How did she force you to lie to the police?
Sounds like youāre fully taking on that victim roll and also put your own kids in a place where they could be victimized too. Does ur āfianceā have family? U just need to move on and cut all toxic family off. No contact. Start from scratch and pray pray pray to God for the answers.
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First off if you were molested by her wtf would you let your own kids stay with her? You put them at risk. Iād of never forgave her, trusted her or anything. The best thing you could have done was to move on without her. Thatās protecting yourself and especially your own kids. Your kids deserve that. Your nieces will eventually grow up and theyāll be adults and you can rekindle your relationship with them then. Heal yourself and stay away from toxic sick people family or not.
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Very toxic relationship. What about what she did you? Arenāt you afraid she will do the exact thing to your kids???
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Just cut her out of your life. I know thatās hard for some people. But she sounds toxic and has issues that you and your family do not need.
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Iām curious why after what she did to you previous MOLESTATION you would allow your kids there in the 1st place. You put your kids in harmās way and are asking strangers to advise you what to do?? Seek mental help ASAP
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If your sister abused you why did you think your kids would be better off with her. You said she molested you. So you just admitted to sending your kids to stay with a molester.
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I canāt believe you sent your children to someone that you know is not only a bully and a thug but a paedophile. Get them out of there you idiot.
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Keep going donāt look back.
Iād rather my kids be homeless than be with a known abuser. Prioritiesā¦
You and your husband need counseling ASAP. You should have NEVER gave your children to someone who is abusive.
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Walk away and never look back when the kids are older then contact them
Sister or notā¦ she needs to go. It sucks you wonāt know your nieces but you have to put your kids first. And please donāt ever put your kids with someone like that again. You knew what she put your through and you willingly did it to them
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Why would you ever send your children to someone who did that to you???
Thatās not a good move on your part!
You have to leave her behind. Sheās obviously not stable and willing to hurt you in front of your babies, leave the bitch in your past! Ffs
Anyone else thinks these stories are bogus? Iād love to see a screenshot of the actual post/message!
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Distance yourself and your family from her,it will be sad but needs to be done.
Sounds like sheās got mental issues.
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Honestly I would have just gone to the police. I wouldnāt let her see you or the kids again. And if they ask why tell them who she is. Best of luck
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Did I miss something? Are you a man or woman? I reread it and you could be either. Never let anyone have that kind of control on your or your children.
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This is hard, especially trying not to pass judgementā¦your kids are at least safe with you! There are resources to help families and children, you may have to do some footwork, but DO NOT SEND THOSE CHILDREN BACK TO THAT MONSTER!! I would look into maybe Camden county womenās center, see if they can helpā¦
She needs anger management -counseling -because itās only gonna continue !fir your kids safety n yours Iād put down boundaries visit on your terms your home no violence tolerated or any form of abuse n stand firm on that ;ā)
Really? Protect your children! Move on, donāt look back. And learn how to fight.
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Why would you send your kids to stay with someone who abused you in every way?
Thatās bad parenting & the fact that yāall lost jobs is no justification for such a poor choice.
You should be asking yourself why youāve accepted the abuse for so long.
You canāt change anything thatās happened so all you can do is move forward & make better choices when it comes to your kids. As far as the sister, that relationship would be completely over with no amending. Sheās only treated you that way because you accepted it. Now itās time to stand up for yourself like a grown ass woman whoās raising humans who learn from you. If you ever come across that sister again in passing Iād beat her ass on sight. Iād beat her ass for every foul thing sheās ever done. She would know not to ever try me again after I was done with her.
Yes you wonāt have a relationship with her kids but youāll have the peace of mind of never having to accept that abuse ever again.
I love my sisters dearly but if I had one who treated me as you say youāve been treated Iād probably be serving time right now because Iām not standing for nobody beating my ass or abusing me in any manner.
Itās a sad time we live in where the ones whoās supposed to love us are the exact ones who treat us the worse.
