I don’t know what to do. It just got court ordered that my child’s father gets my child every other Friday, but with how the weather is, I do not know if I even want to go out and risk my children’s lives or mine to get her to the meeting place we meet at they don’t do snow emergencies where I live but I’m just curious has anyone else been thru this or have any advice for me we have about 4 inches of sleet/ice, and the snow just started, and the weather people are talking about seven plus inches of snow lasting all day tomorrow also.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. The weather is bad, should I still send my kids to their dads?
If he reports that you don’t show you could get contempt of court
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If you don’t feel comfortable going out, ask your ex to come and pick the kids up? You can’t really use weather as an excuse unless it is a natural disaster situation.
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If he agrees, you could postpone the visit to the next weekend.
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I would see if he would be willing switch weekends
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How would you feel if it was your turn to have them and he just said no due to “weather?” If it’s just for a small extension until the weather is better; some time better be made up. Safety is the most important thing. Maybe if you know the weather will be bad; arrange to meet earlier.
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Maybe ask dad 2have the children on an alternate Friday bcos of weather, or can he fetch or drop. I m sure he can’t put his children’s lives at risk 4getting a revenge on u
I would call the dad and ask what he wants to do. You can always switch weekends or maybe he can come to pick the child/children up?
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Weather isn’t a excuse unless like blizzad tornado hurricane volcano 
u can be in contempt
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…it’s called winter lol you can’t just deny him his parenting time because it’s winter
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I’d message him and ask him if he wants to postpone it because of the weather. Hopefully he agrees rhat the safety of your child and yourself is important to him. However if he doesn’t want to postpone make sure you’re there or he can get you in contempt of court.
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. Call the father and ask if you can rearrange another day during the week
. Ask if he can make the trip all the way to yours and just say that you are not comfortable/experienced with driving in that type of weather.
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Maybe ask him to come get them or have someone drive them that’s an experienced driver in inclement weather. Also, everywhere does snow emergency levels at a certain point.
I would see if he’s willing to switch weekends or come get your child so you don’t have to travel. With it just being court ordered, I don’t think the weather would justify her not being able to spend time with her father.
Girl give them kids to their daddy
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Call the other parent and see if they are willing to skip this weekend and give them your next weekend. Get any agreement in writing. Even through email, then consider modifying the parenting plan to add in a clause that covers severe weather that makes driving dangerous include flooding, wild fires, and snow also include how make up time will be handled. But if your reason is just because you are afraid to drive maybe someone else can drive you you can get in trouble for just not showing up. Frankly 4 inches is not much.
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My court papers have a section that If the weather is bad we can reschedule.
If you don’t have that just talk to him and see if you can skip it or reschedule
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You live somewhere that it snows and are uncomfortable driving in snow? That seems to be a huge issue in itself! It’s his weekend, see if he’s will to come get her? Maybe while she’s gone for the weekend you can go out and practice safe driving!
If snow is uncommon where you live I understand your trepidation, if that’s the case maybe he will switch weekends?
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Where are you located?
It’s Tues and visitation is court ordered to start Friday. I don’t see why you’re stressed. Yes there is ice on the ground now with several inches of snow expected to fall tomorrow, but unless your town is super broke and will not be cleaning the roads between Wed night and Friday you won’t be driving through any hazards.
Just take your kids so you don’t get in trouble with the courts.
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Unless it’s being formally advised to stay home and off the roads then you need to drop your child off. Unless there is a clause in your paperwork or you have a good relationship with your ex and can can sort out a solution together .
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Not 2 be rude but I think most of these comments are ridiculous !
If this were me , there is 1 option….what other weekend works . If the weather is terrible & unsafe 4 me 2 meet her dad , I am in no way risking our lives . Hopefully he would feel the same & not want 2 risk his child’s life either . Please take me 2 court 4 contempt bcuz there was 4 inches of ice & snow continuing 2 follow & u wanted me 2 drive my child in it 
There are exceptions 2 every rule .
Drop off earlier. Or swap days around.
See if u can switch weekends and do a back to back or suck it up. I do it all the time.
You should call their dad, explain the situation and have a civil conversation before making a decision.
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What was the court order? Follow it!
