You absolutely did the right thing!
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Personally, I think you did the right thing. She needs to know itâs inappropriate and if no one says anything then sheâll just keep going on like that. I hope she felt embarrassed and will learn from this. Also sheâs being a bad influence for the younger sister. Honestly, I donât know how these girls are getting away with dressing the way they do
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Absolutely! You Absolutely should have said something. You did the right thing. Donât second guess yourself. If she ripped off the jacket when she saw you she is asking for the attention, what you gave her was respectful, corrective attention that showed her she doesnât need to use her body to get whatever she is seeking.
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Why are you sexualizing the girl. Why the fuck would you be worried about her being around an adult male?? Thatâs just disturbed on its own.
Yeah no, you weâre definitely on a power trip, you saw a young girl doing something you didnât like so you tried embarrassing her in front of everyone. If it really made you uncomfortable you wouldâve pulled her aside and said something or something to your mom.
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Iâm not trying to be mean but the girl is over at your mothers house for personal reasons going on in her own house. If sheâs not comfortable at home, and now she wonât be comfortable at your moms house cuz of you, someone she doesnât know the girl is gonna run away from home or worse. I donât think itâs your place to say anything and itâs not your child either. You better just hope she doesnât run away cuz then your not only gonna have your mom very mad at you but your gonna have her parents attacking you as well. Next time I would just keep quiet or go home. And maybe you should apologize and maybe you and your mom can have a calm sit down with her and find out whatâs going on and why sheâs dressing like she is. 
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No one needs to dress or act according to someone elseâs comfort level, it doesnât matter how old they are. If you donât like it, leave or look away.
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The irony is all you would flip out if someone said that to your kid⌠such double standards on this site 
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It seems like she is going to invite so much danger, if her choices in her life is gonna be like that. You absolutely did the right thing. As adults its our responsibility to point out things that are going to put our loved ones in the harms way. The males in your family are also at risk because you never know if she seduces n then later puts the blame on that person. Tell your mother to put her foot down and politely set rules for everyones dressing around the house.
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I can absolutely understand that women want to dress the way they want to dress and it is no one elseâs business.
In this day and age it is extremely difficult not to sexualize children because of the way they are dressing and acting. A lot of them look like a full grown women
But children should not be running around in a bra around anyone!!
Especially full grown men.
Now , he should have handled it by speaking to his mother privately And let her know that he and his friends are uncomfortable visiting with a child running around half naked.
And yes a bra or a small crop top for a child is half naked.
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Iâm glad you are looking out for your sisters friend. But you should have had a talk with your mom about this. Iâm sure you remember being a young girl and 16, itâs a tricky age. Hopefully your mom is around if they are inviting boys over.
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You did good. Next time take her aside even now an how the talk as to why you felt like that so she completely understand your side of things
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You need to mind your own business itâs not your house and not your child you have no authority over your sister and her friends youâre very immature for this. Stop sexualizing children.
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Did the right thing. Jailbait has no self respect.
If taking a picture would lead to child porn charges you speak up
This is crazy sheâs a child She needed to be told dg ont no why everyone has to tip toe around a kid if sheâs dressing like this you can pretty much bet thats not all sheâs doing
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If you donât look out for her who will? Seems like sheâs dressing that way for attention.
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These comments are disgusting.
If her body makes you uncomfortable as an âadult maleâ thatâs a YOU problem.
Gross
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The fact that she ripped her jacket off in the presence of a male concerns me. Why did she feel the need to do the at to get attention. I wouldnât have jumped down her throat in front of everyone though. You had two options, 1 address it with your mother considering that is not your house or two, you could have pulled her aside and spoken with her about it privately instead of embarrassing her
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I think you did the right thing. She purposely took her jacket off so you can look at her. You are an adult male and you have a right to feel uncomfortable too. Sheâs a guest at your mothers house. You are trying not to sexualize her. Telling her sheâs making you uncomfortable is ok. If she told you that you an adult man was making her uncomfortable for looking at her no one would bat an eye. They would say âgood for her, youâre being a creepâ you are within the same rights to say she is making you uncomfortable.
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Everything is âsexualizingâ someone anymore. Reverse the roles. You walk in with your female friend. Your teenage brother and his friend are sitting there. Friend sees you and decides to take off his sweats pants and sit on his skivvies in front of you. Gonna let it slide so as to not âsexualizeâ him? Thereâs a difference between sexualizing someone and addressing inappropriate behavior. The girls behavior was inappropriate. How is it some of you donât see that? I wouldâve whipped my daughters ass for behaving like that It definitely wouldnât have been mad at someone older than her calling out that kind of behavior. Absolutely inappropriate and unbecoming
If it was her own house that is one thing. That is not her house though so I think you were right. I would have done the same exact thing. Especially is she was under 18 with ADULT males in the room. She was obviously looking for the wrong kind of attention. It doesnât matter that she is a teenager and âteenagers do those thingsâ.
