*TRIGGER WARNING* I found disturbing things on my exes ipad and don't know what to do: Advice?

I would hope that before asking strangers on Facebook, you took this to the police station right?

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unfortunately you have to have physical proof of what you’re saying because you’re right they’re not just going to take your word for it. Maybe you could take the iPad and show them what pops up on the search bar I don’t know honestly

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Report what you found and request an emergency hearing or force his hand by not allowing him to see the child.

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And you had a baby with him?

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If he’s a known sex offender, he wouldn’t have gotten granted custody. Something doesn’t add up here.

Take that iPad to the police!

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Welfare people suck they really dont care iys all about money

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Take the iPad to cps dhs and get a lawyer! You’re going to need to fight like hell to get your kid out of that situation! Therapy as well, get him to talk

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File for a DVP, report it to the police, call a lawyer, do anything you can.

My situation was not as severe but I learned the hard way. Once you have a device in your custody you lose the chain of custody and the content it’s not really able to depend on that person. That said this was way back in 2012 when I had an issue. Can you go to cyber crimes at the police department and say that your son was given his iPad and sex with children is typed into search? Let them know that you know they will not necessarily believe here because exes try to pin stuff on each other but he is registered sex offender so… They need to be serious.

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I would be taking the iPad directly to a lawyer. Document everything.

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I think it’s great you are reporting on your side. Personally I’ve never called dhs on anyone but I’d also be doing a separate report of my findings for a welfare check on her two step daughters as living with him as well.

You could possibly contact legal aid in your area and let them know of your concerns about the iPad bindings and your sons welfare and see if they have any direction for you maybe you need to obtain a low-cost lawyer he can gather up this information for you and present it to a judge and the judge I believe can overrule DHS orders

Take the ipad or pics of search history to police now. Ask for a restraining order for you and your son.
This guy is beyond disturbed. He sounds like the kind of guy that you hear about in the news, having done something awful, and its not til after the fact that they find all these GIANT WAVING RED FLAGS!
Keep your son away.

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Bring charges against DHS.

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Girl I’d move to Mexico before I let him see my child again. Go to the police with what you found and tell his wife to protect her kids.

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Every computer phone etc has an iP address they can even go and find deleted things as well so take ipad to police and tell then your story and suspicions he left it in your care therefore they do not need a search warrant plus of he on parole or probation they dont have to have a reason to search he lost his rights even if he is n car with you they can search his stuff and him etc bc of that reason I wouldnt let my child go either I’m sorry love this is horrible amd some parents are careless so the gf is dumb for having her girls around him with his conviction

mmmm was is sex offender case in a different state

If it has kiddie porn he’s fkd, why wouldn’t you bring it to the police NOW?

I would take it to the police. Those 2 little girls and your son could be in danger

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Wtf … your baby came home with a cut on his penis and YOU still allowed him to go …
A few brick short of a wall or what … woah

Lord lord . What a world.

Take the iPad to the Dea office in your town, you need the feds not dhs…theres more to that than just videos. Keep him away from your child

Being a sex offender could mean he was with someone who was a day shy of being of age. No details given so I can’t even say anything about his charge. You’re pretty stupid for willingly risking jail time just to go against court orders. Things have been unfounded and you have no real proof OF ANYTHING. You don’t even know if he was the one looking shit up on the iPad. Just saying. Whole lotta jumping to conclusions here and no proof of anything

wow I just read there is no law that says sex offender cant be around children. now if the court says so yes!

Can you go to the police with the lap top?

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I’d ask to borrow it again and bring it to the police. Problem solved. The new girlfriend needs to know too. I’d reach out. Good luck!

Turn the I pad over to the authorities & let them handle it & let them contact DCFS.

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get your lawyer the information to him get a hearing setup now. to stop him getting visition rights

yes that girl may not know if she does she blinded by whatever.

Make a police reports, notify DCH and File for emergency protective custody

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Report that. Do not hesitate. Do it NOW NOW NOW

Bring that ipad to the cops!!

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Take it to a police station and let them handle it

I’m so confused, you knew he was a sex offender and still got pregnant by him? Was he convicted of a Sex crime? Did he go to jail? I don’t understand, if he was convicted of a sexual crime he would have supervised visits with his children if he was allowed visiting rights at all. If you know he’s a pervert why not go to the police Immediately after finding that on his tablet.

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I had a similar situation where the father was abusing the children but there was a court order they went for visits.

Children protection advised me it was my responsibility to keep the children safe and do what was in the best interest of them and if it was not allowing them to visit their father then so be it.
I had the right to stop visits.
He will have to reapply through the court for a variation and that’s when you can submit your evidence to the judge.
Best of luck. Sounds like a scary man and I wouldnt let mine go back if I were you… but I understand your position.

