I used to be all for believing the child no matter what but in the times we’ve reached you can’t believe kids anymore either. I know a nephew who lied up and down about an older sibling touching him and doing things to him and come over 1 year later he came out and said he was lying and he was sorry etc. If I were your husband I’d be getting a lawyer first. I’d have my lawyer get my work schedules to show when I was there. Time stamps or anything you can get. Cover every detail to disprove what that child is saying. Also get a statement from the child’s mother, notarized and all saying she doesn’t believe it either because y’all say there’s no way it can even happen. I hope it all works out for the best. Getting a lawyer would be the best thing to do before you or him or anyone talks to anyone else involved in this case. Get a lawyer. Anything said can and will be held against you in the court of law.
Kids will say anything if directed to do so. I feel for you and your husband. I was actually molested and no one believed me. I was 4 at the time. I am 33 now and still remember every detail. Never got justice. I’ve moved on now but it still is there forever. I hope whatever is going on with your nephew is resolved and your husband cleared. I couldn’t imagine going thru such a horrible experience.
Maybe someone is touching him… Maybe not your husband but someone else… You never know …
Advice! It dident matter how nice and kind a man or woman is. Something like this would never be in front of you. I do get he may be perfectly inasent. Please don’t turn your back on your nephew. If my mom didn’t believe me… I don’t know what else would have happened. I wasn’t the first. I’m sure I’m not the last.
I worked with block parents . We were taught to believe children when they say this because children lie to get out of trouble , not to get into trouble .
Only advise I can give you is if a child tells you someone is a peado then you listen & you support that child until
It is proven it’s not true… wtf is wrong with you people what is he is not lying how do you think the poor lad feels😡
I think a lot of the answers you’re looking for depend on what state you’re in
KIDS DO LIE ! GET A GRIP IDIOTS KIDS THESE DAYS ARE AWFUL & DENYING THEY LIE SHOWS YOUR THE DAMN PROBLEM!! Omg y’all seriously rediculous
The child is right but you wonder who the real person is doing this to him!!! My guess someone that is in his family??? Sooner or later he will tell you who it is!!!
I know someone who is in jail right now for being falsely accused by a foster child. I have known this man personally since I was 6 years old and believe him unconditionally!!! There is no more innocent until proven guilty!! Thank God he us a believer in God cause the truth will come out. I do feel sorry for this young boy who has had a very rough life with his druggie parents .
My friends husband is going through this as we speak. He is actually sitting in jail right now while they get things figured out. They did a rape kit, found no evidence, shes changed her story several times. But the thing is, this little girl has been molested and sexually abused and she knows things that little girls should not know and when she said my friends husband did it, we think she did that because she is currently being abused by another man. It’s a big mess. My only advice to you is to get a good lawyer. Chances are, this poor little boy is being hurt by someone else and just happened to name your husband. It’s a horrible thing to go through from all angles. I hope it gets resolved quickly and I hope the little boy gets the help he needs and gets far away from his abuser, because I’m positive someone is abusing him…
First off if the child is saying he is being touched inappropriately it needs to be invagated if it’s not your husband someone else is doing this to this poor child .
No, you will not be allowed to be with your son during questioning
If he’s young enough to be bathed… Young kids that age… it’s rare they lie about that type of thing… If it’s not ur husband your nephew is probably being abused by someone else. Older kids teenagers can an sometimes do falsely accuse but it’s rare and usually for attention. You need to think your husband over are you sure 
he was never not even once with your nephew? Could he be confusing uncle’s if he has other uncles what about his dad? Good luck…
Shoot the messenger!!
Try not to worry, they will find out if its true or not,
If its not your husband it could be someone else close to him. Its easy to manipulate a child into lying about whos doing it to them
It doesnt matter how well you think you know someone. I was sexually abised as a young child by my step father. There was evidence to prove this and his family still thinks he innocent… even serial killers can hide who they really are. Lets be real people.
