We have each other’s passwords for everything. Not to track each other, just because we’re constantly answering messages for each other when we are busy doing something.
Sorry when your set on looking to find something us ladies can find something out of nothing. A text can be read alot of ways and usually we read it on our emotions at the time. Not all cases but in most.
Me and my hubby now each others passwords for everything, not through lack of trust, neither has ever created or anything. We know them because its useful and just shows trust and respect for each other.
My ex gave me his so I could play Pokémon for him when he was driving. I’ve replied/sent messages for him and done other bits.
Everyone in the house has mine. It’s only strangers getting my phone I worry about.
My husband and I both have locks on our phones. I know his pass code, and he… well, he can’t ever remember mine, but it’s not a secret. I wonder what stuff you found on his phone, though? The gut reaction is to assume you found him lying about other women, but there are unreasonably possessive snoopy partners out there too. If he was being dishonest or unfaithful, why did you accept that and stay? If that’s the case why was being able to check his phone not part of your “relationship contract” moving forward? You dictate how people treat you, not the other way around. There are messed up people out there who will do whatever you allow them to. If you settle for that, that’s on you at some point. Having said that, don’t be snoopy and overpossessive either. In the end, if you don’t truly trust him -regardless of anything else that may have happened to you or in your relationship- you shouldn’t be together. It’s never gonna work. It can go on for 20 years like that, but it’s never gonna work, ya feel?
He is hiding something we don’t have locks
I have a lock code on my phone but its only to keep the grandson from deleting and messing up my phone, husband and my son knows how to unlock my phone. If there’s a lock on my husband’s phone he best be telling me his code or we got some major issues going on.
Our passwords are the same but we have em cuz we have a shit ton of kids and my son likes to buy games with our phones or things on games. Had to put one on the Xbox to cuz he charged 375 to his uncles card 
but we can pick up each other’s phones whenever
Nope. I don’t have his and he doesn’t have nine. We never touch each other’s phone. Why would we? We each have our own phone to use if we need a phone.
He’s hiding something. I went through that. And I ended up Getting into his FB and hear he’s talking to a another Hoe! I felt betrayed!.
Y’all should know each other’s but it wouldn’t be an issue if you’re hiding stuff
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That’s a red flag. We have passwords but only because we have a toddler. We would give them at any time if asked.
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The fact that he put a password after you found something on his phone screams loud and clear he’s doing something he doesn’t want you to see. Had this issue with my husband before we were married. Now we both know all of each other’s passwords. I don’t feel the need to look through anything of his. He’s obviously hiding something. Best of luck to your situation.
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I don’t look through my girls phone. she has a PW & I’m fine with it. If the day comes I have to worry about what she’s doing well why try to change it? her choice & my choice to move on.
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We have passwords, but know each other’s. We have nothing to hide from each other.
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Red flag!! We have passwords because our kids love to mess with our phones.We know each others passwords though.
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Oh. I don’t like that. So we have the “Face ID” on ours…and then a passcode. But we both know the passcodes and have full access at anytime.
Ours is for toddlers too 
and if they are stolen. Ya know?
Tell me your SO is cheating, without telling me your SO is cheating
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I know his and he knows mine. We feel completely comfortable handing over our phone anytime to one another and looking through.
Not being okay with sharing is a huge control issue and a massive red flag.
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I have his, he has mine. I don’t ever use it though. I have no reason to
He is hiding something my husband doesn’t have a passcode on his phone I have one on my phone only because my phone requires me to have one to use my saved passwords on my google account but my husband knows my passcode
Obviously hiding something. Red flag!
My boyfriend used to do this to me all the time and sure enough he was hiding something. He never cheated on me, but he would hide the fact that he was buying and using drugs from me.
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Red flag. Big. Red. Flag.
Have gone through this in the past. In my current relationship we both have full access to the others phone and frequently check messages, respond and answer eachothers phone.
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I know my husbands passcode and he knows mine. We only have them for others. (Nosey co workers… yes I know) I don’t care to snoop but if I did he’d unlock it for me
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Hate to say it but speaking from experience, he’s hiding something.
If he wasn’t hiding anything, he shouldn’t have any problem with you looking at his phone. Even if it’s solely to ease your mind.
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You don’t need to know the password. This is how the conversation should go, “I am feeling insecure and given our history with your phone, if you let me look at your phone, it would make me feel better.” And if they reply no, then you know they don’t care about your feelings. However, phone passwords are private. I trust my husband implicitly. If I was feeling insecure for whatever reason, and I told him how to help me feel better, and he didn’t - then I would have a problem. Not with the phone, but with his inability to try and comfort me with a simple act.
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Yes that’s a big no , I get on my hubby phone and he gets on mine whenever, big red flag for you
We have finger prints incase phones get stolen. Both our phones have both our finger prints.
