My SOs fingerprint is programmed into my phone with mine, he doesn’t have a password on his phone. I have fingerprints on mine because my son plays with it but like I said his is in it too and he knows the back up code too
We have each other’s passwords, and there is only a password on because the kids get into them if we leave them on the table etc. I don’t ever go through his phone, nor does he mine. We respect each other privacy but if I have a gut feeling or w.e I will call him out and tell him I’m going to look at his phone. Only happened once when we were first together and now it’s been six years 
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If you’re asking to see his phone then the relationship has bigger issues. If he isn’t hiding anything this time then you have some left over unhealed damage from past situations and that isn’t healthy either. You shouldn’t have to ask to see his phone it should just be open but you shouldn’t feel the need to look either all the time. Trust, honesty and self security both have to be reached by both people.
No. Some privacy is alright in a relationship. The fact rhat you jump to cheating means that you are insecure
Definitely weird. We’ve had passwords cause of our daughter but we always know what the password is.
We don’t go snooping through each other’s phones cause trust is huge, sounds like you guys should talk some stuff out
My husband and I dont have passwords on our phones to begin with lol but if we did we would each know them lol
If you feel the need to go through his phone then there is zero trust in the relationship, just throw it away seriously. Who wants to live like that?
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my husband and I both have passwords on our phone. Just because the 5 year old likes to mess with it. We have each other’s passwords but tbh we don’t go through each others phone. We leave our phones wherever, if an important message or phone call comes through we both let eachother know. It’s just natural for us & we both don’t hide things from eachother.
He’s hiding it on purpose. Check the phone bill
We know each other’s passwords and have the face recognition feature set up on each other’s phones. You only keep your password a secret if you have something to hide.
You should know the password, but feel confident in your relationship and not feel like you need to use it… this is a huge red flag in my opinion.
My husband and I both have passcodes on our phones because we have kids who aren’t allowed on YouTube 
. It’s the same passcode for both and if we wanted to, either one of us could go through the others phone. We don’t have to because we trust each other.
My SO & I know all our passwords. If my phone goes off I have him open and reply for me & vise versa. If there is nothing to hide it’s not a big deal. In my experience only cheaters or liars care about it. Reassuring you and making you happy should be more important then a phone password. Major RED FLAG.
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We both have passwords but we both know each other’s password, My phone used to be unlocked all the time i wasnt worried about anyone finding anything cuz im not an exciting person 
but once I had my son and he started taking my phone to do lawd knows what I put a passcode on it, he has always had a passcode but I always knew it and when i finally got a passcode i told him what it was.
My husband and i have the same code on both our phones. I have a code just so the kids can’t get in my phone and do what they want otherwise I wouldn’t even have one. We will be on Facebook side by side in bed at night and he shows me things and I show him things. There’s nothing in there that I am too concerned about. And I don’t keep secrets either
I have a password on mine, because my kids like to mess with stuff they aren’t supposed to 
but my husband knows the password. He gives me his phone to respond to messages etc so yes I think it’s an issue. 11 years, what are you hiding? It could be nothing but it could be something. My hubs thought that’s why I put one on mine but once he found out I’m boring that was it lol
I mean, both my husband and I have locked phones so our daughter doesn’t access ours (she has her own), but we know each other’s passwords. But my thoughts are:
- You should know each other’s passwords
- Why are you with someone who you don’t trust? If you need to check his phone, it’s time to go.
- And if you worked things out the last time there was a break in trust, and you decided to trust him again and he is actually not doing anything, your accusations and questioning is breaking his trust in you. It’s time for him to leave you.
IMO: You can’t stay and decide to trust someone just to turn around questioning them and demanding to see their phone. Why stay with someone you obviously don’t trust? It sounds like the foundation of your relationship has been gone for a while, there’s no room for growth. Why be in that situation?
We have passwords but because of the kids . We know each others passcodes as well though. For you to ask to go through his phone shows no trust. Which is understandable if it’s happen before. And for him to not let you have freedom to do so is suspicious like he is hiding something. I’d say it’s time for a talk, no arguing just talking on how you both feel.
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If there have already been issues in the past, I would say he’s hiding something. I understand people’s need for privacy, but that goes out the window once that privilege has been abused.
Replace the whole guy.
