Just because shes family doesnt mean she isnt toxic. Press charges for the assault, remove her from your life and never look back.
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Sounds like children services needs to step in and keep your childrwn safe while all of you adults get your acts together.
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She has shown you her true self. Walk away quickly and completely for now. Figure the rest out later.
Sometimes letting go is difficult. You and your family donât need to partake in this destructive behavior.
I think you went from the frying pan to the fire get your children and get away from her being in a shelter is better then risking your children I will pray for you and call the police and after you get things settled you need some therapy for your self.
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Therapy⌠or wait for your nieces to grow old enough that they donât need their mom to interact with you. Wow. Iâm so sorry.
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Get your kids away from her please!!! You need a restraining order and stop all and I mean all contact. Your kids will pick up that behavior. You may need some counseling but please get your kids away from her.
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Seriously itâs your own life and mental anguish on you and your children or your nieces, that seems like a no brainer!!! Keep moving forward never look her way again!!! Your children would have been more stable watching you and your husband rise again from job loss than they are after having watched you, their mother, get assaulted by someone who you trusted to raise them. Rising after loss or stress shows strength, show them how strong you are now!!!
The kids never should had been sent there. Sheâs a damn abuser⌠She could had treated the kids the same damn way
Just walk away & donât look back, I know it will hurt, Iâve been through something similar, itâs better to walk away then be constantly abused verbally & physically
First stay away from your nut job sister. Keep your kids. Teach them that familys dont do things to hurt each other. Then find a job. You worked eight hunt for a job eight. Tell your kids life is not easy and as family they need to help. I dont care if there little. Make them productive. That should do it.
Probably going to be an unpopular opinion, but fight back. You taught your kids that if someone is hitting you to just let them. Teach them to defend themselves and do the same for yourself! She knows she can push you around, push back and sheâll stop.
Kick her to the curb. Shes gonna tell her kids what a bad person you are. Do not listen. Thats her way of hurting you again. When the kids are old enough they will come to you. Let time settle things down. I never went back to my sisters. Distance yourself from her bad vibes. Do whats good for you and your family. She will never have what you have. And thats a good heart. 
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Iâm not ok with receiving abusive posts as a result of posting an opinion! This is disgusting!!
Your sister will come around she will it will be up to you one when it happen I get a tape recorder to
Go to church. You need direction. Gods love is pure love. Gain some strength.
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Wow I cannot believe all of you. Yeah maybe she made a mistake and letting her kids go stay with her sister but seriously after what this womanâs been through you all beat up like that. Youâre going to jump down her throat. Iâm sorry these women are these people are jumping down your throat this is utterly ridiculous. You did what you felt like you had to do at the time. I canât tell you what I would have done.
I put my kids through some horrible things for about 6 months when I was going through a divorce and believe me my kids love me my kids know what was going on and guess what God loves me and God forgives me. And I am so thankful that I never had anybody jump down my throat like this and say youâre awful you should have never done that you you you you you. I think all of you need to get your act together and maybe go to God with this.
I am so sorry you went through this I am so sorry people are treating you like this. You and your children should probably get some counseling and I would seek out people who arenât going to make you feel guilty because thatâs not what you need right now.
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You need help lady, you let your kids live with that nut,
I thought this was a positive page about showing love and respect for your husband?!?!
Stay away from her and just pray for her!
You let your sister keep your kids and she molested you when you were youngerđł
Why would you send your children to live with an abuser 
Move on distance you can have a phone relationship and keep your distance
Cut off the ârelationshipâ.
patience,but keep your distance
Have her arrested she has a problem
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Firstly, Iâd ask the children if she touched them inappropriately.
2nd. Call the cops for the assault.
3rd. Get your family out of the way of this nasty spirited woman.
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She molested you? And you sent your kids out to stay with her? Did you stop to think she could molest your children also?
Itâs your responsibility to keep your children safe. If that means cutting ties with your sister to keep peace, drama and sanity in your life. Theres alot of people that have toxic siblings that they dont have relationships with. Until that sibling gets help stay away from them.
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Why on Earth would you trust her with your kids? Cut her from your life! Problem frickin solved!
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Your kids are your family and come first always, screw that bitch of a sister you and your kids are better off without her in your life. It sucks but deal with it, in the long run you will be glad you did and much more happier.live for today and make the best of it, and forget the past. Love your children and all will be okay, as they are all you need.
The fact that you let someone that molested you watch your kids makes me sick! You need counseling and your sister is an asshole!
