I lost a baby at 10 weeks. I remember the day what I was doing as clear as if it was yesterday. Every March when I lost the baby and October when the baby was due I think of my little one. It’s a really sad time in your life and your family. It becomes less,but it never goes away.
for you and your family.
All of your emotions are normal. I lost my daughter 4 years ago and did the same thing. I walked around in a daze not knowing what to do. Give yourself time to heal and tell people. You will be surprised how much help some of them can give you.
Any feelings you are having are completely normal. Allow yourself the time to grieve. It’s hard to take in, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
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I lost 3 in the 2nd trimester. I scheduled asap because knowing my child was dead inside me was a real mind f***. But everyone is different and you need to do what is best for you. If that’s time with your family or whatever. Mama doctor Jones just put out a video on YouTube on miscarriage that I would highly recommend you watch.
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You feel however you do. There’s no right or wrong way to handle a pregnancy loss. Of course you want to be around your sister. I think you should tell her. Let people help you grieve. I’m sorry for your loss.
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This happened to me. My doctor advised to have the D&C asap because my body was not rejecting the baby. He said it wasn’t normal and that if I didn’t remove the baby toxins will start damaging my body and make me sick. So please go have the D&C. Then go on your trip and let your family surround you in love. There was a reason that it wasn’t meant to be. Right your thoughts down and keep a journal it will help you heal as well. I am so sorry for your loss.
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Most of us have had a miscarriage. Mine was early, and I know as a medical person that there was something wrong with the fetus that was incompatible with life. That helped me emotionally. God saved us from the pain of a highly damaged baby, only to watch him die I a couple of hours. God was protecting me from an awful birth.
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I went through this myself and it is definitely hard. I am so sorry that you are going through this. If you need to talk you can definitely message me and i will listen to whatever you need to say. Everything you have mentioned i went through as well except i was further along and had told a few people. I didnt want to talk to anyone really about it. But once i finally opened up about it it definitely helped to know that i wasnt alone and that i had someone i could talk to or just sit and cry with.
Sending lots of hugs and love your way!! It’s good thing to let yourself heal and take things slowly as you feel you are ready. Get back to what your normal for right now will be for you over the next few weeks months as you go through this. The pain your feeling will lessen over time. But don’t listen to anyone but yourself as to how you should be feeling or what you should be doing because we are all different and are leading different lives on way different paths so this will effect each of us a very special way.
I’m so sorry for you I went through the same thing I grieved I still think about what my baby would have looked like but I did go on to have a healthy baby boy five years later❤️
I lost a baby at eight weeks, actually felt it die. It was a very odd experience and a pretty devastating one. I cried for the first year afterward.
I also chose to pass it quickly with the use of drugs and seriously regretted it. In the process of passing it, I didn’t see the little sac and flushed it down the toilet on accident, which messed me up even further. Since I’d had a previous miscarriage naturally and found the baby I didn’t think about what it would be like to not find the baby again. The GUILT ate me alive- all I could think was I flushed my baby down the toilet like it was waste. The loss was overwhelming.
For six months afterward my periods were terrible, just another reminder of what had happened. I swore I’d never use a medical route again unless it was imperative, the consequences were just too awful. Unfortunately caring a dead baby when you know it’s passed is also a terrible feeling. My motive for using the drug was to help myself heal quickly, in mind and body, but it seemed to only make my physical and emotional pain worse.
That’s my experience, not everyone’s. Everything you’re going through is normal, let yourself grieve even if it’s a heavy grief. Everyone who’s here that’s been through it knows what you’re going through, you’re not alone. Prayers for you and your husband 
So sorry to here this ultrasound before d&c help healing. And this happens unfortunately with no explanation which makes it harder. Hug your 4 yr old tight they sense grief. Cry, shout, dance, most of all take time to heal.
I’m so sorry for your loss dear and everyones … it is extremely devestating … I have experienced this 3 times In a row… the same thing happening every year .
Let it out! Take care !God has better plans for you❤️
Your kid n husband need u !!
So sorry for ur loss, may God give you strength and blessed you with new born soon. After my 1st child I went through 3 consecutive DnCs and now I have 4 kids. It’s normal to feel sad or cry. You will go through this, stay strong.
You feel however you feel! There is no wrong way to grieve, you have suffered a tremendous loss,do what feels right for you,sending prayers for you and your family
Mourn,Sweet Lady. You and your husband already have bonded with and had dreams for your little one. Years ago, we miscarried before we even realized we were expecting. Without having even anticipating our little one’s birth even one day, my husband and I felt the loss deeply and mourned greatly.
My thoughts are with you try and be strong for your 4 yr old but remember your husband cos he’s hurting too xxx
Make sure you get a second and maybe a third opinion before you make a plan as Drs. have been wrong.
I am so sorry, please remember that everyone heals in there own way. Do what helps you. I will pray for you!
Happened to me also, it’s heartbreaking, but you will heal in time
Don’t go for D&C if it’s a failed pregnancy it will abort by its own self, I have gone through it for 3 times, wait for natural abortion , stay calm and be positive , everything will be fine one inshallah
You should feel sad ,you are grieving. So don’t you think you shouldn’t ,you just carry on it won’t be fore ever it will pass bless you ,
Its ok dont stop urself from being sad … but also be strong 
I go through the same phase i know what u r feeling
I’m so sorry. I had a loss at 10 weeks in October, no heartbeat and baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. It’s completely devastating. I was in denial, asked for a few days before deciding on a D&C and miscarried naturally two days after my ultrasound, the first two days was awful. I would still make the visit if you’re able, I continued going to my kids sporting events etc. Please talk to your family about this, it’s so important to have a support system.
Not weird at all. Hormones will be all over the place as well as grief. Book your d & c if babies life loss is confirmed as controlled blood loss is safer. Also let your sibling know so they have sensitivity but ask them to help you have a positive not sad visit to help your 4 year old and you both begin to move forward. Let them know if you decide to tell your mum or not. Nothing wrong in crying and grieving properly but looking forward to the trip will help manage your grief. Sorry for your loss. Everything happens for a reason baby was not well😢.
Brighter days are ahead.
My unsolicited opinion on this as a father.
My wife lost one at 12 weeks. She actually delivered the baby intact, for lack of a better word. Had a burial. But for that entire year I felt my soul was ripped out of my chest. I wailed and screamed in the car at night so no one could see or hear me. People call it a miscarriage, but it hit us like a stillbirth. You lost a child, and you have to process it accordingly. Trying to deny it will make it worse.
We have a memorial pot of flowers outside that we lay flowers at on what would have been her birthday. I say her because my wife felt like it was a girl. I spend the day silently grieving then I move on. And every now and again I still weep. Time does make the pain less intense. I hope this helps.
I wish I had words to comfort you, I send you peace and love and all things positive.
sorry for loss I will keep you in my prayers
My prayers of comfort are with you