It’s not really CPS that put them through hell it is the police department. My son had this happened. He just did everything they asked and in the end it came out that he did nothing. There was no hard feelings between families. If you have done nothing then that’s all they will find is nothing. Stay calm and don’t panic.That is the first thing we all do. It is hard to not panic but i am sure your husband will turn out ok. They interviewed my son a couple of times. Did lie detector test and they all came out ok. The family apologized for the little girl. She in end said she did not want him to stop babysitting her but we all thought it was best. After that my son never babysat for anyone anymore.
I would consult legal counsel ASAP! I have seen innocent people railroaded by the system. It’s not innocent until proven guility, its guilty until proven innocent. I would nip this in the bud as soon as possible.
You absolutely are allowed in the room
Ok I never post but here goes… as a child I was molested by my stepfather. I told. I got called a liar. Eventually my sister told the truth too… …we were still liars… when my child turned 18, I had been married ro the man I was with for 17 years. He was a great dad to the kids, …he was a hard worker, caring, seemed honest, well respected by everyone… she told me a horror story that I would have never thought would happen… …he had been molesting her since she was 12…I would never and I mean never doubt a child and believe anyone when they said the child lied… the"sweetest" “good” men can be monsters…they will teach a child no one will believe them, that it is happening because they acted a certain way, that this is how to show love, scare them, and so many more lies… and all the while you think they are the best person and most God fearing man alive…BELIEVE THE CHILD AND LET GOD HANDLE THE REST…
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As a former investigator Of child abuse, I can tell you that this does happen a lot. Unfortunately, it is the law that you are not allowed to be in the Room while the child is questioned. But they can only be questioned by law enforcement or the state’s attorney. Only 2 interviews of the child are allowed total. This has to be done at 1st by the child Protection team in your area That is specially trained to conduct these interviews and they are videotaped.and then once more by law enforcement or the state’s attorney’s office. The child would also be required to go through a physical exam as a part of that 1st interview. The children have to be away from the accused until the conclusion of the investigation as protection for both the accused and the children. This is sad and unfortunate for your situation, but it is a necessary measure. I would retain an attorney for your husband as soon as possible, If you are able, otherwise, you should look in to legal aid for him at your local courthouse. If the child is lying, or if there is evidence that he has been touched by someone else, this will most likely come out in the interviews as they are specially trained to recognize when a child is telling the truth or lying about something like this. it’s not going to be easy to get through, I’m so sorry you have to deal with this, I hope it turns out well for everyone. The child should also be put into therapy as soon as possible by The caseworker.
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I’m a survivor of being sexually abused as a child.
There’s nothing worse than not being believed as a child. And people brushing it under the carpet. And people making themselves out to being the victim. When the ONLY victim is the child. Perpetrators gaslight victims, and refer to the victims as liars.
You should be ashamed of yourself for calling this poor child a liar.
It takes a lot of courage to speak up when you have been sexually abused. Especially when you are a child.
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Well, even tho I know children may lie, you cannot dismiss something like this and just brush it off, if my son comes and tells me his uncle touched him I am gonna investigate what is going on with my child diligently regardless of how loving and caring my brother in law is, as someone that was molested as a child I would not take this lightly, however, that doesn’t mean this is true either, sadly is normal procedure to keep you and your kids away while they investigate. Just let things flow and the truth will come out. My only advice is get a lawyer and support your husband but also to be open to whatever can come from this, I wish you the best through this difficult time.
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Children do lie and make up these things.then they are afraid to admit they lied…according to how much the child has seen and experienced.
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I think the child should have psychiatric counseling, there might be an underlying problem that he’s afraid to tell any one about
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Someone is touching the child but it may not be your husband.Retain an attorney. The mother should take this seriously and a boyfriend,neighbor,friend of the family etc.could be the culprit. The little boy is telling the truth but may be mixed up on who is doing this or it may be your husband. Watch your kids just in case .This is a red flag warning.I don’t think the child is not lying but may be confused on the perpetrator and maybe not.He needs referred to a mental health professional that deals with sexual abuse.Social Service will investigate and find out if it is your husband.THE CHILD IS NOT LYING. Someone abused him if not your husband.Sorry I specialized in sexual abuse .
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Kids do lie about this type of stuff! I know because I was that kid, pissed off at my parents for not getting what I wanted. Kids pay attention to more than you think. Their listening to your conversations, their watching what your watching on tv, they hear the music you listen to, they learn from older kids at school and on the bus. I learned what porn and full penetration was at 5 years old, from the school bus and high schoolers. Dont think all children are innocent. I wasn’t.