I drive two hours in northern Michigan every 4 days to pick up or drop off my kids, when the roads are too bad to drive in I find somebody comfortable enough to drive us or I switch days with their dad so I get them the next day and keep them a day longer. Sometimes I exchange earlier in the day because our meet is at 6pm, sometimes helpful. If you end up with no other options, drive slow, take blankets, and a charged phone. Drive slow, if the roads are bad other people are driving slow too. I’ve gone 25 in a 55 many times, couple weeks ago went through a county who doesnt plow at night drove my Ford focus sedan through a foot and half of fresh snow. Just drive safe, be aware, and again go slow.
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No you don’t have to if it’s severe weather.
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You need to learn how to communicate with their father if you’re going to successfully coparent. You should be discussing this with him, not every Tom, Dick and Harry on the internet.
We just had about 4 inches of ice and snow and my child still went to his father’s. His dad came and picked him up. A few inches isn’t a reason to not continue visitation.
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“My Children” = OUR Children !
Ask him to do the driving and maybe get them early
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Call their Dad and ask if he wants you jot risk driving them.
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Am I the ONLY one that is irritated with lingo here? “my child”. Did I miss something? I thought it took 2 to tango. Anywho, you best take those kids to their daddy. The court will hold you in contempt. Depending on what state you are in, you can be arrested for contempt.
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Just know if u don’t follow court order visitation you can be in contempt of court. Which can lead to jail time…
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Send it through messages so you have it. Let him know that you dont want to risk it with the weather and you are willing to give him two weekend in a row if hes able to skip this weekend.
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Seriously?!? Do your part to be a fair parent.
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You would,need to follow the orders that are provided or you can get in to trouble!! Can someone else drive you or can the father pick them up
Well if he gets the child every other Friday, and it is only the beginning of Wednesday right now, you still have 2 days for the weather to clear up before you have to worry about bringing her to the pickup/drop off location. Even if it lasts all day Wednesday into Thursday, you still have time for the roads to be cleaned up and made safe. Unfortunately unless there is a travel ban(emergency personnel only) or a state of emergency, you are required to bring the child. I wouldn’t risk trying to skip out on visitation the week you get the court order. That doesn’t look good on you at all. Plus you can be held in contempt, which some states will arrest for that. If you and dad are civil/on speaking terms, you can ask him his opinion, and express your concerns. Ask him what he would like to do. Maybe he would be willing to pick up from home, so that you don’t need to drive. Or find someone with a vehicle that drives well in the snow (4x4/all wheel drive) and is comfortable driving in bad weather, to help with transportation. I drove my kids over 1 hour to meet their dad, in a blizzard. He didn’t care that it was a blizzard. It was his scheduled day, and he wanted the kids, which. I completely understand. Make sure you have a fully charged phone, a couple bottles of water, snacks and blankets, just incase something happens.
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Leave early, take it slow
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First off, ‘I believe they are ya’ll kids’ &, NOT your kids. Secondly, ask yourself if you werd the waiting for visitation with ya’lls children or, waiting for the kids to come home what would you want done ‘if’ U can answer that honestly. Thirdly but not least since your the one having driving issues how about, Dad keeping kids & you only have visitation?! Couples whom have kids together need to realize, kids don’t separate from the other parent. Mom & Dad split up now it’s ya’lls responsibility to in no way separate the kids any further from both parents. They don’t just needs one parent they need & want both &, ttey deserve this
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Um you communicate with dad? You are adults, fb isn’t where you go to find this out. I would rather my child’s parent call me then put it off till last minute because they had to consult social media first 
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Tbh, it seems like you are just using the weather as an excuse to not let their father have time with them…
I mean unless it was a tornado hitting his place… weather should not be a reason they miss time with him…
I live in buffalo, NY and have driven my kids to their fathers house in inches of snow before… plenty of times
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Would you be ok if he kept the child if it started snowing and he didn’t want to travel to the meeting place? If the weather isn’t treacherous you need to deliver because you will be in contempt.
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Uh, If it were dad doing this, surely you’d be complaining. And telling him to figure it out.
Leave early, drive slow, take yalls kids to see their daddy.
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It’s only Tuesday I am sure the roads will be fine by Friday. Weather is not an excuse.
Put things aside and make decisions together truthfully in the best interest for your children . If it’s truly risky, neither parent would want their children on the road .