I think your sister is sick. She probably does a lot of other things that youâve noticed that are out of sorts to. Mental illness affects the whole family. I would talk to a therapistďżź
K so you sent your children to live with someone you know is abusive and sexually abusive? Youâre just as sick as your sister.
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If it happened to you why would you put your children in her care ? Obviously she has anger issues. If she is capable of attacking you then what is she capable of doing to your kids when youâre not there. Heâll No , lose that Bitch! Even if sheâs your sister. Family doesnât do that to each other!
Stay away from her. Period. If she could molest you when you were younger and abuse you both when younger and as an adult, there is nothing to stop her from doing the same to your children. Iâm sorry but you must protect them and yourself.
put her ass in jail and than just maybe she will get it its going to be her loss your kids dont need to be around someone like her is she is doing that to you she is doing that to her family your better off and so is you your kids and your hubby gl to you i hope that you heal in time prayer to yo
Your a piece of shit for putting your kids in the hands of a molester/abuser⌠I just pray she didnât do that to them too. Trust me, my mom did not protect me as a child and I have a hard time still to this day forgiving her. So donât be mad when your kids want nothing to do with u too.
Um⌠She molested you and you let your children go live with her!!! WTF
You thought it was better to send your kids to live with a child molester than have them with you while going through a hard time?
Call the police STUPID
Why in the world would you leave your children with your abusive sexual assaulter?! You made a big stupid mistake. Shame on you too.
I come from sexual abuse, from my father and let me tell you that I would NEVER EVER FUCKING EVER send my kids to see him, stay the night, just say hi and even to glance at him. How could you say you wonât press charges no matter what she fucking said when that bitch not only abused you but sexually abused you. I hope to hell your children didnât get sexually abused while their, how dare you.
I have no clue what to say. You are crying victim here. Wow what about your kids? You send them to live with a sexual predator. SMH. Sounds like you have Stockholm syndrome, which is sad cause now your kids will more than likely try to spend their whole adult life trying to overcome their childhood. I say you get help. And until then your children need to be somewhere where they can be protected by monsters like your sister and idiots like you. Sorry. But thatâs just how I feel.
I stopped reading after you sent your children to live with an abuser/ molesterâŚ
Also quit being a pus and get her ass.
I left my kids with my mother for 6 weeks after a massive head injury and she never gave them back⌠and my life has never been the ssme.
First off, I am so so sorry you have dealt with this in your life. Abusive family members are the worst. Second you did great keeping calm for your kids. If violence is happening they will look to you and your reaction to see if they are safe. And thirdly, girl please go no contact! You and your children deserve so much better. Family or not. Hugs
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Its tough but necessary. I cut of my paternal side because i was abused in every way from multiple family members. My sister attacked me while pregnant, twice. I do not speak to any family member of that side except for my nephew who asks for me to go to his football games. It was hard but honestly i feel much better knowing there isn a chance for abuse anymore
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Your job is to protect your children, and yourself. Walk away, donât ever look back and get you and your kids into therapy asap. I grew up in an extremely abusive home with a mentally ill bio father and left there to live with my narcissistic mother who I finally had to cut ties with this year due to her abusive tendencies. Your sister will never change without a serious breakthrough and that is highly unlikely to happen so in the meantime, walk away and grieve the fact that she is not the sister you need in your life but quit trying to keep her around because sheâs âfamilyâ
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Mamas donât send their kids away when shit gets tough!! You knew how your sister was and made a calculated decision to allow your children to stay with her anyway. Itâs time to completely cut her off and take responsibility for your kids!
Get her out of your life break all contact stop allowing her to manipulate you you do not deserve that!;
While itâs sad that you will lose contact with your nieces, you need to cut her out of your life. I would press charges against her as well.
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You did the best thing by leaving. Quit doubting yourself and keep doing whatâs right for you and your kids which is staying away from people who will hurt you or your kids. If youâre really worried about your nieceâs call CPS because they shouldnât live with her either.
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Youâre not only putting yourself in danger, but your children now also. File a report, get a restraining order and start healing. You deserve better than what youâre allowing.
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YOUR KIDS ARE IN DANGERâ:bangbang:
After everything she has done to u, u send your kids with a monster? Struggling as a family is nothing to be ashamed of. Government assistance helps a lot. Get your kids asap!!!
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Just because they are family doesnât mean they are good for you. You have a choice. A tough one, yes, but you DO have a choice.