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Get a lawyer an gather all your proof. You’re going to need it. Document everything.
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Sometimes the people you think you know have a whole other life that you dont see. Even your husband!!
You should want your children questioned because even tho it’s sad and sick, things could be happening that your not aware of.
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Attention getting for sure. Disconnect from the child and do not babysit him, ever! Suggest counseling as there is a deeper issue. Follow the rules as put forth by CPS. The truth will come out and your cooperation is essential. Let your children know that they will be away from dad for awhile but give no details. Counselors have experience in how to question minors and come to some type of onclusion, based on this. Praying for you.
Get a lawyer and don’t let anyone talk to your children without you being present. They have NO right to do so without your consent, unless the state has taken custody. If you believe your husband then stand by him. However, being loving to that little boy. He may have been touched by someone else and is either confused or scared. Or both.
Hire a lawyer ASAP. I’m serious. This is nothing that you hope CPS will resolved in your favor. Have a lawyer present at every single interview. There has been countless, and I do mean countless, stories in my state of wrongly accused people who were actually sent to prison for this. And then the same kids came out and admitted years later that they made the whole thing up because they were mad at them for some reason. It was never because somebody else was doing something to him, it was because they were mad at them. Get a lawyer and get one now.
Not either of you being in the room is just wrong.
If they are comfortable around you, and being asked questions they do not understand should make it obvious.
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Contact an attorney usually the consultation is free and stand by your husband if you know beyond a shadow of doubt he is Innocent! And above all do not allow that child back in your home ! Sad part of it all is he may be being molested at his own home and just trying to get attention to it
If I were in your shoes I would stop watching the Nephew and not let that child be anywhere near my husband which includes holidays, etc. Then he can blame someone else
Get your children a lawyer of their own. Also, my first instinct is to believe kids. Something has happened either with your husband or someone else. I would do everything dhr/dhs/dcf/CPS tells you to do or you’ll lose your children.
I’m sorry but one of my best friends kids did that to me years ago. She since admitted she lied and it was the mothers inability to believe anyone could be a true friend. She put her up to it and the little girl later admitted it. I HATE them both to this day. She was 3. No forgiveness will she EVER get! I don’t care what is best for her. She is 19 now. I pray some child accuses her of the same. Sorry some things are just too serious to forgive and The mom? I pray she goes to her grave knowing what a piece of trash she and her brats are. Don’t forgive him ! He knows what he is doing!
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She stated the kid is 4…it’s not like he or she is a teen lying outta spite…kids that young don’t make that shit up
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Depending on the age, they will lie… sometimes led into lying but it can happen…
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Nephew getting put the fuk out when its done thats for sure…
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Yes you are allowed in the room. By law they can’t question a minor without a parent present
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Even if the kid was lying, as a parent I would let the investigation happen without any hesitation. Let the lie be exposed. Just do what is right. Get a investigator.
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Protect the CHILD. This is why they become silent. Investigate! I dont care if that’s your husband.
Lawyer. Lawyer. Lawyer!!! Even if he is lying (you know that he is) no one wants to be responsible for letting a “sex offender” off. If state decides to presses charges for the child, Even if the kid retracts statements later… the charges are still there, just dismissed. Please get a lawyer!!!
It sounds like maybe the boy has been touched and blames it on your husband because he isn’t threatened by him. Or like you said he may be lying. I’m sorry this has happened to you. Consult an attorney…
Who called, if the mom doesn’t believe it happened??
Once they get the nephew, in for counseling, the truth will come out…
Believe the child until it is 100% proven otherwise.
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It really sounds like hes being couched, those are oddly specific times
This kid is 4 folks. If u read the post the answer to this question is right there in it. Mayne it isnt the husband but it’s someone. A 4 year has no clue how lie on this big of a scale. Get a lawyer
You need to consult with an attorney asap. Unless you agree, they can’t place a no contact without a court order. You need to know your rights or they will step all over them.
Something is going on. Dig deep. Stay alert
i agree with Missy Seargeant Hunt 100 percent. i was going to say pretty much what she did. while kids do lie its usually to get out of trouble. not usually things like this. hes reaching for help. someone is hurting him. i think the first thing you need to do is find out who.
Consult an attorney. Write nothing else on facebook. It will be used in court. No longer keep the child. Someone else will need to babysit. Children do tell lies, but usually not about sexual matters. Transferring the perpetrator to someone else is possible. Out of fear. Fear that the suspect may have to go away, maybe because mom is saying we will not be able to live if you tell, many other reasons. Never be interviewed without an attorney present.
Wouldnt keep the child anymore. That is for sure.
