I’d loose that friend very quickly.
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What was the bitch going through your cupboards for? That is bad manners any way you look at it.
As much as we all would like to help every baby, our children have to come first as they are the ones we are tasked with providing for and keeping safe. It is always good to give if we have extra, but it is in no way an obligation and in these uncertain times, if I had a little one, no way you’d separate me from a can that I had already obtained for my child, no matter how much you paid me.
I’d end that “friendship” pronto! Who does that? We’re all struggling and for her to berate you that way shows what kind of person she is.
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Wow I would have shown her the door ! How rude .
well, one thing i can say and i’m glad that my kids aren’t little - but when they where at the age of 6moths - both of my kids where off formula, and on whole milk with about 2 oz. of water mainly if already on baby cereal ,!but i did this with the advise of my doctor since both kids ate a lot ! if i here u talk to your doctor and ask some questions about can u put baby on whole milk since i’m already got him on cereal ! just saying here in Canada there is baby formula shortage here!
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That is NOT a friend!! Ensure you’re able to feed your child is not grounds of you being considered selfish!
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My own children first
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And u call that a friend? I’m not going to call someone who yells at me for not giving my babies formula away a friend period.
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I would get it if it were your friends baby, and she was willing to pay you for the can… but no. She is the AH here. You are taking care of your family, and the fact that you were even willing to give one up shows you have kindness toward someone you don’t even know. Asking for payment shouldn’t have been necessary at all. She should have offered cash before even asking.
I feel so hard for all of the women with babies right now… God bless you and may your family always have what they need.
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Feed your baby without guilt
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That woman is no friend. She was hateful and tried to guilt you for thinking of your baby first. She wanted what was for your baby and she wanted it for free. None of this is even any of her business. I wouldn’t talk to her or let her in my house again. I’d change my locks and keep security tight. People are nuts.
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If you had 20 cans sitting there I could understand her. BUT - you only had three AND it wasn’t for HER baby but it was for a friend’s daughter’s baby. WITH FRIENDS LIKE HER - YOU SURE DON’T NEED ENEMIES. GOOD BYE - don’t come back.
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No. She had no right to ask for that for someone you don’t even know let alone yelling at you and get mad because you’re looking out for your own kid
I get the pressure mum’s and dad’s are under I do I sympathise but my baby is my responsibility not my friends baby. The fact that she turned malicious and spiteful says it all trying to guilt trip you. My baby needs feeding just as much as the next baby and I refuse to take food out of my babies mouth.
No ma’am, absolutely not. At the end of the day you also have a baby to feed as well. I mean of course it would be a different story if you plenty to share, but you were down to your last few cans. It’s horrible that we have this formula shortage going on and to think that they may be helpless little babies going hungry, but at the end of the day you are also struggling to find your babies formula just like everyone else, nobody should expect you to let your child go hungry if he doesn’t have to. You should not feel guilty for putting your child first. Just like every parent with formula fed babies during these difficult times, our main goal is to provide for our own first and foremost.
Giiirrrllll, that is not your friend. Please kindly remove her and try and find real people in your corner. My friends are puke have asked if I could get rid of one to help another baby who had none. That would be the end no matter what I would say and of course they wouldn’t expect me to give it away. They know I work hard for my money just like they do. I’m sorry you’re going to this, sending honest genuine bestie finding vibes your way
Sorry, but YOUR baby comes first when it comes to you.
She’s not a real friend for even putting you in that awkward position , of having to say no basically to another baby.
SMH
No you are not wrong. She was way out of line.
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That does not sound like a friend to me.
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If its for her friends baby then she can go and find it herself.
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That person would not be allowed in my house anymore.
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If you have amazon, you can swap countries to get it from Canada. I just swapped over to see if its available, and there are tons of baby formula for sale. And if you decide to do this it is easy. get on to your amazon web page and click on the 3 lines on the left side under the amazon prime tab and open it up. Then scroll down to help and settings. Their you will see the tab for country and you will be abvle to switch it.
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I would have spared a can of she wasn’t so damn entitled about it
No your child comes first and YOU need to rethink your friendship with her.
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Your son has to come first I’m sorry for that other mom but you owe your son food if that other was in your place she would do the same and should
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We’re all short. If I have 3 cans and someone has none, yea here you go.
Omg I wouldn’t let her around after that.
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In a similar way, I haven’t been able too find any of my son’s formula nor any other brands of it. Another wonderful momma has blessed me with 8cans of it! Well, I’m keeping the big container & two small containers and I am giving the other one to any other momma’s in need. 
She could have asked you nicely, and she didn’t have to react that way. You have a baby to feed, she does not… Therefore, you feed your baby without guilt. I’m ONLY giving mine away bc my son’s going to be one an he won’t need it anymore soon enough!
