What if something happens and his son need to come live w you? Tell him you need his help when his son is there. It’s his son no man no good man would NOT see his son. Maybe should have thought 
about this before you had another one.
He probably never wanted you in the first place, you already got 3 kids. You had a whole family with someone else before he came into the picture. So you want him to accept your 3 but you don’t want to be bothered with his 1
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You are so wrong! If you cant balance kids and spouse and so forth than you need to figure it! That was selfish of you. When you got into the relationship you had to know the cards that was dealt! ! I’ll be damn if I put anyone over my kids! Next!
All i can say is wow!! 
Think about how the kid is going to feel when his daddy doesn’t show up
Kids are a packaged deal there is no day off even if the kid isn’t your its still his responsibility to be there .
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You’re also prioritizing your kids over his by saying you don’t have room. If you had room for the baby you’re pregnant with, you had room for him
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He did not leave because of what you said. He wanted to leave long time . What happened could have been discussed and an amicable solution reached.
Bye bye! Kids over girlfriend.
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Pretty selfish. He sees him 4 days a month! Get a babysitter for yours and have him use a vacation day.
Good for him. He’s 100% in the right.
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I tell you what a friend told his GF when she said there wasn’t room in there house for his kids to move in with them he told if you move out there will be plenty of room for them. That’s his son how would you like it if he told you there no room for your kids.
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You should use a vacation day and never ask a parent with limited visitation to not see their kid. You had time to have three and make one more. I hate selfish people. Kids dont want to be a burden when it’s your choice to have them. You need to get it together. Co parenting is the game when you get with someone having or them having children. You have to accept it all. Family comes before dating when kids are in the picture. Once a month or every other month take a day off on his day off.
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Yea ur totally wrong and outta line
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U should of told him sure ur son can come but u take care of him and watch him because im putting my feet up.
Yes you were wrong.
It’s his son! Your limiting his visitation. Children are a package deal. Sometimes you just don’t get a break from being a parent whenever you want to.
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wow yeah you’re an asshole.
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You should have worded it differently if you need alone time then that’s after the child is a sleep and saying you have to do everything for him during the visit start going over to friends house give him alone time with his son so that he has to be the one care for him during the visit if you have no where to go just lay around do a hobby for I’m sure you aren’t being forced into doing all the care for his son but at the same time don’t push his son away plus you could talk to your ex about switching his time so that you’re kids be with there dads on the days he doesn’t have his son ,I wish you the best but you have alot to learn about being a step parent for you don’t get to make the rules when if comes to a child and his father ,you have to work around them but I think there’s more to this story and this was just the last straw telling him to choose for his visitation days are set before y’all got together and if there’s no room in your home for his child then there’s no room for y’all’s relationship .
if there’s room for your kids there should be room for his. maybe you guys shouldn’t live together since you’re clearly not ready for that.
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I understand your need for grown up time. Trying to make that time is very difficult. Kids are a big commitment.
Wow sorry but you’re fucked.
So your kids are more important than his son? Give your head a shake, you should be ashamed of yourself.
I’m glad he left, GOOD FOR HIM!!
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You need a break hah? You got three kids and he got one…sounds like you need a break from your own kids if that child is only there on the weekends…now this man is there all week with your three kids…it sounds to me like he is getting the short end of this stick
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I can totally sympathize with her because I know what she’s trying to say. It’s hard getting alone time in a relationship when you have kids. So I think she is just trying to carve out a day for them occasionally. I don’t think it comes from a place of malice. I’m in a same situation. My boyfriend and I have a 2 year old together. He has a 13 year old son from a previous relationship. We get his son every single weekend. My boyfriend has weekends off, so he takes his son every weekend. Occasionally, we want alone time or plan a weekend getaway for ourselves. I think it’s important in a relationship to still get that time for yourselves when you can. So occasionally, my boyfriend tells his sons mother ahead of time the weekend we have plans. I also send our son to his Aunts. I don’t think what she’s asking is unreasonable at all. I think alot of people are reading into this the wrong way. It’s not messed up to be 7 months pregnant and want some alone time. Especially since what I’m getting is he works Saturdays and is ultimately leaving the kid with her, when technically that’s his responsibility. She’s tired, has her kids gone but still has to take his responsibility on EVERY weekend? That’s not really fair on her. She’s in her 3rd trimester and probably wants that weekend she’s kid free to relax while she can before the baby is here. I think he overreacted and didn’t really consider everything.
I don’t think she’s wrong for asking for some resting time & a day for just them two. The woman is seven months pregnant with a 40 a week job! She needs a break! Now if she would’ve had her kids that weekend and asked him not to pick up his then I’d understand him getting mad. If he’s gonna be mad over that then he needs to stay gone. Btw…I asked my hubbys opinion and he didn’t see a problem with her asking for time alone. I have 3 kiddos & he has 1 so we kinda know how overwhelmed she feels.