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I understand what she has done to you and why you would stay in a relationship with your sister. But why would you under any circumstances put your kids in danger of being around a BAD person. This really pisses me off. She abused you and you sent them away to be with your abuser. You need clinical help. You dont need to be on Facebook asking for help. I was abused 9 years and I would never have my son around my abuser. Get help.
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You did what was best, tho Shelby is right, if they abused you esp in any way donât let your kids around them unless youâre present otherwise they are prone to go through what you did in the past.
You need to distance yourself from people who are unhealthy for you (especially abusive).
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Counseling counseling counseling!
Quit being a door mat! Take of yourself & your children!
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Take care of yourself and your family. (Your children) Toxic is toxic. ONLY you are responsible for yourself and your children. Be grateful you still have them, and the opportunity to make this choice. DO IT NOW. 
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Cut her out of you life COMPLETELY. I will be healthier for it. I know it sounds cruel but, put yourself first in your life.ďżź
If she done that to u in the first place WHY would u leave your kids with her i certainly wouldnt even if it was your only option not a chance in hell would it be me
Family can be family all it wants to be . But your kids mental health and physical health along with yours come first. If your sister does not know how to treat you or talk to you stay away you donât need that type of negativity and abuse in your life . You have to do whatâs best for YOUR FAMILY you should not feel guilt for trying to do whatâs best for them.
OMG hell no. No words. I can only imagine. I have lived with my sisters and my kids and itâs hell.
Ok I can totally understand where youâre coming from and itâs ok to CUT TOXIC PEOPLE out of your life. Itâs not just your life, itâs your kidsâ lives too. They donât deserve to see their mother being treated like that. Thatâs traumatic! Cut off all communication and be ok with it. You shouldnât have to force a relationship just because you share the same blood. NOPE. Thatâs not what makes you family. So be OK with moving on and losing her number.
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I wouldnât be going around her. Sheâs no good for you
Why with all the abuse she put on you would you have your BABIES go live with that same crap ⌠yikes
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I would get your kids away from her asap.
Just drop her and be done.
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This is a lot to unpack 
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You can love someone from a distances.
You did the right thing.
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Cut Off all Communication!!
Iâm sorry for your situation. I also question why, after the abuse you suffered at her hands, you would even have considered leaving your precious children with your sister, but thatâs another story. I had a similar but lesser situation with my sister. She still puts me down verbally when she can. The physical abuse came much earlier when I was a small child. I might add that she is 7 years my elder! I understand that sheâs your sister and itâs not easy to break family ties. Would both of you consider counselling? In the meantime, you really cannot expose your children (or hers) to violence like this. Until she agrees to get help, either with or without you, you have to distance yourself from her and your children. Please.
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Wow should report her to cps and press charges.
Omg stay away from her
Forget all of them. But for future reference DONT send your kids with someone you are accusing of molestation!!! No amount of âwe have fixed our relationshipâ means youâd risk putting your own kids through the same exact thing. Thatâs just wrong.
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No way would I have sent my kids to stay with someone who had molested and abused me.
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So very sorry you and the children were abused. This means your sister is mentally ill. She can not be trusted again. Ever. Her history of this is the evidence you have to stop all contact. Leave her to God. You have suffered too much for way too long. Get therapy for yourself and your children. Take care. Be strong.
I donât understand why anyone would leave their kids with someone that molested them. You need to get your entire family away from herâŚfar far away.
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You should have NEVER sent those kids to her, she MOLESTED you, people dont grow out of that sort of thing! Forget about her, it will take time and probably hurt but your children are more important. Struggling or not those kids are yours and need to stay by your side even if under a bridge! Iâve been in your shoes, without the sister part. Itâs hard but never trust anyone that has ever hurt you with your children.
Omg wtf is wrong with you?? You sent your innocent kids to live with a sister you claim abused you for half your life??
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Why would you send your children to live with someone that you said molested you?
Cut all ties and move on⌠This behavior will never change. Sheâs dangerous and sick.
And you said moleste so whyyyy were they there. No excuse good enough she got you before someone else did⌠MOMMAS PROTECT THEIR BABIES NOT SEND THEM OFF INTO DANGER. SMH I pray for your children.
Never leave your kids with someone who molested you 
Dont bring your kids or your self around anyone whos abused you in any way⌠Dont feel bad just let go
Stay away from her foreverâŚYou Donât need ârelativesâ like her.Do yourselph a favor stay away from CANCERâŚ
Good luck honey.
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You sent your children to stay with a child molester ?
Your an idiot you tell everyone your sister abused you even molested you but then you send your poor babies to live with the evil monster??? Wow!! Neither of you need kids!!!