Would you gamble all that is in your bank account?
If you are a super jealous person I would say don’t do it. The jealousy will get in the way after and cause lots of issues in your marriage.
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Absolutely not, don’t do it
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My thoughts? My thoughts are that God intended marriage to be between a husband and wife. If either of you wanted to sleep with other people or still lust after other people then you don’t need to be married. Plain and simple
There are apps for this! My boyfriend and I have discussed this, but we haven’t gone any further than that… yet.
Never a good idea to invite trouble and inviting someone else in your bed is TROUBLE .
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Every person is different. I definitely do not share. I’m stingy. So that’s a strong no for me.
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Adding a third party into your marriage bed is NEVER gonna make things BETTER!
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So ask yourself how cool you are with your husband having sex with someone else. Because that’s what you’re agreeing to.
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I know couples who did this. They’re all no longer married. What happens…one always enjoys it and wants more than the other. Lies. Cheating. It’s not about jealousy. It’s about loyalty and disrespect.
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Sounds like the makings of a divorce
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This could be a second guy situation from the way its worded.
Funny everyone thinks second girl.
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Do not do it, and if he puts any pressure on … lol… perhaps say you e had a thought or two of a different type of threesome. Ask him if it’s ok to have two males involved instead of two females. Men always dream of two girls. But once you suggest another man they’ll typically fold into their own jealousy. But for real. Unless you both are that particular type. It will make a mess of everything you e built.
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I couldn’t do it personally.
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He was being honest…majority of a straight man’s fantasy. Don’t read too much into it. If that’s what he really wanted you’ve heard it long before now. Do what is comfortable to you. I personally couldn’t do it. But what makes you happy.
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It would be an experience and if he said it was focused on you, I’m thinking it’s another man coming in. Consent and communication would be extremely important.
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Agree, but only if the other person is a man. Since the attention is to be focused on you, and you wouldn’t be jealous after 
Now, if you find something out about your husband in the process, that’s a risk you’ll have to deal with.
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I recommend reading the Ethical Slut. I swear this book should be read by all singles, couples, and more.
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Never would I it’s like cheating and could end up ugly
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I too am a jealous person I think the only way I can actually do that without getting jealous and in my feelings is if I tied him down hands and feet… that way he can’t “pay more attention to her” “fuck her more than me” or any other crazy thoughts bc he literally can’t move. And I’d have no one to blame but myself bc I tied him down and I made him helpless and defenseless to where he couldn’t fight her off.
So if your really considering it but don’t know if you could watch your man with another girl try this.
If I was to do it I’d make sure it wasn’t with someone we knew or friends with . Maybe while on vacation lol so we wouldn’t run into them ever again
Book a professional sex worker. There are many workers who specialise in couples/ threesomes. They will chat with both parties beforehand to get a feel for what you want and also what your boundaries are.
There is also much less risk booking a professional than other options.
Get you a new husband a real man would never ask that of you
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It hurts the relationship, you could open up something your not ready for because you are a jealous person and that is fine. Another thing that you can open up is your husband wanting to do it So often because he enjoyed it and that can cause a problem between your marriage or the possibility of him sneaking around and doing it Without you because you are not willing to do it again. Many things can go wrong so be careful you do not want to pick a friend because that can turn into an affair that happened to my cousin they brought in a friend and her husband ended up leaving her and is now with that friend.
I’ve never been involved in a threesome nor have a desire to do so and I could only imagine that if it were done, it would definitely ruin even the most stable of relationships. Too many chefs in the kitchen, if you catch my drift.
Never ever do that , this makes sex mechanical and no longer about love .
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Always always always creates problems… keep it as a fantasy!
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What happens if its a male and your husband starts accusing you of going behind his back or something? In my opinion its not worth the trouble it could cause.
It’s not my cup of tea as I don’t share well with others (in the bedroom) LOL
But to each their own! If it makes them happy GET IT GET IT 
Sounds like you guys can either do it or don’t and you’ll be fine. I have no clue how to go about it other than go to a bar and hit on chicks together lol
It’s different with each couple me and my husband have a few different times with different females and some were good cuz it was strictly physical and one of the girls got attached and that was a big ordeal. You just have to follow your gut if your not sure then don’t do it bcuz it could end up being detrimental to your relationship
Tell him sure if the other one can be a man because that’s your fantasy but tell him the focus won’t be on him, it’ll be on the other and tell him don’t be surprised if you leave him for the other man after it 
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Men always want a threesome with another woman, you never hear of them wanting a man.
He just wants to screw another woman with your blessing.
If you do it once you will open a door you can’t close.
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Go to a swingers club and watch many couples there are understanding did that in may younger years but had alot of open communication and rules.