If the boyfriend has to put up with all of your kids during the entire week, week after week, then I’m sure you can put up with his kid for one day out of the week
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Ima be the asshole out of everyone and understand a tab bit where you’re comming from, you want a break without kids, that’s reasonable!!! Everyone deserves a break, it would be nice you two are alone, every couple needs that once in a while…it’s really not hard to plan out another day considering kids are on summer vacation…, I mean damn especially if you’re the one mainly caring for EVERYONE, so I GET that. You’re pregnant, I dont blame you at alllll…To be honest if my boyfriends child wanted to move in only months of us living together I would be nervous too, I wouldnt say no… if you’re mainly caring for your step child when he is there, its gonna be the same way when that baby comes. Y’all are taking this way out of context.
Yeah you’re in the wrong and I’d leave too. Sorry but FUCK that. He only gets a limited amount of time with his son and you’re acting as if you and your kids and your family is more important. His son is your son your kids are his kids and if you can’t see or treat it that way then you shouldn’t be together because that little boy deserves better than this
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Honestly hope he stays gone how ridiculous of you
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Wow that’s so wrong on so many fucking levels! You should treat his child like yours!! Smh
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Oh girl wow … no words
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Yes you’re wrong. Absolutely. Call him and apologize for being a douche. You want alone time? Ask the father of your children to care for them on a day your man doesn’t have his child. He sees his son on the weekends. He’s with your kids more than with his own. You are entirely wrong.
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You didn’t do anything wrong. All parents need a break. You asked for one day. Sounds like he was looking for a way out!
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Im confused here if he has off on Sundays and u do too then why dont u do a Sunday outing without kiddos?
Yeah you were wrong for that. Should have spoken with like asking him what you both can do to make some time alone together.
I understand it would be nice to have alone time. But this man is already sharing his child and doesn’t see him half as often as some dads do. It sounds to me like you want everything to be about you and your kids and thats not fair. If he left that quick I have to wonder if he didnt already know there was a problem. Kids come first no matter what.
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Yes your wrong…welcome to the world of parenting!
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Close your legs 
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And people wonder why men abandon their children after divorce. Support him he’s trying to do the right thing!
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When you have kids you give up majority of “adult time” make other compromises not ask him to give up his only day with his son… my god did you read this back before posting it.because I think not if he packed his bags and left your conversation clearly sounded like this post…once you get with someone with children already,there children become your children.just like I’m assuming he is with you children!!! You seriously can’t ask him to give you his only day with his child to be with you when he’s with you all day everyday…and your children may I add AGAIN … how selfish and absolutely awful of you
Your a selfish bitch! Get it through your thick skull, you have kids and your expecting again! There is no such thing as alone time, once you started having kids, your freedom was gone. Accept it!
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Hi…No you are not wrong to ask for you 2 to hv time alone. If he truly loves you, he would understand where you are coming fr. To walk out on you is immature!! Shows he’ll never be able to be there for you in the long run. He could hv asked for a sitter or change 1 or 2 time/days; during the week to make up for the missed time w/his kid.
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Yep I would’ve left too
You selfish. Grow up.
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Is this Kim??? Stop being a selfish bitch, you decided to get with a man that has a kid and your asking him not to take him. I’m glad he left and he shouldn’t come back! I know some stupid chic named Kim that did that to my nephew now his dad never comes at all. And his mom also has a BF that doesn’t want her son either!! Ugh!! That’s why God sent the Covid 
I think the two of you should communicate and plan for time together, but I don’t think asking him not to take his child is right. Time alone together is very important! Instead of asking him to take time away from his child when he sees him so little, maybe try finding a sitter for your children so the two of you can have that alone time, since they are with you all but when they are with their father.
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He had a child before you came along, you knew that! There is no such thing as time alone together once you have kids! You sound like a right selfish woman🤬 glad he’s done the right thing and put his child before you as that’s how it should be!
You say you have no room for his child, but yet your pregnant🤷🏻♀️ #wickedstepmother #topdad #justsaying
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You expect him to be there for your children and care for them 11 days out of each fortnight yet him child is with him 2 days out of the fortnight. So you expect him not to see his son on the weekends that your ex had your other children. Which means he would only get to see his son 1 day in a fortnight. Sorry what a selfish bitch. I don’t blame him for leaving I bloody would of too. You are the reason ex girlfriends/wives get the shits when the new misses expects a man to prioritise you and his new family over his existing family. You saying that u don’t have room for his son to live there yet your pregnant yet again would make him feel unloved and unwanted.