They should investigate what is going on in his life at home and anywhere else he stays at.
When a kid reaches out about something like that they A. Trust you enough to tell you and B. It’s not a lie.
So grow up and get rid of the husband because he sounds like a horrible man. A child will never know how to create a lie like that… file for divorce and a life time restraining order against him. Your kids won’t be allowed anywhere near you if you stick around him.
My step son got caught with a lighter at schools. Lost his mind when the principal said he had to call his Dad. So he lied and said his dad was gonna kill him
Ling story short my step sons drama was senn through by the cops but it’s still something that hurt Nd we spoke to a lawyer he said as long as were transparent and honest we should be fine. Praying your situation works out
Lawyer up and get your kids one also. They are entitled to representation especially since your kids are so young.
You always need to believe the child until you know all of the facts! He was obviously abused by someone. And if it was one of my kids no one would dare touch them because they would end up 6 ft under.
DHR is a law all there own they destroy families
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Prayers for all involved. Myself, as a mother I would believe my child until proven otherwise. This child could be telling the truth!
Kids don’t lie about stuff like this
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I would look up the law in ur state
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I’ve been through this sucks,all u can do is let it play out the truth will prevaile
How old is the nephew cuz u said ur kid was 4
Don’t take care of him anymore
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Listen to your children
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Four year olds can’t even imagine to make this stuff up
YOU ARE IN DENIAL
Sicko
You need to have all your children removed
So they are safe from your blind eye 
I wouldn’t assume it’s false until the investigation is done. Normally a child who still needs daycare and assistance with bathing isn’t old enough to plot such an elaborate attention seeking story. Maybe your husband or someone else is abusing this child. You and your husband should get a lawyer but don’t be so quick to discount what your nephew is saying
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My daughter has done the same thing to my brother,but until evidence proves other wise you always have to believe your child. I didn’t talk to my brother for a year. We went threw everything and there was no evidence of anything happening BUT my daughter stuck to her story until one night she was with my niece and sister and told my niece it didn’t happen then she told my sister and my sister recorded her. Deep down I knew it didn’t but like I said you always believe your child. My daughter has been treated with bi polar disorder. I know something happened to her but she won’t say who. This happened about 5 yrs ago. So believe some one did it but he’s covering for some one else or it is for attention. Clearly evidence suggest he hasn’t done anything wrong and about them enter viewing your child let them do their job. I wasn’t there when they enter viewed my kids. Just have his mom take him out then them selfs and just talk to him eventually he’ll want to tell the truth.
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If the mother doesn’t believe this is a real thing then who filed the report?!? Is it possible another male in the child’s life is the real problem and whoever filed the complaint misunderstood what the child was trying to tell them? At this point I wouldn’t waste $ on a lawyer (makes you look guilty) but I would definitely start asking questions.
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I agree with all of the above. Believe the child (victim) until it’s proven to be false. A child that young very, very rarely makes these things up.
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I have no additional advice although ill be praying for your family and the children.
Hire a lawyer right away! I have been through this. I didn’t have a lawyer until stuff came to court and it didn’t turn out good for myself and my children. 
A very hard situation 
You want to believe in what both people are saying but you don’t want to at the same time.
Praying for all involved. I have seen both scenarios played out. But either way it’s going to treat your family apart so keep praying for guidance
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Usually a young child like that doesnt even have the thoughts run through their mind to make up molestation. So usually either it’s TRUE or an adult is having them say those things. I’ve heard stories about other adults not liking someone in a family and having children lie about those things. I hope that the truth comes out either way
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Someone may be touching him but it very well may not be your husband. He may have gotten scared when probed about who was doing it and said the first person he could without naming the real person. As a victim myself you have to believe the child but ask the right questions. Trust me we are scared. He needs support.
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Please listen to your nephew it may not be your husband its somebody something is going on if you don’t mind me asking how old is your nephew
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I get that you love your husband and want to believe he would never do such a thing… but this is why victims dont come forward, they arent believed.
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- i would be talking to a lawyer, not the internet. 2) being in my line of work, as well as having friends who were abused as children and no one believed them, I’m saddened that not even his mother believes him. Even if your husband isn’t abusing him, there’s a reason a child is making accusations. Sad story regardless of what the truth is.
