d wonder why.
My partner knew my password, I only have a password incase I lose it or it gets stolen, I don’t agree with checking partners phones, just causes trust issues and unhealthy snooping in my opinion, my partner never tried as we’ve trusted eachother and it never actually crossed our minds, and many times unlocked my phone to read out a message for me, while I’m busy driving, each to their own, but for me personally, it’s never a good thing feeling the need to go through anyone’s phone, if you think they’re up to no good, confront them, if you think they’re hiding something, get couples counselling or leave.
Me and my partner have fingerprint lock on our phones ,we can’t get into each others but if I need to use his phone or him mine we just unlock it and hand it over without question
If he got sketchy about me using his phone though I would have questions
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That’s a no from me. If my phone is dead and I’m bored, my fiancé will hand his phone over to me to play on. I think I use his phone more than he does for calls and answering messages but that’s his choice.
I mean I think it’s a tricky one. You said you’ve found stuff on his phone before so he put a password on it? That’s ridiculous, you just let that go? You must have had suspicions to go through his phone in the first place?
I have a password on my phone, but he knows it - I have nothing to hide but it just means if he needs to use my phone he can - and visa versa
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I have passwords on all my stuff and only my kids know them. If anybody needs to use something of mine all they need to do is ask and I’ll unlock it for them but they don’t need to go through anything of mine. If they can’t trust me then they need to move on because a relationship is nothing without trust. Last time a bf had my phone password he went through my texts and completely misinterpreted one from another girl. He took we need a date as we needed guys to go with us instead of a day and time when we were planning going to the movies with my daughter so that ended passwords being given out
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My husband and I each have pass codes on our phones, but we know eachother’s code. We do this so our kids can’t get on our phones.
Nope me and hubby know each others passwords got nothing to hide:wink:
your man might though.
Me and my husband have the same password. But we don’t really look at each others phones. We’ve never had an issue and trust each other completely. But if we wanted to we could totally look.
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If you have found things on his phone before and he won’t let you look on his phone then there is probably a reason why he don’t want you to see, but I don’t think anybody should have a right to somebody else password.
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Passwords should be shared but not necessary other than for general safety and security. We have the same ones on our phones. We can go through whenever we wanted. We don’t, there’s no need, but we don’t have anything to hide.
Since he did this after you’ve already found things… that’s not a good sign. That’s someone trying to hide imo. He could just be doing it out of annoyance of you catching him before but if he wasn’t doing anything now, there should be no reason for it.
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He won’t give you his password. He’s hiding something. I mean I’ve never felt the need to ask my guy for his but if I wanted to look at or use his phone he wouldn’t care and vice versa
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No! I feel if you need his password and knowing you will find stuff, just let it go. That’s your husband so he shouldn’t give you any reason to feel like he’s up to no good. That’s the problem these days. Ppl accept way too much JUST BECAUSE their married.
There shouldn’t ever be an issue to pick up your SO phone. Ever. Whether its going through it cus your curious and it reassures you that there’s nothing there or just making a phone call or googling something etc… and IF there is a password you should know it. Smh. Sneaky conversations and hiding things is cheating, too.
Yeah. We know every password. But we trust each other & never go through things. Well I Sometimes when bored read his fun group messages. When my phone is dead. But hé Sits Next to me then.