Oh…my god. What does dad think about all this? Sometimes we dont see the signs. You did exactly what you needed when see told you. Get help for yourself and support your daughter. I’m so sorry
Get emergency order of protection and custody so she legally doesn’t have to go over there and you won’t be in trouble for not letting her. Call the police. File for full custody
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U did right. Just don’t let her around them and file charges.
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You did not fail as a mom. You’re protecting her now. CPS should put a safety plan in place. Do not send her back there and the safety plan will protect you legally on it. Sometimes when people molest others they do it because someone did it to them. The others need help as well.
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Press n keep pressing full charges!! Who knows who else they’re attacking! Or will in their lifetime. They need to know how f.ing wrong they are. Yes this is grounds for full no contact custody until those perverts are out of that home!
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Dont beat yourself up please. It was not your household and I think that’s the hardest part of custody is you have no idea what’s going on at the other parents house. You did amazing by moving quickly and getting her out as soon as she told you.
Oh my goodness that is terrible. You didn’t fail as a mom…you didn’t know! Thank god she told you. What you can do is be right there for her and be ready talk and hold her and be her safe place. Keep those pieces of crap away from her of course and do what you need to do to make sure they are punished accordingly. I’m sorry you both are going through this.
Not your failure. Possibly not even dad’s. You both need counseling. Be there for her. Remind her and spend days not talking about it. Have fun do lunch and check in with what else is going on in her life. Ask about school and friends it is important to talk about what has happened but also important to remember all the other stuff in life too.
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Please Do not take anyone’s side but hers, don’t doubt her or ask if she’s lying. Be there for her, it will take time to come to terms with what happened and take time to heal, get all the support you can for her and yourself. I am sorry this has happened to your family x
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Been in your shoes. For us it’s been 10 ish years and it’s ever present. I had to deal. A lot.
Thinking of you and your girl 
available if need chat.
Also you did exactly the right thing. You believed her and started moving like a mama.
U didn’t fail. Just keep her away from him and make it known why.
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What matters is this moment forth! You seem have taken all the necessary steps, seek counseling and get an attorney!!
I have no advice but you will both be in my prayers for healing and understanding 
You have done exactly the right things. Understand that you couldn’t have protected her from what you didn’t know was happening. You did everything exactly right. You did everything exactly right.You did everything exactly right. You did everything exactly right.
I wish I could say that a million times. You ARE protecting her NOW and that’s exactly what you do as a mom. She’s in counseling. You told the police. That’s exactly what you do! I’m so proud of you for doing the hard stuff! But mama, this is NOT YOUR FAULT. Talk the a counselor yourself, secondary trauma IS REAL. be there for her. You’re doing everything exactly right.
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Mama, you are doing it right. Go with your gut. You are a good mama. She came to you. Keep checking in with her. She may have struggles. Get yourself some help. Get though this together.
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Well my opinion they don’t deserve to live. But if it’s true push for everything you can push for get the full max sentence out of it. Make all involved pay for there crimes against this little girl.
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Do not put into your head that you could have done anything differently. You took action when you became informed and not only is that the best step you could have taken, but it is a step that some parents don’t take. I’m sure if you could have prevented in entirely, you would have. Try to get into counseling for yourself as well. And talk with dad if possible/appropriate. Prayers, momma.
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You didn’t fail as a mother. You’re doing something about it now that you know. You’re protecting her now. Please don’t feel like you have failed.
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You have done the right thing momma!! Fight the fight for her if you have to. Keep her far far away. She may get a little angry…have severe mood swings. Just hold her and tell her you love her. Be there for her.
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Cant really imagine what you’re going through but be strong for your baby and I’m glad you went to straight to the authorities - keep having her back she’s going to need it
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You did not fail because you did not know.
Remain strong, seek counseling for yourself and support and guidance.
Continue to be her shoulder and confidant.
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Ask other family members if this has happened to anyone else, quite often a pattern unfortunately, so sorry to hear this…seek as much professional advice as possible! Prayers for you and yours!
Stay calm, she needs you. I know this is hard to do, but she will gain strength by seeing you composed. Make sure she understands this is in no way her fault. Do not dismiss this at all. Get yourself into therapy and also consider family therapy. Whatever you do, stay in law enforcement and do not let them try to minimize this.
Her father may get angry so shield her. You are her protector.
