I’d never say a kid was lying about something like that without it being thoroughly investigated. I was molested as a kid and no one believed me. So next time I didn’t say anything. And when I got raped as a teen I didnt say anything and when I got sexually abused as an adult, i didn’t say anything. Believe the kid unless it’s proven he is lying.
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Someone is doing something to him…
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If he didnt do it, they will figure it out.
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Set up camera aimed at the door, see who enters the room where the child plays and stays. Don’t quite understand your story but something is happening somewhere, young kids usually don’t tell something like this unless its happening.
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Lawyer is not necessary unless he is being charged. Also the child statement of what happened and when should clear your husband just fine. They will interrogate the kids without you or any adult being present because it will look like you’re persuading his answer.
As someone who was once a child that no one believed, please don’t brush that child off and act as tho nothing is wrong or that he’s lying. Kids don’t just make that stuff up. He’s either been molested or he’s seen things he shouldn’t have. Just because he’s your husband and you love him, doesn’t mean there couldn’t possibly be a side of him that you don’t know about. This is a serious accusation and it needs to be taken seriously on all ends from every person involved. And please don’t try to coerce that child into taking back his accusations, let the authority do their job. How awful would it be to have that child say it wasn’t true and years later come to find out it was in fact true and he was molesting other kids too, maybe even his own. Horrible.
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When your husband’s clear I wouldn’t ever watch your nephew again period
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I had volunteered as a Court Appointed Special Advocate on the more serious child abuse cases. That meant I was the eyes and the ears for the judge. These two little girls were living with “grandparents “ per the request of the parents. Dad was in jail mom was on drugs. Now aunt said she wanted the girls. One day the oldest said “pappy” touched her. Broke his heart. Children were removed. Found out after the investigation that she was coach by mom and aunt and when they asked who touched her she got confused and said the uncle. Unfortunately they could not go back to live but the did get to see them. It was sad. I’ve seen coaching and things said just because. The little girl didn’t realize the ramifications of accusing the 15 year old bio-son who was afraid to even go to the bathroom at night without being fully dressed. This little girl was sexualized early on. And once she said that and they had to leave she said she lied but it was too late. Those kids had a horrible life. But you still have to err on the side of caution.
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Always believe the child first; and remember that sometimes children (when something bad is happening) will say it is one person when in reality it is another.
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I’m thinking what little kid makes something like this up?.how does someone that young even think to say these things? I hope for your sake your husband didn’t i
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So I live in NH. My daughter’s father was accused of touching his sister who was like 17 at the time. I prevented my daughter’s father from having contact with my daughter by himself cause I was not 100% sure if he was capable of such a thing. The state how ever did send someone out to my home to question my daughter. I was able to be in the room while the lady was asking her questions. You as the child’s mother have every right to be present and if they don’t allow you to be than you shouldn’t be allowing them to talk to your child with out some kind of lawyer or child advocate there. These cops/interviewers are trained to get confessions out of people an they often lead people into giving the answers they are looking for. A kid isn’t going to know they are being set up so I personally would never allow my child to be interviewed alone.
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someones doing it and i would figure out who is… believe the child first because u never know who is…
My cousin was inappropriately touched by the LAST person anyone would expect… one of our quiet soft spoken ELDERS & bible school teacher at church… my friend was inappropriately touched by her best friends quiet soft spoken father when she slept over and everyone else was asleep…
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I went through something similar I had a family member falsely accused by my own kids… there was no evidence bc it didnt happen and it got thrown out of court but everyone had to be interviewed it was a pain… the only difference for me was my exs wife put my kids up to it
Oh this is dangerous and upsetting i know. Pray pray pray i can’t say it enough. The child’s age plays a factor in these cases. The child could be miscommunicating. Where the touching took place. Hell it could’ve happened at his own house. Now u and ur family are in jeopardy. Now these DSS people will believe the child. I knew a child who cried his own brother kept touching him. He told one person. N i kept asking him. I said tell the truth or u will be the one in handcuffs. Its not good to lie. He finally confessed and said. He only lied because his brother wouldn’t let him play with his toys. Unfortunately some kids make allegations to prove a point. Or because their angry at the person.