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have a police officer come to your house and explain it to him or her let they know your afraid to let them go in the road condition and have that police write you a letter to give to the judge and have the police sign it and date it and make sure his name is clear so judge can read it correctly
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Speak with child’s father not Facebook, get his opinion. If he’s in agreement let him make up days missed thro school hols if he can accommodate
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I hope you went bc unless your court order says you can rearrange due to weather, he can file against you for not showing.
Get over yourself. He’s her DAD & has every right to see her. Unless there’s flooding or tornado’s ripped up the road, you show up.
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We had an ice storm the day I drove 3 hours for OUR kids to see their dad. And me and him were even arguing at the time AND I don’t even have a court order saying I needed to do so. I just do what’s best for the kids we created together. Drive slow, have someone else drive if you don’t trust yourself, whatever you need to do. It’s not YOUR kid, it’s YALLS kid. Weird how the court just ordered this and you are already finding reasons not to. 
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It’s court ordered so…
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Why are you asking this on fb? Go call the Dad and figure it out, it isn’t that hard.
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If you don’t feel comfortable driving I’d ask a friend or family member to drive you. Your child deserves to see her father. Now when I don’t feel comfortable driving in bad weather my baby daddy always comes to my place to get our daughter because he can drive better than me anyways lol plus my truck hates the rain, I hydroplane WAY to much.
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- Talk to the father
- Suggest to make up lost day on another day
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If it’s not safe then don’t risk it!! Also don’t take all these righteous women’s comments that serious. They aren’t in your position. You know what’s best for your kids.
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Visitation is a civil matter. If it is unsafe text the child’s father and explain that it’s not safe to travel the roads and offer an alternative such as two weekends in a row to make up for it. If that’s not amenable to him let him call the police and make a report. When they come to your house all they will tell you and him is that it is a civil matter and to take it back to court. Keep a journal of ANY AND ALL changes and screenshots of the text messages that you sent to him to support your documentation.
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Sweetheart. Seriously 
. Is snow new? You can NOT keep a child from their father for weather 
. You will be held in contempt and you will have to make up that denied time on your time. Then if he wants to, the police can escort him to the kids show you the court paper work, stating it is his time. Then it is legally documented you denied him for such a bs reason. Why are mother so bitter towards fathers!!! This has gotten so out of hand for so many kids. They did not ask for it! The father probably has visitation rights, not even custody. So the measly little time he gets with them, your going to take away because of weather 
. Where your kids fine with him driving when you where together during winter storms? Hmmmm…… but now it’s not ok….
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We need more details. I live in the south and if we get a dusting everything shuts down. I say if child has school, he goes to dads. If school is canceled, that tells me roads are too bad to travel on. I so think this all depends on where you are. Also, talk to the dad. Let him know your concerns. If he wants to get child, make him come to you bc you are scared to drive.
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Oh wow here’s a lot of single parents on this page it’s all good and well while they small to move them too and from but when they get older all the problems start I know please uf u not going to a family plse don’t have kids they are the ones that suffer later in life
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She’s just concerned about her child’s drive. People saying "get over yourself " need to get over themselves. There is no reason to be mean and she’s probably asking because she doesn’t know who else to ask. Shouldn’t we all be supportive and encouraging?
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If you don’t wanna get out then have him come get them.
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Call him and see if y’all can come to an agreement
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What a stupid question. If people have to stay home from work call him and ask to reschedule. Good Lord this is NOT rocket science.
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Is this from last week? It’s literally Tuesday night where I’m at. And you say it’s supposed to snow tomorrow as well, which would be Wednesday. So what’s this have to do with Friday? Communicate with the father if it’s that big of a concern
Unless the roads are closed you are to make every effort to drop her off.
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How would you feel if dad called on Sunday night and said he was keeping her a couple extra days because of the weather? I think if the tables were turned, you wouldn’t be ao understanding. Maybe see if he can meet you early before it gets too bad. But its his time and it’s court ordered… you have to go.
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unless the weather is so bad the cops will arrest you, you must send your child…
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Girl, I’d ignore half of the comments here. Some women are so cold. It’s pretty gross. Anyway, if you don’t feel comfortable, then don’t make the drive. Talk to him and see if he feels like the roads are safe enough for him to come to you and get them. If so, let him come to you and just check on them here and there. Communication is key. Especially when it comes to co-parenting.
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Ask dad if it’s okay not to get them till weather is better. If she wants to drive the whole was and get them then that’s ok him. But he should be compensated for his missed time.