I wish you & your family blessings and healing
Woah easy on the hateful comments. Whatās done is done. Stop judging her because she decided to leave her kids with her sister that she had grown to trust. She obviously wouldnāt have done that if she didnt trust her. She obviously didnāt think she would do to her kids what she did to her. Iām sure she feels guilty enough and doesnt need all this negativity!
Your sister needs to be removed from you life. Its better for you and your family. It will make you happier healthier and safer in the long run. It is very difficult at first but very worth it. Just take it day by day and remind yourself why you decided to cut her from your life. Stay strong. 
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hopefully ur nieces will get into contact or meet somewhere
Umā¦ I cant even with this post. You sent your kids to a molester??? Hmmmm somethings off completely about this.
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Protect your kids and leave her behind permanently
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You should be thanking God that this happened! Clearly it is what you needed to experience inorder to protect your children! Had it not been you it surly would have been one of them! In the future please know that child molesters donāt change! And no matter how badly you want to forgive someone please donāt do it at your childrenās expense!
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Completely ditch her! She is not family!
Giving your kids to your sister was a cop out and putting them at risk of the abuse that is still revalant. You should both be locked up ā¦monitored visits and counseling. I have been on both sides. Hard truth has to be seen.
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First of all, why would you trust someone such as her with your children knowing what sheās capable of.
Secondly, learn your laws. Follow up with your police department and let them know why you chose to wait to press charges. Law enforcement will not hold that against you. Theyāre there to help! Youāre a victim!
Thirdly, theyāre your kids. Raise them. You never know, youāre struggle could be their struggle later in life and by covering it up from a distance doesnāt make the financial situation disappear. Be the best YOU can be for YOUR kids, not for your sister!
Please donāt seek advice for something like this from a Facebook group. This kind of thing requires a trained professional. I realize you just lost your income and times are tight, but this needs counseling. And so do you because of your past. You need help healing and moving on from this trama. Seek counseling.
Facebook and the general internet population will only make this matter worse. Most responses on this page are not rational and are filled with emotion, which will only escalate this.
Walk away and never look back
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And why would you leave your children with a person who molested you and abused you as a child? This is insanity.
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Shame on you for putting your kids in that position
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Thatās not a sister and you donāt need someone like that around you or your kids
what a bullshit story no way she would send her kids there
You did the right thing leaving with your children. They are #1. I know it hurts right now about your sister. And Iām truly sorry for that. But that incident should be more than enough to remind you daily why you canāt ever have a relationship with her. You can still love her, she is your sister but you for your sake and your childrenās sake should keep distance.
Your nieces will remember your love! If you can- let them know. IM ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU, YOU CAN CONTACT ME ANYTIME- But stay away,break this cycle. Most likely they are also victims of the same type of abuses by her. They will not blame you and totally understand. Iām so sorry you lived through it and then had a quick reminder. Youāll be fine without her, sometimes that mentality of fam no matter- is not the correct type thinkin. You must make a stand- peace in your mind, heart and soul is the stance for you and your small fam. Do your best to make sure that there memories are not like yours. Peace and God bless sis!
That is so sad, but I wonāt take shit even if she is my sister, specially on front of my kids,
she just took on a level of incredibly low on the eyes of your kids and her.
TIME TO FILE AN ASSAULT CHARGE ON HER ā¦there is no talking or trusting her again, cut the ties and set the boundariesā¦file it.
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Call the fuckon police e
Just because thatās family doesnt mean you have to put up with it
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Walk away now and cut off all ties and communication!!! I just had yo do that with my younger sister. She was my only living relative. Not easy, but necessary!!!
You move on and donāt let her back into your life. Sheās proven she canāt change and good thing this showed you because your children couldāve been seriously hurt! Let it go. Anytime you think about it you just put it out of your head and think about your kids and whatās the next move. Goodluck it gets easier though
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Keep your kids with you. Even if you have to stay in a 1 bedroom flat till your back on your feet. They will learn life lessons on dealing with adversity.
Not the best choice sending to your sister but you have shown them that you donāt put up with that. Definitely hold an open ongoing conversation with them about it so it doesnāt become their trauma. If you have the strength call the police and report it. Minimize contact with your sister. It may mean your kids dont see their cousins. If you make that report and sheās abusing her kids at any point it will help them immeasurably.