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Some of y’all have been hurt so badly you’re too cynical. A threesome is the fantasy of most guys out there. Yes even the faithful and loyal ones. Her husband told her he didn’t care if it ever happened for real. Which actually says a lot about their relationship. 1. He trusts her with parts of him he wouldn’t trust anyone else with. 2. He’s comfortable being open with her. 3. He has taken her concerns to heart and doesn’t want her feeling uncomfortable in any way.
Darling, the truth of the matter about threesomes is trust. As a couple you have to completely trust each other and be secure in your relationship for them to work. There are fetish groups all over the world in place just for this type of lifestyle. My suggestion would be to check out a reputable swingers club together. You’re not forced to participate in anything you don’t want to participate in. Most of the couples have been in your shoes. You can observe, talk to other couples about their experiences. It’s all about boundaries. And if you don’t feel comfortable involving anyone else you can still have fun with each other. If you trust each other it can be a really fun bond fortifying experience. It can intensify the intimacy between you. And there’s nothing wrong with making it a one time deal with someone. It’s about what makes you both comfortable. You can’t control or prevent how the 3rd party will behave or if they’ll create drama or not. But that’s where the trust in each other comes in. If you aren’t convinced you can trust your partner in any scenario then I would consider getting to the bottom of why that is. Is it his fault you can’t fully trust or is it your own issue to learn and grow from?
Sure, make it another dude. Problem solved
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No no and no… with a female it would be your husband doing another woman and if it was a man…uh you really want to see your guy naked together with another man ? 
no… AND do you really want another woman? Wrong all the way across the board
That’s a big NO for me. Too many variables.
Jealousy really has no place in a threesome, so if you go through with it, there is a chance it will not end well if you do not work on your jealousy first. You have to make sure it is something that you really want to do.
And it’s not that easy to find a random girl that’s looking for a one-time thing, but it can happen, but we call these girls unicorns for a reason.
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It’s something to think about thoroughly hun. My husband and I get a woman from time to time. Im actually a jealous woman myself but something about seeing him be pleased is very erotic and I enjoy of the company of women. One of the most important things is to make sure the additional person, whether man or woman, understands what the rules are and what you desire. I personally thinks it’s fun and it can bring you guys together under the right circumstances.
Worked perfectly fine with me and we have no problem is actually pretty cool to be able to I think having an interest in women makes it a lot easier
I’d like to add that he wants it for his sake but made it look like so that you’ll benefit more…
he left you wondering, feeling jealous and probably questioning yourself thus doing so much damage to your self-esteem…he very swiftly shifted the burden of it all on you( and would later blame you saying you allowed that to happen), whereas Mr Fantasy is unfazed… plz don’t fall for his mind games, you’re a loyal soul, your jealousy is a proof of it, don’t ruin your marriage by bringing 3rd person in…
Your husband is a fool
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You have to have a solid relationship. Jealousy is not solid. Open minded and communication are keys. If you go into it positive it can be positive. If you go into it negative it will be negative. there’s rules and boundaries. I love women and men i am openly bisexual. Jealousy in a relationship is an insecurity that will turn that kind of thing into a shit show. So i suggest you not do it. If you’re comfortable it can be an exhilarating experience and ego booster for your relationship. Then again it’s every mans fantasy… Not every man can actually handle it. And never a friend.
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True and committed husbands don’t need a fantasy that includes another woman, with or without you.
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Suggest a guy for Threesome and you’ll see how fast your understanding husband says NO !!! girl don’t do it.
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If you are a really jealous person then I would not advise you to do it. Especially as you stated it’s no pressure on your husband’s end. It’s very healthy that y’all can have those type of conversations. Me on the other hand have no problem sharing my partner. As someone in the comments stated about going to a swingers club and y’all just watch. Everyone is not built to engage in activities like this and there is nothing wrong with that. Everyone has fantasies that may never be fulfilled and that’s ok too. I think y’all have a healthy relationship for the simple fact that y’all communicate with each other. If you’re not comfortable with it then lay that conversation at the doorstep and leave it there and y’all continue to be happy.
These comments about cheating 
if big IF they agree then it’s NOT cheating yall must have some really warp opinions on marriage. I do not see this conversation being the end all to the marriage but also don’t ask wack jobs on Facebook sit down and have a long conversation with your spouse about boundaries and such before you even move forward with any other part of the decision making process
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I have to say if this never entered your mind don’t do it. If you are that jealous don’t do it. It is not worth wrecking your marriage over. Your husband expressed a fantasy. Let it stay that way
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Don’t do it. Did it… and it didn’t turn out well.
Unless you plan to get into that lifestyle, I’d say pass. You don’t want to risk messing up what you have. It’s good to able to be open with each other to discuss anything and everything. I wish you the best and the wisdom to know what that is.
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If you’re a jealous person leave it as a fantasy as you’ll forever bring it up, even if just in your mind. Use it to spice things up in the bedroom with role play but i wouldn’t involve someone else, the risks aren’t worth it
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I’d be too jealous. I don’t want anyone but me to touch my partner in that way.