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Bras are not required. I donât wear bras ever an im out in public everyday. If it made you uncomfortable you should have talked to your mom about it as she is the acting adult. It wasnât your house or your place 
the concern is understandable but there are better ways to handle situations
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Young one yes you did right. You were raised right and your lilâ sister needs to recognize and respect that. Apparently her friend did and covered up. Your mother should back your action -
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You did the right thing her parents need to be responsible and put a stop to that
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I agree with whoever said you publicly humiliated her because you were uncomfortable⌠you could have taken her to the side or just mine the business that pays you!!
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If youâre worried about men/boys staring at her, then teach those men/boys how to handle themselves. A girls body isnât here for sexual pleasure, and our society needs to be taught that. Instead of ridiculing the girl and teaching her that her body is only meant for pleasure when shown, (and itâs obvious she thinks this is the only way someone will love her) talk to her about why she feels the way she does about her body! Sounds like she needs a healthy woman to teach her she can show her body, but that it isnât the way men are only going to like her.
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Iâm sorry all I could think was who cares if she doesnât wear a bra 
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Your not wrong!! Thatâs your sister and thatâs not what you want around Iâm sure it wasnât allowed when you were growing up!!
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She doesnât have to wear a bra . Her outfit has nothing to do with you, itâs always been fashion to dress like that 
. I say mind your business and stop paying so much attention to what teen girls are wearing, just look the other way or go home
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Her behavior makes me concerned that she might have been being sexually abused at her own home. I would see if your mom can try and get her to talk to a counselor or even open up to her because that behavior almost always stems from sexual abuse at a young age. This is coming from personal experience.
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When girls are allowed to dress like that it arouses boys or men and parents wonder why their daughters are raped molested or fondled .
Yes definitely there is no reason for her to take her jacket off like that sounds as though she wanted you guys to see her i dont blame you a bit thas a dangerous situation for you
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Iâve had to tell a grown woman to dress more appropriate in front of my teenage sons, I had a roommate who dressed provocative and I was uncomfortable with my sons seeing her dressed like that. So if a teenager is dressing inappropriately then yes something should be saidâŚ. We tell our little girls to put their dress down, so why arenât we telling the teenagers to put some clothes on. Only grown adults should be revealing themselves in private with other adults
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She is clearly screaming for attentionâŚmaybe sit down and talk to her see why she thinks she has to dress that way. Teach her about loving thyself and thybody
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I think as a brother you were looking out for your sister. You do not want to see his sister dressing that way. You were being protective. Personally I would not let either of them dress like that. My house my rules.I compromise with a little skin. Mainly jeans if your gonna wear a crop top. If you have short shorts then you must have a Top that covers your Top half with no cleavage. My daughter is a beautiful 14 year old girl who is very developed. She looks 18. Yeah. It may not be fair that girls canât dress the way they want. At 14 and 16 what benefit does it give our kids to let them dress this way. None in my opinion. He is right though.
Itâs also not fair that we live in a world that lets pedophiles, rapist out with a slap on the wrist. Waiting to pounce on our childrenâs. Yeah, I know the clothes donât always matter. Dressing that why sure does not help. My opinion. Most people seem to live under a rock.
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Sheâs going through something. Wanting attention. She needs someone to help her.
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All of you saying bras are not required and he should tell his friends to keep their eyes to themselves, did you read the part where she was DRESSED until they walked in at which point she JUMPED UP AND STARTED UNDRESSING? That is some seriously disturbing and attention-seeking behavior for such a young girl and needs to be addressed.
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You did good by saying something to her!!!
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Personally I think you did the right thing. She needs to know that what sheâs wearing is inappropriate ,and for her to just rip her jacket off for attention from adult maleâs is telling me she needs someone to tell her its wrong. Sheâs also being a bad influence to your sister. Some girls these days shock me. If I ever wore something like what you see them wearing today ,I would have some sense smacked into me until I changed.
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Mind your own business. Itâs the fashion nowadays even if we donât like it. Iâm sure our parents and such felt the same about our fashion. It is your motherâs house and he choice to say something if it bothers her.
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Maybe you should teach your young boys how to handle themselves. A man can go shirtless because he has a dick but God forbid a girl wears a crop top?
Youâre uncomfortable with what a 16 year old wears? How old are you? Why are you looking at a child that way, regardless of what they wear
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Whats crazy to me is you want her to cover up so grown men dont look at her body or are tempted to look at her body, and she is a child.
