My husband and I swap and borrow phones all the time. And know most of each others log ins to things. We don’t go snooping around, but if mine is on the charger I’ll use his and he’ll do the same too… If there’s nothing to hide then its no worries.
Spouses should always know each other’s passwords. Always. If he won’t give you his, he’s hiding something.
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I hate to say it but from experience if you ask him to see it and his response is you don’t need to …then that almost flat out tells you he doesn’t want you to see what’s on it and the fact that he put a passcode on it AFTER you found things is just down right disrespectful . I am now in a relationship where my boyfriend and I both have passcodes bc of our kids but we know what eachothers is and we also leave our phones out in the open all trust here and that’s so important. I was on a relationship with a man that did the opposite and it was so hard to always have that gut feeling and he would take his phone EVERY single time he left the room it was so aggravating . I hope you go with your instincts . That’s your husband you are his wife he has no right to dismiss you like that
Fan question to this question, why are you still married?
If I already found things, then he puts a pass code and shuts me down… girl, why are you still there?
Then leave? Shit sounds exhausting. I wouldn’t stay with someone that wouldn’t be comfortable with me knowing their password, especially someone that’s proven already that there’s obviously a reason to be untrusting with them. We’re beings of energy, if you felt you had to snoop in the first place, it’s because there was something being hidden. Your relationship isn’t going to work out, so stop wasting your time on it.
Once i was in a healthy relationship where i didn’t feel a need to snoop, it was a refreshing feeling. And i would never go back. When you finally meet someone you totally trust, you’ll never accept feeling that way again with another SO. Most people don’t think its possible because the other person makes it seem like you’re the crazy one, but your usually not. (Some are though lol) i do have my husband’s passwords and he has mine but i have literally never snooped. Ive never wondered what hes doing when hes smiling at his phone or if hes not with me. Its wonderful and you can experience it. You just need to realize who your with is prolly not for you and you need to be strong enough to give yourself the chance to find that right person.
That’s men for ya! Well some! Always has something to hide especially on his phone!
I have a lock on my phone always have since it could happen but my previous partner have always known the password nothin to hide I know it’s mine an my privacy but ask an it’s given like don’t snoop that’s just so wrong
If you ‘don’t need’ to look in his phone and there’s been issues before then divorce him
I have passcodes and so does my husband but we know each other’s and nothing is hidden.
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We know each others passes
Girl you can answer your own question!!! Oh hell no
That is a big red flag.
I’ve been married for over 22 years and I can say that we’ve never known (or asked) each other’s passcodes.
If you think he’s doing something wrong, he probably is.
Trust that gut instinct…
So its stated that things were previously found on the SOs phone, so I understand feeling uneasy and wondering if they’re hiding something. But the SO is still entitled to privacy. If there are worries of unfaithfulness, to the point you feel you need to invade their privacy… I feel there are bigger issues than shared phone passwords
Ignorance is bliss. Trust me
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We both have passwords so our kids can’t get into our phones “911 can still be dialed if its locked” but we each know eachothers passwords and have full access to each other’s phones
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If you wouldn’t leave if you found something, shut up. If you have to know so you can leave, just leave. He’s trash. If he didnt have secrets, you’d know the code. This privacy bs is a cheaters way of wasting the best years of someone’s life. If he needs that much privacy, he needs to be single. Sounds like you already wasted 11 years. He’s not the one.
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Uh that’s a problem. You found things in his phone problem 1. You can’t have his password problem 2. He doesn’t want you to see his phone problem 3…something is absolutely wrong. Me and my husband used to have passwords on our phones just to keep the kids out but we both Knew them and had access however we don’t go through each other’s phones bc there’s no reason to. But if we ever need the others phone for whatever reason there is never a question or concern… Those are huge red flags and if you do ever get into it, you’re probably going to find a lot of things you don’t like…
We are no secrets period! If we did we wouldn’t be together.
I think significant others should have each others passwords, just because it should be normal to be able to pick up your s/o phone and use it if you need to. If my fiancé changed his password and didn’t tell me, or told me to not go through his phone 
Especially if you have found stuff before. It may feel silly to leave someone over that, but in reality, he’s cheating on you and doesn’t want you to have the proof.
I don’t have hubbys password but if i need to use his phone or whatever he just hands it to me. It doesn’t bother me and if i ask to see something specific he doesnt care cause neither of us hide anything
Red flag. Stop wasting your time. Run while you can.
He’s clearly hiding something. If he wasn’t then he would let you see his phone.
I don’t have my boyfriends😅 he’s the exact same way when it comes to his phone. Sometimes he’ll allow me to look at it, other times he’ll say no. I know he’s not cheating though. Also had our issues in the past. But we still trust eachother
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If he hasn’t given you a serious reason to not trust him. He can have some privacy
I dont want my partners phone but I know his password… I can ask or even take it out his hand & not even so much as a flinch to take it back off me… if your partner is point blank refusing after you finding something before… guarantee you’d find something again… bin the whole man & smash the phone on his way out 
Red flag for sure. My fiancé has me put my fingerprint into his phone the moment he gets a new one. I know all his passwords and he knows all mine, i even know the videos he watches on porn sites cuz he shows me what he’s into this week.
If you go through that phone make sure you are really ready for it
if you need to look at his phone, something is really wrong. trust your instincts. sorry
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My husband and I have No passwords. Free access.
