Oh momma. That’s so hard. Do what you need. No one else.
Yes, get a 2nd opinion.
One day at a time honey
Stay strong and just think “you’re not alone” 
So sorry for your loss.
Go… being with family will help…
Hang in there … One day at a time…
I’m so very sorry hon, may God bring you comfort.
25 years ago , I go into my doctor’s appointment , I had one week left until I gave birth . When they went to find the heartbeat ,there wasn’t one . Nothing was said , I was whisked away to ultrasound . My little boy had passed away in the womb weeks before hand . There was no sign ,no warning . They just looked at me and said they were sorry and sent me home. I walked out into the waiting room area and the other pregnant must have seen the heart break on my face and they started to hold their hands over their faces and cry . Later in the day I get the call for a scheduled C-section to remove my son . I was 18 years old . I signed a piece of paper to do a natural birth even if it meant I would die . I gave birth to my sweet Dakota and said goodbye 
That was 25 years ago and I continue to go through life ,I’ve even had and lost children since then . It still hurts , some days are way harder than others . You can grieve however and how long you want . There is no wrong way to deal with what you are going through I’m so sorry for your loss 
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There’s no right or wrong.
So sorry for you hon xxx
There is no right or wrong way to grieve. I’ve lost a baby at 14 weeks and needed a d&c (no one knew at the time) then lost one at 34 weeks and needed to be induced. I was depressed and didn’t get out of bed for a few weeks. Meanwhile my husband was going to work and taking care of the house and our other kids. I thought I was in the wrong for not wanting to talk about it or secluding myself. I felt guilty for not being there for my older children. But it’s what I needed to do. While my husband kept it together in front of us, he would occasionally escape to the bathroom for a quick cry alone. We all handle these emotions differently. If it’s best for you to move on and surround yourself with positivity, then do it.
I’m terribly sorry. I have experienced something similar. Feel what you feel. Do what you need to do to heal. Whatever you feel is right for you. Grief is a singular, individual thing. You can share your feelings if you like, and tell someone about your grief, but it will remain yours alone to handle as you need to. There is no wrong way. Love to you and yours.
Some doctors say 10 weeks is too early to hear heartbeat! Have a friend who almost got DnC and got 2nd opinion! Thank goodness bc she has a beautiful boy now
I miscarried at 4 1/2 months which is supposedly past the “danger” zone. That was 32 years ago, I don’ t think I’ll ever get over it! When someone asks how many children I have, I still have trouble saying 3. I usually add, well, I was pregnant 4 times, I lost a little boy at 4 1/2 months. I know its hard to talk about but my advice would be to tell your family. They love you, they will be living and supportive. My thoughts and prayers are with you honey. Please take care of yourself!
Before you do a D&C please get a second opinion. When I was pregnant with my daughter the doctor said by my last period and blood work I should’ve been 8 weeks and said there was no heartbeat and no development and recommended a D&C. I was in absolute hell for 10 days and got sick with the flu right before I saw my OB and went to the ER. They found the heartbeat and she is now 10 months old. If this is not the case, I am very very sorry for your loss and know that you have to grieve and there is no right or wrong way to do that. Do it in your way and at your pace. hugs momma, I wish you the best!
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So sorry for your loss…I had 2 miscarriages and then a beautiful baby girl who left us at 3 months (SIDS). Thoughts are with you and your family your little one will help get you through it
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I have had 3 this year alone. It never gets easier. Give yourself time to grieve. My oldest is almost ten abd he was with me during the last one that took 3 weeks to fully miscarry and it felt like an eternity, knowing it was happening. It was hard for him too. What helped is a Christmas tree ornament that he picked out on Amazon, to remember and acknowledge that baby. We’ve decided on a vasectomy for my husband after the last one. We have two kids already and just don’t want to keep going through the emotional roller coaster.
Please get a second opinion. I bled twice with my baby and the first sono tech had to really dig in and turn sideways to pick up the heartbeat at 12 weeks. Second time bleeding, she was actually bigger than she was supposed to be, but overall healthy. Both times I had called my ob about cramping and bleeding and he would tell me that his nurse would schedule me an appointment within the week 
so I just went straight to the ER. I’m sorry if this gives you false hope, but with almost everything medical wise, you’re never wrong for getting a second opinion
This happened to me also it was but I get the feeling of why and how come to me I was just pregnant last week and now I’m not. Yes talk to your mom and your sibling and whoever a good friend there’s nothing wrong about talking about it it’ll let you heal faster I hope this all makes sense because I’m talking on the microphone. Got pregnant in 1990 had the miscarriage and 1991 I had my son so all is good it will happen I’ll pray for you.
