Really need someone to tell me if I’m wrong for this! So with the formula shortage it’s been struggling for everyone to feed their babies and that’s awful. My son is six months and luckily over the past few months with the help of family I’ve gotten a total of 11 cans of formula. With how much my son eats in formula and baby food I’m already down to my last three cans. Well the other day my friend is over and went into my pantry and saw my last few cans and asked for one for her friends daughters baby, I explained no I’m sorry these are my last few cans and I need them for me son. I have not been able to find it anywhere neither has family in a few weeks so I need to hold on to what I have. She yelled and called me selfish and a terrible woman for letting another baby starve. I finally said ok but I need pay for it so I have money to go find something else for my son and she again said no “it should be free since you wanna bitch” is what she told me. I paid my family for every can and I’m on a one income family with two kids and one on the way I can’t afford to give it away for free since it’s 45 bucks a can. Am I wrong for refusing? I wouldn’t intentionally let another baby suffer but I also need to think of my son and him being able to eat.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Was I wrong for not giving my baby formula to a friend?
Not at all. Not even a little
Cut this friend off.
Tell your friend to kick rocks. Another child is not your responsibility and your child is your priority. If your friend acts like that, she isn’t a friend. Why should you take away from one baby to give to another?
You absolutely have no obligaton to feed someone else’s child over your own. She’s She’s terrible friend
No ur friend is wrong for talking to you like that
Not at all. Fuck her for making you feel like that. Your child comes before someone else’s. Yeah it’s harsh. But it’s the reality.
Guhl, nah, and that’s not a friend, she’d be laid out on my floor talkin to me like that, knowing issues people have finding it.
You aren’t wrong, and your friend should be ashamed of herself.
I would say you are not in the wrong. As hard as it is you have to take care of your little one first. Your “friend” had no right to treat you that way.
Your “friend” sounds like a 
Tell your friend to kick rocks. Another child is not your responsibility and your child is your priority. If your friend acts like that, she isn’t a friend. Why should you take away from one baby to give to another?
Not if it was your last few cans but I definitely would have offered a few bottles worth. But I’m overly nice 
She sounds rude and wouldn’t be invited over to my house again!!!
It’s not like you’re hoarding 30 cans. 3 cans is barely anything. I wouldn’t have let them go either
Wow. Some friend. If she’s so concerned tell her to go driving around for hours trying to find formula
Get a new friend and keep the formula
I would have knocked her one. Smh. You have to care for your own before anyone else’s
She’s definitely not a friend whoa
No your not wrong that friend should understand
It all she is selfish to expect it for free and why would she just walk into your pantry. I hope you went and counted your cans after she left
First off…she’s not a good friend.
Second…you think of you and your family first.
It’s nice to be charitable when you can when it’s not risking you or your family but otherwise, don’t feel guilty for saying no.
Your friend is selfish and toxic
She was wrong… not you. Get rid of her…
This woman is not your friend. I hope your child does okay and this shortage sorts itself out soon.
Nope. F her for being selfish
It’s your job to feed your child. Not hers. Her child is NOT your responsibility.
Tell her ass to go to her pediatricians office for some free sample cans, then tell her to go fuck herself.
First and foremost, this shortage is not your fault or any parents fault.
Secondly, she is probably just as stressed as every parent out there.
Third, was she completely out? Could you have maybe poured some in a bag if she was?
Or charged her for half a can? Something like that?
Your child is your responsibility, thebother child is that mothers responsibility. You are not obligated to feed another woman’s child if you don’t want to. She asked, you said no that should have been the end of it
You aren’t wrong. You need to take care of your son before her friends child. Your friend shouldn’t have asked. She definitely shouldn’t have expected it for free either! She’s a B.
Your friend should put as much energy into tracking down baby formula as she did being a jerk to you.
Nah, at the end of the day it’s about you and yours not hers and theirs. I’d drop that friend
It’s not like it’s Ur friend who needs the formula. It’s Ur friends friend. So no I don’t believe U should have given it to her.
No she was being a jerk to put it nicely.
Your baby is under a year. Needs the formula. Not your problem her friend isn’t prepared nor can’t find formula. Tell her to go to the pediatrician, ask WIC, check food banks like everyone else
nope fuck her. She is just using you
She needs to go!!! “Friend” ? Naaaaaa goodbye girl
I highly doubt she was going to give that can to her friends sister in laws daughter’s 2nd cousin twice removed or whoever the hell she was claiming it was for. She was probably going to turn around and try and sell it for her own profit.
Take care of your family FIRST
Sorry, but she’s not your friend. You’re not wrong, that is all her!
I would have kicked her out and cut ties after something like that!
you are not wrong. end of story.
Sounds like she isn’t your friend. That’s awful to be treated that way. Every single person is suffering and 3 cans isn’t that many considering how much babies eat. Wow I’m sorry you was treated that way.
