You need to do everything you can for your own child. Her request wasn’t even for her own child. Your child comes first. She is a horrible mean bully. She is not your friend. She should never have snooped in your closets or pantry in the first place, by the way. Do not speak with her again. Do not call her ever again. Do not take her calls ever again. Do not respond to her texts. If you need to speak with someone, call your mom, look at photos of past event with your baby, or all your mom or husband. Do not speak with her ever again.
I wouldn’t have given any formula away lol. I will always look after my child’s needs over anything/anybody else 
What happened to wic
why was she in your pantry? forward?
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Absolutely not wrong at all I personally would of done it too. You have a baby to feed first.
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Your friend is wrong as two left shoes. It’s one thing to ask for the milk but to ask for someone else. As if your baby wasn’t in the same need bothers me. She is not your friend she is a user. She probably wanted to resell it for money for herself. I would most definitely cut her off because with friends like her who needs enemies.
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If she wants to help her friend so much she should buy or try to find them some instead of demanding it for free and guilt tripping when you need to feed your baby she is in the wrong please cut her out of your life
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Crazy coincidence that Bill Gates recently introduced “synthetic breastmilk” he “created” and soon after the factory with the monopoly on baby formula supply was shut down.
Don’t y’all think?
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She shouldn’t be demanding you give her friend your babies formula.
She Def isn’t a friend. What a b and to think she called you a b.
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Your son comes first - PERIOD! You did nothing wrong by refusing or asking for money for the can you were willing to give. If she can’t understand that, she’s not a real friend!
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What!! Get rid of that woman in your life. U should have kept it! Wow 45 a can is crazy!!
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No your child comes before someone else’s in a formula shortage you need to be able to feed your own
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Unpopular opinion time:
Me and mine before you and yours. When we’re comfortable that’s when we’ll provide extra charity. When we need the charity, it’s robbing peter to pay Paul by ‘paying it forward’ when you’ll need to find other resources to replace what you gave away.
As rough as it is, it is not your responsibility to feed your friend’s friend’s daughter. If you have 12 cans in the closet I’m sure it wouldn’t be as big of a deal.
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There is a shortage of a few formulas. Unless your child has digestive issues he can eat any formula. The media has blown it way out of proportion. She should have paid for the can if her friend wanted it. But any Costco or Sams has pallet of baby formula.
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Your friend sounds like a bitch!
That’s No Freakin Friend!
No u are not. Do u think her friend would of given u a can? Nope.
no friend there, she needs a life.
I don’t think you were in the wrong at all!!! You have to protect your baby FIRST. She evidently is not your friend!!!
I wouldn’t have gave her shit & told her to kick rocks!!!
you are valid and a good mother
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And this is exactly what’s wrong in America!! It’s everyone for themselves! It SHOULDN’T be this way!! We should look out for everyone!! Especially the babies what if the shoe was on the other foot?? She SHOULD have at least offered to buy/pay for them.
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No you were not wrong. She’s the one being selfish and she’s no friend acting like that!
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You did what was right momma
I’m not sure she knows what a “friend” is. 
No you aren’t wrong. She’s crazy. I would not risk my baby going hungry and on top of it she doesn’t even want to pay for it which is ridiculous. You don’t demand things from people. I’d never speak to her again honestly.
Your friend isn’t your friend.
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What was she doing in you pantry? No friend.
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Absolutely not. It is not your responsibility to feed other people children. While it is extremely unfortunate the situation we have going on, you’ve prepared yourself accordingly
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We need to look after ours first
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She was wrong! Not you.
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You absolutely should NOT feel bad about this. Your baby is your responsibility and priority. It’s really heartbreaking that there are families going through this, it really is but you don’t have an obligation to give out your babies food. For anyone. You paid for the cans your family rallied to find for you. They weren’t going to pay for it and it wasn’t even for them, it was for a friend of theirs. Who knows if it would have even made it to her had she taken it? The way she reacted, I wouldn’t doubt she had something else in mind. Then again, I have been conditioned to think like that.
If it was HER baby and she was completely out and hours past her last feeding and you refused to give her baby a bottle you’d be wrong. What you did was tottaly fine.
