Action speaks louder than words & he has shown u what u needed to know with his actions. CLEARLY HE DOES NOT WANT MORE KIDS, & he’s been telling you the entire time, now he is SHOWING you & for whatever reason you are chosing to ignore that bcz of what you want. I hope your being a better mother, bcz as a partner you don’t know how to listen. Either way good luck to you.
You said you didn’t want a baby but you wasn’t using any kind of protection you knew what would happen!!! I feel sorry for the baby!!!
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He’s made it clear he doesn’t want the damn baby. He already has 3! That’s a lot for anyone to take care of. You not going through the abortion is on you. Don’t put him in that position after he’s made it perfectly clear he doesn’t want any part of it. You need to move on or possibly consider adoption if you’re not in the position to care for another kid yourself without anyone’s help
Cut him off completely. Stop trying to get him involved. He won’t!!
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So you already have two kids and didn’t think of using birth control? 
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Cut him off. Go off with your kids and never see him again. Stay with family or friends until the baby is born. Then get a job, daycare and go on with your life. Bond tightly with your kids and be everything you can to them. If he tries to come back around later, tell him to get lost.
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Have some respect for yourself and stop begging for attention, he told you from the beginning that he DOES NOT want you to have the baby .
You made your desicion to keep it and he made his to walk away .
The only thing that you can do is to go to the court after the birth of the baby , ask for a DNA text so you can get child support.
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Sounds like he may be living 2 life’s apart from one another
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You had your answer the moment he told you to get an abortion. What are you doing fucking around when you have a baby at home… you know how things work…
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Big hugs to you! Maybe he just needs some more time. Let him be and see if he comes around. It can be just as scary ect for fathers❤
A man that wants you not to have the baby and for you to abort the baby. I would get rid of the man and I’m having my baby. Take care you r babies and live life. He will have a choice to be in the child’s life or not. Of not don’t pressure him , he is a grown a** man. He didn’t want a baby should have used protection. Having fun ends up more scarier.
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Get the DNA test and sue for child support.
If you want the baby have it and raise it on your own the heck w him he will one day regret it my son’s father did
Thank you for choosing life!!!
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He’s just as responsible as you are sis don’t let him talk down to you about it! He chose to do the deed just like you. That being said cut him off if he’s already talking like that now it’s not going to change
For all that’s holy…if you dont already know:roll_eyes:
.Let him gooooo
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just woody about you and your kids sweety. and dont listen to mean comments. you got this girl its not always going to be easy but you can do it. if he doesnt want to be a part of the babies life its his loss. put all your energy into being a mom and none into worrying about a person who doesn’t really care about you. wishing all the luck in the world:heart:
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You said it! Sleeping together. That’s not a relationship.
Get rid of the jerk , and get some protection. Take care of your kids, they did not ask for your butt to sleep around.
Girl…do you need to borrow some scissors? Cut that fool off
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Get him for child support so do the DNA test and go to court. That’s all the involvement you are going to get at this point.
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Cut him off. He’s a loser
You can’t make him want the baby so just go on and live ur life
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So neither of you wanted a baby but yet you both continued to sleep togeather without useing anything, what did you think you would get at the end of it a new car ?
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Cut him off. You deserve better than him
He told you from the door he didn’t want any more kids?? Then I think if you want to keep it, it’s on you. All of it!! Let him be, he told you he didn’t want more kids you’re choosing to have it & that’s fine but don’t force him to be apart. It will make him resent the child & you. Not to mention lord knows what he’ll be telling that baby later. I didn’t want your ass but you know your momma. Just let him be!! Don’t put yourself or a child through that.
I would obviously just have the kid and raise it on my own i wouldnt want to force my baby on some one bc of the fact mu child dont need inconsistency if hea having to be told already to be part of the kid its always going to be forced unless he has a change of heart but obviously he has showed u and told u what he wants now its up to u …
Cut him off and just get j the child support for that baby
You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink it.
His loss… ignore him.
Sounds like he’s low key married lol
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He is not a good partner. Your child deserves child support. If he dosent want to be involved in the child’s life its his lose. Stop chasing him.
RUN. And thank GOD he gave you the time to get out!
There is always adoption for this child. There are many families out there that would love to have a baby of there own that’s just can’t. Think about it
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Tie your tubes please
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Government assistance
If he doesn’t want to be involved you can’t force him… that’s his choice. Surround yourself with family and friends to help you through but cut ties with him cause you won’t get what you’re wanting from him. Congratulations!