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This poor child needs all the support he can get, as his caring adults you should be there and protect him. Not tell him you don’t believe him,its not easy telling people a situation like this. Its honestly disgusting that no one believe this boy. The people he is surppse to feel safe around .and you putting excuses into the mouth of the man that has suppose to of done this. I wouldn’t feel no way for my child to be spoken to by the police either.
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Why would a 6-yr old lie about being sexually abused? It is because they wouldn’t. It happened by someone you and his mom need to believe and listen to him. If he was coached into saying this and it comes out as untrue that will be known in the investigation too.
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Maybe he has the person wrong. Children dont usually lie about this kind of stuff, and I’m not saying it’s your husband, but someone is and WHOEVER it is maybe telling him it’s your husband.
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Someone has done this to your nephew a child this age can’t make this stuff up its been proven he’s quite preciffic in what’s he has said someone has done this my child has been through something like this I thought at first she was lying cos she lies about me but cps and social worker put me straight about it you all should be looking at who could off done even people who you wouldn’t dream off they are all suspects
I’ve seen this all the time on Steve Wilkos. The child may be blaming your husband to protect the real identity of the person who is doing it to him. But there’s no doubt there is something happening to him.
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I’m so sorry that this is happening to you.He could of heard it ,do you have TV?
I told my grandmother when I was young that my uncles friend used to touch me when my uncle would babysit me she told my dad this was my stepmothers brothers friend my grandmother made the mistake of saying it was the brother no one ever asked me till 20 years later when my dad said to me ya you used to like to lie about alot of stuff . Oh I tore into him and the truth came out karmas a bitch the guy died in a house fire.
PLEASE read this article in its entirety. I remember this tragedy and how it harmed the accused and the children. Get an attorney and protect your children first and foremost and your husband. McMartin preschool trial - Wikipedia
always listen to children!!!
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Always believe the child! Keep your children away from him. I feel bad for that boy if his own mother doesn’t believe him!
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Hey kids lie 
I have a few cousins who have gone to school and said they were beaten 
cause they were pissed at their parents about something just to get them in trouble knowing it would get them in big trouble when the school got involved
The boy being so young may have mixed up the person up or been told to say that by the real person doing it
I hope everything works out
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For all you saying to believe the child, how would a 6 year old come up with this. It happens… they are taught about bad touches at home and at school starting from kindergarten. I’ve seen this happen before… 1. Dr’s will be able to asst if the child is making it up and has a mental disorders ( which I have seen been the case before as young as 5 years old). 2. And as long as what you wrote above is true then you have nothing to worry about and wait it out till the truth is reveled… could be someone else and he is just putting the blame on your husband. Most victims at the age don’t come forward like that. Someone else usually in the family notices before they step up and say something… and I was a victim from 4-6.
First, ask for forensic interviews. They will have the investigators in one room with a therapist and child in another. They’ll record it and watch it live. The child will have to explain everything.
Second, follow the safety plan to a t. Do NOT break it. You can do parenting classes and be cleared in 6 months.
Third, provide all proof you have showing he isn’t around and why you think the child lied.
Fourth, the case will stay open for a statue of limitations and if they find out you were there you may be looked at for child abuse in the 2nd degree for not stopping it. You need a solid story as well.
Any questions message me.
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Let it play out mama the truth will come out. The kid isn’t making this up. It’s possible it’s someone else doing it.
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You are asking for someone’s advice that has gone through this. As a wife to an accused husband, right? That’s not me, sorry.
However, you’re probably looking for conformation that this does happen…people being falsely accused by a child. And you probably won’t stop defending your husband…you seem to want to explain reasons why it COULDN’T have happened. Of course you want to believe him! Of course his own mother believes him! That’s human nature. You both love this man and the thought of this being true would be devastating to all of you.
