My current boyfriend of 10 months has a 4year old kid. When he has his kid, I feel ignored, less text sometimes no text or calls at all I try to reach out but I feel like I am bugging if he is not even making some sort of effort to reply or answer at times, but when he doesn’t have her, he gives me the attention I want. I have thought about ending it with him not just for that reason, but I feel like I am wasting my time if he can’t appreciate that I am willing to work with him or at least make time even to talk or text, I know he has a busy agenda — our first Christmas I gave him a gift and one for his kid. I didn’t expect anything in return, but sure enough, he didn’t bother even to give me a greeting card. Am I overthinking this? Thank you in advance.
You’re jealous of his child. Leave him for his sake.
He’s spending time with his child and giving her all his attention and your jealous? Sweetie grow up
His child should come first. Sounds like a decent guy, one you may not deserve because you’re petty…
Kid comes first, sorry. It means he’s a good dad.
Sounds like a great Dad to me! 
I think he’s just being attentive. Just try to see it as a good sign that he’s a good father.
You think you’re more important that his 4 year old child? Lol. Get a fucking life.
Thats kind of sad, it seems like he only gets his child every once in a while that time should be for him and his child, you can see/ talk to him any other tome let his child get some of his time.
How old are you? His with his child! You sound hell’a needy!
He needs to leave you!
Do him a favor and leave him. You sound selfish af and he and his daughter deserve better. His daughter absolutely comes before you babe. Get over yourself.
Thats his child! His priority, not you! If you cant accept his child move on!
He seems more invested in his child than you which is fine. You shouldn’t have gotten with a father if you weren’t prepared to be second place. Find a man with no responsibilities lol
He has a kid you’re a grown ass women get over yourself if you’re not ready to take on the responsibility of a child. His kid comes first over everything including you
U can’t be serious? Let me guess… You’re a teenager? Grow up a bit more before u decide to have a relationship. Especially with someone who has a child.
maybe the kid don’t like you 
His kid should come first always. Good man 
leave him so a good woman can have him
A persons child comes first. No matter what. If he inly gets his son occasionally, you should commend him for putting all his time and effort into having a successful relationship with him.
I mean, I hope its because he is giving that attention to his daughter! Be grateful he is a good father if that’s the case… sorry but our children should always be #1 … so if you’re expecting for him to put his child 2nd after you, you’re very selfish and he needs to leave you honestly
Jesus christ. How old are you? Get over yourself.
I would talk to him about it but children always come first and you have to put yourself aside as in your needs and wants and stop being selfish
I don’t wanna come off as an ass when I say this but when you date someone with a kid(s), you’re not going to come first. It’s just the way it is. They won’t always have time to call or text because they’re taking care of and spending time with their kid.
What? You need to grow up
Lol I can’t even believe this. He should leave you
I don’t want to sound overly rude here but seriously?
His child deserves and is 100% entitled to his undivided attention. I understand wanting a text back or some form of communication but you’re an adult so grow up a little.
He sounds like he is a good man and father . . You sound insecure and needy. 
You got to be kidding me when his child is there its not all about you
Trying to figure out who’s the actual child here… be proud of him that hes putting his child first. Alot of men could care less about their kids.
Kids come 1st. Phones are not a priority
His kid should 100% come before you now and always.
Umm id be happy he was actually takinhlg care of his kid instead of being a dead beat . if thats what ya want leave him and go find a dead beat
Is this real life? How old are you! You are jealous of a child!
He’s got a kid. You are not first.
Get over yourself. His kid will ALWAYS come before you.
His priority is his child, grow up
My ex used to do this to me and I was happy about it! I would much rather he be making memories with his child than on his phone constantly messaging me! His child comes first, always.
And guys don’t think about things like gifts and cards typically… you’re stressing on things that you shouldn’t be.
You need not be with him.
Extremely selfish mind set Im going to assume you are very young & maybe you aren’t ready to be involved in this kind of situation…
Go get yourself a puppy. You obviously need attention…
I give him so much respect. You should be 2nd to him when he is with his child. You should find a single guy with no kids, because you will definitely not work out with this guy with your mentality.
You will understand once you have a child… thats what women look for in a man, I would do him and his kid a favor and leave him. But make sure to tell him the reason why is because you’re being a good dad.
He’s not for you . That’s not what your looking for move on . it’s early still to look for someone your type . Don’t force to be with someone that isn’t what you are looking for .
Be grateful he’s a good dad. You sound like you’d be a childish girl. Honestly if my kids dad ever got w a girl and she’s bitches about his attention over my kids Id probably end up catching a case because no grown ass girl is gonna be crying over my kids dad giving OUR KIDS too much attention 
His kid should come first. Wtf is this? 
His priority should be his child. If you can’t handle that you need to move on.
Kids come first. Either get over it or leave. If you ever become a mother, you’ll know.
Maybe you just end things and tell him you arent ready to date someone with a child🤷♀️
Do him a favor and let him go so he can go and find an actual adult to be with. You’re jealous of a 4 yr old little girl. Girl bye 
Do this man a favor, and please end it for his & child’s sake. 
You must not have any children . you are selfish
You sound jealous of his child 
bo offence but hes a Dad and his priority is and always will be his daughter not you. You need to grow up that child needs him more way more than you
You must be young. Just find someone that doesn’t have a kid.
Sounds like he’s being a good father, but I think it would’ve been a good idea to get you something for Christmas. I’m not sure what your other issues are with him, so I’m not sure how to give advice here.
SMH at this post. Are you really craving attention that bad? His child will always come first. If you want all the attention find someone that doesn’t have kids and please don’t have kids of your own. You sound like a selfish twat.