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Uhm IDC you should file child support and leave him alone. In Texas you can’t even get an abortion and everything is left on the women. This is a perfect example of why men should be equally responsible. He should’ve use a condom, bc he didn’t then you are owe some financial help bc you didn’t do this on your own! And you shouldn’t have to struggle bc he didn’t wear one… You have rights. Idc what he says. I know your not after money but he does need to help financially!
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He didn’t want to use protection. Either way it takes two to make a baby. He can’t force you to get an abortion. If I were you though I wouldn’t force a man to be in a child’s life He doesn’t want to be in. Cut him off.
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Dude get rid of him. Walk away, he doesn’t exist anymore… be there for your kids.
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He doesn’t want to be involved. He’s made that clear. If you want to keep the baby you are going to have to do it alone.
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This is sad, and I feel sorry for you. But he did tell you that he didn’t want the child from the beginning. When you decided not to go through with the abortion, you took it upon yourself to accept being a single parent. He voiced his opinion, no children. This also doesn’t seem like a relationship. It seems more like a friends with benefits situation that went wrong. You can’t force him to be in the baby’s life since he told you from the beginning it was a no. You don’t need to cut him off because he’s doing that himself. Just take care of yourself and your children.
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You leave his ass…simple
Let him go I hope you have a good family that could help you with what you need. He ain’t never going to help you. Trust me been there before I just was lucky I had my parents help. Now my kids are grown and doing great. A big thanks goes to my husband who raised my boys as his own with love. Ain’t nothing as special as a mom and child bond I promise.
Sop trying to force someone into a relationship that doesn’t want it. If you want the baby then you can keep it. He was clear he didn’t want a kid and you two both made really irresponsible choices.
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That shouldn’t even be a question. Get the scum out of your life
Cut him off. He made his position clear when he told you to abort. Made it again when he said baby isn’t his. Made it again when he refused to speak to you. Your kid. Not his. It’s a blessing that if he’s like that he Doesn’t want anything to do with it. Add to that, it’s not YOUR fault. It’s on both of you. He chose to bareback didn’t he???
He didn’t want to wrap it up so it’s his fault too not just yours. It takes 2 to make a baby. Obviously he’s not man enough to take care of a child. He’s just gonna be a coward and walk. Sorry to hear. Good luck!
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I went through an abortion with an ex, and when we split, I became the murderer and baby killer. Even though it was a decision we both made due to the timing and us not getting along at all. When I met my now hubby, we were just “friends with benefits”. We had no intentions of kids. I was on birth control, he was deemed by a doctor that it would IMPROBABLE for him to have his own kids. He accepted that and decided he never wanted kids of his own. I got pregnant. With his kid. Because of the timing, me being so recent out of my toxic relationship, I couldn’t go through another abortion. He knew that. I knew what he wanted. I gave him the option. I said you’re either in or your out. No in out bullshit, I was already dealing with that with my first born. Gave him all the time he needed to think about it. We are still together. Nearly 10 years later. Stronger than ever.
Give him the choice. Don’t try and force it.
If he doesn’t want a baby he shouldn’t be having unprotected sex or sex at all. Regardless if he wants the child or not he needs to be held responsible for his actions. You either take him for support, or you drop it and raise the child on your own. I personally believe everyone should be responsible for their choices. he made the choice to sleep with you, so there for he knew the consequences that could have followed.
Your story is almost as identical as mine. Except I had already had one child and he had two. I tried to get him to be a father. But it all ended in restraining orders. Plan b doesn’t always work and I love my little “plan c”. Let him go. File for child support and let him walk away from your child.
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You can’t forget g to be a dad when he didn’t want to be one
I mean he told you he didn’t want this child. It’s okay for women to get a abortion without caring what the father wants so this is the males way of aborting. Y’all both dumb for not using protection 
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It’s not your fault. He should’ve used protection if he didn’t want a baby.
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Don’t cut him off because you’re tied together now for the rest of your lives but accept what he’s saying to you. He’s making it clear he wants nothing to do with you or baby. Just live your life. When the baby is born, get paternity established right away and put him on the hook for support. Hopefully he will want to be a parent but you can’t make him.
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Run for the hills. You can do this yourself. I think the worst pain a woman can go through is to try to be with someone who doesn’t want to. Cry…. Get it out and move on with your life. Your babies will be better off without the dysfunction.
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Why didn’t you use protection? Or why weren’t you more careful? You have 2 kids already, and you’ve only been with this guy for 3 months? He told you he didn’t want a baby from.the beginning.