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My mom went thru something exactly like this as a kid and this is what she said “The best thing you can do is support your daughter and believe her I told my mom what was happening with me and she didn’t believe me she didn’t help me… It isn’t your fault. Be her best friend and ally. Let her know it wasn’t her fault and you need to know it wasn’t your fault. The most important thing is validate her choices don’t tell her what to do ask her what she wants to do stand with her not against her”
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Contact the BACA and they will protect her if they have to go to trial. Much love to her❤️
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You definitely did not fail her. You can only fix what you know when something is wrong. You took immediate actions once you found out. Just be there for her, and insure her that she did nothing wrong, and these two poor excuses will never be able to hurt her again. It will take time for her to heal. You do the right thing and I’m sure she is thankful you did.
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Cant help u sorry… You havent failed as a mother or your daugther wouldnt have approached you it will be real hard for her to confide in you but she has… She has your support now get yourself some support. Keep your head up! Xx
I suggest counseling for both of you, follow it through the court system and be very supportive of your daughter. Get off all the emotional support you can, and then fry those MF that actually molested her
You believed her and acted on it. The best thing you could have done.
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Your doing the right thing by all the steps you have taken so far. What a hard thing to hear and deal with. You can get through this together. Lots of love
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Just tell that mama that her daughter is gonna be ok. Life just has this way of working out. 
Please don’t see any of it being in any way your fault !
Not at all it’s concerninly easy to cover up from loved ones seeing/knowing
Just hold that girl and stick by her a million percent!
This story is touching to me
Stand tall mumma for you and your said child
You got this
My daughter was raped at 12 yrs old she is now 18 if you need to chat I am here
She came to you. She trusted you. You’re taking all of the proper steps. You’re a great mom, I wish I could have gone to mine when I was violated. Don’t question yourself one more minute. Become, rather, continue to be her advocate, continue to respect her and hold your head up. It will be a bumpy ride, but your little girl has the best kind of mom on her side.
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Stay strong and calm mama she needs you more than ever right now . You did right and reported this right away I can’t imagine what shes been through. Be her light mama 
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Being a victim of childhood molestation I need to tell you
YOU DIDN’T FAIL HER! My mother went to her grave never knowing I was ever molestered, she was the one that gave me to the pedo over and over again (he was our babysitter) and when I started acting out she just thought I was being a naughty little shit…I never trusted my mum enough to tell her…you should be happy that your daughter knew she could confide in you, happy that she trusted you and you took all the right steps to help and support her. I salute you mama 
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You listen. You believe. You love. You protect. You hurt for her. You learn to forgive yourself for not knowing.
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Dont put yourself down, You didnt know. Its a good thing that she finally said something, I just wish she would have come sooner to say it. That way it would have stopped way before 8 yrs. This is a sad situation. Ive lived it, and also had my now 19 yr old go through it when she was 11. We did the counseling thing, I stood by her side, thats all you can do, just be there for her. Atleast you were a mama who actually listened, there are plenty out there who will deny or not believe it. Keep her away from dad, get courts involved if you have a custody case and let them know you do not want your child in that house with him. Continue the counceling for her so that some day she will let it somehow, some point try to put it behind her so it doesnt define her. Its hard to forget something like that, but when I say put it behind her, I mean so she can be stronger and as she grows she wont dwell in the past to make her future negative. Just be there for her. Help her get through this. This is not her fault nor hers. Im so sorry you are going through this. I know its hard from a moms perspective, hit me up if you need to chat. Im here, I have more to say, but dont talk about things so much on fb
You did not fail. I have been that child.
Be supportive of her, she is going to be hard on herself. So do not blame yourself. I suggest counseling for you as well. There are specialists who deal with these situations specifically. I would seek out one of them.
Stay strong Mama, this is going to be rough ride. You are doing the right thing.
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You didn’t fail, your taking the proper steps, just be there for her now, telling you, filling charges, everything’s going to become very real for her and it’s going to be very tough. She’s been keeping this a secret for 8yrs and now it’s in the open, it’s going to be very bumpy ride for awhile and a lot of emotions she’s going to have to deal with. Just be her strength.
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From a now grown adult who was abused as a child I can tell you to fight for her, advocate, love her, believe her. Don’t worry about what you missed worry about what you can do to get her help now. Therapy, love, compassion, understanding is what she needs right now. She needs her mom to be a God damn warrior. By going to law enforcement you are doing the right thing, by having her in therapy you are doing the right thing, by posting this status you are doing the right thing for yourself. If you have questions on what the process may look like I’m willing to help. I put my abuser away almost ten years ago.