Not an easy situation. I had to cut my parents so lost a lot of other relationships with it.
You have the right to protect yourself and your children from toxic people even if itās family. She doesnāt feel bad for hurting you you shouldnāt feel bad for cutting her out of your life. Sheās shown you who she really is over and over. Cut her out. God bless.
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Your sister sounds like she needs major help. If she acted that way as a child and still acts that way as a grown-up she surely needs help.
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Do just that move on with your family and your children and cut her toxicity out of your life
First she needs a therapist to about her issues
Youāre as fucked up as she is. You admit sheās done awful things to you (including molestation!) yet you subject your children to her knowing what she is. Youāre a damn fool for leaving them there and for not having her locked up to finally pay for her actions. No sympathy here. The second you left them with her, knowing sheās a monster, you both should be locked and forced to do therapy with supervision visits for your children. Youāre never going to get heal or get better without intense therapy. Neither are the kids you knowingly put at risk. Good luck but damn.
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This is why I told mine to F off.
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you let go and NEVER speak to that abuser again. You MUST cut ties even if it means protecting your kids from her. N never NEVER lie again n you shouldāve had her abusive ass arrested! That fucken bitch to traumatize youāre kids like that Sheās sick and definitely sounds like a massively abusive narcissist so that means she will most likely never change. Run and never look back at that evil bitch if you ask me. Iām going through the same thing and sheād LOVE to get a rise out of me just to get me to beat her ass bc thatās what she wants, but Iāll NEVER stoop to her ugly low life level. Donāt you either 
BUT definitely donāt lie for her or let her get away with her narcissistic abuse
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You need to pray for her.All that she has done to you forgive her so you can heal and move past all that. When your nieces gets older contact them and tell them your story.
Thereās clearly something wrong with her , she takes things to the extreme, and I doubt this is only aimed at you , she has no control over herself.
I would press charges.
the life situation canāt ever be that bad that you send your own children to a molester. and your husband agreed to it. smh.
hopefully she didnāt molest your own kids. now theyāre traumatized. congrats!!
some people have to learn the hard way and yes some of us havenāt been living with abusive people and it might be a struggle being unemployed for a while but woman, your children always come first!! never ever look back, this bitch is crazy.
I really canāt imagine what Iāve just read 
Time to cut the tieās.
What a sad situation having to deal with someone as close as a sister verbally and physically abusing you all your life, you absolutely do not have to participate in this just because you are genetically connected.
You will no doubt be accused of causing the problems for not being a loyal sister, narcissists always do this, but remember you dont have to show any loyalty to a person family or not who abuses you and your children.
Other family members may not be receiving the same level of abuse and may not understand your reaction but just be grateful no one else is subject to the abuse.
Its the abusers children I feel sorry for here, make sure you let them know that they are always welcome to your home as a safe place to go when their mother is directing her abuse at them 
If she was that bad fancy then leaving your own children specially when you yourself brought up violence and molestation like fucking reallyā¦ idiot
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You NEED to stay away from her for you & your children because yāall deserve better than that. Get some counseling for yourself & what she put you through.
Sheās toxic and your becoming toxic to your kidsā¦ why would you put them in that position? You can get a job anyplace, you cannot get that time back with your kids.
You need to cut her out if your life so you can work on the best version of yourself possible so your kids can benefit and learn to break the generational curses
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one straight advice, TELL THE COPS. A crime should never go unpunished, EVER!
Sister or not Iād be done with her absolutely disgusting. And personally I donāt understand why you would allow your children to go live with her knowing what she has done to you 
take your kids and get as far away from her as bloody possible!! Obviously hasnāt changed and doesnāt deserve even more chances
So far you are doing right. But CONTACT THE COPS!!!