I don’t know if this man is guilty or innocent. This must be dealt with by the authorities on every level. And you must allow that to happen. I understand why you wouldn’t want your children interrogated. But this type of questioning must happen to get to the bottom of this.
Your nephew has either been molested by your husband OR by someone else, and he’s confused perhaps. The only other explanation is that this has been repetitively suggested to him so that he believes it is true (this can happen…SUGGESTIVE MEMORY)
The ONLY way to get to the truth is for your husband, yourself, and all children involved to go forward with this investigation. And for all concerned, especially your nephew, I hope this doesn’t get carried on longer than it has to.
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get a lawyer ur children and u thats what i did
It may not be your husband but someone else.
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Although my situation is not the same, about two years ago my daughter had a friend and she would stay at her house and she would stay at mine and vice versa. Well her and sarena got into a argument and this girl went to school and told the principal that sarena made her watch porn with her and tried to make her act it out. So after police involvement cys involvement and sarena not being allowed to go to school until this was solved, it turned out to be false and it was because she told the girl she didn’t want to be her friend anymore. Kids can make up things like this and sometimes they do. It doesn’t always mean thier lying about thier abuse but it needs to be checked and made sure that it isn’t for his safety as well as your children’s safety.
The terrible thing about this is, once someone is accused, and even if they’re found innocent, this will follow through life! I believe that someone is responsible for this, and it actually may not be your husband after all!
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How old is this child? Maybe someone is touching your nephew, I don’t believe kids make these sort of things up…
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I know someone who went through a similar experience…he was accused…the little girl was afraid and said the first safe name…it turned out it was someone else…but sadly the girl had been molested…
Please listen to the child and find out through a therapist who really hurt this poor child
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Sad that this world is so crazy when a kid says something like this we have to listen. But disturbing a whole family with nothing but the kids word is inappropriate! Then also if nothing has happened You shouldn’t worry to much about ur child being questioned alone, it would take some kinda straight evil for law enforcement wanting to pin something like this with no cause. But then there is the reason you shouldn’t help anyone except your direct family! Sadly true! No place for helping others in this world except maybe giving money to needy
If what you’re saying is true, it’s happening, but it’s somebody else doing it. The kid is probably terrified to let anybody know the identity of the person actually doing it, and it takes a lot for a kid to let anybody know they’re being abused. Please don’t make this kid’s situation worse by prioritizing your own feelings about him accusing your husband over an abused child crying out for help or assuming it’s “attention related” or whatever. I guarantee something has been happening to this child. He will remember it when he’s older and if the adults in his life fail him because they’re being selfish, he’ll remember that too. Abuse is bad enough but adults typical reactions are devastating.
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She never stated how old the nephew was, she said her child was 4. Not the nephew, so you never know if his story was made up or not.
Listen to the kids esspecally young kids. Your husband may have done something to him who knows you cant always be there 24/7 you need to put your kids first thats the end of it at this point you need to not focus on your husband and really support the children involved in this situation
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Kids don’t usually make up stories like this because no child wants to be interrogated sexually over and over again about traumatic things
Your husband may not have touched him BUT SOMEONE DID
His memories maybe blurred and confusing him about who did it
It may be someone else doing it… and he’s too scared to say so he may have just thrown your husbands name out there. 
I don’t think kids make that stuff up, especially something so serious.
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I hope he’s in the clear. When he is just keep away from your sister and family. Yourself your husband and children.
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As a forensic psychology major I would say get A lawyer ASAP. Many people have the misconception that innocence itself is a defense and actually is not. Waiving your right to a lawyer will actually do more harm then good. Second a lawyer should be present when the child is being interviewed so there is no leading questions. Because of biases that children don’t lie the interrogator will unconsciously ask leading questions. There is also studies that have shown that children do lie despite what we want to believe.
Below is a text book you could reference. For any questions.
Costanzo, M., & Krauss, D. A. (2015). Forensic and legal psychology: psychological science applied to law. New York, NY: Worth Publishers.