So both of you found yourselves unemployed and thought “hmm now is the time to get together”?? He made his choice, he said no. That’s that. If you wanna keep being a single mom of now 3 kids, that’s your choice and yours alone, but he is permanently out. Block him and move on. And ffs get a job and don’t sleep with unemployed people with kids they are most likely not taking care of, they don’t magically decide they will now want your future children and be responsible from now on. Also, 3y or not, use a condom or other birth control, plan b can fail for many reasons, your weight included. You both know how kids are made. Seriously
First off, it’s not “your fault” it’s BOTH of your guys fault. You BOTH slept with each other without protection. That can equal a baby always! Even WITH protection you can get pregnant (although it’s much less likely)
Second, he can have his opinion and you can have yours, but ultimately it’s your body and you will decide what to do. If you want to keep the baby he can’t stop you. He should have wrapped it before he tapped it! You’re obviously very fertile with two kids already!
Thirdly, you might not be after his money, but he needs to show some kind of support for his child or surrender his rights if he really doesn’t want anything to do with the baby. That’s what the courts are for.
Fourth, you can’t force him to be in this baby’s life. Sorry. If he doesn’t want to be he doesn’t have to be. But again, it takes two to tango and neither of you practiced safe sex so talk to him, and then go to court.
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You said, “I know it is my fault also because I wasn’t on birth control and he didn’t want to use protection.” I hope what you mean by that is that it is both of y’all’s fault. Do not take on the responsibility by yourself, he played a big part in it.
My suggestion, don’t contact him anymore. You are choosing to have this baby so do that. Put him on child support. Just understand you may have to be financially responsible for this child on your own if he chooses to dodge child support.
In the future, choose better men, use birth control, and/or only be intimate with men willing to use protection.
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Not sure what you all expected to happen. No birth control and no protection = baby.
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Adoption is always an option.
Sue him for child support. Government( our tax $$ )shouldn’t be supporting you and your baby because ya’ll are stupid!!
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First of all I want to say congratulations on your gift that God has given you obviously this child has a purpose and it takes a very strong woman to decide life over death know that this is a blessing and I know it’s going to be hard but maybe it is best that this man does not get involved at all and you cannot say this is your fault you also stated he did not want to use protection and if you have sex consequences are there could be a baby people like that do things without having to face the reality that for everything you do there is a reaction embrace your gift honey cut this man off and look how fulfilling it’s going to be there are many agencies that are pro-life and that can give you a helping hand just got to look for them God bless you and you are in my prayers I know I’m a stranger but if for any reason you just need someone to talk to I don’t mind if you go on to my profile and hit me up I backed you 100%. God bless you and keep you in all that you do
He has made his point clear, leave him alone, the stress is not good for you
If he’s gonna be like that why make him be apart of the babies life? I mean I would probably still put him on child support cause it takes two to tango.
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Prepare to be a single mother cause you can’t force anyone to do anything.
Lol. Girllllll he laid down and made this baby too. He can be mad all he wants but he had the opportunity to use protection! Have the baby and drop him like it’s hot. He’s not worth it.
Just walk away. You can get assistance and definitely file for child support. I’m sure you have family and friends that will be by your side and support your emotions and your choices in life. Good luck hon.
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Ooof I learned the hard way with plan b. Apparently if your over a certain weight it’s less effective. She’s 6 now.
That being said. Be done with him. Raise your baby. Your baby does not need a part time dad. Imo and in my experience, it’s more hurtful to the child for a part time parent.
So are you seeing him or sleeping with him because though are entirely different things?
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Let him go he doesn’t want to be involved you can do it prayers 
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He didn’t wear protection so it’s not really all ur fault , ur no on protection he didn’t use any what did he expect to happen? Muppet
The ones that are taking the guys advice and telling her she should’ve of aborted she has 2 babies at home she knows what being a mother is like she knows how when you hear the first cry your heart sinks bc of the little human you created she knows it’s a life that she just can’t throw away!! The ones that are feeling sorry for the baby and her other kids are nothing but trash any baby is a miracle from above. He’s just a pos from running from something HE helped create! Your 4 months already that baby has a heartbeat that baby has its little features and that baby is a BLESSING! your going to be fine mama don’t listen to the negative Nancy’s in here.
Walk away. Hes told you he doesnt want it.sorry.
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You don’t really need any support from him since you’re not together while you’re pregnant but once the babies born you can have a paternity test and then child support and visitation either way he needs to support the child

Just live your life with out him it’s his loss!! So many strong woman do this by our self’s we don’t need no useless man
Silence screams. Go to the courts and get dna and support
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He’s tryna manipulate u into making it your fault. Takes 2 to tango
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He knows how to find you if he changes his mind.
