Being upset with a woman for not wearing a bra is absolutely f*cked. We as woman do not have to wear bras if we dont want to. It’s not a law. And you have no right to be so offended by it. Nipples arent a secret. Stop sexualizing breasts, and minors. She can wear whatever clothing she wants.
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The way it was handled it inappropriate
You should have spoken to your mother in private
You came out sounding like a bully
I think it should have been handled differently. No woman should have a man police their body. You could have spoken to your mom about it and let her decide what was best. It’s your moms home and I would leave it up to her.
Most likely she has a crush on you and she’s acting out on it. I would honestly just ignore her. She’s allowed to dress how she wishes tho. Just don’t pay attention to her and bring it up to your mom.
Hell yes I would have spoken up! Good for you!! That girl obviously has no self respect and no respect for your family going on like that . Thank God you said something! It absolutely needed to be done. I would never allow that in my house.
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Sounds like you don’t trust your male family members to be around this child 
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She’s a child and she needs to dress like one.
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Honestly, i am reading all these post and can see why society is the way it is. You were not wrong, Yes women have rights to wear what they want but there is a time and place for everything. Your body is sacred and should not be flaunted or show cased it should be a gift given to one you love. If your always throwing it out there there is no self love, respect or dignity in that. Also, there is NO WAY IN HELL a Freshman in highschool should dress like that! She is barely learning her body and to be that need of attention will only create more problems in the long run. There is a way to still be BEAUTIFUL & have clothes on. Sadly nów a days most women don’t have self love or respect and that is why you see so much of we have rights…its my body blah blah arguments. I can understand your right, your body when it comes to abortion etc but come on a 16 year old half naked girl. Has nothing to do with insecurites of family members, your rights etc it has to do with self respect & self love. I have no doubt that the girl does not have it because her parents or family did not have it and it’s better to teach our young women what value they have and empower them to respect themselves as should everyone else.
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You did the right thing. You showed a great level of maturity. You could have taken advantage but instead you set a standard to not only let your sisters know that it’s not acceptable but that you will not allow yourself to be manipulated by a girl being inappropriately sexually seductive in your mother’s home
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Your intent was good, no harm no fowl.
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I am shocked at some of these comments. So most of you would be ok with a 16 yr old acting this way around your husbands/boyfriends? I bet if it ever happened, most if yall would have said something to. I know I would. And it’s not sexualizing anyone. It’s teaching respect, for yourself and the people around you.
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She is seeking validation from all the wrong places. Fathers are supposed to validate their daughters at home, starting when they are young. If she doesn’t get it properly at home, this could be the reason she seeks it elsewhere. She needs her dad to step up to the plate, no matter how much she protests, to straighten her out. She needs her daddy to tell her that she is loved, precious, and valued as she is, and not for her body. He needs to step up and set strict boundaries for what she can wear, and if it’s not appropriate, send her to her room to try again. If her dad is unwilling, or if he is not in the picture, she needs another adult male in her life that will step in and fill the void. She also needs to know that her Heavenly Father loves her and values her above any precious jewels.
Yes, she needs direction on what is appropriate, but she also needs to be shown grace and love. She may have a very deep void in her life.
Ps. Most of this, and more, can be found in James Dobson’s books, and he is highly regarded in parenting and discipline. His books are phenomenal.
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YOU feeling uncomfortable is a YOU issue
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No matter how old you are that’s not appropriate especially when you are a guest in someone’s home. You should respect your body n people around you. So I would have spoken too.
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You were not wrong at all. There are certain rules you follow at any age. What is appropriate and what is not. There are two different upbringings so we will not see eye to eye so don’t waste your time. Flipping the argument around to focus on sexualization of a woman is not it. This can also be the same for breastfeeding. Personally I look the other way because now a days it’s considered being free to express yourself. Any comment of the contrary makes people automatically a hater or a pervert. Decency is now subjective.
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I am glad you spoke up. She needs an adult to tell her that that’s not appropriate behavior and she is asking for the wrong kind of attention.
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Thanks for speaking up…
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I would have, she’s looking for attention in all the wrong ways
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The girl is just being utterly disrespectful in someone else’s home. That is not on in my book. You just don’t do that. In her own home, that’s up to her. I would have said something too.
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Maybe you should move to afganistan.you clearly like to decide on the dress code of others.
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She’s fast in the ass and needs to be told to go sit it down somewhere and cover up. She clearly has no respect for herself or your mom’s house. I would have said something too. Clearly whoever is raising her isn’t doing it right.
Stop sexualizing children.
I cannot believe the comments on this post. You don’t dictate how other people dress.#stoprapeculture
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Its is perfectly okay to tell CHILD to put on clothes. We can’t rid the world of bad people so we are supposed to protect our babies. Good job!
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The only thing that I think you did wrong is that you should have talked to her in privet / Young girls don’t understand the power they have and don’t know how to behave if no one tells them
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Yes. Inappropriate is inappropriate. Especially in my house or around my children
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Good for you for giving some direction to this girl. And she responded! Obviously she doesn’t have anyone teaching her class and self respect. You were right to speak up.
Nope, I would’ve said something too. She is a guest in their home, she needs to be covered up and not walking around like a hoe.
She definitely needs guidance and to understand that is not the way to attract “good” attention. I’m sure she is hurting, stressed, maybe depressed and feeling alone. Still needs guidance in appropriate attire and behavior
Her momma is probably sleepy, so she might not know better
Her not wearing a bra isn’t a problem. Nor her wearing a crop top and a skirt. That is just your own issue to deal with, that isn’t on her.
BUT sitting in just her bra then sure you can say it’s inappropriate and ask to put a top on is understandable. But just that,the rest aren’t an issues.
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She immediately ripped off her jacket and is obviously thirsty - she needed to be told, maybe she’ll learn respect for her body and some self worth
Proud you said something
Yes I’m sorry that is weird. Why would she rip the jacket off like that? I’d of definitely said something and your mom shouldn’t allow that at all
You did the right thing. Must have struck a nerve or she wouldn’t have covered up.
I would of said something the first time seeing her
Absolutely without question
It isn’t her house so she should be respectful. But I don’t think not wearing a bra should be an issue. I’m 35 and very rarely wear one anywhere.
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Congratulations! You’ve bit the bait! Now that you’ve revealed the ignorance of your perversed mindset, objectifying bodies other than your own, let’s explore how come you feel the need to impose your so-called morals onto others? Does your wondering gaze somehow grant her the power to compel you into sin? Or are you holding her accountable for the self shaming of your perverted imagination?
None the less, what can YOU DO, that is within YOUR CONTROL, to FEEL DIFFERENTLY about how YOU CHOOSE to PERCEIVE the BEHAVIORS of other beings?
Keep in mind. You’re made in His image.
My mom always told me, “Make them want what they can’t have” and I dressed as such. I was young, pretty, 5’ 1" and 103 lbs. I only gave myself to two men, and I married them - one at 28, and the other at 37. No regrets.
Would it be any different is she was wearing a bikini top and shorts? NO.