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First off fuck that girl she wanted you to give it away on top of the fact she wanted you to struggle for your babies food!! 3 cans to me doesnt sound like you were even in a position to help-your baby comes first and we knw babies eat alot. If she is so concerned for her friends bby she could at the very least offered payment or should get her own family togethwr as a support group for said friend
Unacceptable. They only way you would be selfish is if you weren’t using the cans. But you are. Completely unacceptable of her.
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Your baby comes first. You can’t look out for every child’s needs. Dump that friend.
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Did you then ask her to leave? What a RUDE “friend “!
I would recommend you not to allow her into your house or restrict the friendship. 3 cans go really quickly and they are expensive. I don’t think your friends is aware of how much it costs and takes too feed a baby. If you had 10 cans or 20 in your closet is one thing. However, she shouldn’t be even asking you for these things. She is the one being selfish and putting 
you on the spotlight. God knows if she is going to tell her other friend about this and start a ball of negativity. I would just avoid her after this.
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You need a new friend
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Sorry she’s not a friend. I would have shown her the door.
You need to put YOUR baby first …not some random friend of a friends baby.
It sounds like you had a hard time keeping your boundary (people pleasing) and your “friend” was trying to take advantage of your vulnerability…why did you drop your boundary? Your friend was guilt tripping you into dropping your boundary, and it worked…I’d be saying “see ya” to that toxic friend, and work on those people pleasing patterns mama! Trust your gut, and back yourself
You need to put YOUR baby first …not some random friend of a friends baby.
It sounds like you had a hard time keeping your boundary (people pleasing) and your “friend” was trying to take advantage of your vulnerability…why did you drop your boundary? Your friend was guilt tripping you into dropping your boundary, and it worked…I’d be saying “see ya” to that toxic friend, and work on those people pleasing patterns mama! Trust your gut, and back yourself
No way do you give that up…that’s like gold right about now…in hard times and not knowing where or if you’ll find more to feed the baby put that stuff under lock and key…and why was your friend snopping in your kitchen ?? Better check to make sure she didn’t take one if not all of your babies food…
Girl YOU ARE NOT WRONG! Keep that for your own child. If she really needed it and finally offered her a can if she pays you for it. She should had pay. Your “frend” is wrong on so many levels. Plus you have another baby on the way. No you are not in the wrong. Everyone is struggling right now.
F@#k that friend why she in your pantry in the first place
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You’re right. Hold on to what you have until you can find more.
I’m not sure if some people know or not but the have breast milk banks all threw the us
Your baby come first, you are not wrong! I’d ditch the “friend” cause she isn’t one after that
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Your friend is crazy!
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This is parallel to the airlines telling you to put your oxygen on before you put it on your child; if you don’t take care of yourself and family, then you cannot take care of anyone else. Be strong and be an advocate for your child, who is not old enough to take care of himself. Your acquaintance is not a friend who would take food out of your child’s mouth to give it to a person you do not know. She was looking for a way to feed her own ego by supplying the formula to a different friend. It would have made her look good according to her line of thinking. In the future, when baby formula is abundant and if you want to pay-it-forward when you can afford it, you can always donate a can to a homeless shelter or a foster care program. Just know that your decision was right for you and your child and let it go. God bless you!
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Tell her to tell her other friend to get her own family and that pos friend and hopefully exfriend after this to get her own family to find and help her get her own formula cause this sounds ridiculous to take it out on you and yours
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She sounds awful.you didn’t do anything wrong here,your baby is your concern,she obviously wasn’t as concerned for your baby as her other friends
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I would hope by 6 months old the little one has started eating some table food and won’t need so much formula.
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No your not sounds like she is a Karen and needs to listen when you say no not like a whiney brat
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You’re so called friend, is not a good person. You were definitely NOT WRONG
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You aren’t wrong, your friend however sounds awful
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Doesn’t matter…. That’s not a friend.
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You’re a 100% right…your child comes first and no one should ever guilt trip you for that
U could have given her at least some
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Why doesn’t she look for formula since it’s her friend? If she’s so concerned.
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She has some nerve…wow. No, you are absolutely not the a-hole here.
Your child comes first
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Your friend is not a friend but a complete b***h get rid of her completely
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No you’re not wrong. You are not being selfish. You are supplying for your babies. You have the right to say no. That friend came in the house and went to the pantry has no right to talk to you like that. She has no right to go to your pantry. If it was me in that position I would told her off to get her out of my house, but telling her to mind her own business, and if her friend need it she is the one she need to go store and look for it.
Dump the “friend”. How rude to walk into somebody’s house and demand you give them something and then try to guilt trip you.
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Your friend is way out of line here. Asking you for a can when you only have 3 for your baby. HOW DARE SHE!!! And then YELL at you. OMG!!! I would have led her to the door and told her to go help her friend elsewhere. Wow this really makes me upset.
Wow that is not a friend, the way she talked to you was not okay at all. If her friend wants a can of formula she can find her own or pay for it herself. It’s not your responsibility to give out free formula to people.
You are not wrong at all, stand your ground and just feed your baby!