Nothing should be secrective in a relationship.
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Me and my husband have passcodes but we both know one another’s. And can go through each other’s phone at anytime. However, just because I have it doesn’t mean I use it. It’s about trust. If you need to constantly have the need to be looking through your man’s phone for reassurance you either need to learn to trust and get over your anxiety and insecurities and quit living in the past or leave the relationship entirely… No one should be with someone wondering if your the only one… Any relationship should be based on trust, respect and love. And based on his reaction he is either saying no because you constantly ask or pissed your doubting him. Or is doing exactly what you think he doing 
. Love yourself enough to know when to walk away.
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Yes. Like today he started acting weird and I could tell something was off. I’ve found sexting between him and an ex before but because he never met up with her it’s not supposed to bother me 
. But today he’s on his messages and turns the phone away so I can’t see so of course my radar goes up. I know there’s something there he doesn’t want me to see
Me and my husband each know the others passcode.
We have the same password lol
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Meh… 
he has a password on his and I do on mine. I don’t care to look at his phone. And he doesn’t with mine. I’ve found things on his phone years ago… I would rather not put myself through that again, so I don’t ask. LOL.
Can’t trust a hoe. Ever.
My daughter done that hers was checking online left with the woman left her with 4 babies!!! No passwords on phones!!
My husband knows mine and i know his. Sounds like he is hiding something.
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That sounds like some serious trust issues there on both sides. My husband and I both have passwords and both know each others. The passwords are not there to prevent my spouse from accessing it. We have nothing to hide from each other. There will be times I will say don’t look at the bank account yet because I bought him a gift I don’t want him to know where it came from or how much it was, but if we needed to grab the othwr person’s phone to look something up, check doordash, get a phone number, etc etc there isn’t any concern of seeing texts or photos that shouldn’t be there. I suggest couples counseling or a very serious conversation about where they stand.
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I know my fiances and he knows mind. Hell his fingerprint is in my phone if he doesnt feel like typing in my code.
I haven’t been in that situation. In fact, I know ALL of his passwords and still NEVER check his phone, his email or even his Facebook. Nor his bank account … etc etc.
There’s no need for that… and the reason I know all his info is because he usually forgets 
so he always needs my help …
I’m not worried at all if he is hiding something, he knows what he is doing and if he does something wrong, that’s on him. Not me.
He also knows some of my passwords, like my phone’s for example but again, he never touches my phone … or Facebook or Instagram. Nothing.
If he decides to have some kind of affair, he will do it no MATTER WHAT… so, why worry???
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Huge red flag! Our passwords our are kids bdays. He answers my phone if it rings (usually my parents or kids) and vise Versa
We both have passwords on our phones! But we both know each other’s!! I used to go through his phone but i don’t anymore! If he hides his phone or carries it around with him everywhere then I would be worried!
Im kinda oposite… Dont need anyone clicking things they dont need to… Or opening viruses… We got our own phones that are the same… If any thing he gives me his phone nd i gotta spend time deleting buncha stuff to make more storage…
We know each other’s pw on everything, but rarely ever check each other’s phones. Nothing to hide so why say no?
We know each other’s passwords on each others phones. But I never check it (anymore) 
Neither one of us has a password on our phones
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My ex husband did this. He was cheating on me. My current hubby knows my password and I know his. No secrets. If you’ve found stuff and he’s locked it up and won’t let you see, get out.
He is hiding something he doesn’t want you to see
We have passcodes on our phones but mine and my husband’s are the same so we have access to each other’s phones at any time with no issues
You’re not very specific. So, I can’t really give advice.
Like, some people are upset that their significant other masturbates and uses porn to do so.
So, without more information all I can say is why are you with someone you don’t trust to have their own phone?
It’s actually abusive to demand to see what is in your significant other’s phone for a number of reasons. Please do not forget that they do not have to answer to you. If you don’t like what they’re doing, then leave.
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We do not have passwords and I have trust. No need to check. Happily married 23 years, this August.
If he’s on it snatch it & run. If he tries to get it from you like a crazy person, hes cheating.
No why , we are all allowed a private life , just because we are in a relationship doesnt mean we should be controlled i mean if he asks for jt then yeah crack on but if he wants to read the girls chat god help him
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Passwords are good for when you loose your phone!!,
Shouldn’t be in that marriage if you don’t trust him.
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My husband and I both have passwords on our phones, but I know his code. Our kids are 10 and they are nosey as hell so we have to keep them on there. If I ask to see his phone, he hands it to me, no problems.
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My experience with my husband he was cheating.
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I wouldn’t stick around to deal with it.
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We both know eachothers passwords because we use eachothers phones all the time. If we want to look something up we usually just grab whatever phone is closest. 
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That sounds shady. He’s hiding something.