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Y do u automatically disbelieve him!! Whether you like it or not sometimes the people we think we know we don’t actually know at all!! Why would he say something like that and not that your husband hit him or something? And if there’s absolutely no truth it in what’s the problem with them talking to your child alone? I would ask maybe you have someone else present etc a grandparent or something to ensure words aren’t put into your child’s mouth but this is exactly why victims don’t speak out they are worried they won’t be believed and if your husband has done nothing wrong they will prove he’s done nothing wrong! I’m sorry but I think your out of order to completely dismiss this as lies before the evidence has been put forward! If one of my children said something like this to me I’d believe them straight away and I’d deal with it if it turned out not to be true
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I’ve been there, but on the child’s side. It went from “you’re making it up” to “you imagined it” to “it couldn’t be that bad” to “stop talking about it” to “even if it happened, you’re hurting him and his family by still talking about it”. Even after another family member came forward and said he did it to them too.
There is a limit to how much kids will make up. The younger they are, the more true that is. Please, give the investigators room to do their jobs. Even if you don’t believe he’s capable of it. Even if he’s never once touched his own kids. Even if the vast majority of what you believe about this man is 100% true.
Even if the (extremely minute to the point of being basically zero) odd off chance is the reality and it is made up.
False accusations are so rare as to be almost non-existent. SOMETHING happened to lead to this. Real abuse gets ignored all the time. There’s a reason they’re bothering looking into this. I was stuck with an abusive kidnapper for the vast majority of my childhood because no one would listen. I have friends who went through it too. Please. Give the child the benefit of the doubt.
Oh my God I feel so sorry for all of you, your lives will never be the same.
I am so, so sorry that you’re family is going through this. Your husband needs a lawyer, ASAP! Sadly, I wouldn’t doubt it if someone really was abusing your nephew. That’s such a wild accusation, he may not feel comfortable admitting who is or has truly done it. I hope things are resolved as soon as possible, and that your nephew is given therapy and an outlet to disclose if someone is truly hurting him. 
BELIEVE THE CHILD!! As sad as it sounds, you don’t know what anyone is capable of. Child sexual abuse is rarely done at the hands of a stranger, but by someone the child knows, loves and trusts. I’m not saying the person accused is definitely guilty, but to accuse a child that young of fabricating a story like this is ludicrous.
Sorry to say but when a child says they’ve been touched, 9 times outta 10… I’d belive my damn child over anyones fucking story sorry.
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I noticed an inconsistency in your story. You said your husband works 3rd shift and isnt home when he is sleeping. And then in the next breath say he doesnt spend the night. Which is it ? Does your nephew spend the night or not?
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Plus a child cannot be questioned with out a parent there under 18 you can request to be there
Be careful they will take your children from you if you don’t believe he is a threat to your children.you know for the good of the children
Get a Lawyer ASAP.
In the wake of the #metoo movement they take this all very seriously.
Depending on how specific the child’s explanation of the situation is, this will be enough for them to press charges.
Also- is there another person who could be doing this and he thinks it’s your husband?
I am so sorry.
This is such an ugly situation and it will take time to get it cleared if it is not true.
Something definitely happened but sometimes kids say an innocent person did it because they are afraid of the person who actually is touching him this kid needs help ASAP and find out the real person who is touching him it could be anyone he’s around so think who could be hurting him but also too the one you would think wouldn’t do anything could actually be doing it so be careful just in case your nephew is telling the truth about who’s abusing him
Idk about attention. But maybe someone else is doing it to him but your nephew is scared to tell who.
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And just FYI the dhs is doing exactly what they are supposed to they will question your child alone with play therapy because if the parent is present the child shys away from talking or looks to the adult for the answer and they want to know what they know
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How old is this kid? Young enough to need supervision while bathing? Kids that age don’t make that sort of thing up. I’m not even sorry, get out of your marriage now.
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Always believe the child!!! Something some where is going on & you need to get to the bottom of it. Children don’t make up sexual abuse for attention & most abuse cases are family members. The child will be interviewed and every child should be bc wouldn’t you want to know the 100% truth on what’s going on if somethings going on. The people doing the interviews are trained to do this.
My whole family didn’t believe me either when I tried saying something about my cousin. Never rule it out even if the person is your husband, I’m not trying to bash or anything I’m just saying sometimes kids are telling the truth but all the adults around don’t see that person that way so the kids accusations get tossed aside even when there telling the truth.
And I’ve seen people on the other end where they have been falsely accused and did time over it. It’s scary and touchy situation.
Hang in there mama. I hope it all gets resolved easily for you guys! That can’t be easy for your family😕
Once the report is made they have to follow their protocol, regardless of anything the adults have to say about it. If they let parents speak for their children no molesters would ever be found. It’s a scary situation, but these people are trained to see signs and know if the reporting is false or not. Don’t get angry at them for doing their jobs…
Kids don’t usually lie about stuff like that always believe a child over the husband. Sorry but these types of people come in all forms and you would never know it. Trust me I’ve been thru it they will deny deny deny never admit it.