My exhusband and I chose to open our marriage for the last year and it was the downfall to our relationship. We always did things together, but it is a slippery slope. If I could do it all over again, I would put my foot down and say no. It’s not worth the strain on the relationship.
Some of you have mega insecurity…and it shows…
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Nope, it will be the beginning of the end of your marriage.
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Don’t do it, threesomes are for fun non serious relationships not for marriages. Not that marriage can’t be fun but It just makes things very complicated. Okay no, extremely complicated.
Start off slow, maybe watch some videos together and see how you feel about it first.
Please don’t. Speaking from experience hun.
Would never do that!
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Nope, I wouldn’t do it…I don’t share well with others, my toys are my toys and not for anyone else
That is just asking for problems
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I have done it both ways and relationship just as strong as before
If you curious watch videos together and try different things
Nope, fantasy is ok in the bedroom to keep it spicy, but don’t go beyond that!
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My ex hub brought it up. Often. I told him he better go watch a kink porn and get the phuck out of my face.
I couldn’t do it, is be super jealous
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Hun, if in doubt don’t.
Marriages fall apart because of this…
Dont do something just to please someone else if you don’t feel comfortable doing so…
Certainly not something I would have an interest in, but to each their own.
I recommend paying a professional. Boundaries are in place, and safety is a priority.
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Are we talking MFM or FFM
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Ermmmm I’d say you sober mind is telling you no and when drunk your easily led.
Mother’s Day was months back now. —.
Flip it around two men and you.
Tell him your fantasy is two men. But it one can touch. See he says the.
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If your the jealous type do NOT do it
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Start dragging people in parts Of your life that are private between you two is bound to cause problems
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If you are jealous type,I wouldn’t recommend doing it,bcz there can be times that he pays attention to her more then you,doing things differently, better,etc to her. And u would be looking. That’s a BIG NO for me.
And that image maybe will never leave you!
Try to imagine this picture, and think how does that make u feel and what would be the consequences!
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Some times fantasy is best left in the mind. The promise of something is generally more exciting than the reality.
‘ maybe ‘ can be enough.
However you are consulting adults and lots of people do enjoy that.
No one man or woman should ever feel pressure to do something sexually they are not comfortable with. So don’t rush into anything.
I think your husbands fantasy may rapidly disappear if you suggested another man. Rather than a woman .
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I could. I dont think you should. The jealousy would likely drive you insane and create problems where there wasnt any.
Maybe you could try dirty talking with that in mind ask him to show you what he’d do to her or what she’d do to you and see how you feel about it.
It never goes how it does in your head though and thats also something to keep in mind.
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No. And never. Ever.
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It’s HIS fantasy , you never once said you would like to do this.
My hubby has said it’s a fantasy just to see me with a girl but I’ve stated very clearly it will not happen. I will not open a door of possible invitation for problems that cant be closed. He fully understands and does not mind that. If he has expressed that its not that big of a deal and you’re a jealous person then dont.
once you have that threesome you basically gave your hubby permission to cheat and cheat in your bed
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Good luck finding one who doesn’t come with her man wanting in on the action too
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If you have to question it dont do it
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Hire a sex worker. It literally their job. They won’t have any emotional feelings or attachments to what is happening.
But consider any potential changes it could cause in your relationship. If you do it once then he may decide why not again.
Also if he wants the focus to be on you then why not an MFM ?? 
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I could never personally
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Don’t do it. It ruins the relationship 9/10
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Don’t do it a good friend did with her best friend and husband and the husband ended the relationship to be with the friend…it never ends well !
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I am a jealous person and there is no way I could welcome another person into the bedroom. I trust my husband 100% and I know he would never cheat but I am just too damn jealous for all of that
If you’re a jealous person, don’t do it.
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You can try to find an unicorn on tinder. You and her should speak, don’t give your mans info. Y’all set it up IF you’re 100% on board.
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If you’re jealous … do not……
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Def someone you don’t know if you are considering it.
I could never do it.
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Dont do it…just trust me with that and I dont want to go into detail explaining but please do not do it.
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If you are a jealous person it won’t work and will destroy your relationship. I wouldn’t do it
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If you do I’d set stipulations. We can have a threesome with a girl if we can have one with a guy. Otherwise no deal.
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I could and have but I always state that I get to pick the dude. Lol. If you’re secure in your relationship/self and understand that you are both individuals with your own wants and desires… then do it if you want. However, if you’re not, don’t. Jealousy can get ugly and if you think you could potentially see this as cheating, let it stay a fantasy
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Nope and he better not even tell me this is his fantasy lol
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I think you mean coujdN’T care less, but NO, the whole concept is disgusting in marriage. The marriage aside, think of your own values as a person with morales, and jealousy. In a word, no.
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No it wi ruin your relationship.some things are better left as fantasies
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They can be fun, but only when everyone is single. If it’s involving someone’s relationship it causes problems.
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