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Cooperate. All you’ve described can be corroborated by your children, his work, and you. There has to be a reason your nephew is saying this, even if it’s not your husband that’s doing it. Cooperate with the investigation and try not to complicate it (you’ve got a lot at risk since he’s your husband, so I understand being emotional and wanting to do all you can to prove his innocence). His innocence will be proven during the investigation. But part of this process is also to find out what really happened and WHY. Regardless of the details, your nephew is reaching out for help in some capacity.
It’s hard because even the most loving laid back person could end up being the person who does this kind of thing. I was around 3 trusted family members who were no good. So just because everyone sees someone as “a good person” means nothing to me. But if it isn’t him, it Could be someone else who did it and it’s easier to blame your husband. Sad, but it’s true. This stuff is scary and confusing. Or someone has told him to say it was your husband, i’ve seen this happen too. Little kids don’t lie about this stuff.
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Please don’t take sides! Listen to that child! My nephew molested his little sister and my sister which is my nephews mom obviously was taking his side! I said kids just don’t make this stuff up and to not take any side until it’s resolved. Well my nephew was found guilty! I hope this is not the case but please listen to that little boy
Better safe than sorry tho so just follow protocol. The truth will come out.
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How old is the nephew?
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You are not allowed with the kids while they are interviewed.
I’m sorry your going through this, unfortunately because your nephew has accused him he will be seen as guilty until proven innocent as they will always take the word of a child when it comes to this and 99.9% of the time they are right to do so too many children getting abused, they only advice I can give is get a good lawyer and talk to the boys mum about other males possibley being inn appropriate with him? Could be a teenage friend or another family member
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First of all you don’t have to be sure or not if it’s said it should be taken seriously period! The child should be taken to the dr and your husband if innocent should support clearing his name the right way. However I agree with some other people that maybe if it’s not your husband it IS someone else
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Kids that young do not lie… i have had that experience in my family and every time the child was telling the truth.
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It could be someone else that is touching the child and not your husband. How old is the child?
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Why would he say your husband is touching him then?
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Is there a possibility the moms husband or bf has done something i personaly would sit down with the nephew and talk to him see if u can get a day or time if hes older yes possibly an attention thing. I habe no advice for.what to.do when they talk to your 4 yr old. 4 is a bit young to ask deep questions lile that because they dont know whats inaprporiate touching quite yet or atleast they dont fully understand it…my best friend went threw something lile this she n kids did have to leave but after thorough investigating the case was closed only difference is the girl wasnt leing just a conncerned step parent but she had to stay away for almost 2 weeks… dcf never spoke to her brother who is a yr younger and was 8 or 9. Nor the 3 yr old lil brother
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Do not play with cps or accusations like this, your husband needs a lawyer ASAP. The human mind is a complicated machine and someone probably has hurt your nephew in the bath or while he’s sleeping, and getting your husband’s name cleared will help everyone, and help them move on to find the real abuser.
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There’s alway’s two side of a story with the way the world is going,and hearing all storie’s of children being sexually abuse, and taken I’d say you need to wake up,realize these thing’s are happening,and when achild tell’s you this you need to Listen to her,him
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Maybe he is putting the blame on someone else because he is scared of the actual abuser? I definitely wouldn’t put it in the corner and worry about your husband. A 6 year old doesn’t or should not know about that, so someone is obviously doing it…
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how old is the nephew ?
Kids usually dont lie … theyll either tell or keep it in… im sorry but u might have to sit back and watch because its sad sometimes we dont know the person like we think prayers for the baby he has a tough road ahead regardless i hope its solved and hes able to get the help he needs to a healing process …
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Most child molesters are the ones we least expect!!! My heart is broken for this poor baby. To have this awful thing happen an nobody believe him! Especially his own mother(his protector).
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How old is your nephew?
why would a child lie about being sexualy abused it is not something they just make up out of the blue it is very serious and the child should be believed
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All you can do is just go with everything they say.
My mom didn’t wanna believe who hurt me did either. Close family isn’t supposed to do that.
Honestly. All you can do it support your nephew while this gets sorted. If it’s not true, it’ll be exposed. Same if it IS true.