This happened to me as well. I went in for my first visit at 12 weeks, and no heartbeat. Baby had actually stopped growing at 6 weeks and 2 days but my body didn’t let me know. Just go thru your emotions, do all that you’re doing, give yourself time love on the little one you have and in time it won’t hurt so bad. You’ll think of that baby every day for a long time, I still think of my loss at times! Find who you can talk to and just let it out, I’d say don’t hide it from your sibling if you’re close! You need support hubs will too and you guys can lean on eachother to get thru! Sorry for your loss mama I know it hurts 
I experienced the same thing at 12 weeks. I had 6 beautiful kids and it was not planned. I grieved the loss for many years. Most people did not know I was pregnant and afterwards I didn’t talk about it much. I wish that I had because I think it would’ve helped me heal. For some reason, I thought that I didn’t have the right to mourn since I had many other children & the pregnancy was unplanned. Any way you feel is ok. Mourn in the way you feel best. Talk to a good friend about it. Healing from a loss is a long process and always looks different.
I am so sorry that you’re going through this. No mother should ever have to feel the loss of their baby whether it be at 6 wks 10 wks or 30 wks. I don’t want to give you false hope however please get a second opinion i was at the appt for the d&c and the nurse found a faint heartbeat and my son is here and prefect! Pray for a miracle and prepare yourself for the worse. Reach out to other moms that have similar experiences maybe find a rainbow 
baby support group in your area if you’re not comfortable with speaking to opening up to family and friends
It is always devastating when you have a miscarriage😢 I had two before our little angel was born in May… you need to have time to grieve! Your feelings are completely normal! I know I was very confused and devastated after mine, it helps with healing from the loss a lot to have someone to talk to about things… what helped with my closure and (memorializing the babies that God took) is My husband & I both wear two small gold rings on a chain for our girls that we lost & I have a tattoo on my back for them… that way they are always close to my heart!
I had to get the D&C even though I knew they were gone it was still really hard to have to do! You and your family are in our prayers!
You will feel a whole Gambit of emotions, and that’s ok. But please do not hide it from your family, let them know it happened. One, they will help you with the healing process and two it gets family medical history out there. I honestly think my mother has had miscarriages but refuses to tell me. There is a lot of stuff I have found out through other channels and it pisses me off.
I lost two pregnancies like this! You need to do the D and E as soon as possible! My Dr always said that something was going wrong and this is nature’s way. I have 4 healthy happy adult children now. I got pregnant after each miscarriage and those pregnancies were perfectly fine! God bless you and I will pray for a good outcome!
I’m so so sorry honey. My heart is so sad for you and ur husband. I lost my son at 9 months. Went in because I couldn’t feel him move. Dr said just wait till ur next visit. We said no. And went in and they put the needle in to see the fluid. Said don’t worry. It will come out clear. I didn’t. And brown color. They left the room. I was in shock until my husband and parents came in room and told me. Dr didn’t have the balls to do it himself. They had me wait 2 heart breaking weeks to see I would go into labor. Never did. But this was in 1974.
Im sorry for your loss. This happened to me 6 times out of 9 pregnancies. Its hard. Its very hard. I still think about what who he or she would have been. I cant say anything that can help the pain but i will pray for you and I hope you decide to try again because you can have a successful pregnancy. Hold your husbamd tight and assure him that things will be ok. Much love to you.
First of all let me say I’m sorry for your loss. I do not know what you are going through. But please dont suffer alone. Talk to your mom and family. Now more than ever you need them. You have every right to deal how you want. And feel exactly how you want. Everyone is different and express their emotions a different way. But please talk to someone. Dont let it stay inside. Find friends or people who will know exactly what you are going through.
I had a tubal pregnancy one of the hardest things I have ever been threw… it has been 9yrs I am still trying to heal… I keep myself busy it’s not easy I say go on about ur day and life… never forget but pick up and move forward morn the loss and cry ur eyes out and look at ur child and focus on him…
I had this happen to me with my 2nd child… Dr said no heartbeat and possible tubal pregnancy. Miscarriage on my own or have the baby taken out via procedure. I decided to wait, scheduled another appt with the same Dr few wks later and BAM! Heartbeat appeared! My baby is now 20 years old!
Sorry for your loss but everything that your feeling is normal. back in 2016 I went threw same thing. Baby stopped growing at 11 week and had a dc at 13. I waited to have done just to make sure it wasn’t a mistake ect.but my dr gave me choice of dnc or to let things happen naturally. And really just wanted to get back to a normal as much as possible so I chose to have done. But you do what you think is best for you.
I still haven’t grieved. Id have triplet 12 y.o.s i lost one in march 0f 07, april 07 and had to terminate the last baby as it was killing me and I already had 3 l.o’s to take care of on my own. Do what you feel you need to and don’t ever let someone tell u differently
Same thing happned to me , had a D&C scheduled and then miscarried normally. You’ll get through this and look forward to trying again. Take prenatals and get lots of rest.
Take a breath. Greif is good, don’t bottle it, don’t cork it and don’t close each other out. Talk. Alot. Cry. Together. Share if you can with family. Mourn.
Its normal I also miscarried your harmones re out of wack
So very sorry for your loss. Hopefully you and your husband can help each other through this. May God bless you both with another child. My prayers are with you.
I’m sorry for your loss. I had 2 early miscarriages. Now I have 4 beautiful children. I’m praying for you hun
It’s well in Jesus name
Soo sorry hon…
Faith Parker you need to go to the doctor. ASAP
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No advice. Hugs momma.