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No way. You already know the answer. He hasn’t changed. He lied to you, you caught him and then he put up a lock so he wouldn’t get caught again. Period. He has told you that he isn’t going to change. It’s in your court whether you 1, let it go and get over it or 2, put your foot down and say your not going to put up with it anymore. Those are your options.
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Women are just as guilty at hiding things on their phones.
If you feel the need to go through his phone, then why are you with him? If it’s a repeat pattern, and you still don’t trust him, then it’s a dead relationship.
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The only reason we have passwords on our phones is so the kids can’t get into apps like Amazon and start ordering things but we know each other’s passwords and there’s no questioning if I’m like hey can I see your phone to do this while I’m on hold or whatever. It’s never an issue. I think you have some red flags.
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We used to not have passwords he doesn’t still I do bc I left my phone on the counter at work one day. He has the password if he needs it. We don’t just pick up and go through each other’s phone anyway.
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My husband and I both know our passwords and regularly borrow each other’s if it’s closer. Sounds like you both need to have an open and honest conversation. He may not be cheating, but he may feel like he can’t be honest with you for some reason. Really listen and ask how he feels about your marriage, is he happy, how does he feel about your love life, etc. A good heart to heart may make you both feel closer and form that trust that seems to be lacking.
My husband’s and I are the same. We know all eachother’s passwords and pins. No reason to hide anything.
He’s hiding something. Went through this with my husband. It took a lot of therapy for him to understand the fact that your spouse should have 100% access to your phone
I dont go thru his phone and he dont go thru mine. We both have passcodes cuz we have twin 5yr olds but I’ve never desired to go thru his phone. You need to get a hobby or something.
We both have password but they are the same. My husband can see my phone whenever he wants to. If there’s nothing to hide there’s nothing to find
Grow a set of balls and run Ive got 2 1 on my phone one on my tablet anybody asks they are told to fuck off nobody touches my stuff bar me
If you need to know his password to be able to look through his stuff, it sounds like y’all shouldn’t be together.
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Yes you should know.
I used to have a major issue with this too. BUT once he told me his password now I never pick up his phone. Now I feel confident in trusting him. I think just the principal of having it helps significantly.
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My husband has a password on his phone, but I know the password. I have never logged into his phone, but I know I could.
Yeah…I’d get rid of him.
My husband and I have both been cheated on or done wrong in some way by a previous relationship. We know each other’s passwords, but neither of us go through the others phones. If we have a problem, generally, we just talk about it.
I will say this, I was engaged prior to someone else prior to my husband, and I had the same issues with him that you are describing. We were together 8 years before we ended it. I have found out alot since then and I was right about 100% of my suspicions. I think you need to talk to him and explain your reasoning, and come to an agreement. Bottom line though, if you cant trust him it will never be a fulfilling relationship.
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My husband and I don’t have passwords to lock our phones and we have all of each others passwords for other accounts in each others phones in the event that one of us forgets it or needs to use it or whatever the case may be. We don’t clear our browser history because we are open about what we do. We married each other for better or for worse. Try to base things around trust and communication. I guess we were on the same page we don’t need to lock anything if there is nothing to hide. But to each their own.
My ex had to know my passcode but I couldn’t know his… I left him it was to toxic obviously he was hiding shit
Me an my hubby have passwords cuz our kids. But we know eachothers password to everything
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You shouldn’t feel the need to go through his phone… however if you’re so inclined and he acts SuS as fuck… guess what doll? He’s acting that way for a reason. If he had nothing to hide there wouldn’t be a need for his response. Just my 2 cents. I’ve been with my person for 5 years in March and we know each others passwords to everything. There have been issues in the past on both our behalf but we worked through it and became stronger. Good luck doll.
Red flags every where in this post. Me and my husband have passwords on our phones but we have the same password I’ve never gone through his phone. The fact that he won’t let you go through his phone while he’s there and has a password definitely means he’s hiding something because anyone who isn’t hiding shit wouldn’t care If you knew the password or if you we through it
I’ve never had a reason to go threw my man’s phone but I have his password. He has mine as well. Half the time one of us forgets our phone and we end up using each other alot lol.
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Me and my significant other have passwords on r phones but we trust each other and don’t care to ask. The only time a question is asked if a person is messaging us both that we don’t know
My husband and I both have passwords but they are the same. We use each others phone alot. Passwords are only on there incase phone gets lost or stolen.