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Tbh they look at this stuff very seriously and I’m not saying the child in person is lying but the police and social services think children are always telling the truth and children don’t have it in them to lie… so if I was I would get a lawyer asap. But unless he’s been questioned by police or authorities I wouldn’t worry to much at the moment.
But experiencing other people’s experiences it don’t end well.
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I would absolutely get a lawyer asap. Do NOT let your husband speak with police officers or detective WITHOUT A lawyer. Innocent people have been convicted of less. And it’s a shame because while they are prosecuting an innocent person the REAL abuser is getting away with it still!!!
I wouldn’t be putting it on here your may influence any further cases ect I’d do what professionals say for time being how old is the child
I’m sorry but I’d never question the kid. Kids don’t make up sexual abuse stories for attention most of the time. I’d take that seriously
Most children will accuse someone thats considered safe when they are afraid to tell who really did it… And you dont really know… Things can happen. Whether its your husband or someone else kids don’t normally just make these kinds of allegations up.
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If you don’t have lawyer money call Texas Legal no charge they have office on Houston st. Be careful Cps makes me puke! Lawyers cost about 300.00 a hour. So be careful!
Well, for one as a child who was touched i seriously doubt the nephew is lying about being touch. Something is going on. It might not. E your husband may be someone else. Could be your husband and I know you sont wanna hear that, but its not attraction related.
I’m sorry but you aren’t being a good mother and aunt to your nephew and either is your sister. He is obviously telling you something is going on. And for you and his mother telling him and everybody you don’t believe him is fucking bullshit. I feel sorry for that little boy. He came to you trusting you would help him in this situation and y’all have done the complete opposite. You know how hard it is for a CHILD to come out and feel safe enough to say something. I don’t give a fuck if you think your husband is a loving man or that he works these hours and falls asleep blah blah. Child predators are fucking sick and sneaky and they do it to children that are close to them usually so they think they can get away with it. You BELIEVE THAT little boy until your husband is proven innocent.! Point blank PERIOD.!!! And when they ask your daughter it’s not like how you think. Most of the time they will have a child draw a picture or see how they are with horses. They will be able to tell by just a picture yes. And I hope nothing has happened to your children but if so you need to get a hold of yourself for your children and your nephew. Shit happens right underneath your eyes without you even knowing. Just WOW.
How old is the child? If they are pretty young they don’t make up such an elaborate story just for attention lol you know what I do know is ppl think they know the ppl they love or known for along time but most of the time you don’t really know what’s going through ppls heads ppl are capable of anything period, whether you think oh they won’t do it they can and will if they think they can, and if it was my child and they said this I damn sure wouldn’t be like oh that’s not true if exhaust every effort to find out if it is we are the child’s protectors and they are supposed to be able to come to us if something bad happens but how can they if ppl automatically think they lie and believe the adult?
We had same issue with my niece. She ended up lying in court and to police and charges were dropped.
Sorry you’re going thru this. It’s hard. Feel free to DM me if you need.
If charges where filed I look n2 a civil suit or charges of false accusations
I was 7 years old and my moms boyfriends at the time molested me and i told my mom and they all kept saying i made it up and my mom still dated him and still didn’t believe me well a couple years ago he molested my cousin and she spoke up too but her family actually believed her and didn’t put it on the back burner and he is in jail and my mom felt real stupid that she did not believe me when it happened because she was in denial because it was her boyfriend. Point is believe the child over anyone because when you turn your back all it takes is one second for things to happen until your husband is proven guilty or not and if your husband is not guilty try and talk to your nephew while recording him and see who actually is doing it and put cameras in the house also but do get a lawyer.
You know I wouldn’t even be posting about this type of situation especially saying you don’t believe the kid once things are on the internet they never go away
Trust the child!!! My kids’ father was accused of fondling one of his cousins, teenage girl, and no one believed her, including me. 8 years later he and I split, and he dates a different cousin for 6 years. Nobody believed he would mess with his own flesh and blood… he showed his true colors. Always believe the child. Always
You know what.Im sorry to say but it’s rarely false accusations when a child says that someone touched them.Women always want to think the best of their husbands even after they cheat.We have a case in South Africa where a child told her mom that she’s being touched and the mom refused to believe, at the end of the day the girl"s body was cut up and buried by a man that she never thought would do it.At the moment the child is the victim here.I refuse to date anyone now cos the world is too sick, wait until the court decides.It takes alot of effort for a child to just say something like that
What does a child have to gain from lying…