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I am the victim of molesting, you did nothing wrong I never blamed my parents. Let her guide on what she needs. Coming forward was huge, she is so brave. Look into support groups it helps to know you are not alone. Don’t give her pity eyes, be 100% honest with your feelings with everything
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You didn’t fail her. You took action when you found out. No one ever expects their child to be molested and assaulted. You’re a great mom and keep doing what you’re doing.
You didn’t not fail her. They probably used scare tactics to keep her quiet for so long and she may not have realized what was happening or could have been in denial herself for along time or she was worried how you’d take it. It’s not your fault and you taking care of it now and that’s what matters.
You have done the right thing by reporting it and getting her the help she needs. You also need to get some help for yourself. If you haven’t already, you need to get yourself into a counsellor as well. You have not failed. Your daughter trusted you so much that she came to you about this. You are obviously a good mum. Please don’t doubt yourself.
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I was sexually abused as a child by my moms boyfriends son and by a cousin of mine for years. I finally spoke up after going into foster care at age 10 but there was no “proof” they just got my statements and never done anything about anything even though they were both adults by that time.
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Glad you beloved her . Reassure her the it’s nothing she did. There scum.
Honestly i bet those boys where abused. Don’t be surprised if her dad or step moms name pops up too.
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Thank God that when she confidedin you , you believed her and mafe a decision to protect her from further harm . She may be mad but she will get over that. Not entirely. Know what happened will effect her the rest of her life. What kind of help she gets will perhaps soften her anger and get her to a fairly normal and healthy place. Remind her that you love her and are putting her first. If and when she wants to confront either of them she will need you on her side. Do not ever defend their disgusting behavior.just keep loving her.
My heart hurts for you and your daughter🙏Please don’t be so hard on yourself,you did the right things by listening to her,believing her & immediately taking action to help her.Big hugs and lots of prayers to you & your daughter.Nobody should ever go through such horrible situations
From someone who was molested and raped as a child from the ages of 10-12 years old, it is NOT your fault. My step dad was the offender and I was 16 years old before I told anyone. My family would not have known then if they wouldn’t have found the conversation on my computer between me and a friend. No one had any idea bc I hid it. I have a step brother from this man and my mother and I did not want my baby brother to know what a monster his dad was. This man still doesn’t know that my parents know about it. I asked for it to be kept secret. I wanted my little brother to have a dad. Of course now that I’m an adult (33 years old), I realize I should have let authorities handle it. Anyway, point is, not your fault. Dont let ANYONE shame you into believing it was. There are a million different reasons, I’m sure, that she never told you. When my dad told my mom what happened (all while she was out drinking and doing drugs) she called me a liar and I’m pretty sure still wont believe me. Be there for her, take her side and show her that you are in her corner and willing to fight for her. Prayers for you and her mama.
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From a Victim of a similar crime , Just Love your Girl , Love her stronger and fiercer than ever before ,
Sending you lots of Love , this would be breaking you , be as kind as you can to yourself , this is not your fault
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I personally never went through this but I promise it was NOT you failing. Support her through this it’s gonna be rough. A friend of mine finally settled her case against a man who molested her. She has used it as motivation to help other people like her get through it! It takes a lot of strength to come forward. She trusts you! You are doing absolutely amazing and taking all the right steps. Keep your head up mama. Praying for you💙
Just continue to be there for her without judgement. Reassuring her she can always come to you no matter what so something like this never happens again. Remind her none of this was her fault and she should never let it define her. Continue to make sure she sees a therapist and keep her safe and away from those evil perverts who need counseling and punishment for what they have done. You did good by believing her and sticking by her side. Always reassure her how wonderful and beautiful and smart she is. Best of luck to you.
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Get to an authority asap and ask them to guide you and her to counseling, also name every person that she knows had molested her. And reassure her that she will be safe from them even after calling them out. She must call them out or they will find another victim.
Prayers for you and your daughter❤️
You didn’t not fail her! My heart breaks for you and your daughter
You have no failed her. She should have felt safe enough to come to u. I’m so sorry she didn’t sooner. Plz get her help asap.
Stop taking her over!
U didnt fail her. Ive been in position and never said anything bc of fear. She trust u and knew that it was time to tell u. Shes just gonna need lots of love and for u to teach her that was not ok and that its ok to talk about it. Just keep ur head up
I have no advice but I’m sorry for all the pain y’all have had to endure … now and future!
Hugs!