I would advice you forgive her for all she did to you, but give her a lot of space for now, if she decides to call and apologize for hurting you, still talk and accept her apologies but never you call her back for now, and always pray to God to change her bcos sheās only the blood family u have. Good luck 
Sometimes you have to love family from a distance. You have a family of your own to protect meaning you yout husband and your children. It hurts but you canāt control someone elses behaviour. Walk away anf donāt look back when the neices and nephew get older and if they want to have a relationship with you, you can without your obviously disturbed sister in the picture. Good luckā¦
Talk to therapist. I had abusive brothers growing up and I donāt trust them at all, not even with my kids. Except 1 cause heās the good one. It never bothered me not being able to see nephews or nieces. Drop them all if need be and keep going.
God said love yo family doesnāt say u have to deal with them sorry but not sorry your nieces know u love them n thatās all that matters.
First of all, why the hell would you send your kids to live with her? She is a monster. Stay away from her and never ever let your kids around her again.
Your stupid to leave your children with a adult that you knew had a history of abuse. ! This is not judgement but a fact ! Does she treat your children that way ? Your a idiot !
This screams stockholme syndromeš£ Keep walking and never look back. Not going to bash you about the children as you are being bashed enough. Seek therapy so you can see this is disfunctional. You may need to question your children about any abuse that may have taken place. You were not protected but you must protect yours at all costs. When your nieces are grown they can find you. But bearing in mind they were raised by your sisterā¦ so becareful with them too in future.
Pray for her my ass, GO BEAT HER FRICKEN ASS TO A PULP AND THEN NEVER TALK TO THE BITCH AGAIN!!!
Wtfā¦ first off, just because shes family doesnt mean you canāt cut tiesā¦ why would you send your kids to another person, especially one with a history of violence just because you lost jobs? Im just not understanding any of thisā¦ seems pretty obvious to meā¦ cut her off, dont talk or visit, take your kids home, move on with your life.
First off you should have NEVER sent your children to a person ( I donāt care if she is your sister) who verbally, physically abused and Molested you as a child. You put your children in great danger. Secondly just because sheās family DOES NOT mean she needs to be in your life. You did the right thing my getting your kids and getting the hell away from that psycho!! . Now for your safely and that of your children, stays away.
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I believe your sister is in need of deliverance. But itās not something you can get involved in, the best thing you can do is pray for her and leave her in Gods hands. You need to go to church and seek Jesus, believe me this separation is protection. Jesus has his hand on you right now, He will help you through this. Seek Jesus.
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Walking away from your loved ones, is very hard. Iāve had to do it despite just wishing for a relationship with my mother and sister, for my whole live. There was 5 born from my mother, and I literally have contact with 1. It pains me every second. I have a cry or emotional day on their birthdays, and Christmases. But it is, what it is. It was your place to protect your children from any harm, which has been failed. Your next move is most definitely to decide who is going to work - and the other builds these babies back up! Personally, they need counselling to find out what abuse they were told to hide from adults. As Iāve no doubt from your words of your trauma, that they have.
I cannot believe you would leave your kids with someone so abusive. Youāre ridiculous.
I would say your children and husband is more important than your sisters. Keep yourself and your children away from this woman. Seems like she could really be dangerous. Pray that God comes into her life. God is the only one that can change someone.
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You need to leave that situation for good. I would be greatly concerned for the nieces being in a situation like that. Never ever trust her with your children. You are way better off without that.
She is toxic! You did the right thing leaving and taking your childrenā¦ the next thing you need to do is call CPS to have them check on HER CHILDREN! If she can do that to you over something little I am fairly certain she is or will do it to her children. Do not feel guilty.
im sorry i am not one to judge anyone for their decisions but why in the heck would you even let your kids be near her? given her abusive nature. especially the sexual part! i feel bad for you and your situation but you really should have known better. this is on you. and i agree with the person who said you need to call someone to make sure her kids are okay. theyre probably not.
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She has abused you mentally , physically and emotionally, she beat you in front of your kids I think you need to run far away from her why expose your kids to the same abuse you lived. Iām sorry but just because sheās your sister doesnāt give her the right to do what sheās done. She needs help ! Find someone else to help you and never look back!!! Best of luck to you and your family 
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First off, you need to call DHS in to do a wellness check on her children. Iād make a police report. Iām not going to judge you for wanting to trust her, but her children are in danger of the same treatment or worse.