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She was wrong and hateful. She’s not a friend.
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What?!?! Your friend is off her rocker!
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You need to dump this so called friend !! She’s no friend she was totally out of order you should have shown her the door x
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It’s not like you were hoarding 40 cans. No, you are fine. She was ridiculous on both counts. Not a friend.
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No always put URS first
We look after our own first. If you had excess with access to more easily it would be a different story.
Your friend isnt a very good friend if she thinks you’re such a b****.
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She should be ashamed of herself, don’t ever speak to her again. Even if she apologizes… she had no right to do to treat you like that in your own home or any where for that matter. Real friends do not walk and stomp all over you. Complete disrespect. You are pregnant and have a baby… take care you and your family they come first. She is garbage and she’s lucky she didn’t get told off and pushed out of the door.
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Drop that “friend”… She ain’t a real friend, least not to you!!! She’s the bitch, not you!
No you weren’t wrong at all and was very kind to offer her one at cost with knowing you may have run short for your little one…she was the foolish ungrateful one and not much of a friend to say the harsh things she did. You did right by your child by no means should you feel bad at all. God bless you.
Tell that ‘bitch’ to gtfo of your house lol. Jesus christ thats rude! Although its sad for this other baby… why would you put a random baby before your own son
I would have put her out!!! That’s not cool and 3 cans is not a lot. And for free …….yea right.
You are not wrong and she is not a friend. You don’t have to explain yourself to a real friend, should’ve kicked her out for the disrespect and the nerve to yell at you for putting your child first.
Your kid(s) come first. A real friend would never act that way. Shortage or not a decent human being wouldn’t act like that. So no you are not in the wrong.
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No you weren’t wrong. She’s not a friend, dump her!!!
Your friend is absolutely in the wrong!
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You’re absolutely not wrong. While I agree we should all make what efforts we can to help, that does not mean we risk our own children doing it. You have a primary obligation to your child first. And just because someones struggle is slightly worse in that moment does not mean you ow anyone anything. As mom, you gotta be selfish for your kids sometimes. You’re friend sounds entitled and I hope you find ones that bring you formula instead of trying to take it. Ask her is she’s gonna go take others formula for you?
She is being extremely rude. That is not a friend
He’ll no. Those are yours
The nerve of some people is absolutely amazing!! I could see if you had 20 cans, but even then you had to pay for it, so if you were kind enough to agree to part with it she should have absolutely paid you for it. I wouldn’t feel bad even a little bit.
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No definitely not. I would have done the same thing! Your family comes first. This world is going crazy. It would have been different if you still had 11 cans stocked lol
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No definitely not. I would have done the same thing! Your family comes first. This world is going crazy. It would have been different if you still had 11 cans stocked lol
What would Jesus do?
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You did the right thing…ur son comes first, Wonderful mom !
You’re not in the wrong you need to feed your son. She doesn’t sound like a real friend!
Your friend is a weirdo. No ur not wrong
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you are not in the wrong at all i would say no my self why would i let my child starve, the other parent can figure something out …
That friend would’ve learned real fast she isn’t going to talk to me that way. I would’ve let her know how childish she was and told her to gtfo of my house! 
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I think share a can it would have come back to you twofold…but thatis how I was raised.
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Screw that lady! She wants your baby to go without but not her other friends?! Absolutely a terrible friend! Kick her to the curb! I would have removed her from my house immediately!
I would not be friends with that person after acting like that
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That’s no friend move on your child comes first and why was she in your pantry to spy for her friends daughter
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No you are no wrong how ever I would give her enough for a few bottles and tell this woman to go find the woman 
she is to go help this woman find formula elsewhere.
No you are not! The nerve of her! Sorry you have to think of your child first!
She needs to pay u or leave it with u your family comes first
Why was she in the pantry in the first place? I wouldn’t have given up formula either
No i would not be giving someone a can if they acted that way if she asked nicely and didnt freak it be a different story and it definitely wouldnt be free
No. I am proud of your strength. I’d have said yes and been mad at myself over it.
That’s not your friend.
