Thoughts about having a threesome?

Well if you’re super jealous you better not even do it. Because then you’re gonna start wondering if he’s talking to her after things are done and it’s gonna be a whole mess. Trust me I know people in this situation

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I personally wouldn’t,most likely someone is going to get hurt

I have numerous times. It’s a lot of fun. But only if there any no feelings and strings. We had to threaten a restraining order because one girl got obsessive. And it was only one time with her and it sucked. Sex is sex and that’s all it has to be. Never hurt our relationship at all. Make a couples tinder and find some random chick just dtf. My husband and I have down it like 5 times and only twice with the same person. If you go into it knowing it’s just a fun time and all parties agree, no one gets hurt, nothing is ruined, and you have a good time

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If either has any concerns DoNot Do It!

Not only no, but hell no. More often than not, it’s a bad idea.

Personally I couldn’t because that’s not my thing. If that’s your thing go for it. But you did say you were super jealous so it’s best you probably don’t

I myself could not do this. I am a jealous person and i would never be able to look at him the same. But that is just me and my insecurities

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Wtf … is wrong with u ppl are u serious…damn u deserve to be hurt if u commit to something this stupid the fact that you have to even get advice shows ur not at all worried about the man u love … go for it… u get what u deserve

You do it once and he will want it more, you do it no more then you’re divorced… threesomes are for single people

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If your looking to do something stupid why dont you guys get a good heroin addiction or practice animal sacrifice? at least you’ll still be together

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Nope nope and nope again

I got jealous just over a cute girl giving my husband a pedicure. I definitely couldn’t handle a threescore. If you are naturally jealous I wouldn’t do it

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Absolutely 100% never, ever. Not a chance in hell.

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Do not do this. I’ve never personally done it but I know of someone who has and it caused way too many issues. Do not, I repeat Do not do it.

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Tell him ok. But if is really all about u, then tell him u want him and another guy. Thats fun. 2 girls? Yeah thats not something he wants to do for YOU

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If you’re a jealous person, then just have one with another guy. You’ll be the only one getting attention from both guys. :woman_shrugging:t3::rofl:

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Honestly, I’ve had a few one was a crazy fun night out, didn’t know the couple (I’d like to add that it was not recently, I’m more careful now in this day and age lol) and a couple times with a friend and her man at the one time and a guy she knew that her and I basically picked up from the bar for a hop in the hay. We are still friends, make jokes and laugh about it. Neither of us regret it one bit. Her and I never did anything just the two of us and we’ve hung out alone plenty before and afterwards. It sounds as if there could be a little insecurity so I’d recommend if you were to do it, be clear with your intended, let her know that, tell her what you want and don’t want, my friend didn’t want her boyfriend to penetrate me vaginally. And we had zero issues as we were all very clear on our personal boundaries
Much much luck to ya if you do take the leap, I hope you have an amazing experience!:yellow_heart:

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Nope most I am okay with is going to the strip club and getting private dances

Been there done that, not with my Husband though. I was single at the time, and its not everything its bragged up to be. Pretty disappointing. But being married, that is not something I would do. I cannot and will not share my husband with anyone and any man that wants his wife to be with someone other than them doesn’t say much for his character. I wouldn’t do it. It causes to many issues and since you’re already jealous, well you already got one red flag as to why you shouldn’t. but to each their own

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He’s assuming 2 women. Why don’t you suggest a second man!

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Not a chance in hell.

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It’s like having an affair. Could you live with it. What about you and another female
Don’t have no in. Make your relationship more valuable

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Nope. Find something new and nasty to do together. I have seen this go south for couples and it’s not worth it.

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Don’t. If you struggle with jealousy, absolutely do not even try.

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I was asked the same question by my partner but the difference between mine and yours. Mine took months to understand why I said no in the end. I wanted to for the experience but then as we were brainstorming on who to pick it just felt like after a while he was searching for someone that was perfect for him and I felt uncomfortable. I said to him that I don’t think I’m mentally or physically able to share you. I’ll get jealous and I can’t watch someone do things to him and visa viscera. Thank god we have past this because it was so shit feeling like I was good enough and having all those yucky feelings.

Do not do it!!! Bad bad bad idea. Tell him after you’ve given it more thought than necessary, you can’t go thru with it. Once you entertain the idea, they begin to think its a possibility and it begins to get pushed. DON’T DO IT!!!

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From experience. Don’t do it! Never!

