Cameras in the home and recording devices. Take to the police. Sounds like he could get physically violent eventually acting like that.
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Do you have a trusting support system? I leaned on my bestfriend. Her husband took me practice shooting and he put guns in every room of the house hidden. I went and got a restraining order with proof of his abuse. Yes itâs a piece of paper but in case you need to protect yourself , itâll hold up in court. There was a gun velcro under the side table of where I slept. My bestfriend housed me, fed me and was my entire support system while I left him. He was extreme. Violent. A stalker. Physically and mentally abusive. I had to block him on everything , even as far as the provider he was calling from and my provider. Heâd have peoples MOTHERS text me, heâd send messages through random people. I documented everything.
Is it your house? Kick him out if so(you mayhave to doit legallyand stay somewhereelse til heâsgone). Take pictures of the home. If not- hide money or find someone you can go to now. Plan it all in secret. Do it fast and with no warning.
ThenâŚstay strong. DO NOT GO BACK. DO NOT ANSWER HIM IN ANY WAY.
ThenâŚheal. It is not impossible and that is not love. Love your damn self woman!!!
I left with 2 babies, no money, no problem, But what I donât understand how can you love someone so much when they treat you like a piece of shit??? Leave or just maybe next time, it will end with you either being in the hospital or dead
Get the hell out !!! Thereâs so many safe havens call one . Heâs abusive period .
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Pack your shit and leave! Thatâs it thatâs all
Wait till he leaves then just leave it will not get better in fact he may end up hurting you and why would you want to spend what time you have left with what all you have mentioned he has done hell to the no you deserve better than that and do not contact him and as far as your friends they probably will tell him where you are at so you need to get out of the area and tell them do not tell him anything period and your not playing .
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Just leave what are you waiting for? Just go and start over. Lifeâs too short.
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Call womens aid in crisisâŚthey will help you
Very important to get out and away. Local sheriff can take you to a womanâs shelter. You will be safe
First if the cops come and leave him because he is calm then itâs your place to tell them the truth. Second press charges. And also you can get an eviction notice for him to leave âŚIâve been there . We went to court my husband had to leave the home and still support house hold. Like you I took him back because I thought I was in love . When he never changed I left yes it was a struggle but I had peace of mind⌠And before that I went to a womenâs shelter with my children and again I went back . Iâm so glad I started loving me and became strong enough to walk away .I couldnât allow my children to see this and think itâs okay and to see them scared
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Wow are you with my ex??? 
Itâs called a trauma bond. - I say go now. Run far. If family or friends can help, take it. Itâs never too late to leave and stand up for yourself. Never settle and if you need someone to talk to, msg meâ:two_hearts:I know what youâre feeling first hand.
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It does not get better. He is trying to control you. Leave. File for divorce. Be strong. Do it for your sanity.
Well the answer is clear, weâre all in agreement , itâs time to leave!!! Donât wait, get out ASAP. Yes itâs hard but itâs also hard to remain with an abusive mate who fails daily to show he loves & respects you. You are so worth & deserving of so much more than you are settling for !!! Wish you the best. Keep us updated please. Good luck
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Get out and get professional help.
When you decide that your peace of mind, safety and well being is worth more than the doggie bones he is throwing you, you will leave. Then, it wonât matter where you are going, or what you take or how youâll get there. The only thing that will matter is getting to safety. Only you can make that choice. It is one of the hardest things youâll ever do in your life. Once you are out, donât go back! Donât entertain the thought. Youâve already given him more chances than he deserves. Go and never look back! For Godâs sake if there are children involved go now! The damage it is doing is irreversible. Get therapy! Get a lawyer! But get out!