Honestly, I’m not going to judge you or him about the “protection” bullshit because protection is not 100% effective. I actually learned in my high school sex Ed class that the purpose of condoms isn’t to prevent pregnancy, it’s to prevent STDs/STIs. If you are over 150lbs or if your body already started ovulating - plan B will fail. There is essentially a “weight limit” that plan B is effective. Plan B just pushes your ovulation off so if your body already started that process, it wouldn’t have helped. I personally wouldn’t contact him anymore. I would take it as a loss, keep the baby, and raise the baby. I know plenty of moms that do it on their own. It takes two to tango
Cut him off. Still get dna and when it comes back his slap him in the face with the results. You both laid down and made this baby however sounds like he not a man at all
Honey, you did not find out you were pregnant AND take a plan b within 6 hrs of coitus…which is when you would have needed to. Taking the plan b within 6 hrs of finding out your preggers is useless
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I really don’t know what to say to this ? I think you’re both irresponsible ! But this has happened but this is also your body ! This is your choice ! If he doesn’t want to be involved don’t beg him ! If you don’t feel ready for another maybe look at adoption ? There are so many options out there x
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You do you.and your kids. Learn a hard lesson. Leave him alone,he’s already showed you that you can’t depend on him. After the baby is born do go after child support,it is his kid too,he was just as responsible for birth control.
Gosh…he has made it clear his position.
I wouldn’t pursue him anymore. I would move on and try to manage things and line up another support/friend/family member for yourself. Treat yourself with respect and set some healthy boundaries with him.
<3 You didn’t do this by yourself…he also participated so just know that. AND…because of that, you will be able to get child support from him to assist with costs for your child.
Treat yourself better Mama. You deserve to be treated well, not used. You are worth it and your children are worth it as well. If you take care of yourself, they will be better taken care of. <3
Honey, you did not find out you were pregnant AND take a plan b within 6 hrs of coitus…which is when you would have needed to. Taking the plan b within 6 hrs of finding out your preggers is useless
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He’s already told you he wants no part of it. What else are you expecting! Im sorry you’re in this situation and sadly as woman we end up taking care of baby since we birth them and can’t really force anyone to do what they won’t. The only thing you got is to put child support when baby comes. and I say this from experience. Husband left me pregnant and with a 2 year old never looked back so the sooner reality sets in the much heartache you’ll save yourself.
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Oh wow. It’s common. Let him be. Now you decide how you want your life and the baby’s. Either have him sign rights away or seek for support after the baby is born. Anytime anyone has sex always expect this can happen. Birth control or not.
You may not have been on bc, but he actively chose not to use protection, too. Remind him of that. You both made poor choices that led to this pregnancy.
If he doesn’t want to be involved as a father, you can’t force him. But he still was an active participant in the fun part, and he knew this was a possible outcome. So, do what you need to do to take care of your child. If you need to put them on state insurance or anything in the future, he’ll likely be put on child support if he’s listed as the dad on the birth certificate. So decide how you want to handle all that.
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Can’t force someone who doesnt wanna be there… shows his true colors. If he didnt want to get you pregnant then he should have used a condom…
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He’s not worth . Cut me offofthe time and angry.
Really getting the sense you thought this child was going to solidify a relationship and he was clear he didn’t want another child. You made the choice to keep the child. Let him alone and just raise that kid if you wanted them so much.
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OK I totally empathize with the situation but can we as adults stop having sex without being on birth control and unprotected and say I was not trying to get pregnant just saying
A man creates the child because he doesn’t want to wear a condom still needs to pay for his child. I wouldn’t loose sleep over him being involved because all he was in it for was the sex. Letting them off the hook for support isn’t the answer. You’re not using the baby to get money from him, he wouldn’t wear a condom and now has to pay the consequences.
You know what you tell him? MEN ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR PROTECTING THEMSELVES TOO! If he didn’t want a baby he should have protected himself better. And plan B’s don’t always work. Depending on your weight, certain medications, etc.
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Cant force a person to do what they don’t wanna do and why would you want a loser like that in your child’s life anyway? He told you to get rid of it that alone should make you turn the other way amd run
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Praying for her and her babies.
If he didn’t even try to prevent the pregnancy and he’s abandoning his child, definitely file for child support. You can’t make him be involved, but you can make him be financially responsible. Your child deserves at least that from him.
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You can’t force someone to be there for you if they don’t want to. You can however, get child support to help financially with the child of you choose to. You should’ve both protected yourselves from an unwanted pregnancy
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So… He as a grown man and father knows how children are created. If he doesn’t want children, he needs to wrap it. Do what’s best for your soul. Maybe he will make better choices.
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