My ex husband had this happen with his fiance before me little girl she closed the case due to lack of evidence
Your husband may have not done it but doesn’t mean someone else haven’t. He could be getting touched and whatever he is saying but by someone else. Please keep that in mind something may of happened. If your husband is innocent that’s really great but I wouldn’t stop trying to find out why he said that I would get to the bottom of it. If he is not around at night and is not alone with him or bathe him than he should pass easily. But talk to his mother about who he is around when he is at home kids says things for reasons or someone could be telling him to say it
I am not sure you are going to like this, but children rarely lie about such things. If its not your husband the chances are this child is being abused by someone close to him. I worked in a pedophile yard for many years, you will never pick them, most of them live very successful double lives. I really feel for you. Good luck with everything.
THIS is why kids don’t come forward, because people never believe them! How can you DEFINITELY know your husband hasn’t done this? Are you awake all night to know his not going in his room? Highly unlikely. Are you in the bathroom the WHOLE time whilst his bathing? Sorry to be that person BUT, you cannot tell a child they’re lying about something like this until you know 100% that it is not true.
Children don’t make stuff up!! How would such a young child come up with it. It’s not easy to believe I know. Put your child first.
Always Believe the child, Even if you don’t want to…Believe the child until proven otherwise.
This is so sad… I hope everything works our for you. The beat thing world be is to get a lawyer.
First and foremost I will say this I hope everything comes clean for the sake of the child and the family. Now i am going to give an unpopular opinion because i just went through this with my husband and my oldest child and experienced first hand what happens. My child lied and I knew it, people can say what they want about kids dont lie about stuff yes they do however there is an underlying reason as to why thwy are going that far. Of course my child is 10 and was lying to get out of trouble. The investigators did the whole thing and the case has been closed due to no evidence and character evaluations did not add up. No they will not let you be in the room for questioning but they will eventually tell you bits and pieces of what was said because they will have to question you after. I was lucky, the system did its job however their are so many that have been falsely accused in such cases that are not so lucky. If you know with out a doubt that its false all you can do is say your part and have any witnesses be questioned that can say he wasnt present during said times and pray it all works out. I will say the child needs therapy just because sometimes that’s the only way the truth comes out and if someone is harming that baby in such a way they deserve the darkest pit in hell. I’m kinda all over the place but I just wanted to say my part. All is not lost and I hope some of this helps. Hopefully they find the truth either way and I will pray for all yall.
Let them do the investigation. I’m praying things work out in you’re favor and you’re husband did nothing. Something happened. Kids don’t just make that stuff up. May not have been with you’re husband but something happened. We don’t always know the person we are with. My sons bio father decided to throw him off objects when I was gone and he was 4 months old. My son suffered from shaken baby syndrome and almost died. Be careful Momma and look at all the evidence.
Young kids lie yes, but not usually to that extent. If the child feels comfortable enough to come to you about this issue, there is most likely something going on. My step father sexually abused me as a child and my mother never believed me until my early twenties when she witnessed it. I resented her for never believing me… dont let that become the case with you and your family. I would definitely look more into it
Get an attorney!!!
Believe the child leave the Man is the most responsible thing is very strange that a child would do that I would not take chances at all
If he did do it there is a chance the law could make you part of it so leave him
No one ever believed me that my uncle did that they called me dirty
A child doesn’t say this kind of shit for attention it has been told to him to say it or it’s really true…
Quit Blaming the Victims…
I will pray for the child you and your husband not a chance… May the truth come out and Justice be served 
for the child
I would believe the child until proven otherwise - disbelief from adults is how people are continuously able to abuse children. Because no one believes them a lot of the time
I dunno Thats so sad 
I don’t know the situation but I would never dismiss a child that says something like this I habe a 5 yo and a 7 yo I just couldn’t imagine I’d try to look at it from the outside
Ok first of all of stop watching that kid immediately , second of all of get a lawyer. IDK how they can question your daughter without an adult. But I’m sure they can. Even thought it’s not right. I’m sorry this is happening. If your are sure your husband did not do this, then it still could be happening by someone else, they will find out. I just hope your husband didn’t do this for the sake of everyone in your family. That being said, people will not like my opinion but kids do lie. Some lie at young ages also. I’ve seen it. They don’t understand a lie can destroy familes or lives, so please Talk to lawyer asap
That poor little boy pray he gets heard and Justice is served… shame on these “adults” for not believing him. Obviously if you had to leave there’s more to the story or his background were not being told… You and your husband ARE NOT VICTIMS…
Could it be that he’s saying its your husband to protect someone else? Idk how old he is but kids rarely lie about this type of stuff… maybe someone needs to be digging around at the other people in this child’s life?