No. You also have a child to feed.
She is not your friend.
Perhaps you could have given her some to make a few bottles but then again I ordered formula right from the companies website… my baby isn’t even here yet… your friend can do the same…
Y’all are both selfish.
No your not wrong. Shes in the wrong for looking through your stuff. They can make formula n unless something is wrong you can use cow milk.
Shes just trying to guilt trip u
That friend is toxic and is looking to be petty. If your friend was so concerned she would be out looking herself and buying that baby formula. I’m also like you and not to see a baby suffer but she would have been panicked about it as soon as she stepped in the house not just casually looking in your pantry.
My jaw just hit the floor. EVERYONE is struggling to find formula these days… if they really try, they will find it for their baby. You are under absolutely no obligation to feed another persons baby… you have to take care of yours first. It was really nice of you to eventually offer a can and I don’t see why they would think that they would get it for free. 
That girl is not your friend. cut ties. save yourself some hassle
Bye Felicia! You’re good
Absolutely not. Your baby comes first, a real friend wouldn’t act that way.
It wasn’t even for her baby, why is she so concerned?? You are in charge of feeding YOUR baby, I would be so upset with her. And never give away something worth that much. Newborns are so expensive!!
You should’ve knocked her ass out, then escorted her to the curb. To ask is one thing, to get pissed when she didn’t like your answer? Calling you selfish when she’s the selfish one? Excommunicate her after that.
U did the right thing. She’s no one to be judging u.
Your baby comes first!
Absolutely not it’s not like it was even for her and unfortunately formula is like gold rihht now and no one is giving it away… secondly why was she in your pantry?? And for her to yell at u is childish
You really need to ask this? So she wanted free formula that would be taking from yours ?
I mean whatever 
Yes like all these people said, she is NOT your friend.
You should take care of your baby,
No you’re not wrong at all! Your, “friend”, is selfish and rude. I agree with the others saying she’s not a real friend!
Yeah she’s just a weirdo. I’ve never heard of someone expecting someone else to feed their kid for free. Tell her to heck off
If you had all 11 still I’d say yes. Down to 3 cans though? That’s too low to share right now. I’m sure if it was really needed you’d share a few bottles, but that’s not what she asked for.
And you’re not responsible for others babies.
What a jerk, cut your ties
Who guilts their friend into something like that?
Nah she’s the b
Not you. She’s the one being self ish
You do you. Your baby is more important sorry. You got those cans, you get to use them. Not her or her friends
Was never a friend…if she was she would be out looking for formula for that other friend.
She ain’t your friend sis 
Not wrong your friend is an entitled brat
I would of slapped her with the can 
jk but no don’t feel bad I would be the same if it was my kid plus there’s so many mothers offering breast milk on line
You are not in the wrong on any level.
Sounds like a rotten c*nt to me. I bet you she wanted you to give it to her so she could turn around and sell it.
You did nothing wrong.
It wasn’t even for your friend and no, you’re not wrong.
Wow, she got some nerve! How about she go out and search for some! She doesn’t really sound like a real friend.
No your not wrong. If you give yours away and run out.!What will you do?
Wow! I’m actually shocked she even asked to begin with! It’s one thing to offer but it’s rude af to ask and get mad bc you were told no! It doesn’t matter what it’s about. That was completely wrong of her!
I would’ve kicked her out of my house…literally. You need to care and provide for YOUR son not anyone else’s
Wow just wow. You are not wrong at all! She was in the wrong to ask you to give something your son NEEDS to her friend… what the hell??? I really hope you kept it for son.
I would cut her off… thats not a friend.
Sounds like you need a new friend
She isn’t your friend.
The minute she raised her voice I would’ve told her to get tf out of my house and not come back.
Friends don’t act like that.
Man no. She toxic as hell. You are not in the wrong she is .I would be done with her
She was manipulating you. ! She is not a true friend… She is toxic !
That’s not a friend at all
If you don’t drop her like a bad habit then something is wrong !
You are not wrong at. You certainly were not being selfish either. Your. Hold is your #1 priority and your friend should be ashamed of herself. She seems like she’s not or has ever been a good friend.
No you’re not wrong!
Take care of yours first!!! If they needed it that bad they could of done what everyone else is doing, which is searching driving hours away from home to find formula so their babies done go hungry. Continue to do you momma, sounds like she’s not a friend at all.
I’d tell her to eat 
and go buy it for her friend herself
That ain’t your friend.
I would of told her NO!!
Wow nope you’re not in the wrong at all! She sounds like a horrible friend.
I would of told her to leave calling names like that. Worry about your baby eating not her friends.
Wow I probably would never talk to her again tbh.
EW NO you are not wrong AT ALL and she absolutely should pay you for it if you had decided to give it to her.
You are absolutely not wrong!!! She’s wrong for reacting the way she did.