If it’s court ordered…come hell or high water…they must go…I used to travel 45 mins…one way with 3 small kids to get them to there Court ORDERED visit…
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You legally have to send your child if it is court ordered. The most you can do is ask Dad if he can get you child later when the weather clears up and maybe let him have the child a little longer then normal or make up. Remember to coparent and make this about the child. Be flexible.
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My mom used to tell me - he has just as much rights to those boys as you do - get them there 
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Bad weather is not a excuse so make sure they get to spend time with their father
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I mean…just coparent and make the decision together. Maybe he can meet you halfway. Maybe he’ll be like, yah I agree, I’ll get them in the morning. Maybe he’ll be like, I understand you’re not comfortable, I’ll come get them.
Just talk to the other person.
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He does not get his court ordered time he can hold you in contempt maybe you should talk to him instead of us
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Bad weather is not a excuse, you have a court order you must follow.
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Just got court ordered. Better make every effort to get that child to the dad.
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Call tell him your concerns offer your next Friday. Both parents have to do what’s best for the kids. Work together if possible
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Talk it over with Dad …
Omg my worst nightmare 
hope this gets easier for you mama and all the other mamas
It’s Wednesday today you be fine by Friday to get the child to her destination lol
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If there’s a court order and you refuse to take the kids, you could get in trouble yourself. If the two of you can’t agree on safety unfortunately it’s probably best to still send them
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You have to send them. Unless u have a state of emergency where you cant be on the roads or the dad can come get them so you dont have to leave the house
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I mean if it’s bad out he shouldn’t want his kids life risked. My fiancé has court ordered visitation every weekend starting Friday and we just had a bad storm last Friday and he was already expecting to not have visitation because he would not want the mother on the road with their kids but he did call them. Maybe set up video call for them and talk to dad. Don’t just not show up and not say anything. Voice your concern with him now and if he really wants to see them try to arrange where he can get them earlier even if it’s a day early then you don’t have to worry about being on the roads or try to set something up for the next day.
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We talked to bm and she agreed it would be better to skip so ask him
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If the weather is bad then I would not risk my child’s life end of
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Talk with him and make a decision together. You have to follow the court order unless you both agreed not to meet up.
If there had to be a court order, does that mean that you were already being uncooperative with him?
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Call and explain your concerns nicely. Offer an alternative once the weather is better. You both have to work together without getting pissed off or demanding on either side or the co parenting relationship will be toxic until y’all can be civil
He’s already been reduced to an every other weekend dad. Don’t take away the little time he has with his kid. She’s already not getting to see him enough. She’s really missing out on that special daddy daughter bond that she deserves by only getting him a few days a month. Don’t be that mom that finds excuses for the very little time they get. Try and get more time actually. She deserves both parents.
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Court order is a court order, they don’t care about the weather. It’s you guys thing to sort out how you get there. That’s just how it is.
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Can you talk with the father about the situation and see if you can do it another day?
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Why are you coming to the internet? You need to ask Dad how he feels since he is reduced to only seeing his children 4 days out of the month. FYI… It’s a court order, he could file contempt against you if you refuse to allow your child to go.
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Talk to him, but if possible he should get his visitation
I would talk to your Ex and explain. Weather that bad, no one should be out in.
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Talk to him & make sure you come to an understanding. Court orders are serious!! He can just say you aren’t following it & thats a strike against you.
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A lot of people’s advice here is going to be clueless. Not everyone is going to know the details of your specific case. “Talk to dad” is great advice… if the dad is cooperative. That isn’t always the case.
I wouldn’t reccomend keeping your child because it could be seen as contempt of court. However, contempt of court is also something that is extremely difficult to get judges to care about. I would choose the safest way to get your kids where they need to be (if one of you have 4 wheel drive, or is a safer driver) and then follow through.
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You will need to discuss this with the other parent and if the said parent wants to see their child, well then you bring them their child. I see posts like this (perhaps you are not) but lots of women do this for an excuse, (see it constantly on these types of pages) but wouldn’t have a problem running out in the weather for something for themselves. It is a court order and you must follow through or risk the serious consequences. Friday is still two days away.
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Court order means his time… would you be ok if he called told you kiddos werent coming back because it was bad out?!? Bet youd be there in 5 min (I know I would be) maybe he can pick them up where you live if you tell him your scared
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