I’m not saying your husband DID do it. Just saying that wolves wear sheep clothing reeeeeeeeally well.
I’m also one that ALWAYS believes a victim over the accused and protect said victim until it’s determined to be false.
Cuz there is NOTHING more hurtful then not being believed.
But until the charges are cleared, you can’t do nothing without the risk of you losing your kids sadly. As your husband is considering a possible threat. If you allow him near, they’ll take your kids to protect them.
So sadly, all you can do it ride it out and hope the truth comes out. Regardless of what the truth is.
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my daughter grandmother accused my Soon-to-be husband of the same thing on older daughter. My daughter told her grandma that he touched her and opened up a case. My Soon-to-be husband is her stepfather. I had to take my kids and myself out of the house for a diffrent reason then the claimes against my Soon-to-be husband. (messy house, no todler beds, roches). My Soon-to-be husband was found not guilty of the said claims and we were able to stay home after getting the toddler beds donated to us. we cleaned the apartment faster then our case worker thought we would. I’m glad that case is closed. As for the grandmother, she’s not allowed contact with my daughter until she apologized to my Soon-to-be husband. that was the first week of September, of this year, and still no apology. As soon as the case worker we got talked to my Soon-to-be husband, she’s knew that the claim was a lie. then again they had lots of problems with her grandmother too.
Just stay strong, and have faith. They’ll find out they claimed are a lie and thing will be ok. they had to check my daughter’s too. so I know the feeling, they also took my daughter from school (with my permission) to talk to person to her questions. I couldn’t be there either so I know how worried you are. I was scared to say the least, but I was able to text my case worker (odd but helpful) while they were questioning my daughter. after words, they came over to our place and told of of everything in the questioning room. so I felt better.
stay strong
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all parties need to be interviewed and taken seriously. I was abused for 4 years by my uncle and everyone thought I was lying about it… It predominantly happened when others were sleeping as well. I put him in jail, and he finally admitted to it after months of questioning. because of how the family treated me, I don’t talk to anyone who supported him. I realize you love your Significant other, but you need to let their be an investigation and go from there. You never know someone as well as you think or their actions 24/7. Regardless, something probably happened to that child by someone, I can just about guarantee that. I went to counseling for 15 years for my memories of this that destroyed my childhood… Don’t be that person who doesn’t take what they say seriously, you’ll do more damage than you know.
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Get a good lawyer! Hell has started and as you can see society has already crucified your husband. Prayers are with you and your family. Start search for a good support system. You will need it!!
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I would let them do their investigation period. If your husband IS innocent, then you and your husband need to have a long heart to heart about finding out what happened to your nephew.
My brother has no children and if one of my kids told him coming up that someone touched them, my brother would be anxious to find out who and how and why. He wouldn’t give up! My brother would not brush that off. What kind of uncle would he be if he didn’t try to protect his niece and or nephew?!
If your husband is innocent then please advocate for that child on finding out who actually done it and what happened! The child may have some confusion, but you’re an adult and a parent so don’t just let it go.
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I think the kid should be believed 100% until proven otherwise. But there is a high possibility that it is someone else and he is too afraid to say who it really is. Maybe him blaming your husband is his way of safely getting it out because now even if he accused the wrong person eyebrows should be raised towards everyone until it is figured out. I don’t think the child would just make that up. I would say he more than likely is being molested the question is by who
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This happened to my family. It sucks going through the investigation. But at the end of it the investigators even apologized because they saw how wrong they were. Prayers. Feel free to PM if you just need to vent.
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First of all kids don’t lie. If it’s not your husband someone else is doing it. Depends on his age also? Does he have something wrong with him or not?
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Children don’t look for attention by saying they are being abused
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It might be someone else & nephew is afraid. What other male is around him?