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Womenâs aid. Please donât stay he will kill you.
saved money started taking only the most important papers and valuables to love ones house then rent a small apt. you can afford Get a new cell phone and leave the old one behind donât tell anyone where youâre going only to closest relatives to you go straight to the police department and file for a restraining order on the last day wait till he leaves to work or goes out and then and only then pack your bag and leave donât look back heâs not going to change heâs never going to change be happy love yourself you deserve respect and you can do this trust me I believe in you
Hun you call a real true friend no matter whether he ran them off or not and you tell them you want help. You call your mom your GMA your aunt somebody ok. And you find a way to get out. Find somewhere to go. Even if its a shelter to start with. It donât get better. It gets worse and worse and worse. Donât wait for him to escalate and hurt you for the cops to do something. When you leave you take everything that is important. All the other bullshit can be replaced. You block him in EVERY WAY POSSIBLE and you donât look back. Donât even glimpse hun. Yes your gonna break your own heart but itâs better than him breaking your face. Iâve been through it twice now. The first time was bad. I felt trapped and all I cared about was the love I had for him. I was in denial telling myself he loves me. He smashed my face off a counter and broke 6 teeth in one movement. Broke my wrist and a few ribs to. It took a frying pan upside his head to get him off me. This was in front of OUR children mind you. The second time I realized real quick and just packed and left one day after he went to work.
You are with a classic narcissist. You need to leave as soon as possible. How can you say you love him? Heâs abusive. What do you love? How mean he is to you? Girl get out of there as soon as you can.
Call your local crisis center and donât worry about packing, they help you start over. Donât tell him anything, heâs toxic and presumably has mental health issues. Leave ASAP!
It doesnât get better all an act that repeats itself year after year
He is a narcissistic sociopathic danger! Get a restraining order get out of that house fast before he hurts you physically or worse! There are crisis hotliness to help you on where and who can help
Family and friends 
I went through 4 years of this and it was the worst time of my life,
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You know what you have to do. Quit being weak. Get out while you can.
He has to leave eventually for work or something arrange to have a family member come over while he is gone and help you pack what is most valuable and leave. Leave your phone there (delete all your info and contacts factory reset) so he canât contact you, delete social media and email and make new ones so he canât get into that to get back at you. Start fresh move as far as you can get a job and trust me every day forward will be better than the last. In the event that he finds you which he may find you make do not communicate ignore him and if he continues file a restraining order/contact the police this is about you and what is best for you. You are on borrowed time it will never get better only worse.
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Sweetheart it will not ever get better and unfortunately it can only get worse from here. Do yourself a favor⌠walk away and get help NOW. Move to a different place and start over if necessary. You can do this
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When you get fed up enough youâll leave no matter what.
Girl, run. Iâve been there. Itâs hard. Block him form every spear of your life including friends. Let him say what he wants. Thereâs womenâs shelters to help you get on your feet. I know the agonizing heartache that comes with it. Wonât be easy at first. But I promise it gets better. Get away. Let yourself be sad. Then eventually it turns to anger for allowing it
You are the only one that can answer that, it took my daughter 8 yrs before she got out of it. When she came home you can see how defeated she was. He will never change.
Itâs hard, but you have to find your strength and get a plan to get out. It sounds similar to my situation and I have two little kids. I left almost a year after planning for a while. You can do this.
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Leave while youâre ahead
You need to go to your local domestic violence office and talk to them. They can help get you set up with attorneys restraining orders and everything. Maybe you havenât figured it out yet but you are living with a narcissist. The way they twist things around, also gas lighting, tell you youâre insane, and make up all kinds of stories that of course you donât remember so they tell you youâre insane cuz you donât remember or their version of certain things and of course they believe it. Or they act like they believe it. That is narcissistic behavior. They do not get better and in time they only get worse. If you call them out on their behavior they get really worse really fast. Getting restraining order on him is something I would do immediately since heâs breaking numerous things in the house. Domestic violence doesnât mean he has to hit you. If heâs terrorizing you and breaking things in the house that qualifies as domestic violence. Call your local domestic violence shelter and association/center
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Grab your ID and go to the womenâs shelter they will help you. Emotional abuse is deadly.
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And I can tell you that once you leave the freedom and the peace you feel in your life will be so overwhelming you will wonder why you didnât leave sooner or kick him out sooner
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I just want to make it known, if heâs breaking things itâll escalate and next itâll be you.
Leaving is possible even if it doesnât seem so. Life works out when it seems like thereâs nothing but chaos.
I left with 40$, filed for emergency custody, and a protection order. You can do it.