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If you want to ruin your relationship then go ahead lol

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I have done a mmf threesome in my youth and they just were not for me. I personally couldn’t and would never ever do a threesome now. Some people can make threesomes work for their relationships but this requires both to not be jealous people, not even a little. It also requires a lot and I mean a lot, of communication, rules, and boundaries that easily can get crossed if you’re not explicit enough. This can easily turn bad, I don’t think you should. Leave that as it is, a fantasy.

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Whatever you do, if you’re jealous, do not do this!

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Nope. Jealous or not, it introduces issues that I’m not interested in dealing with in my marriage.

Tell him you want to bring a man in to focus on him lmao that will make him change his mind well I’m assuming.lol

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I did it and my then boyfriend got super weird and jealous afterwards and kept accusing me of sleeping around.

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I just wouldnt go there. Fantasy’s are great when they stay just that… You are letting a can of worms open up in your marriage if you go there.

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I would consider it if I wasn’t in a committed relationship. But I could never do it while in a long term relationship or married. Too much room from problems. Plus if you’re already a jealous person, it definitely isn’t something you should try. Maybe there is some sort of compromise you can come to, like he can watch you with another women but he can’t participate.

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Don’t do it!!! My sister in law added a female into their marriage. It went on for 5 months and then it started causing resentment and jealousy. My sister in law went to work and found out that while she was out working 45 minutes away the new lady and her hubby were meeting for secret lunches and sex in hotels afterwards. She confronted them and told them NO MORE it was over! It was too late he was in love with the new lady. It ended their marriage… not a good idea.

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Minute you said “I’m a jealous person” I immediately said “a threesome will destroy her relationship.”
If you jealous…don’t share your man. Cuz you’ll never forget…nor forgive.
I’ve seen threesome ruin relationships due to jealousy.

Me personally…id love to. I have in past relationships. It’s fun. BUT I ain’t a jealous female.
My Mr doesn’t wanna see me with anyone else, so we don’t partake.
It’s honoring the limits of the people involved and owning it.
There ain’t no shame either way…if you CAN do a threesome…all the power to ya…it’s fun as fuck lol…but if you can’t, that’s ok to.
But if you a jealous type…just say no and save yourself the drama and heart ache. That’s my advice.lol

Everyone is telling her to pick a dude….maybe she wants another chick? :rofl:

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Don’t do it… maybe just add some toys into your sex life An roll play & watch porn together🤷‍♀️

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Uggghhh this is the part of my life I hate, where I admit that I was a total shit in my early 20s :confounded: I was one of those girls that made threesomes a nightmare. I participated in a threesome with a couple who were distant friends of mine (you know, friends of friends) who had been together for a couple years at that point. Long story short, I ended up wrecking their relationship to pieces. Getting with the guy, marrying the guy and ultimately having kids with him (shame on me a thousand times) but karma was a b!tch and of course he cheated on me not only with her but numerous other girls. Anyway, the point in all that, what I learned was ABSOLUTELY DO NOT HAVE A THREESOME WITH FRIENDS. OR ANYONE YOU KNOW. PERIOD. Take home a rando in a bar before you take home a friend. And don’t actually take them home, take them to a motel - for safety sake. I did participate in a couple other less drama filled threesomes earlier than the home wrecking fiasco one and they turned out halfway decent. But if you’re the jealous type or he is, abort mission before it even starts.

Crazy…just get a divorce right away. Coz it seems like you already want out.

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Why invite trouble and possible std’s into your marriage?

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I had a man come up to me at work and flat out asked if I would join him and his wife​:joy::joy:
I declined very quickly.
I would say no to all of this. I feel when you open your relationship to this, it opens doors for not so fun things

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If there is a mutual trust in your relationship it can be fun.
But too often it is the male that wants a second woman because he wants to pound his chest and say “I am a God”
Or it may be the woman who wants 2 men but her male half has insecurities. If either of you have any jealousy factors then I would say don’t.
But if you are secure in relationship and not afraid that your maye will start having feelings for the extra person then go for it.