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Absolutely not, seems like the other mom is simply lazy and doesn’t want to go out n hunt for the formula like you have been doing, keep your formula don’t even engage with your so called friend that isn’t even acting like a friend. 
Absolutely not, seems like the other mom is simply lazy and doesn’t want to go out n hunt for the formula like you have been doing, keep your formula don’t even engage with your so called friend that isn’t even acting like a friend. 
Kick her out ur life and I don’t need to give anyone anything
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You was right to not give her a can of yours
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There is no way I would call someone like this a friend to come in my house and disrespect me and have total disregard for my child and situation.
You were only wrong I’m not standing your ground to begin with bc it sounds like she was not caring for you or yours at all.
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Your baby can’t starve. Take care of yours first.
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Well that’s a fast way to learn she’s not a real friend. You are absolutely in no wrong at all! You need to take care of yourself and your baby first. I would have dragged her out by her hair from my house. I understand maybe asking for a bottles worth, But not entire can with the shortages. Then speaking to you like that over it! Let alone it wasn’t even for her own child. Her friend’s problems are not yours. That was extremely disrespectful and insanely rude. 
her off!
No you’re not wrong. Her calling you selfish was wrong, that’s intimidating and manipulative. She’s definitely not a good friend. I’m sorry her friend needs help but it’s not your obligation to do so. Maybe if her friend came and asked for enough to make a couple bottles then maybe. If we help everyone that needs help we’d all be in trouble…
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No way! You were not wrong! And the way she acted?! She’s the one in the wrong here.
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You need a new friend!! That’s not a friend…
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No your friend was out of line. Why should your baby miss out for someone else’s child. I get it’s hard to find formula but it’s not your fault xx
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Your friend should no longer be your friend!!
That is way out of line. You need it just as much as anyone else. If YOU want to share than they need to pay for it same as you did.
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You were not wrong in keeping the formula. Your friends reaction is showing exactly how people are going to be when food shortages continue to get worse. I suggest in the future anything like baby formula and things you have that are becoming shortages for other people you store someplace else in your house, a place other people cant have access too.
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Nope. Your baby comes first and foremost perhaps she should be searching for formula for her friend at stores
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She is toxic! You need to remove her from your life. And she should not be in your pantry that’s step to far in my opinion.
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No you are not wrong! You need to stay true to your family first! Your friend was in the wrong.
What’s wrong is we have a shortage
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No friend of mine could come home and feel free to go into my pantry / cupboards. It’s HER friend’s daughter’s baby, so with that chain of people, how hard are they really looking for baby food when they know there’s a shortage? That other baby don’t have to starve if they all get off their buttons and search for baby food like you and yours did. Your family comes first
She doesn’t sound like a very good friend at all
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You are not wrong, she is not a friend. I wouldn’t make plans to have her apart of my life in the future at all. Tell her to kick rocks.
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Your child is first and foremost.Don’t feel bad because you love your child more than what she think’s of you.You don’t need her.
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Your friend was/ is outta line… especially since it’s not even for her baby!! And to want it for FREE?!! She’s not a true friend!!
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I would not have given her the can and I certainly would have expected her to pay for it if I did.
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Shame on her,that’s not a friend.that a real bitch
She is no friend …shame on her
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FEED YOUR OWN FIRST!!! Your child is your first obligation! That child’s parent is obligated to it, not you! I’m all for helping but you can’t take from your own to give. You also don’t ever give what you need right back!!
She is not your friend
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She would have been kicked out of my house so fast. You and your babies are more important (as bad as that may seem) formula is expensive! She shouldn’t be expecting a handout just because she looked. If she didn’t go through the cabinets she wouldn’t have known they were even there
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No you are not wrong, this shortage of baby formula isn’t helping anyone at all. What the US got from another country isnt anywhere near enough to help matters. With you having another baby on the way plus trying to maintain the 2 you have, she should be understanding. Im hoping this shortage is resolved soon but yet it makes me worried as well since im also expecting, and in my town we have atleast 5 pregnant moms and its goin to be difficult. You continue to look out for your children, you are a damn good mom and no one can hate you for that.