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Call a Domestic Shelter near you, they will help you with everything! Good Luck!
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Do you have children with him? Leave now before that happens. Itâll be harder to stick to your word. Stop wasting your time/life. If heâs getting worse, what happens when the emotional abuse turns to physical abuse. Pack your bags and leave. Tell him You deserve better. & Keep telling yourself that until YOU believe it. Do you have family? Parents? Siblings? Go stay with them for a little while. You will be happy again, believe me! Itâs scary leaving, I understand that. But this will be for the best.
Sadly there is nothing anyone else can say to help you leave, but you will know when youâre ready and when that happens nothing can stop you from leaving. I hope you get the courage to leave soon but until then good luck, and stay safe 
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You donât love him, you love the version of him that exist in your head. Those few, and brief âgood timesâ. Youâve been in the situation long enough that you have adapted and now thrive off the make-up. Start with counseling for yourself.
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This post is heartbreaking 
I hope you find the strength to save yourself from this monster. 
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Nothing will change, if nothing changes .
I quietly lined my ducks up when I knew I was ready 2 leave. I made myself a budget. I got my apartment lined up. Had my utilities scheduled 2 b outta my name. Got a buyer 4 the house. Rehomed 3 pets. My ex wouldnât leave either(odd since he had previously walked out on me 9 times in 15 years!!) He had no clue I was leaving until I returned my car 2 the bank.
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Start with therapy and learn how to break codependency. He knows you think youâre nothing without him and whats what he is leaning on.
get protection order & order for him to move or go to domestic abuse shelter
One day you will tell yourself enough is enough. No one else can decide it for you. It wonât be easy, but you can do it!
It wonât ever get better,get a backbone and get out before itâs too late.
Pack up and leave. Donât look back. Move out of state too!
Can you get it on video safely when heâs raging and breaking things and saying things like he wants you to die? Then call the police and show them the video. That May very well be the difference in getting him out of the house and you getting a protection order. If youâre not married there isnât much a court is going to do as far as money for you but if you have children together you can get a child support order in place and custody and possibly a protection order for them until he completes some DV and anger management courses and some counseling. If itâs his house youâre not going to be able to stay there if youâre not married so get in touch with social services and see what resources are available to you
get out ASAP NEVER look back DOGS DONT CHANGE THERE SPOTS save your life call the crisis center orfamily
Iâm sorry 
praying for you bc itâs super hard.
He sounds like my ex. A narcissist. They do not change. They ruin your self esteem and mental health. Please leave. I fully appreciate how hard it is coz they make you feel incapable and like youâre the âbad guyâ
However long it takes to be free it is so worth it. Good luck. x
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Love yourself enough to let go. Iâve been there. I spent 13 years thereâŚnot all were badâŚbut those last 5 were a doozy. I was at my lowest point when I finally cut ties. I wonât go into details but for formalities sake letâs just say its what I imagine walking through hell would be like. I fled to a different state(parents home)âŚI called the domestic violence hotline, and they put me in touch with local resources in the area. They happened at that time to have a new program to help domestic violence victims with their divorceâŚand everything goes from there. They help with shelter, restraining orders, counseling etc. Fast forward 3 years laterâŚMy son and I go to counseling every week. He is a straight A student, and I am now married to my highschool sweetheart. We have a very beautiful blended family of 7. Of course his ex wife and my ex husband are together now and have a 1 year oldâŚbut thats a story for another dayđ¤ˇââď¸
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This isnât love⌠this is a toxic co dependentance.
Leave , they donât change and heâll stay cause youâve stayed.
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Itâs called conditioning⌠get out and stay out long enough that your head clearsâŚand you wont want him back
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Get into therapy for yourself.
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Getting out of an abusive relationship is difficult, especially because the victimâs self-esteem is damaged, I would recommend you seek help from a professional.
Stop telling yourself that you love him too much, maybe itâs just emotional dependence, better tell yourself that every day you love him less, that you donât deserve the way he treats you and that you can get by, with a much better life.
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Personal experience talking here. You just gotta leave and never look back. I share a child so I have to deal but I moved 1500 miles away for many reasons.