Yea once it’s over tell your sister to get another babysitter
Kids don’t know to make stuff like that up. SOMEONE has done that to him.
I have heard that some kids will say it was someone else touching them when it’s actually someone a lot closer to home (like their own dad maybe). They just want yo tell someone, but at the same time they don’t want to risk losing that very important person in their life so they are conflicted
Or it could be a call for attention if the kid has issues like that before, but I would take any allegation seriously because what if he is telling the truth. What if it was your child saying that about someone?
How old is the nephew? Because kids usually don’t lie about these type of things. Even the most peaceful and laid back people can turn out to be monsters and you really don’t know anyone. I’d trust a child over a man, but also depends on the child… Has he been in a bad childhood, abused before, why lie like this for attention?
Have your husband take a lie detector test.
For starters maybe your sister needs to find an alternative sitter. Whose to say this troubled child won’t blame you next…? Or your other children…? As matriarchs, we must protect our families first and foremost.
As a victim of similar circumstances, I can say that a child NEVER lies about these type of accusations!!! Two things:
1.It is hard to believe that a person we love, will EVER commit such act
2. It’s beyond absurd to blame of doubt the victim!
Think about it… a child has ZERO need to create that level of mischief…ever in life!!!
And also, what if it was YOUR child rendering this type of information to you?!? Would you believe him or ALSO doubt him???
Clearly children DONT MAKE UP THESE TYPE OF LIES!!!
If your husband isn’t doing it then somebody is
Kids rarely, rarely lie about this… either your husband or someone else has violated him.
Someone is doing it to him and he is blaming his uncle bec he is scared. Children don’t know how to lie about these things.
I was molested at 5 & 7 two different people.
I didn’t tell anyone because no one believes kids.
I was molested by my step grandfather who had molested the neighbor girls previously. My dad’s dad didn’t think he’d do it to his own family and didn’t tell my parents.
Kids don’t lie. ( Usually ).
Sounds like the kid is just lying about who did it… not about what happened.
The only thing I would advise you to do is get a lawyer a
This way when they talk to your son or your daughter whoever this the lawyer is in there with a year. But he is p
And if they call child services that’s the only way that you’re going to be able to do anything legalized
If your sister doesn’t believe the accusations how was DHR notified?
I do just want to say something… I would take this very serious as kids don’t usually make stuff up like this Especially something like this. I wouldn’t even think twice…
Someone is doing something to that child. Just go through the motions of it all. The truth will come out eventually. It sucks for your family but depending on how old this kid is they usually don’t lie about that stuff because they don’t know about it enough to lie, so someone in his life is likely abusing him even if it’s not your husband.
Yeah, sorry but your husband is likely a child molester. If he isn’t, someone else is doing this. Kids don’t make this kind of thing up.
First, breathe. DHR is actually really good at closing out the false ones quickly. It’s mostly just trying to get through the pain and disruption. It was a rough few weeks. But they just have to do their due diligence. You will all be home together before you know it. As for the nephew, I suggest you let him be cared for somewhere else until he outgrows this stage.
And for the record, we try to teach kids to come forward now. In case familial pressure is to stay quiet. And in that process some kids DO IN FACT feel pressured to make a report even if it is fabricated. It’s just a part of us trying to improve a broken system. It’s a crappy part. But we are light years ahead of where we used to be. And it will get better.
Someone is molesting him. Someone…
I think his mother should let the interviews happen and so should you with your kids. They might know something. If whoever it is is coaching your nephew, it will come out. It would NOT BE the first time a child was told to lie by their abuser, all I have to say is LISTEN to the boy… Don’t tell him he’s wrong, don’t tell him he’s lying, just listen to him and get him the help he needs. The truth comes out
I would believe the child. You really never know. He could of found time to do it. Unless it’s proven otherwise, I would take the kids word for it. Some kids can make this stuff up for attention… I’ve seen it happen(she has a mental illness). But a normal, healthy child wouldn’t tell lies like this.