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Turn the iPad over to the police department and tell them whos it is

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I know someone that can get you a fake id with a scannable barcode on the back for $150. Change your name on yours & your sons birth certificate. Take all your $ out of your acct & go set up a new one w your fake id/fake name. Move states.

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Take screen shots of it all and save it. Take a picture of you and your son holding the ipad as proof of you having it at your home. Keep a file going.

Then turn the ipad over to the police station

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Follow you gut, it’s never wrong

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Go to the police. In his county and yours. Let them confiscate the iPad.

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Take the device to Police!

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Get a lawyer and go straight to police station with that tablet. Call cps

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I’m not familiar with the legal process for these things but surely if you have a very real suspicion that your son is being put in harm’s way then you can withhold the visitation? I’d be going to the police and making a report based on what you’ve found on the IPad so if he does try and take you to court then you can use the police report as supporting evidence.

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Report your new findings to the cops🤢

That in itself needs to be reported to the police ASAP regardless of his visitation order, your child and the stepchildren need to be protected, who knows you may be the one that saves those little girls from sexual abuse and your son as well.

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Make a police report Don’t send him back request an emergency court hearing and take prove of everything

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Take pictures of everything. Ask to borrow the IPAD and turn it over to the police or DHS.

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I would go to the police immediately. He may already be abusing the poor girls. :sob::sob::sob: this is so sad and scary.

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Please, please, not only for your son, but those innocent girls as well, make a police report, make as much noise as you can about it. Go to the prosecutors, email your local and state officials if you have too. You have a responsibility to protect your child from a lifetime of mental illness and pain. Current gf might not know his past, pedophiles are VERY good at manipulation. This is very disturbing, and he may be abusing other children in the meantime. Please do not sit on this, hesitation can mean someone’s life.

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Report everything and take it to the police and take evidence of everything. Photos.
This guy needs to be locked up. Maybe try to speak to his girlfriend and I would not hand my son over. No way

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Just something to think about, you won’t be able to protect your son from inside a jail cell. I hope you figure it all out and your son stays safe. Wishing you the best.

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I would do an anonymous call about the girls just in case

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My smom is computer forensic specialist. The police can extract dates these were pulled up. Take it to the police.

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If you still have to iPad, take your own screenshots and send them to yourself as safe evidence. Then take the iPad to your police station and say you’d like to make a report with a police officer and explain your situation. Call for an emergency hearing and also explain. Do not discuss your findings with anyone other than law enforcement and other officials. I’m sorry to say but you’re ex is probably already abusing his girlfriends daughters and their mother already knows about it too (She knew the potential by having a sex offender cohabit with her children in the first place.). I see this happen frequently where women defend their partners who abuses their children and you don’t want her sabotaging anything. You need to express to the court that this mans search history is disturbingly specific to children whom he has contact with and you feel your son is not safe and that you’d like to have his parental rights terminated immediately. Please keep this page updated with your story and I hope you get results.

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The iPad should have been taken to the police department then make sure that you follow up with it stay close to it after that they should have done a home certificate Pewters and stuff in his house if they did not then I would be requesting it because you have that iPad he could turn around and say you did this you need to turn everything in you should have turned the iPad into the police take it as drove straight to the police department

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I am lost …your son’s dad is a sex offender, yet he can see your son unsupervised??? And he is allowed to live with a woman with 2 daughter??? OMG…what is wrong with the judges where you live???

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Call the police now! Don’t give his iPad back.

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Do u still have iPad if so take to police station and show them something needs to be done as those two little girls lives are in danger as well…

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Turn the iPad over to the police. Take pictures of everything. Do not say a word to him. And DO NOT allow your son to go back over there

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Do not send your son back. Do not give the ipad back, straight to the police and DHS.

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Take the iPad to the cops…wth is wrong with you?

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you need to take ipod to cops,they should arrest him with sex video of him and step daughter,i urge you,i am sure they will arrest him quick…

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Take it to the police NOW NOW RIGHT NOW
OMG

Call the police and show them the ipad or i pray you took photos of the searches. I would call and show them and order a VPO and send a copy to dhs and file it with the courts. Couldnt really understand if you have custody of him or if dhs does but if you do then most definitely do not let that baby around him.

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Ummm did you screenshot and email that to yourself? Or are we and dhs supposed to just take your word on it…

Go straight to the police with the iPad and hand it them xxx

I agree go to police station if you still have that thing immediately. Hell to the no that guy has to get locked up.

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Contact legal aid and see if they can help you. They don’t charge. Keep fighting for your cause. May God take this situation in His hands and lead you to who you can get help. Good luck

I think keeping your son away is 100% acceptable and the DHS is a bullshit no good for anyone organized group of stupid people who honestly dont do shit to protect anyone until its too late.
If you can try to have friends of yours call CPS on him regarding the other two girls that belong to his GF. The more reports of suspicious behavior the better they are at actually giving a shit.
Take that freaking Ipad to the police asap!