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me and my husband have had two different threesomes and both with people we knew well. actually very close with and it made me more comfortable tbh. first of all, i’m attracted to hot women sooo it makes it quite easy to wanna do it because it’s not something being done solely for my husband or his benefit only… i have said doing it with a stranger would be cool too just to not have to associate with after but the girl that was most recent was someone i was and still am very close with and we had TONS of conversations leading up to actually doing it because we both wanted everything laid out on the table and she was someone i trusted a lot as far as worrying of her trying to be sneaky later or something. my husband i have enough trust with to know he would never do that to me either so it was never something i worried about with him but it’s comforting to have that known as well because if there’s any trust issues there, that will be a HUGE problem. we had conversations sober but when things went down (on more than one occasion) we had been drinking… it definitely gives me a boost of confidence as well as makes me more open to shit and i get a “fuck it let’s do this” type attitude lmao. one time we had i was drinking but was not drunk and it was still enjoyable because i liked her and was comfortable enough i didn’t require alcohol to do it. i feel like a total stranger would honestly be a little harder for me just cause i don’t have the trust and comfort with the stranger as i did with her. because we were so comfortable, there was never an awkward moment before or after lol. we had coffee together in the morning and bullshitted like we normally would and nothing felt weird. and actually she was the one who kinda brought up the idea in the first place… she had made a comment drunk about kissing me one night asking my husband if she could and then from there said something about having a threesome with us and it was kinda a “HAHA” moment till we later discussed it and realized she wasn’t joking and neither was i so obviously my husband wasn’t gonna turn it away lol. he was very reassuring though that i didn’t have to do this and that if there was ANYTHING making me feel uncomfortable we don’t have to go thru with it and if at any point during it i felt a type of way, he would make her leave and we would never do it again lol. but i reassured him it was 100% what i wanted and okay.

i find it helps to establish boundaries right off the bat before you’d actually do it… like what you’re okay and not okay with. what is he aloud to do and what is she aloud to do. i personally had no rules as far as that went, if we were gonna do this i wanted it natural and to let whatever happens happen. my only rule was simply i don’t get left out at any point to feel like it’s him and her lol. which definitely wasn’t a problem at all. but be sure if anything would bother you, it’s established right away. i know couples who don’t allow kissing other than each other or certain other things that they’re just uncomfortable with.

i say if you wanna do it, GO FOR IT :clap:t3::clap:t3: you may find it’s more enjoyable for you then you’d have thought.

That would be a no for me!

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That’s called cheating

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I personally could never, but to each their own.

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Threesome here female female and male. I didn’t want to do it and ultimately happened. Not only I resented him I also ended up leaving not long after because he was nothing but trouble… More trouble than I would like to share here… It was with a mutual friend that was a lesbian and it was just awkward to experience and I wanted it to end as quickly as it started. I would say no if you are already not open to it…

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Yeah he could also fantasize about it
Then it actually happens then he gets weird and not trusting. It could be anything.

My husband and I had it more than once it was women we know alcohol was involved but it was amazing made him happy

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Do NOT do it if you have the slightest bit of jealousy!!

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We did it​:woman_shrugging: I thought for years that I’d never be into it and the older I got i realized that what I thought were my own feelings were really just my mom’s and I probably always liked girls and just thought it was something else or more likely ignored it because I was taught it was wrong. We went slow and didn’t jump into anything, he never ended up sleeping with her at all, not that nothing happened. We talked about it a bunch before and after and what happened happened almost 3 years ago now and not again since. I had a rough couple years, bunch of weight gain then too much lost, way way too much stress that’s got me not even recognizing myself anymore so when we discussed things the last year and a half or so I told him I’m just not in a place where I’m totally comfortable with us even and we’ve been together nearly 20 years now. He’s nothing but understanding and supportive and he’s never once made me feel pressured. Everyone’s got so many opinions but fr if you’re even thinking you’re truly interested in this FOR YOU as well as him, which it sounds to me like you are at least somewhat, then do some research, talk to some ppl that do make it work cause this group ain’t gonna be it lol. And to answer the where, there are tons of groups for this and the correct term for the girl you’re looking for is a unicorn :unicorn:, a girl that sleeps with couples. I had no idea until I started to look into it. No one can answer this for you but you 2! Don’t let all this bs sway anything for you cause it’s not for everyone and that’s OK!

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Beginning of the end of your marriage, he is looking for something more exciting,better than you.

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If you truly value your relationship, don’t ever invite this into your marriage.
The ying and the yang assures there is a price to pay for the pleasure of it.

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you going to end your marriage if you do this he will start sneaking around with the person you bring to your bed if i was you id leave well enough alone

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suggest a man to be the third and see how quickly he backs out lmao

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Tell him u feel ur jealousy would get the best of you where another woman is concerned but u want to acknowledge him having a three some so you will start looking for ANOTHER MAN to join in on the fun. I’ll bet dollars to donuts, his fantasy will suddenly not seem so important. I’ll bet Him being uncomfortable will be more important to him than you being uncomfortable. And there’s ur answer.