Have your husband take a lie detector testc
How old is the child? Maybe these are accusations from the past that he just now had to courage to say. Or maybe his mistaking the person who really did it for your husband. Its a tricky situation. But please listen to the child as well. I know you say your husband is innocent but maybe someone else isnt? Or he could have been coached or he could be scared to say who it was. Just dont make the child feel guilt and the one to blame if he is in fact a victim of something. That would affect him his whole life. Trust me. I went through that as a child.
You better not be in denial. A child can be coached to say shit but before you go discrediting your OWN FLESH AND BLOOD, YOU better wait for those results!
How can you know for sure . Why would a child make this up ? How old is your nephew ? Take him on Steve wilkos do a lie detector. Sounds like u r taking the wrong person’s side here I would get to the bottom of this and stop posting your life on Facebook
I would let them do the interviews and see how it turns out before you go jumping to conclusions
I know this has already been said and it may be hard for you to wrap your mind around it… But kids very rarely make these things up. Always always believe a child when they say these things. I am sending all my good vibes to your nephew! He is one brave boy to speak up!
The child is most likley not lying that abuse happened but maybe about who is doing it. Kids dont make up abuse but they might get be covering for someone else but wanting to get help at the same time.
as a survivor of abuse… i will say its very likely withwhat you say your husband didnt do it but SOMEONE did… kids dont just make this stuff up… they may falsify some info if they are scared (as to who did it or where it happened) but its a 99 % chance someonr has hurt this lil boy…could it be his dad or his moms bf?? take a deep breath hug your kids and let them work threw it…no you cant be in there but they will have something like a casa worker in there (which is a child advocate) to stand up for the childs rights… or at least thats what they did here in ohio when i went threw it…they dont want you in there because a simplelook from a parent can sway a childs answer… you can ask for it to be done in a room where you can watch from behind duel sided mirror (dont know if they would allow this tho since youre the spouse of the accused )
I have been through this! My adopt niece has a whole slew of psychological issues. She accused my hubby of give her alcohol & molesting her. Yes my family’s life was turned upside down. It turned out my hubby was innocent! A former foster brother molested her & her sister. Anytime she goes off her meds & she’s not getting her way no one is safe from her allegation. She has accused 2 other in the past 3yrs turned out she was off her med & it never happened.
I would talk to an attorney to cover you & your family, some will do it pro bono
Possiblity 1. Child is telling truth and husband is very good at covering tracks, doesn’t take more than a minute to moleste, and doesnt need to be alone either, kids, even adults, don’t pay attention enough thinking pervs wont touch kids with other kids/adults near, trust me they will. Possiblity 2. Child is being molested but by someone else and naming your husband because he feels save with him and scared of the actual person. Possiblity 3, one of his friends/peers is being molested. Possiblity 4, happened in the past. Last possiblity, he thinks it funny/wants attention/saw it on tv.
My advice to you and I haven’t read any other comments so I don’t know what other advice anyone has given you but as bad as you don’t want to believe this about your husband if a small child is telling you this believe it. Small children have no reason to lie about something as this they won’t be gaining anything by lying. My child was molested at a very young age and family and friends of the family didn’t believe it either. However I know that it was true as soon as I heard it. Because the SOB had done the same thing to me as a child and I never told anyone therefore I allowed it to happen to my baby.
A child is not just going to make that accusation up on their on… If my niece or nephew EVER came to me with that information REGARDLESS of how well I thought I knew my significant other I would believe the child. It’s the ones you least expect at the end of the day to do horrid things such as molesting a child. I’m sure you don’t watch your husbands every move 24/7 so to say 100 percent he didn’t do that would be far from the truth. Someone is doing something to him… maybe there is a possibility it’s not your husband but it very well could be.