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My oldest brother was just as bad. I disowned him and have never looked back. My kids donāt know him and never will know him. After all she did, I donāt know how you couldāve let her in your life to begin with. Iād be doing major damage control with my kids and finding out if she did anything to them or her own kids. Fact is, the kids will talk to each other about things that go on. If she did anything to her own, yours may know about it. No matter what though, get her out of your life.
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Am I the only one thinking these questions are totally bizarre? They seem so made up and Iām not sure this is the best place for advice when itās supposed to be āMy Husband Is A Blessingā page. 
If itās not made up, totally apologizeā¦
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You will have to love her from a distance as hard as it sounds.You will be fine as time will heal your heart.
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Just forget everything about her, she is not worth keeping in your life and never let your kids be involved with her againā¦
Everyone is ask you āwhy you did thatā nobody is listening to what you said. First things first, I hope you have removed the children from her home, then I would pray that you have talked to each of them alone and ask what every parent does when we fear the worst, if she has abused ANY of your children in ANY shape, form or way that you have made a full on police report. I know losing your job can be scary but losing your children is devastating. The word FAMILY is just that, unfortunately not every day is going to be bright and shining, thereās going to be some black clouds in the sky at times and if we as parents donāt teach our children how to ride them out and get up and dust offā¦ who will? Your sister? If she taught you life was all hard whatās she going to teach them? There a lot of help out there for those who need it and donāt abuse it. Thereās no reason to ever go one night without hugging them good night and holding them tight cause when theyāre grown youāll be praying for those moments you let your sister have them or anyone you choose to take care of them for you. Those are YOUR children no matter what keep them close cause theyāre going to remember how hard you worked to hold them up, they will respect you for it. Good luck and May god bless you and your family on you journey.
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Iām really sorry to read this and I donāt write this to argue with anyone but what does a page titled āMy Husband is a Blessingā have to do with with family issues and people seeking advice for Dr. Phil type situations?
If anything it is dangerous to have others try to fix a person when thereās no professional training. Thatās the first thing I learned at church care groups is to not try to fix each other.
I followed this page because it seemed positive and uplifting but Iām constantly seeing this stuff. Some of the comments would be more harmful than helpful to someone who is hurting and needs professional advice.
My thoughts/opinion. Please donāt bother with nasty replies.
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I have great advice,stay as far away as you can from that woman,she has no compassion or respect for you, you could try until you was 94 and still be the same,
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My sister treated me like a dog my entire lifeā¦ when my son was stillborn she told me God took him because He knew Iād be a terrible motherā¦ I finally cut her out of my lifeā¦ havenāt spoken to her in 6 years havenāt seen her in 4. And Iāve never been happier. Just because theyāre blood doesnāt mean they have to be in your life. A toxic person is a toxic person.
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My Question is why would you allow someone that abused you to take care of your kids that makes no sense. Obviously she has not changed with the resent events. I would considerate on my family.
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Unfortunately we donāt always get to pick our family. My advice to you would be to move on find new relationships with co workers or neighbors. Some times God will put other people into our lives that are far better for us then some āfamilyā members might be. Move forward with your kids and fiancĆ© they are all you really need.
If someone can do that to their own flesh and blood then you should not trust them. And if sheād done this to you your whole life why on the hell would you leave you children with her?
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I havenāt spoken to my Sister since 2012 because she betrayed me. Counseling and God saved me from jail, get your life together and keep consciously moving forward.
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Think of your children. Thatās all you can worry about right now is their well being and yours.
If you are worries if your nieces may being abused call for a welfare check. But other than that not much you can do. Iām so sorry. I know you are probably looking for better options. But just worry about you and your kiddos. Take care I know holidays are coming but maybe create some new traditions you and your kids can do together
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Why would you allow your children to go there when she sexually abused you? Are you asking for more trouble?!
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Why would u send them to her. And, losing a job is hardly a reason to do that. Losing jobs I life.
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What she does to you she will do to your kids ten fold
You have no sister. She is a toxic person that needs GONE from your life.
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