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My husband and I do in fact have passwords but that’s more to do with the fact we have 2 kiddos that like to mess with things on our phones, like post random things or message people. We both know each other’s passwords and we both have each other’s finger prints on our phones (to unlock them) Before we had kids there was no need for them.
Y’all need to talk to each other. It seems like you don’t trust him. Not saying he didn’t give a reason but that’s why y’all talk it over. Don’t be too accusing because that gets no where. Think about what you want to say or ask him.
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We have passwords but me n Mr now each other password
11 years and y’all are still going through this?! My husband and I have passwords but doesn’t matter if we know it or not ( we do ) but our faces unlock each other’s screen
that wouldn’t fly in my house, so no I don’t go through that.
My husband and I have been together for 25yrs. I use his phone and he uses mine. We don’t have passwords and we trust each other immensely. It never occurred to us to be any other way. Without trust no relationship can last.
I have a password set on my phone but thats mainly so our kids can’t get into the phone and start messing with it. My husband does the same thing but I also trust him so I don’t feel the need to go through his phone. He also has never given me a reason to not trust him.
That’s definitely some shady shit, even if you knew the password for in case of an emergency it sounds like he wouldn’t do that either.
Boyfriend and I have the same password on our phone’s. It rare when we need each others phone but we know we can grab it anytime. 1 time he changed his password and i told him how i felt about it.
I don’t have a password but he does to prevent butt dialing at work but he makes sure I know what it is. I don’t ever feel the need to search it but its the point of knowing it. We can both use each others phones without objection from the other. If he is specifically telling you that you can’t use his phone or won’t tell you the password then thats suspicious.
I’d say he is hiding something .
The answer to that is STAY SINGLE. I am and love it.
SKETCHY. I know my husbands password (I never actually remember it but when I mention I don’t remember it he tells me again lol) if they’re acting like they have something to hide THEY PROBABLY DO
We dont have passwords but I feel you there cuz I’ve been in that situation the only reason he doesn’t have his password on his phone is because he locked himself out of his phone for two weeks and I refused to help him get back into his phone because he refused to tell me the password good luck motherfuker
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I wouldn’t trust him if that’s the case. Me and my hubby had our passwords when we first started dating.
Doesnt need to be known as soon as they put it on there but if they ask for it, it should never be an issue to give it to them.
Divorce Should be in the offering
If you already found stuff on his phone and he put a password on it to keep you out you already know what’s going on.
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I have a password on my phone but my husband knows it but he doesn’t have on his. I look through his phone every once in awhile
The password on my phone is literally just so it doesn’t unlock in my pocket or so my kid can’t get in whenever. My husband and I absolutely know eachothers and use eachothers phones all the time. You should be able to fully trust someone you have such an intimate relationship with.
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Privacy is valuable, but trust is much more so. The trust is clearly already broken. Question is, is he willing to repair it by proving he is a truthful man with nothing to hide. But healing takes both sides.
Lol, no. But, passwords are fine that butt dialing thing…
Yeah, no! I have a password/fingerprint on my ph for the mere fact I have a 3 year old who would ring the entire nation…
My partners fingerprint is encrypted on my phone so he can get into it (cause he sucks at passwords)
Somethings going on.
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If you have to check his phone, you’re already in a bad place. We don’t do passwords. We also don’t check eachothers phones.
We have the same password just makes it easier if either of us can’t find our phone lol which happens alot we can just grab whoevers. Nothing to hide
I known people has pass words my hold family has passwords on there telephone l said l hope l donot have call for help because l do not known any one password it so wife and husband can not look in person telephone l think it wrong but they said there cell telephone that way it goesnow days.
We both have passwords but its to keep the kids out of our phones, we know each others passwords and have exchanged phones before, not on purpose he grabbed my phone before work because we have to same phone, but neither of us were worried. If you can’t trust your partner with as little as their phone their no real trust at all
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My husband and I both have passwords on our phones but we know each others passwords so
My husband and I both have passwords on our phone, but to keep our child from calling random numbers lol. But we both know each others password and we both know we can grab each others phone whenever. It’s really a respect thing love. My anxiety would run through the roof! Know your worth, Queen. You deserve respect too. 