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So gross, you don’t know this 3rd person… your body is a temple and meant for your partner.

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“The focus is on you.” AHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHABABAHAAAAAA.

If the focus is on you, say “sure, with another man.” And see how quickly that narrative changes.

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Plain wrong don’t do it

Personally. I am jealous when it comes to my relationship and I don’t share. Lol. I personally would never. But don’t care what others do. I’d think it’s definitely gonna cause some issues. Also alcohol causes me to be more emotional, so that wouldn’t help either. Me and my husband are completely happy with just being with one another.

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Hire a professional so you know there is no strings attached and no feelings etc. Each to their own and if you want to try then as long as you are 100% ok with it then go for it! I dont think i could do it but doesnt mean you shouldnt

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In a past life… urm… I was in a committed relationship non martial and we introduced a woman into our relationship for the same reason I didnt think I was a jealous woman but when he was railing her it hurt. Mentally and physically. When it was over it was over. There were no fireworks, he didnt continue a relationship with her or anything like that actually she ended up wanting to get with me but I said no. Long story short him and I had different needs in the relationship I wanted real long term commitment and he wanted as many pieces of tail as he could get. Him and I separated a month afterwards because it made me realize he just wasnt for me. I have no regrets over the 3 some actually it opened my eyes. 5 years later I’m engaged to a wonderful man with 4 children who loves me dearly. In heinsite it was a good thing for me. But if you already found your prince charming, keep him and your relationship the way it is. And keep the fantasy a fantasy. Good luck to you

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Have never done that, but every friend I have who has done that is single now. So doesn’t really sound worth it 🤷

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It will end your marriage! Either slowly or right away.

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If you are even slightly jealous I don’t think you should.

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Go to Vegas. That way you can leave it there.

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I wouldn’t… It’s been a gateway for my last partners… we didn’t have one but he wanted one.

If you’re jealous do not do it.

My spouse told me that a man that is 100% committed to you don’t want to have sex with any other woman because the woman he has is enough for him…I don’t know how true it is but I had to ask him lol cause this is something we have never talked about in our 15 year relationship

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:joy::joy: tried twice each time resulting in a baseball bat…it was dropped pretty quickly :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Don’t do it! Big mistake!:sob:

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NOPE! I don’t play well with others and I don’t share

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Lol we had a similar conversation in our household. My husband wants a girlfriend for us. I told him no but hey it’d take all the bedroom pressure off of me and we have 5 kids so I need a sex break. I told him I think about it. It’s probably a no but still

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Tell him You get to pick the guy :joy: . All jokes aside if you want to do it, do it with someone you two will never see again… Also would not recommend if your a jealous person, it might lead to insecurity.

Well when I was 20 I got with a 50 year old well as it turned out he liked me having sex with somebody else he just got two excited over another guy so he had these guys coming with threesomes every now and then it didn’t change nothing between me and him cuz I was still with him but the main thing you got to watch for and doing that is fillings that you catch for that other person are feelings that that other person catches for you because it’s hard to do it and not to have feelings this man I love for nearly 10 years he got a guy involved it was married and had two small kids and some reason I ended up leaving him and got with the guy that was married we got married me and the other guy is 50 was not married we were just together the one I married we ended up with his two kids cuz the mother was abusing them left a hand print on the side of this baby’s face that the principal scene when he got off the school bus so they needed to be a part and he needed his kids but it was a big mistake because he kept leaving me and I would go back to the guy I was living with and then next thing you know he’s back trying to get me back and I was going back and forth so it causes a lot of conflict I’m telling you I’m telling from experience this man the 50-year-old I was with for all them years found out he was molesting my daughter from one and a half years old to 10 the guy that I left him for my daughter accused him of molesting her he took two lie detector tests and passed them so they went on with it after she turned 18 I called him on the phone telling her when was he going to get the elf her again so that tells me she was telling the truth plus I seen a picture he had of a girl holding the shirt up and you can see her boobs and it was my daughter I know it was just a bunch of messed up stuff you really don’t want to end up in that because that’s the way they end up somebody’s going to get jealous somebody’s going to fall in love with somebody and then they can’t have that person it’s all mess up the relationship because then he knows that you’ve been with someone else the guy was with that was 50 he was more interested in the guys than he was me I lived with him as his wife but he had something for the guys going my life could be a book about this subject so I would think long and hard about it this comes from a true story

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No ma’am i could not. I would not & id actually divorce him honestly. But thats just me. I dont like being second to any woman in my husbands life. (He & his momma dont talk & havent for years) so I know I come after our daughter BUT anything adult wise I come first. & i cannot stand half the women now & days they just want to be homewreckers.