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It happens. Could be at nap time. Who? I don’t know but things will be investigated. My Grandpa did that to me when almost 4 and was told don’t be in a room alone with him anymore. My nephew was by a step-grandfather so my sister wouldn’t let him visit there by himself anymore. My younger sister was molested by him too. Started at 6 years old. Mom believed her husband ‘innocent’ . I would consult an attorney for a consultation and find out what steps to take. Husband should just answer honestly and try to remember what all he does during the day before going to bed. Or whatever the questions are. I am sure everything will turn out. 3rd shift is the Midnight to 8 AM right? My Dad would stay up when he got home and then back to bed around 3 PM. Stay strong for your family.
I’m sorry but a child of this age would not make up something so serious just for attention! A child of this age probably would not even no what abuse was! And as someone has already stated you do not fully know what someone is capable of and you never truly know someone!
My honest opinion is if you have to state everything your husband does I.e your husband is asleep before he even leaves, then you have given much thought as to if it could have possibly happened and somethings people don’t want to believe that their loved ones are capable of such horrid things! I’d let the investigation take place and if your husband has nothing to worry about then he will be fine!
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Do not ever tell a child they are just saying something like that for attention. My mother did that to me and then let my little brother spend the night with the guy because she didn’t believe me. Wanna guess what happened? If it wasn’t your husband then it could be someone else that the child is afraid to tell on or something. But DO NOT tell him he’s just trying to get attention!
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I can honestly say please support your nephew. Even if it’s not your husband someone is hurting this little boy. Sometimes kids do stuff like that when they are scared. I would say that anything is possible…I’m sorry your family is going thru this. No matter the outcome…your nephew is a little boy.
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If my man was accused of this…i would say goodbye to him. Ive been abused 3 times in my life and all by family members. Very rare that a
Young children make up stuff like this on their own. Don’t protect the abuser. Believe the victim.
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Only advice I have is have a. Childrens lawyer accompany your son so he has a lawyer of protection either way the questioning goes. You never want your minor child questioned with out a trusted adult present.
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Kids don’t lie about veing abused for attention. And if you assume that he lied and take your husband’s side that child will never trust you or be able to open up. I was abused and my mother told my entire family tgat I’m a liar, I went to court against my father years later once I got courage ad was safely in a mental hospital, my mother could have kept custody of me had she left him but she instead used the fact that i was in mental hospitals to “prove” i was a liar and to this day i have no relationship with my blood family, I went into foster care, and I can’t trust ANYBODY. Kids dont have the capability to make that stuff up, and if you take your husband’s side the child will be affected even more for life , knowing that he can’t rely on any person who was supposed to protect and believe and support them. They will grow up questioning everything and everyone including himself and you and think this all was his fault and could lead to suicide. You have no idea if your husband is capable of it, people hide incredibly dark skeletons in there closet all too often and too many people get away with this. If he is innocent then going through all of this wont be an issue , if he is guilty then you just ruined your relationship wirh that boy to protect his abuser.
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Always believe a child when they say things like that,dont ever dismiss it. Id be having a good hard look at your partner now bc of this,no child is goin to make this up…
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There are three scenarios here
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Your husband is guilty. Highly unlikely as from what you described because he’s never alone with the kid ever.
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The kid is lying. Possible. Or it’s something that is being misconstrued by an adult that is freaking out. I have a four year old, he lies but he dont make shit like that up.
3)The kid is being abused, but it’s not your husband. There could be something going on when that kid is not with you and whoever abusing the kid is being protected by another adult that is coaching the kid to point the finger at your husband.
If its scenario 2 or 3… get a lawyer.
I hope the truth comes out for the sake of the child. Just the the law do thier job.
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Is it possible that another person is abusing the child and he said something about it and panicked so he blamed your husband instead. Document everything; write down nights your husband was not home and nights that he was. Times he was left with the nephew. Write down that you do baths. Write down everything you can think of.
Also be ready incase the child is telling the truth. Sadly, you never know with people.
I can not stress this enough. If it’s not your husband hurting him then someone is. Do not tell the child that he is a liar. He could be being abuse by someone and was to scared to call the actual abuser out.
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Expliquez à l’enfant ,si il est assez vieux les conséquences d’une telle accusation…c’est très sérieux des accusations de cette nature .