It’s hard to tell someone when this happens to you. I went thru it. And I HATED people swarming me about it. My thing is, if she’s feeling down about it she will tell you. Just don’t talk about it if she doesn’t want to. And don’t force her to talk about it. And get her out of that environment NOW!
My heart breaks for you and your princess. One of my biggest fears as a parent is something of this nature happening to my daughter. I don’t have any advice because I have no idea what I would possibly do in this situation however, please don’t think of yourself as a bad mom or failing her. You didn’t know what you didn’t know but, believing your daughter immediately and not turning a blind eye once she confided in you was paramount. I pray for strength and healing for the both of you.
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The fact she was comfortable enough to tell you speaks volumes. Continue to support her and you guys will navigate this horrible situation together. Good luck, mama.
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As a survivor of something similar as a child I can tell you, you didn’t and you aren’t failing her! You’re fighting for her, standing beside her, loving her, believing her, advocating for her, and so much more! She is a warrior and so are you! Keep doing what you are doing the only thing you need to stop is guilting yourself. As a mom I can understand your feelings. Because I went through it my biggest fear is it happening to my child. I’d hope I could recognize a change or something but people/kids are good at hiding things. I’ve never told my parents. Your girl knew she could come to you and trust you…that’s far from failing. Keep on going
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See a counselor yourself to get professional guidance on helping her. I think that’s the most supportive thing you could do besides listening to her every time she needs to vent, cry, talk about it, etc. if she knows she can talk through it with you every time she thinks about it, she will get past this. The worst part about sexual abuse is being stuck in your own head and no one wants to listen while you work through the emotions late at night, on a bad day, etc
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Oh honey. I can’t imagine the pain this has brought. Stay strong.
You have done absolutely everything right, even if you think you are winging it. You’ve made sure she’s safe and heard. You’ve reported it and put her in counselling, I don’t think there’s anything else you could be doing. This didn’t happen under your roof so how could you feel like you’ve failed her (I understand you still will feel like that, as a parent) It’s possibly not even her dads fault and he’s probably feeling just as bad. The people who are at fault are her half brother & stepbrother, thing about abusers is they have control over there victims, so just because she’s taken so long to confide in you doesn’t mean she hasn’t wanted to, she could have been threatened or warned not to. Who knows what lies they spat at her to keep her from telling the truth. She has confided in you which means you have not failed her, she has felt comfortable and safe enough to do that, you go mumma! You should be proud of yourself and of course you are proud of your daughter who is being so brave and so are you may I add! There is no right or wrong to react in this kind of situation but as mum our instinct is to protect our children and make sure they feel safe which is what you have done instantly! My mum still feels guilty about what happened to me, my abuser is someone who controlled and manipulated me and I became so withdrawn and naughty at school but I would be no different to how I usually am at home because I felt safe at home, so my mum wouldn’t have been able to tell anything was wrong unless I told her, which I did eventually but made it clear it wasn’t her fault. Make sure you do loads of mum and daughter things and let her hang out with her friends, have sleepovers etc engage in her schoolwork with her just for a bit of normality. She will talk to you about how she’s feeling in her own time x
Keep being there. You’re doing great, mama!
Contact B.A.C.A: Bikers Against Child Abuse. They have resources and will escort your child anywhere they feel unsafe, even to court hearings.
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You didn’t fail her in fact you may have gotten her siblings help too. Maybe they have been molested too.
U didn’t fail her but if you’re having trouble coming to terms with this as its traumatic to you too maybe seek help for you as well
Plus that way they can probably better help you help her
There is nothing you can do now it’s to late but support her as much as you can 
Keep up the support. You’re already doing something right if she was able to come to you. I think therapy is the biggest hurdle. Keep doing it, even if she seems fine. I personally think everyone should regularly have some form of therapy. Trust and intimacy will be hard for her in the future.
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She learned she can trust you with anything and YOU WILL PROTECT her to the best of your ability.
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That’s a hard bite to swallow the fact that it’s been going on for eight years that would have only made her five that’s just sicki
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I was assaulted when I was 8 I’m 21 now. I lived with my abuser until I was 13 “he died”. I didn’t say anything until I was 18. I think the best thing Is assure her you love her. Get fighting lesson or something the worse thing ever is the feeling of not being able to protect yourself. And confronting your absurer. I wish I could’ve and now that is dead I’ll never have the chance. It deeply brothers. Obliviously don’t force her too. But ask her if confronting them with those who support her will make her feel better and more impowerwd. After being abused you just feel so helpless.