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My thumbprint is in his phone. He says if I ever felt the need to go through his phone, he wouldn’t mind. He has nothing to hide.
But I don’t snoop. I just use his phone as casually as I’d use mine. Especially when my battery is low, or dead entirely.
He’s cheating. Been there, heard that
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That’s a red flag. We know each other’s passwords and pass codes. We sometimes swap phones because his has a better camera.
It’s fishy that he gets so defensive. If there was nothing to find, it shouldn’t be a problem.
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He’s hiding something.
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If you don’t trust him, don’t be with him.
My husband and I both have passwords on our phones and we don’t know each other’s, trust.
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We both can get into each others phones with our fingerprints and we use each others phones but we dont snoop around in them we have no reason too
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Yall either need to try counseling or just leave, we know each others. Our passwords are so others cant get into our phones. My dad did that shit wouldnt let anyone see his phone, he was cheating.
Me and my husband both have passwords but we both have access to each others phone. Red flag to me. I would think he is cheating.
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Nope. Don’t go through that.
My hubby and I have the same passwords.
My husband and I have the same password on our phones.
No, if you don’t trust him or her you shouldn’t be in a relationship.
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I have a pass code on my phone to stop the kids touching, my partner knows it, uses my phone for Netflix etc. Partner doesn’t have one. Nothing to hide round here.
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Not only do we have each others passwords but his fingerprint is programmed to my phone too. That’s a huge red flag
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I hate pw to get into phones. Me and my husband don’t believe in passwords
The day you feel the need to snoop through your partner’s phone is the day your relationship is over. The trust is broken.
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I don’t know my husbands password, only because he has to change it every 4 weeks for work. We been married 20 years, no reason for me not to trust him.
If I asked for his phone though he would let me go through it if I wanted to.
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We have each other’s codes
Uh, we don’t have passwords.
If you need to check his phone y’all don’t need to be together you deserve a man that when his phone rings he says hey honey can you grab that ! Stop settling for less than you deserve ladies & men too who let women bully and abuse them.
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Are you sure you want to go through it? Are you prepared for that? I’m pretty sure you know what’s in it.
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Yes, what are you hiding if you say no?
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I went through this same thing with my husband. We rebuilt the trust and both have passwords on our phones for security purposes but will gladly hand them over if asked to.
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I have a password on my phone & so does my husband just to keep our toddler out of our phones. We both have each other’s password. We use each other’s phones and have trust.
Nope if I cant see your phone we don’t need to be together
We can even share phones or switch phones no one in this house cares who’s phone is what its a phone use it
If you dont know the password and be wont show you his phone… He’s hiding bullsh*t 10000000%
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Nope. My husband can use or see my phone whenever, I have a passcode but he knows it and visa versa. If my phone isn’t nearby I’ll grab his and use it or search what I need. If nothing to hide not a huge deal I’d think
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You should trust one another to not have to ask to see their phone but if you’ve had issues with it before it’s definitely sketchy .
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He’s hiding something. Start making an exist plan. Get your mad money ready and leave. My ex husband was like that and I didn’t pry, he didn’t check my phone either. Then one day he went to the shower and left his phone in the living room, message after message it was going off with some girl texting him. I couldn’t read the text but it was bad I’m sure. I started stashing money so I could leave and left four months later and used that money to file for divorce. He was remarried not even six months later.
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My boyfriend and I know each other’s passwords. I couldn’t comfortably be with someone who felt the need to hide things from me cause screwin’ isn’t the only kind of cheating.
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I have a password on my phone and am not permitted (due to my job) to allow anyone to have access to my phone/password.
But the question I have is, if you don’t trust him, why are you with him? I have ended relationships with guys due to something no seeming right. I can’t imagine being with someone I don’t trust. Last thing I will ever do I go through a man’s phone or personal belongings. If I feel I need to do that then I leave.
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Honestly I have bad trauma and feel paranoid about letting my boyfriend know my lock code. But if at any point he needed to use my phone, I would unlock and hand it to him no problem
I use GEICO. Cheapest ive ever used
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There ya go.got your answer NO hes hiding shit move on simple dont stay for 11 more years wit a lying snake
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If you go through someone’s phone you WILL find at least one thing to piss you off, because you were looking for something to piss you off - even if it’s not cheating related. So going through it is just pointless.
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yes. you should be ABLE to know the password. but you shouldn’t need to go snoop. if he is deliberately not letting you have access to his phone especially when he has already done things then that’s an issue. i know my husband’s code. he doesn’t know mine simply because he doesn’t even care to know it or to be in my phone. i would give it if he asked.
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I don’t have passwords and if I do my guy knows all!
Mmmm wait till 3am. Use his finger while he’s asleep. 
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The spouse and I have the same passwords for everything, social media, banks, etc.
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