Sheâs not the one with an issue here besides she is around what seems to be some pedophilic creeps.
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I definitely would of said something, tbh surprised your mom hasnât up to this point.
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I Agree with You You Have to Respect Other Peopleâs Homes You Cannot Dress inappropriately in someone elseâs Home My Home My Rules Dress Yoursfelf Decently in My Home
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I think you were 100% in the right! Honestly, she sounds like a possible bad influence on your sister! I feel bad for other kids going through shit but I am not letting my kid befriend and move in a fast ass little⌠You get the point!
In a usual circumstance I would say that it doesnât matter but she had no reason to willingly show her chest bc yâall came in. UNLESS youâre sensitive to it and she knows she could be mocking you - or she could just be dressed like that. You already said something I would just let it go. I realized itâs a survivalist way of thinking but she can wear what she wants. Itâs her body. If thereâs men or boys sexualizing her then thatâs their issue. Stop telling the males to come around. 
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Normally Iâd say let them dress however theyâre comfortable. But if theyâre doing it to deliberately to grab attention and you cant be comfortable in your own home I donât think itâs out of line to point it out.
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U did the fucking right thing and your mother and even her mother should have addressed it first. And for the mere fact that she ripped her jacket off proves she is dressing like that for male attention I can just imagine the conversations she has and the things she tells your sister and the last thing u need us your sister following in her footsteps tell your mom to tighten up.
Idgaf what todayâs âfashionâ is! Immediately ripping your coat off to expose that you only have undergarments on, the second you see adult males is inappropriate! In no way does this make you a creep or a pedo! Wtf
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Good for you. These girls dress like street walkers now these days. Half the time you canât tell their age.
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If her boobs make you uncomfortable, you could try looking at her face instead. I mean I donât exactly want my daughter walking around half naked but at the same time, sheâs no less covered than she is at the beach.
Absolutely I would have said something. She obviously hasnât had decent examples in her life.
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I think you did the right thing. Kids are out of control! She must not have any respect dor herself or others. You donât dress like a sleeze bag and go to school! Wait til your 18 or older then do it away from home. In a bar or club!
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Iâm glad you said something. Alot of women think their only value is their bodies. Itâs nice to know that there is a man out there that will let them know that it is inappropriate & by doing this Hopefully she will know she has way more value than just her appearance.
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Itâs not appropriate attire. No matter if your grown or a teen. If you have company dress modestly. I have to remind my sister sheâs around a 15 almost 16 year old boy and she needs to be appropriate, and not dress like sheâs at a club. You did nothing wrong. You felt uncomfortable and you voiced that. She needs some guidance.
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Its ur moms house. If she aint saying shit i dont see why u shouldđ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸ not ur kid or ur house.
Unzipping her jacket and removing it like that means she is trying to get noticed so you were well in your rights to call her on her actions. Your mom needs to step up on this issue
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When nothing is said it is construed by ignorance as acceptable behaviors. please make your voice heard, too many people are silent.
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There is a line between letting girls where whatever they are comfortable with and the place where they are inappropriate.
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I think you did the right thing.
Why are you you yall supporting children trying to get sexual attention walking around half naked I mean the girl ripped her jacked off fast in front of a grown man now thats whats ACTUALLY weird. Smh yall are weird to me for acting like thats okay 
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Society sucks. Women canât control the fact that we have breasts 
so if she was comfortable enough to not wear one. Itâs on you to mind your business if you feel uncomfortable then youâre the one with the problem. Or maybe you can shell out the extra 40-80 dollars on a bra. Wtf.
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People justifying the girls behavior. Ugh. Gross.
She likely had no structure to realize what she is doing is disgusting. Either way, good on you for speaking up.
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All these comments saying nothing should have been said⌠should the uncle/cousin just have preceded to sit down and pretend that sitting in a room with teenage girls one of whom is in their underwear is not problematic? Because Iâm pretty sure if a photograph of that group of people sitting in a living room was posted online people would have a LOT to say about those men, I think if a third party entered the room behind them they would also find it concerning. Itâs inappropriate AF and someone had to intervene, although more discreetly would have been better
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I would have done the same thing, and if it were a male friend with his pants sagging to show his butt, I would have done the same.
Sheâs not required to where a bra even to school.
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Yâall are crazy. WOMEN can dress how they please. She is a CHILD lmao. Not the same. What you did was right. I have daughters and they can dress how they want when theyâre grown, not when theyâre that young.
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I think you were right to say something!!!