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I’m trying to come up with advice and kind of torn cause I have been there for a family friend who was accuse by his baby mamas niece for abuse. Personally knew the teenager and knew she lied quite a bit when she wanted attention or didnt like the person. This actually went to trial and the family friend was found not guilty because the judge and jury and plus basically everyone in the stands caught the 30 lies she told and how he story kept constantly changing. Proving he was innocent and had spent time in jail and separated from his kids for over a yr for no reason the judge even apologized to him for this girls actions. All I can say is some children do things like this for attention but then there r children who really get abused. So I cant really speak on how to handle this. I jus hope ur husband if innocent doesn’t go through what my family friend went through.
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He is 4 you have to be in the room and maybe get them to run the questions by you before they ask him. I also believe that someone is hurting that boy and he has just said it is you husband and tell them as much ask how it is possible for him to touch him with you bathe him and your husband is asleep and your newphew awake before he goes home for the night.
What other men are around him? That’s what I would be asking
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I don’t think a small child makes things up like this … so if it’s not your husband it is someone else . I wouldn’t dismiss it being your husband just because he doesn’t bathe him and he “sleeps” by the time he’s done. Unless you are literally keeping on eye on your nephew 24/7 even when you go to the bathroom ,outside, or shower , store run, or whatever you don’t really know that he didn’t either . If you really trust that your husband didn’t do it then don’t worry and let the investigation run it’s course. If your child is underage I would think you would be allowed in the room or at least watching and hearing from a window.
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Why would a small child make it up? They don’t even think on those levels. No once they get older there could be reasons kids make stuff up, but I definitely wouldn’t be so certain like it sounds like you are…I’d be very suspicious of the man… if hes so laid back, that’s all the more reason why someone would choose him to lie on! Those laid back ones are always a characteristic of serial killers too
Firstly I’m really glad this is actually being dealt with … if it comes back that your husband is not the perpetrator there is a high possibility somebody else is kids say things etc but to add specifics considering he needs to be bathed he sounds pretty young that really didn’t just come from nothing 
how awful
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I would stop watching him. even though he didn’t touch him a story like that can destroy him
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Talk to a lawyer about your child . I don’t think they can do that without someone representing your child
no, kids don’t lie about being abused, but they do confuse and mix up details. For instance, I was inappropriately tutched by some 4th graders when I was in first grade, but couldn’t remember their names. My baby sitter started listing off names and I said it was one that sounded familiar, but the name belonged to someone compleatly unrelated to what happened. So yes, this kid is probably being touched by someone and is eather too scared to say who it really is or is mixing names up.
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People are commenting kids don’t lie at that age but the poster hasn’t said how old the child is.
She said her son who will be asked questions is 4.
Some children do lie… My 5 year old at the time lied and said her dad hadn’t fed them while I was at work yet he had and she later admitted she lied so I explained lieing can get people into trouble.
The reason you can’t be there when your son is questioned is because he might not tell the truth with you in the room.
Not saying he is lieing and it’s better to be safe then sorry and it be investigated, it could be someone else and they’ve told him to say its your hubby.
If he is being abused next time it could be worse and by being mad at him he won’t tell anyone.
If you’re hubby was at work ect they will be able to confirm that.
They won’t ask your son if your hubby has touched him they will ask questions carefully without putting words in his mouth
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If your child has said something has happened, then something has happened, stop defending your husband and start backing your child.
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I’m not being funny but social services will do what they like they’re a law unto themselves. You can have an advocate for your child in the same room but not yourself as they will deem that as manipulation, you need to listen to the child as ss will see that You’re putting your husbands needs above a childs needs which will result in them whipped straight into care, these are very serious accusations and will be thoroughly investigated. You need to speak to a solicitor asap
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Honestly, get a lawyer, and move to another state. I dont know what state you’re in or anything but the fact that you’re not allowed in the room while the questioning is a sign that they’re investigating you as well and they may try to take your kid as well. The only safe thing to do to make sure that you dont lose your kid is to move out of state before theres a court order against you and they take custody of your child. 