I had a similar situation with my son. He accused my step son of touching him inappropriately. They shared a bedroom when I had my son (split custody) and accused him of doing it while they were alone up in the room (playing with toys or bedtime). Nothing has come of it as in an investigation besides my step son, my husband and I were questioned by the state police and were given polygraph tests. I’m pretty sure that because nothing happened legally my son had lied about who it was and I am pretty sure it was someone on my ex’s side of the family but he is too afraid to say who because my ex has full custody now. (Because of different circumstances) But I do know that my ex’s brother was accused and it was found that he did touch another child so I wouldn’t put it pass that he indeed was the one that did it and. Not my stepson. Kids can become afraid to come to anyone about something like this and they do have a tendency to exaggerate the truth because they are scared.
Oh no this is terrible so sorry your family is going though this. Just pray about it, the truth will come out. Pray fjr your nephew, whatever he’s going through to make him make a very serious claim like this that the lord will speak to his heart and he’ll come forth with the truth. Maybe somebody is touching him but he’s blaming your husband for some reason. Maybe he’s afraid to point out the real person
Someone has touched the kid, he may be blaming the wrong person though
Sometimes adults talk to kids enough to make them believe something has happened. Same with adults, good or bad. Praying it is resolved quickly no matter who is at fault.
Oh my. I am so sorry. Our son went through the same thing 13 years ago. You need to retain an attorney ASAP.
Prayers for all involved that this comes out as a calm peaceful resolution.
Kids can lie. They can also make up things. How old us he? And if it all works out, you cannot keep him anymore.
I would pray first and ask if they could put the child to see a counselor or therapist.
I’d contact a lawyer an want that lawyer present for the interview to make sure the words are not being twisted.
Unfortunately YES kids do lie about stuff like this!!! My niece did, and she literally did it just because she was mad at her uncle. Everyone saying they don’t lie, and someone is doing something, if that was the case the child wouldn’t say anything (I know, I’m that child!). Just let the investigation happen and you can request someone to be with your child. They can twist what they say just to make a case out of nothing.
Perhaps the child was touched by someone that he is afraid of. So he has to tell mom about it. But instead of blaming the monster, he blames someone he feels safe with. Someone who would never do it. He is searching for reassurance that he can get help. He doesn’t know who to trust. His mind set isn’t mature enough to understand how to deal with it. Believe me, I was that child at an early age. So, for ppl saying he is wanting attention… Maybe you call it that, I call it trying to open mom or uncle to open their eyes to pay attention to others he is around. Just my opinion. it’s so sad what children face on their own. Be careful how you handle this.
Just keep praying GOD will help you it souds like may b the boy has been touchd by some other person and blaming some other
Believe your nephew. And pray hard for guidance.
I feel that if it was me, I would consult legal counsel. Be prepared for the worse, I have seen CPS do a good job and a poor job with the case. I would no longer have the child in my home, or around any one in my family. If he has told one lie he will tell several more.
How old is this child?
This happened to my brother. His,wife wanted to leave him and she didn’t want him to see the kids,so she accused him of touching her. My brother would have never touched his daughter. After months of this in court she finally admitted she lied. It took such a toll on him. Someone must be telling him to do this. It is horrible . I would stop watching him.
Prepare them by telling them that someone important is going to be talking to them and that it’s ok you’ll be right outside. That way they are less afraid.
I would not let that child come to my house again and the sister would just have to understand. When it comes out that this was made up I hope someone seeks some serious counseling for that child because this kind of accusation could ruin someone’s life.
I don’t believe kids lie about this .
Perhaps accuse the wrong person but not lie about being touched !!
just keep praying god will get to the truth
This is bad. I’m sorry
You just never really know someone sorry to say!
Sometimes when a child is violated they blame another person that feels safe because they are terrified of the actual abuser…the nephew is likely being abused by another person.
I tend to believe the little boy and I think it’s sad that no one else does. Just saying.
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Kids dont make stuff like that up. I know it’s your husband but you need to find out what went on. How old is your nephew?
Make them at least have you in a room where you can see through a mirror and listen. You have the right to protect your children even from them.
Perhaps it’s the child’s father doing it