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We both have passwords on our phones for privacy reasons. I have her password and she has mine - only protected from other people.
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My husband and I have the same password on our phones.
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I set his phone up for him when we got it 
he told me what password he wanted though. It was a team effort lol
I don’t check my hubby’s phone. Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answers to. I have blown things out of proportion before. So if I have an issue we talk about it. We both freely use each others phones and have passwords.
This dude is throwing up enough red flags to make a quilt! My husband and I have known each other’s passwords (except for work accounts) since before we were even engaged.
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My husband and I both have passwords on our phones and we both know the other ones code. If he ever changes it and doesn’t tell me I’ll know he has something to hide!
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Passwords are fine but we know each other’s
If you’ve nothing to hide no need for secrets. If you are playing dirty you hide all ! But that in itself speaks volumes. Trust & loyalty are what makes a marriage or you are just there to serve his needs ?! Get out tell him to keep his secrets & look for someone who respects you.
Neither one of us have passwords. If for some reason we have had passwords (like staying with family for a few months and kids won’t leave your phone alone) we know each other passwords. Also neither one of us care about going thru phones. We get on eschothers phones all the time. Definitely sounds like something is going in
I think you already know something’s going on , and you’ve just posted here to verify your worries !
My ex didnt have a password in his phone until he caught me looking at it then put a password on it he said to teach me a lesson like wtf I had reasons to look
We both have passwords that each other knows.
If he put a password after you found something he is clearly hiding stuff
Without trust and communication there is no good relationship.
My boyfriend and I both have passcodes on our phones, because we have kids who try to mess with our phones. However we both know eachothers codes to everything. The fact that your husband refuses to ease your anxiety to gain back the trust he lost at one point is a red flag. Best I can suggest is try to have a conversation with him and explain how your feeling and if that doesn’t work talk about counseling. Individual and couples. Communication is a key part of any relationship. Both of you have to be open with one another to make things work.
I have a password on my phone and my boyfriend has no password. He knows I will give him the pw to my phone because I have nothing to hide. I could go on his phone if I wanted to but choose not to. No he doesn’t go on my phone to look thru it buts usually cause I usually ask him to check something or respond to a message for me. We trust each other and don’t care to go thru each other’s phones
If you have to ask he’s probably hiding something. I’ve learned that a woman’s intuition is almost never wrong.
My husband and I know each others passwords for everything. We have an open, honest relationship with nothing to hide from each other. Once a cheater always a cheater. My husband can pick up my phone, log into my computer, my emails ect… any time day or night without needing to ask I can do the same but we have nothing to hide. He knows and so do you that he is doing something wrong. You don’t say he is a cheater but you implied it. Why stay with someone who doesn’t love and respect you?
Hubby and I both have passwords because we use Samsung Pay and Google Wallet. I know his and he knows mine. No issues
Me and my partner have each others passwords for literally everything, I can even get onto his online banking and vice versa, if hes going to hide his phone theres a reason hes hiding it, decide what you want to do in your own situation but if it was me and my partner was being like that then I wouldnt be staying any longer, I’d have his bags packed as I’m not going to worry myself over what he could be hiding if he didnt give a shit to do whatever it is hes hiding in the first place (hope that made sense)
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Personally, all cheating feelings aside…if you’re in a serious relationship, your SO should have your phones passcode! SO, if anything were to god forbid happen to you, they’re able to get in to contact people or do anything else they made need to in an emergency! In no way should they be just going through your phone, privacy is privacy! But they should have the knowledge to get into your phone if there’s an emergency!
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If he has a password and won’t tell you especially after having stuff on his phone, that’s shady af. I have a password just bc my phone reset and had me put one on and I’m too lazy to take it off lmao but my husband knows it and we leave our phones around. If I find something I shouldn’t, best believe there’s gonna be a problem. Not knowing the password is a no go for me.
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I don’t look at my husband’s phone… I trust him. He doesn’t look at my phone either.
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If you feel the need to be looking then you already know the answer!!!
My husband and I have passwords because of our 2 y/o but we both know them. But we don’t go through each others phones. Having a password and not telling you is not okay.
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Nope! I know all passwords to every social media account my hubby has plus the code to his phone.
If I can’t trust you, we don’t need to be in a relationship. I would never ask to go through my partners phone