Oh I’m so sorry. Just reassure her that it wasn’t her fault and you love her no matter what and that you’re so sorry. Be patient with her recovery.
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Feel so sorry for the both of you will keep you both in my prayers God will punish those devil’s for what they did to this baby keep you head up you have done the. Right thing we love you both it was not her fault or yours it’s those two hetherens fault,
It’s a huge deal that she was comfortable enough to tell you, keep doing what you’re doing! Just know, it’s life long. It could come up years from now and affect her worse, just keep being there for her
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Just be there and love her!
Dude you’re awesome for just being supportive. When i was molested and i told my mom, she denied it and said i made it up. She still to this day (12 years later) is still with the man that did it. So just being there is more than many young girls will ever get. Good job momma.
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You’re doing everything you can, as a child who went through this, it’s because we feel shame or block it out completely and that’s why we didnt tell you. It happened to me, and I didnt realize until years later what happened because I had blocked it out. It is not your fault, even if signs were or were not there. You are doing your part by being supportive and giving her counseling. The best way is to not treat her as a victim and tell her you love her every day and give her motivation to get through it. You did not fail. Maybe getting counseling for yourself would help. You’re doing amazing mama.
As a parent that’s been through it and a person that has survived a lot trust me that ITS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! what your feeling is coming among parents. You need therapy also. Talk to your doctor if depression or anxiety is out of hand. That’s ok but she need you to be strong. For my daughter I went through all the legal and obvious treatment and tried to be who I needed at the time. No feelings are wrong just support support support acknowledge feelings and try to keep those lines of communication open. 
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This happened to my girls. I blamed myself for not knowing. But, with lots of counseling and support, we overcame. My girls are happy and healthy now. It’s a long road, but you and your daughter can get through it together.
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Report it. You didnt fail her you didnt know
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Just do everything you can and be there for her and always believe her, coming from a girl who’s mom told her she deserved what she got and she’s a liar,
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And the signs are always there if your child isn’t safe or being abused,its really hard to speak out in situations like this,especially her age😭 m glad she had the guts to finally tell you and you being a mom took a step immediately…may this process help her heal
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And please make sure this matter is reported to the police
Big hugs momma and your sweet girl , just support her . Protect her and always be her biggest warrior . You didn’t fail her . Breath . The important thing is that you listened when she told you . That’s the biggest thing . Reassure her she is safe and that she’s loved and you both might do counseling , you could benefit from the resource of talking to someone to reassure you too .
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Just went through this with my 14 yr old… feel free to pm me if you want
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You didn’t fail. Stop thinking like that or you’ll end up making it about you. She’s 13 years old do what she wants about it. If she wants to press charges or not should be up to her. As a survivor myself, if I were you, I would just move with my daughter away from that family completely period, I say that cause I ended up being isolated from the family inadvertently.
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Don’t blame yourself, especially if you had no clue until your daughter confided in you. It sounds like you did what you MUST when you found out. Concentrate on your daughter’s wellbeing and your own. The picture would have been clearer had you told us what happened to the offenders!
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I think it is completely natural as a protective mother to have feelings of guilt that are not yours to bear after something so horrendous has happened to your baby. Mama, you acted when you could, you believed your child instantly and acted appropriately to safeguard her. Please do not berate yourself for not being psychic. It’s important you too can access some counselling. Sending you and your baby so much love, strength and healing. I’m sorry this happened to you both xxxx
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Be there for her but you need to get justice for her as well
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Watch over her spend time with her she her you care and love her
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I have been in your shoes my daughter opened up about what is now my ex husband, one you are going to have to do counseling for yourself otherwise the guilt will eat you up and take it one day at a time with her and yourself. It has been almost 3 years since my daughter told and we still have rough days but we are getting through it so will you
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You did exactly what you needed to do. It’s not your fault, let the authorities investigate and deal with the situation all you can do is love and be there for your daughter from here on out. I pray she gets the help and tools she needs to get thru this ordeal. Prayers be with you and her
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You could not protect her from what you did not know was harming her. Be her rock, keep her safe now and get some counseling for yourself on hope to deal with and cope with what has happened and what will be a continual struggle for both of you. Seek punishing her perpetrators to the fullest extent of the law. Be strong and always make sure she knows, SHE IS A SURVIVOR & NOT A VICTIM ANYMORE
To all the judge mental bitches who want to be blameing this mother she didn’t fail her daughter the father be did and allowed it to happen. The mother did get her daughter the help and care and for her daughter. Her daughter felt safe to open up and hope she will beleave and not call a lair