Wow. Selfish much?.kids.come.first
Always.
Wow. I think your boyfriend needs to get rid of your ass! Be happy your boyfriend wants to be a good dad! His kid should come 1st before you in everything!!!
Kids always come first, you sound like a spoilt brat. Get over yourself
This can’t be real…
He is a great dad if you have kids at some point they will have a great dad don’t take this time from his child
Wow sounds like he’d do just fine without you. Do you have kids? Kids are #1 very first priority! That child needs her father. I am proud of him for ignoring his phone when he has his kid.
Question, shoe on the other foot… Wouldn’t your kid come before a boyfriend?
Your selfish. KIDS FIRST ALWAYS
can’t be jealous of his child he makes time for you just be patient its alot different being with someone who has a kid they always come first gotta accept it an grow up
Haha you might as well go ahead and dismiss yourself!!
You should be with someone with out kids. You sound selfish.
I think for their sake, you should leave them. That is pathetic the little boy is 4 years old …how could you think like that 
The fact hes putting his child first is great… Not getting a gift is questionable, but maybe y’all haven’t been together long enough for him? Ask. Its only been 10 months. If those are your only 2 complaints … I’d say your over thinking it.
You shouldn’t even want a man that wouldn’t put his child first! Kids come first!
As a parent your kids come first, sorry but I think your being way too clingy especially if you can’t respect him for being a damn good father not a lot of men like that about
That’s his kid…what a clingy, gross mentality… grow tf up
It’s not always about you. Kids come first always.
Good way of losing a guy Bec a child should come frist
I’m guessing you don’t have children. He’s doing exactly what a good parent should do. You will always, always, be second to his daughter. If you can’t handle that, then let him go and be with someone who can.
This man is being a good father to his child that COMES FIRST! that is how it should be when you are a parent.
If this person’s other half is seeing this RUN!
Jealous of his kid that he had before you?!? Yeah end it now!! His child isn’t going anywhere! Sorry he’s a good dad and is focused on his child rather than texting you… You are an adult act like one
Omg! So many rude comments on here! She isn’t jealous of the child, she is well aware that the child comes first. However, her boyfriend didn’t even take the time to give a Christmas card? That is no excuse. I would leave him, plain and simple.
There would and should be a problem if he was up your butt all the time when he has his kid!! She will always come before you period. Why don’t you just walk away before you cause him so much grief arguing with him about this one day? Yes one day you’ll understand hopefully how this should work. This is a great man and i bet a great father. You’re not in competition with his daughter.
Your selfish. Maybe being a single dad he didn’t have the money to get you anything. And being a parent is a full-time job so when he has his son he wants to spend time with his son and not talk to you that’s understandable
When children come into the world its NO LONGER about you anymore.
I think you should end it. He deserves better and so does his child.
I bet someone is really regretting this post
Grow up before trying to commit to a guy with a child obviously your nt adult enuf to see his child will always come before you
His child will and should always come first… if you can’t/won’t understand that then you need to break up and don’t date anyone else with kids until you gain some more maturity
My husband has 3 daughters from before him and I, I’ve always told him that the kids come first no matter what. We have a 4 year old and one on the way, we both put all 4 of the kids first, and that’s how it should be.
You don’t sound mature enough to be with someone who has a child. Do them and yourself a favor and leave. The type of mentality you have is very negative and toxic for a little kid to be around at all. That’s his kid, kids come first.
LOL!!! U need to leave this man alone!!!
U said ur first Christmas u gave him and his child a gift and didn’t expect one in return, yet ur mad u didn’t get one???
U have lot’s if growing up to do. Leave this man and his child alone. Find a man that is unattached from anyone
LMAO is all I have to say
Sorry hun but kids come first. Especially if he’s a part time parent
You need to leave. You will never be… not even close to how important his daughter is and you shouldn’t be. You’re selfish and you shouldn’t be with someone with a child if you cant act like an adult
Soooo… you’re annoyed he loves his kid more than you? K
Child mind mentality. Grow up. His child is supposed to come first!!
Lol walk out the door then.
Don’t date people with kids unless you can handle them giving their kid attention over your needy ass lol. Bye.
Props to your boyfriend…his kid should come before you and him…do yourself and him a favor and move on… don’t blame his relationship with child on it either… their are plenty of other women who would love that kind of man… unbelievable 🤦 can’t believe this is even a question 🤦
What the fuck ?! YOU don’t even COMPARE to his child. I would never put someone’s needs or wants before my own children. Considering he doesn’t even have his kid all of the time you should let him have his time. This guy is a fucking saint to stay with you acting like this over his child !!!
“His kid” that’s his daughter, not a freaking goat you abominable twat.
Kids come first. ALWAYS. Over anyone or anything. He deserves better than your ignorant ass.
Hes with his kid… his blood… You’re being selfish. You can not expect someone to think and react the way you do… That’s a real father, that’s what fathers do. Take time and be there with their child.
Most dad’s only get visitation and if that’s the case then he should most certainly put you on the back burner for his child. She should be his number one concern. You probably need to date someone without kids it doesn’t sound like your mature enough to understand how parenting works and sound jealous of his kid which is extremely immature. If someone acted or said something like this to me they’d be gone in a heartbeat…
Dude it’s his fucking CHILD. if he was out with his kid that you had with him wouldn’t you want him to spend his time with her. Like he’s spending time with his kid that he doesn’t see all the fucking time I’m sorry but you sound extremely needy. Kids are always suppose to be first. You should be admiring this.