Uh… He can now blame those searches on you :eyes: unless YouTube or Google had the dates the searches were done. If not I’m sure they can extract that from the iPad seriously though run don’t walk. That’s sickening. WTF is wrong with his wife? Where in the hell is the kids biological father to allow their mother to cohabitate with an offender. I’m sad to say I’m afraid he’s already done something to them.

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Get a lawyer If you dont already have one! !!!

It completely baffles me that you would even question people on the internet, vs using common sense on whether or not to take the iPad to the police.

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All the people saying to go to the police with the iPad… They aren’t going to do anything about it… When you search stepfather/daughter sex it’s not (usually) underaged people. Also, he is allowed to search whatever he wants. It’s not a crime.

HOWEVER, I would be scared shitless and document it along with opening a new DHS report and filing to have custody reexamined ASAP. I wouldn’t send your son back until a new court order is done because if your argument is that it is dangerous for your son then they will wonder why you sent anyway.

Before you ever even came to Facebook for advice you should have taken that iPad to the police ! Protect all those children

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Police and they can see maybe when the searches were done

Get a good lawyer through CPS and turn over everything to them and keep your kid home

Take it to the state level of your county want listen and show them everything you have and involve the police since this is criminal and you might be able to get him locked up

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If you still have his iPad that’s your proof. Don’t let anyone see u with it. Than turn it over to olive for your case against him.

File for an emergency custody arrangement. He won’t be able to have your son until court. At least 2 weeks maybe longer. Bring the iPad as evidence. I would also have DHS involved and possibly even a child psych to evaluate your son to see if he’s been victimized

I would have not gone on trip and drove to nearest Police station with his IPAD.

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I’d go police. Don’t even tell them who you are to him. Just that you have seen evidence that he has illegal content on his computer.

Wow. Use your common sense.

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Have they pulled your son aside to talk with him? I for one would call your case worker and show her the info on his tablet. I was in simular situation back in 98-2000 and if the child want tell someone besides u or family member this is hard to prove. I pray everything goes threat it needs to for the sake of all children involved. Keep making excuses so he don’t have to go as much as possible. :pray:

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how old is your son? Can he talk to the caseworker or DHS.?

Take the ipad to the police. Refuse to leave until you speak to someone. What are they going to do? Arrest you? That’ll give you hours to scream your case. I wish you the best of luck! Thank you for being those kids advocate!

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How does he have any rights if he’s a child sex offender :angry:

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Report report report

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My god report that don’t even think twice right now don’t wait

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Protect your child report him show them what tot have and ask for a change in your court order until they investigate. Is your ex on the second offenders list ? If so I know there is conditions in place to protect children . If he was released with a conditions such as not allowe around anyone under the age of 16 without supervision then nothing can be done he’s allowed around any child with supervision unfortunately it’s wrong and I don’t agree with the laws at all when expels to this . I know your trying to follow the court order however I do advise you speak to lawyer or child protection services . I have been in a Similar situation I can not discuss at this time but I know your trying to follow court order but ty need to protect your child and for your piece of mind . You as a parent have the right to protect your child . The system is broken and failing all of us I know . Hang in there it’s a long road it’s been many years for my similar situation it’s hard and you want to do the right thing and you’ll be told a million softener things hard to know what’s the truth and what’s right or wrong . Hang in here and protect your child no matter what . :heart:

Bring that ipad to the police station!!!

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Why did you even have a child with this man? It wasn’t a problem for you that he was a sex offender before you got pregnant…?
The police are going to tell you it doesn’t matter what he looks up on his own iPad for ONE & for two he could claim anybody else looked those things up

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That iPad is your proof! Take pics on your phone of the iPad too just in case. Turn that in!

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I agree with everyone else about reporting this and fighting it. I’m praying for you guys.

Not down playing what you are saying at all, because it’s definitely scary… but the “step”parent/child sex thing is definitely a category on porn. I mean not KIDS . grown “steps”

If he’s a child sex offender or anything he isn’t allowed around a computer or internet! For that reason! My ex is a sex offender (after we split) and he was only a level 1 his wasn’t rape or anything real serious and he isn’t aloud on the internet nor have any internet access so you can report him to the police bc it is a violation! I wouldn’t let him around my child but if it’s court ordered you got to go through the proper channels to get a emergency hearing! Maybe the new girl doesn’t know! Open your mouth and maybe safe the life of a child!

Wow do Something
Good luck

Please do not stop fighting. And yes use your common sense. Will social services not help. You are handing them a RED FLAG.

You could try for an emergency protective order. Depending on your state you may need a lawyer for that. Perhaps legal aide is available in your area. Take the ipad to the police. Watching child porn is illegal as far as I know. Sounds like you may have enough proof to try and modify a court order.

You should take screenshots and show his girlfriend too, what a pos