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Iâm so relieved my daughter (15) wonât wear anything revealing! She wonât even show her shoulders outside the house. She respects herself and body and I couldnât be happier. Not saying that wonât change in a year or two, sheâs in high school so things are sure to change
- How old are you? 2. If you are uncomfortable talk to your mother about being there when youâre there. 3. Stop sexualizing children! 4. Girls deserve to dress how they feel comfortable. 5. If you donât live there anymore, you donât have a say in what goes on there and how they conduct themselves. 6. The child maybe trying to get your attention and be seen as sexual but as an adult(Iâm guessing you are 18 or older) ITâs UP TO YOU TO CONTROL YOURSELF!
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You did the right thing!
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You were perfectly in the right to say something. Littles girls donât get how crazy the world is granted its family its inappropriate especially after puberty has kicked in
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I would have said something. I would have also pointed out how it is incredibly disrespectful to be a guest (that is what she isâŚ. A guest) In someoneâs home & make all of those who are there uncomfortable. We donât walk around in our bra & panties & neither will you.
I would have made sure my mother was there listening. Im wondering if your mom isnât saying anything bc sheâs afraid that girl & your sister will bounce??
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First off your mom needs to also step in second off I would feel uncomfortable and lose my mind too it sounds like to me sheâs trying to seduce somebody.
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As much as i loved being half naked on my house growing up, i had a dad and a brother so my mom never of the nevers let me be dress like that outside my bedroom. Also, shes a guest in your moms house so she needs to be respectful of other peopleâs houses. Was it your place to call her out, no cuz its not your house. Maybe your mom should have said something.
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You had every right to. It is one thing wanting to dress however you want and it is another to not dress appropriate for age.
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Question is why does your mom tolerate this in her home? Who is the parent setting the example for the kids on what is and isnât acceptable in her home?
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Technically its your mothers house and she should be the one to say anythingâŚbut the girl was dressed when you entered the room so your mother wasnât aware.
No I dont think youâre sick or perverted âŚI think at 16yo sheâs old enough to know right from wrong and what she did was wrong
For whatever reason the girl has problems and needs helpâŚcould you have been more discreet ?? Without a doubt but I imaging youâd be fairly shocked by her actions and just blurted out what you thought.
Id also be concerned that your young sister is keeping her company and doesnât see anything wrong in her friends actions .
Its not even about your comfort âŚor lack of itâŚits about safety and self respect. Also she could accuse you of ripping of her jacket or asking her to strip. Dont get caught alone with her
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I am assuming you are a guy, And with the way she is acting, I would stay far, far away from her
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I seriously hate all the comments supporting this girls behaviorâŚ
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Yes. Obviously her home life is not stable
If that was my daughter I would be thankful you said something.
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i wouldâve said something also
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Speak up always if youâre feeling uncomfortable!
Might have made her aware & save her life one day!
Never know
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Not wrong at all. My mother in law use to pull up to guys sagging and tell them to let her look at their butt she was a nurse and since their pants was hanging off she wanted to make sure it was ok so they can pull up their pants
Look at all the internalized misogyny in this thread 
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Hell effin yea I would have. She was totally in the wrong for underdressing when you two walked in.
She needs to learn about being a respectful guest. Just because she may get away with it at home does not mean she should do it at other peopleâs homes.
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Nah something needed to be said. Thatâs just sad. She needs some kind of a better role model obviously. Maybe an actual parental figure
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I absolutely think it was wrong of you to shame her in front of everyone. You should have talked to your mom and asked her to talk privately with the girl if it bothers you so much.
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You were right and Your Mom should back you up
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Im a chick and would have been far meaner to the young girl flaunting herself infront of males
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you did the absolute right thing!!! It may help this girl and your sister to know that someone realizes how wrong she was!!! Good for you!!!
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Of course you should speak up you may very well be the only Common Sense person around this child right now
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Its good you did speak upâŚmaybe shes never had anyone correct her
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Yes I would. Maybe in private nit in front of others tho. She needs to know that isnât cool.
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You are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. As a mother of four girls, 3 adopted girls I NEVER ALLOWED THAT. But Im latina and we do not play. Ive only seen white folk allow that nonsense. Act like trash you will be taken out like TRASH. Girls should be ladys PERIOD. I said what I said. 
Iâd have said something, but not in front of everyone. Iâve pulled my kid aside, in her own own, and told her to go change an article before. Simply bc my house if FULLLLLL of teenagers and her bro or his friends donât need booty cheeks flapping when they run through the house lol. ButâŚ.sheâs also not the type to really put it out there like that either so she kinda watches herself anyway.
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Its like you were being sexually harassed. This was your mothers home. You had evety right to say something. It is not appropriate for a girl that age to do something like that. That gorl is going to get herself in some bad trouble if she doesnt wise up.
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What the hell does your mom say about this? Sheâs letting it happen in her home. Smdh
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