But I have been in a situation where there was passwords and finger print passwords. That person was also caught cheating. If they were to ever show me something on their phone. I wasn’t allowed to have the phone placed in my hand to see.
We know each other’s codes, have eachother finger prints in our phones.
Major red flags. If he had nothing to hide, he would have no problem with you looking at his phone or knowing the password. My husband and I have the same password on our phones and always have.
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Ya I’d say that’s a red flag for sure. Like I respect my husbands privacy and I don’t go through this phone. I’ve done this maybe 3 times since we’ve been together and I overreacted to dumb shit that was personal to him and not my business. But the passcodes to our phones are the same. We have an open door policy in our marriage. We both believe being transparent is key to a successful relationship. That being said, we also both agree that it’s necessary to have our own lives. Our own friends. (Not that we don’t have mutual friends) that way we don’t get sick of each other and we have outlets. Being in a committed relationship is HARD. But it won’t last without honesty. 
I leave my phone alone in the room with my hubby no password, all the time.
If he wants to go through it, go for it. Same for him. I’m always on his phone😂 not for snooping purposes he’s right beside me when I’m playing on his phone lol!
Definitely a red flag hun. He’s hiding something.
I have my hubby’s passcode and he has mine. He has no issues with me looking at his phone and he’s used mine. I get an eye roll if I was reading fan fiction and left it up but that’s about it. We trust each other with everything. This whole post is Red flag, a person hiding behind lock screen is hiding something.
That’s definitely a red flag. My ex used to do that shit when he was cheating. Me and my boyfriend now know each other’s passwords, and will even have each other get into them to answer messages and such.
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The only person that I wouldn’t give my pass code to was my daughter as she pinches my phone all the time. She has one of my old phones that is pretty decent and she’s only 12. If she does want my phone for something I unlock it. Other than that if a family member wants my phone then I give them it. There should be no secrets x
I’m working on my trust issues so I prefer not to know his password he told me a few times but I don’t remember it I gave him mine and it seems to work out good for us every relationship I been in I have been cheated on so I could see myself constantly going threw his phone which would make me look crazy so I just prefer not to know it… but of you have found stuff on his phone before and now he’s won’t let u know his password or go on his phone then id definately be questioning why
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Nope we have each other’s face profiles on each other’s phones and know the passwords. I trust him enough that I don’t feel the need to go through his phone. But in your situation I’d say forget the phone and the man you deserve better, life is to short to always be wondering about your man. Gtfo while you can 
Nope sure don’t go through that shit and 100% would not go through it! That shits for the 
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If I didn’t remember my hubby’s passwords he’d never be able to get into anything. 
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Me and my husband have the same passcode to our phones.
If you have to have passwords on your phone then obviously you have no respect and are hiding things from each other. There are trust issues
We dont even have pass codes😂
Throw the whole husband away
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I’m allowed to look at my husband’s phone whenever I want and he can look at mine. That probably means he’s hiding stuff if you can’t look at his phone.
It’s called mutual trust and respect, no reason to go through each others phones. What are you looking for, something to be mad about? You can either let this bother you, or you can settle down and enjoy the hell out of each other. If it bothers you and you cant deal with it then leave. Be sure you tell him tho, because it gives him the chance to choose you or his phone.
Me and my husband both know each other’s passwords and answer it for each other sometimes. We don’t go thru each other’s phones cus we trust each other but if we want to we use each other’s phones if it’s more accessible lol
Well if you don’t have any trust issues then you should not have to have any passwords/passcodes. Me and my S/O don’t have any passwords/passcodes. He looks through my phone and I look through his
We don’t have passcodes on our phones. I did but it was a PIA so I took it off. I’ve let my husband take my phone for days at a time when his was broken. That should never be an issue in a marriage but I know, unfortunately, it is an issue in some marriages. If my husband had a code and refused to let me use his phone or know the code, we’d have some real problems.
We both have passwords to each other’s phones, I used to be unfaithful and never allow him to have access to my phone cause I would talk to other guys. Since then I’ve been loyal to him because he didn’t deserve the hurt and we trust one another more.
If you’re guts telling you something’s up, listen to that. There really is no need to go through his phone
Yup that’s when you leave …
Been with my husband 12 years, married 10 years and we have never put passwords on our phones and if we did it was that same password on both phones. Even our facebook passwords are the same.
Your husband is hiding stuff from you. From the way you say you have found stuff on his phone I would say he has found a way to keep you from finding anymore stuff on his phone.
If you have to snoop, you have no trust in your partner. If you find stuff when you snoop, your partner has no respect for you. If he put a password on his phone then what he truly values is locked in that phone and it isn’t you.
Why have a password on ur phone unless ur keeping something from ur spouse, my husband has a pass code on his phone but when I ask to see his phone he lets me go thru it and when he doesn’t he knows if I find something on it , we would be over and I would cut him, but I know I’m a good woman and mother and if he did shady shit , I wouldn’t feel bad to move on with my life by myself and my kid.
Me and my husband has the same password, we only have passwords on sothat our 3yo don’t play on our phones and so on
Hes definitely hiding something. Don’t trust him.
Couples with nothing to hide don’t need to have password on their phones.
Yes, my ex would say I would blow shit outta proportion so that was his excuse for having a password… no surprise, he was cheating n on dating sites turns out people just aren’t faithful these days 