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Hell No!! It’s not worth it to lose or ruin a relationship that’s will effect on you both! It’s will never go away in your thoughts that really done it and have lot of regrets.

Don’t do it. Some doors should remain closed

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I just want to say if the asking the question wants to ask more in-depth questions, she can message me. I can provide multiple points of view and answer actual questions not provide my own personal opinion. :yum:

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So…I know a thriving and happily married couple. They have been together for years. The wife is openly bi and gets pleasure from other woman. SHE brought up a threesome and I know they have had several now. They are seriously a power couple. They are amazing together. They make it work. They are both super open and communicate…like…actually communicate. Not “are you cool with this?” and a “yeah” in response. They set rules and boundaries. They wine and dine their lady friends for that night. The guy just sits back and lets the girls just get drunk and goofy and he slips in. :sweat_smile: I obviously know other stories that don’t work out like that but he didn’t initiate it. SHE did so that is a big difference there. If you are jealous then ask yourself…WILL you get anything out of this for yourself? Or are you simply trying to please hubby? Cause if it is just for him then nah…I think you should skip. If you think you could enjoy yourself then just be picky, go over boundaries and have fun! Obviously the seed has been planted in both your minds now. Either way, if you want it to happen it will or it simply won’t.

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So reading these comments…makes me not want to say this. But what the heck. My husband and I do it. We have even talked about getting a gf. But its undecided. At first i would never have thought of myself being one of them girls. The girl that brings another person to the bedroom in a marriage. Lol. But i feel comfortable enough to where i dont have to worry. My husband and I have great communication. Communication is key with all three people. If your not 100% happy and you get jealous…then no dont do it. You also have to have a 100% trust wirh your partner as well.
Honeslty its fun and exciting.
ANd before you guys attack me… I make my man very happy in the bedroom and outside the bedroom. He works hard to support his family, he is a wonderful husband and daddy…the way I see it. Its like a gift I get to give him. Plus I love women to! Win win.

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Personally no, I brought up “if you get your girl I get a guy” and he was MAJORLY uncomfortable with that fact.
Put in perspective how I felt about the girl issue.

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If you did this “fantasy” what’s next? Fantasies should be left as just that.
Jamie Wernert I don’t know why these posts your commenting on keep coming up in my newsfeed :joy:

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I love threesomes with my husband.

Never I mean Never follow through with this if you aren’t prepared to see your husband touching another woman. Tell him you want a threesome 2 men and see what he says.

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Don’t do it. It’s not worth your sanity.

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Don’t do it. My friend tried that with her ex when they were together. Went great the first time, completely ruined the relationship the second time and they never were able to repair it

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If you’re not completely comfortable and confident about this situation. I wouldn’t do it. This is something that can really ruin your relationship.

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That’s why you get another guy not another female… no jealousy needed

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I personally would not do it. I’d hate to see someone on the First 48​:grimacing::woman_shrugging:t2:

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I wouldn’t be able to

Monogamy is not for everyone and there are people that are we happily living their life as swingers, dating multiple people and they are all happy. It is all a matter of opinion. It involves alot of trust, security, communication, being open and respect.

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Don’t do it… Just don’t go there

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Trust me go to a sex shop and pick out some toys to spice up your sex life instead of a threesome. If you’re a jealous person this will not end well, it’ll always be on you’re mind and females these days are trifling, can’t be trusted. He’s ok and no pressure so just drop it and don’t bring up ever again lol

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My answer would be a big fat nope. Sorry my theory is you get all that shit outta the way for marriage… marriage is one person for life unless of course you both agree to that arrangement. But I’ve known many people that introduced another person and relationships fell apart because they got feeling for that extra person… my opinion…my hubby is mine and I don’t share :rofl:

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If your uncomfortable with it and super jealous, I wouldn’t go through with it. You may convince yourself it’s all good, but later it might eat you up inside.

While my hubby and I haven’t found “the one” yet, I am openly optimistic for it! It helps that I roll both ways tho🤣 i think, it would first help if you havent been with another woman, to start there, if your husband is comfortable with it. But never do ANYTHING you’re uncomfortable with!

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Tell him it’s a foursome or nothing.

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