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Been their almost lost my life ! Run I had a lot and left with nothing !! But Iâm lucky to be alive !!! Get out !!
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You say you have nowhere to go. You do. Call non emergency police and find shelters in your area. They are more typically near larger cities so they can handle large amounts of cases. Your situation sounds do similar to mine. Then the beatings came. After the 3rd one I got out. If you can, leave when the police are there. Make a plan to get to a shelter. Preferably a battered womenâs shelter. They have the resources to direct you to a safe place and help you start over. Please, for the love of Mike, donât wait until itâs the last police call. We all love who we love. Sometimes itâs just not a healthy one. You canât change him. Good luck
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It sounds like you are with someone that has Narcissistic personality disorderâŚread about it. It does help. Youâre not alone. Prepare yourself to leave. Donât tell him. Just secretly prepare your escape.
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Bag your bags and go!! Find a shelter and DON"T let anyone know where you are.
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I do not know how long you have been in this, but it does not get better!!! Pack and leave for GOOD!!!
Record everything. Go to a batter woman shelter they will helo you so much. Even to find a job and even getting an apartment.
if he wonât go, you should.
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He was a heroin addict. I got pregnant and realized my daughter deserved a better life than that. Left when I was 5 months pregnant. He was emotionally and mentally abusive
Take the money, make an exit strategy
Leave and do not look back. He will not change. I pray you do not end up like my oldest daughter the victim of domestic abuse and violence. She lost her life a little over 5 years ago by his hand
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It will get worse get out fast
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Run I went through this shit run as fast as u can get 3 day eviction notice get a CPO and its been a few months and heâs still not leaving me alone
Girl heâs gaslighting youâŚ.the only time you will leave is when you are ready. If heâs not on your lease, call the cops and tell them that you have told him to leave several times, heâs not on the lease and you want him and his personal belongings gone. They have no choice but to make sure he leaves and doesnât destroy anything in the process. You need to also let them know how he acts when they arenât around. It shouldnât matter that heâs calm when they get there, heâs abusing you even if he doesnât hit you.
You have a very high chance of being killed by him. Call local battered person agencies, shelters, I would imagine lit parking lots are probably more safe than he is at this point. Do not tell anyone, not even friends know where you are. Turn off your location on your devices and all apps you use.
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Hey a restraining order and have him removed. When I left mine after 15 years I just went to work and never came back
Pack your shit and get out. Donât waste your time. Mine didnât change, neither will yours.
Itâll only get worse if you donât leave now.Heâll end up breaking your jaw next, maybe even take your life if you keep allowing yourself to be around him.He sounds like a mean violent narcissist.Trust meâŚit will NOT get better.Leave.Stay With an old friend,anywhere AWAY from him. You canât love when he breaks your stuff,doesnât let you talk,twists your words aroundâŚhow can you love someone like that?You are USE to it. Get awayâŚand get away NOW.
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Been there before. I should have left way before I did. Trust me, you only think you love him. Once youâre away for a bit and your head clears youâll realize you donât love him and it was his manipulation and mind games that lead you to believe you did.
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Yep going through the same thing.
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If heâs not leaving, you leave, block his number.
My daughter was married to one of these pieces of sh** and almost didnât make it out. Last straw for her was he attacked me and beat the mess outta me. Same narcissistic crap! Just leave. Go to a friend or family members house or a womenâs shelter. Just be strong and go and donât look back
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Leave. As soon as you can. Stayed too long. Ruined my kids lives. It only gets worse.
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Leave him, right now! And yes, you will be much happier. It will be the best decision of your life.
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It wonât get better. Either kick him out for good or leave .
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Run donât walk to the nearest police station so they can get you to the nearest womanâs shelter. Run, run, run!!! God bless you.
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Look, I know you love him. You wonât as soon as you walk out the door and the abuse continues. Anyone in an abusive relationship has to come the point on their own where they say enough and leave. If you arenât ready, get ready. Stash money, get important documents and when youâre ready to leave, go. Donât wait. Youâre miserable. He doesnât love you and you are worth someoneâs love and time and devotion. Please leave now, donât look back.