Very sorry for your lost and praying for complete healing
God willing all will be ok
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Prayers for you both! Just let God lead you.
Soooo Heartbreaking 
I’m so sorry for ur loss
Sending healing thoughts and prayers.
My heart is breaking for
Praying for you and your family. Sending love hugs and lots of prayers . Do what you need to do to heal!
Wishing you the best also. Praying for you💕
Prayers for you. I feel sad for you
Pray to GOD. Pour out your heart to HIM. HE is able
I had this happen too💔 bless you and your families hearts
I pray you Heal my friend.
I’m so sorry for your loss! Prayers for your family!!
Hugs❤ I’m so sorry for your loss🙏
God bless you and I’ll pray for you and your family. I am very sorry for your lost.
Poor you having a bad time
You will be in my prayers!!! Love and hugs coming to you!!
I’m so sorry for you
Prayers for comfort. So sorry
Sorry for your loss prayers.
You have my deepest condolences.
I’ve felt that pain. Sending prayers 
God Bless You with strength during your healing process…So sorry! Sending love, hugs and prayers from my heart…
So very sorry! Follow your heart!
So sorry to hear that . Whatever you feel, Im guessing is natural. I am so sad for you:two_hearts:Wishing you health, and Happiness in the future. God Bless you and your family…
Praying for you and your family🙏
Bless your heart. Prayers for healing coming your way.
Praying for God’s Comfort and Strength! I am sorry!
Praying for strength and courage🙏
Omg sweety I am so sorry about your baby. Thoughts & prayers to you & your family 
It’s in God’s hands keep your faith and pray, will pray with you, God Bless you and your husband
SO SORRY DEAR MOM!!! Praying for comfort!!
I’m so sorry…prayers…
Omg I am so sorry
for Strength and fortitude. May God be with you and provide His Undying Love
Awww momma sending you love and hugs and my deepest condolences
Wow ,I am so so very sorry ,I know the feeling, May God bless you and your family
Call A&E straightaway and they will guide you through what you can do . Please don’t delay … prayers are with you and your baby
Sending my thoughts and prayers
I’m so very sorry…
Sending love and strength.
Hugs! So sorry you have to go through this
I’m so sorry for ur loss sending prayers for u ND ur family
So very sorry. Prayers and deepest condolences to you and your family
I’m sorry. Follow your gut. Stay strong
Sorry for your loss:pray:
all you can do is go again
I had 6 miscarriages farthest along 4 month,
You will feel hurt , anger, grief, you will blame your self !
But nature took over , you will be ok !
Trust in the lord for strength, guidance!
It’s up to you if you want to tell your family or grieve in private with your husband…
God bless you !!!
I’m so sorry for your loss.
My dear you need to grieve and share how you feel. You need to be comforted and you need to know it is not your fault that this wee one is not growing and does not have a heartbeat… There is always that possibility that the way baby was laying affected the ability to hear a heartbeat too. I also was nearly 5 months pregnant and was devastated when the heartbeat was not there and baby stopped growing at 4 1/2 months. I was told I would most likely have to carry the baby until it was time to give birth however my body kicked in and I ended up having surgery and a d&c a couple weeks later. I wish you the best and your mom will be able to comfort you so allow her to do that by telling her. Your hubby can grieve too and tell his mom and dad or who ever he feels close too. It’s a big deal for him too. Blessings.
So sorry for your loss. You have the right to feel what ever you feel, but don’t force yourself to do it alone because you are afraid of it being sad to others. To the people in your life they are there for the hard stuff they love you. Give them a chance
Nothing is weird. You just have to feel how you feel and try and honor how your husband is feeling. Sounds like he really wanted this baby and he also is hurting for you. You both should find a child loss support group. Even online it can help to have support from others who know the same pain. Especially if you don’t want to share with family. I can say as a mom I would be so sad if my daughter went through that alone. Yes-my heart would ache, but I would so want to support her. Praying for you and your husband as someone who truly knows how you feel ( as an angel baby mom times 2).
I had the same thing happen at 10 weeks. It’s an internal struggle but talking about it helps you heal. The waiting for the day of the D&C is the hardest part in the beginning because that means it’s really real. But your body is still holding onto this precious life that was cut short. I know that people will say that everything happens for a reason and at these times it’s very hard to understand why this would happen. Turns out our rainbow baby had a small heart defect and we were told that it was genetic so the reason we lost our first baby was more than likely because of a heart defect that was just too severe. It gave me comfort to know that our child did not suffer as hard as it was.
I am so sorry. I went through the same thing. Except I was supposed to be 12 weeks but baby didn’t have a heart beat and had stopped growing at 10 weeks. I am here if you need to talk to someone. I’m praying for you. So sorry for your loss. I hope you have someone close to you that you can talk to.
I had his happen at 13 weeks. I stated contracting and my water broke and I started bleeding so much that I went to the hospital and they did a dnc. I understand how you feel. It took me a while to get through it. You never get over it. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Sending you great big tight hugs during this difficult time.
I had the same at 13 weeks. It’s just awful and people say awful things. You are allowed to be sad and angry. I’m so terribly sorry. Each day will get better until you are pregnant again, and you will be x