How come there is a shortage of formula
Thats no friend of urs… different if it was her baby… but not for someone else like that… u did the right thing… how dare she be such a b*tch to u… try finding better friends … thats despicable behaviour from her …
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Sounds to me like she wanted it so she could sell it instead of trying to help a friend or else she wouldn’t have cussed you out and called you now she’s the selfish one
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the old time formula that i used on my kids was either carnation or pacific canned milk water and alittle maybe a tablespoon of corn syurp i think it was a third canned milk rest water with the syurp
You are NOT responsible for someone else’s baby. You should never feel bad for taking care of yours.
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Shes not a freind if she acts like that . Your son needs the formula aswell . Don’t worry about it .
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Girl no, she sounds immature. I definitely wouldn’t be friends with her. Your son needs it. You have to feed your son first.
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Absolutely not! Why is she entitled about something that belongs to you?
If she was a friend she go looking for her friend some and not pitch a fit…
You be starving your baby if she had it and apparently she wouldn’t care…
Be rid her butt…
I would of told her to get out my house, friends don’t treat you like that, and I’m sorry but I would have to think of my baby first. So no your not wrong 
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Sorry but your child comes first, simple as that. She was in the wrong for even asking knowing what’s going on and to be honest she’s not a good friend.
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She is not your friend!! If it was for her baby, would have been different but the way she spoke to you!! You should have said “get out” there and then!!
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You’re not out of line at all and she’s not a friend…sheesh her audacity is mind boggling. If anyone yelled at me in my own house that would be the first and last time. They would be thrown out quick smart and told never to come back.
As an Aussie I remember our formula shortage due to people buying it in bulk to send to China (when they had the contamination issues) leaving none on the shelves and people having to travel hours to try and find some. I truly feel for all the mums over there, it’s soooo stressful not knowing how you’ll feed your baby.
I wish I could help out somehow as I know the feeling 
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No you were not wrong at all your child comes first and if she was a true friend she would understand that is the last 3 cans for your child and then to expect you to give it away free is just crazy. I would have told her if she can afford to pay for someone else’s child’s formula by all means go for it. Good luck on finding your babies formula🙏🏻
Walk in to her house go to her fridge with a bag and start loading it up and tell her you’re taking it to a hungry friend. When she complains she can’t give her shopping away say EXACTLY and walk out. Very odd mentality if she thinks everyone else’s cupboards are for the taking. I would back off from her disrespectful friendship. My friends wouldn’t even go in my cupboards for a glass without asking.
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If it was your friends child I’d be a little more understanding of her reaction. But it’s your friends, friends, daughters, baby. Your not responsible for the baby. I feel for anybody in this situation. But you can’t make your kids go without for every child.
If you can’t afford that much money then you have every right to ask for it back. Again your family shouldn’t go without.
I personally would distance yourself a little. She sounds entitled and a bad friend
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Yep go into her house and ask if you can take things from her pantry. For her friends baby you don’t know really isn’t your problem she only asked because she saw it and wasn’t going around desperately looking for it!
If a friend came to you absolutely desperate and their baby had none because they couldn’t find it, someone who had an actual starving baby would offer three times as much as one can would cost but a friend of a friend just because she saw it, you’re not wrong she was way out of line.
No your friend is rude.
Get rid
Of.your so called friend.
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No! Her sense of entitlement doesn’t make you wrong
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She’s guilt tripping you. Dont fall for it.
That is not a friend…I’d avoid her
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45 bucks for baby formula is the real issue 
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I feel terrible for the new babies born at this time. Mom’s IF you can post breast-feed. It’s free and so readily y
If someone here bent firmy PM please
That’s not a friend. And to think you should give it away…
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She shouldn’t be snooping around your house no she’s in the wrong
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Nope sorry your child comes first! Don’t ever feel bad for putting your child first! That’s what makes you an awesome mom! She is definitely not your friend!
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This person is not your friend. 
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That ain’t a friend that’s a user
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Please tell me you didn’t let her get away with it?
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Wait is formula really $45?. When my daughter was on it. 2 years ago it was $25…
She is making you feel guilty. She should have more understanding because you also have a child to feed.
Not in the wrong at all …matter of fact I wouldnt have given any strickly ond the fact that said “friend” acted entitled about the whole situation and was not very nice to you… Who knows … Had she not been sucha bitch about the whole thing maybe you wpuld have been able to send her on her way with some ( not a whole can) but nope… Sounds like a “her” problem to me.
could your child not have cows milk? just to tide you over?
What a selfish bitch this so called friend is… No your not being selfish… Its unfortunate this person is unable to purchase their formula but it’s a dog eat dog world and you gotta put your family first… Keep being the awesome mum you are and find a better friend x
Absolutely not!!! She’s no friend to begin with 
I’d tell her to get out don’t come back
I wouldn’t have given it or offered even for pay. Your baby comes first period 3 cans isn’t much at all. Don’t even feel guilty tell that girl girl to take a hike that’s selfish of her and not a friend to even ask.
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