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Been thereâŚwhen I leftâŚmy ex wasnât allowed at my jobâŚwhich hurt his!!! I changed to a unlisted number and my Dad was interference wham he tried to come see me⌠I also knew I would cave because I did before with himâŚso I made myself unreachable period!! DoneâŚI still have to face his mistress at the time but I laugh to myself because unlike what she thought he didnt marry herâŚnow have a great life married for decades and have 17 grand babiesâŚall because I left!!! READ THE LAST LINE AGAIN
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It NEVER gets betterâŚonly worse! And honestlyâŚyou already know that. Your best bet is to find another place to live. Donât say anything at all to him about it until you get the keys to your new place. And THE DAY THAT YOU MOVE IN PUT A RESTRAINING ORDER ON HIM. Staying with him and allowing him to abuse you is only enabling his bad behaviorâŚAnd not allowing you to be truly happy.
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They have womenâs shelters, churchâs will help you⌠leave now⌠before you canât. Be safe 
go to families⌠go to Friends!
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Get. Out. Itdoes. Not get. Any better. If. You have to start. Over it. Beats. Being. Abused. Itâs. About. Him. Not. You there.dv shelters. Some. R. Nice. And they will. Get. You.on. Your. Feet. And any. Money you. Can. Get. Hide. It. Make a. An. What state. R. U in
I was in a physically mentally and emotionally abusive marriage. One day I had had enough and after he left for work I called my oldest daughters dad and said I need a truck trailer and muscle and he came with his friend and we moved my whole house into storage and I lived with my parents with 3 kids. And honestly, living with my parents in my 30s with 3 kids no job and starting over was the absolute best thing I ever did!!
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God, this sounds way too familiar. Leave and never return.
Just leave go to a shelter. He will end up killing you.
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Leave everything behind and leave now. Men like that donât change. Leave before you regret it. Be safe, best of luck.
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There are organizations that can help you. Shelters who help get you a job. A drivers license. Medicaid. Confidential places similar to witness protection. Free Legal aide lawyers. No excuse to stay. Humans do not like to feel alone. But alone is better than miserable. And Stop leaving important things in your life up to Facebook. Good luck.
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Just walk out get in your car and go ,to to a womanâs shelter for awhile and get some support. Just go and donât look back he probably wonât even miss you
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I have lived this. It didnât get better. I started to hide money behind photos in a frame. You start saving like crazy. That way when you leave you are not financially struggling.
You will want to go back because you are in love. Itâs a trap. They fake it for awhile but it goes just back to how it was or worse. It took me years to realize I was being mentally abused and manipulated.
I started with an escape And started the 5 steps of grief.
Because you can grieve the living to. It sets you free to the path of your healing. Best luck sweetie. It will get hard but you are stronger.
You got this
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Seek help from a domestic violence agency. They can help you create a safe escape plan. You will have to be the one to leave. You can leave. Itâll hurt when you do it. Youâll be scared when you do it. Itâll take time to heal. But you can do this. Research Trauma Bond as this is what youâre experiencing, in my opinion. Love doesnât hurt. Call the national domestic violence hotline. They can help you. Look at getting a restraining order as well.
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Yes just pack up while heâs at work and disappear. Do you have a friend who can help?
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I can first hand tell you it does NOT get better if you stay. Itâll keep getting worse. There will come a day when youâve reached your limit. No one will be able to push you to do it. You have to do it yourself. Take that leap. It will be sooo hard to leave but I PROMISE you that you will be so much happier! I never thought I could do it. I stayed 4 years longer than I shouldâve. I never thought Iâd get through it but now Iâm the happiest Iâve ever been. If you have no where to go try to find a womanâs shelter. Find a hobby to keep you busy. Find someone you can talk to. You CAN do this! If you need someone to talk to youâre more than welcome to message me.
If you have somewhere to go, go there. Say youâre going to visit for a night, pack some clothes say youâre doing laundry or something, and block. Cut off all contact. Have someone else talk to them for you. If you have children take them with you and DO NOT give them back until there is a court order to do so that says when they are to be returned to you. Get a lawyer ASAP.
Some cities have a place for abused women to go.