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Yup. Wrong in my opinion. His child should always trump you. If you do not want to take care of his child then say so. Tell him you are tired and need some alone time but do not ever try to put yourself ahead of his child with him, that is selfish.
Wow did u all not read how much this mom is doing for him?! A lot of bitches on here. Nope your not wrong. Have him have his child on Sunday when he’s off. Why does he have him when he knows he works on Saturday. How the fuck u all not notice this. And why are u doing all the house work and working? What does this loser do anyway! Nope lady. He’s an asshole like a lot of these people on this page who aren’t reading the facts n reacting with emotion on their own bullshit.
Yes you’re absolutely wrong and sound very selfish.
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I don’t think she is wrong did anyone miss the part when she said when the sons there she does everything. And maybe the reason she don’t have space for him is because she having another one who saying she wouldn’t done it if she didn’t have a baby on the way.
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This situation comes:MY children and YOUR child will fight with OUR child…are you “baby factory”???where 4 kids can to be living,5 th same…
Imagine your ex’s new Mrs would tell him not to take your kids on weekends anymore ! You would be the first one calling him and bad dad and putting his new gf first ! So yes you are in the wrong ! You knew he had a kid when you met him and before you got pregnant so now you will have to cope with it ! Feel sorry for that poor little lad
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Time alone with your partner is very important for a successful relationship . I don’t think that is wrong , it sounds like your trying to be fair and accomodating to his child, your children and to your relationship with him. You sound as if you value your relationship and are a good person. I hope he see that in you. Perhaps he is a little selfish.
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Wait is wrong with u people so she wrong to ask to spend a day with her man i dont think so wow u people out there are so selfish thats y there are so many without father or mother around d couple cant have one day
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You were wrong to ask him that how would you feel if he ask you the same question. Honestly how would you feel think about it.
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He has the child 1 day out of 7.
That’s all I have to say.
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Sounds to me like your not ready for the responsibility of being a mom to another child. And you’re pregnant? Good job.
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He has your three kids all week, helping to raise them, including every other weekend but you can’t have his one child for two days a week?!!! How would you have felt if he asked you to get rid of your kids one week so he can have you to himself?!
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Control world population
Yes it was wrong I would be pissed if my fiancé did that to me. When you chose him you knew he was a packaged deal. If you want any sort of future with him you better start treating his son better. I would never tell my fiancé his daughters shouldn’t come over. That’s a part of his heart .
Yes it’s wrong you got with him knowing he had a kid so that’s part of it it’s pretty selfish of you
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He gets him one day a week, I can see why he would not like that. What if he told you to not have your kids during one of the wkends?
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Then make him pay for half rent…see if he think it’s easy neways
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Maybe look for a place big enough for 5 kids.
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You could of asked to compromise and see if you could have his child a different day of the week. Not cancel all together. Specially when he doesn’t get him often
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Looks like he dodged a bullet with you. Imagine if he acted like that about your kids.
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He only gets him 1 day a week, if I was him I’d be mad too🤷♀️
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Sorry it’s sad that the son asked to live there. Find a bigger home.
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Your being selfish he only sees his kids once a week … To not see him is horrible
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Very selfish! Dont ever ask him not to have time with his kid! You knew he had him. Grow up.
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You are selfish. That is his child he has to deal with yours yet you don’t want to deal with his. If I were him I’d never come back
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Hes right you’re wrong. You got with a guy with a kid so taking care of that kid is part of that relationship. Package deal. Hes a smart man to say screw you and pick his kid.
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Actually im really impressed with your boyfriend. He put his foot down for his child. Be thankful he cares and wants his child. As for you… you are a adult grow up.
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… you’re having his child, and yet you don’t want his other child around… nah girl you’re selfish. I don’t blame him for leaving… you should have thought about space for 5 children before opening your legs ffs. imagine it the other way around…
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You don’t ask a father to not have his child because you want free time 🤦. If you want free time then be with someone that doesn’t have kids.
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Ah I think maybe you could’ve brought it up in a different way or planned ahead instead of demanding that
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You should have spent Sunday together.
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Yes you are a selfish child! His kid should come before you
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What kind of woman asks a man not to spend time with HIS kids? I would of left too!!
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Has he ever asked you not to take your kids one weekend ? If not , then yes you were wrong . Y’all both have kids , and y’all knew that getting together . Kids come before your significant other . Plus , he only gets to see him one day a week , correct ? That’s his only time with his son . If he misses one day , will his baby momma start trouble ? I understand you want alone time with him , but maybe do it when the kids are asleep , or have someone watch the kids for a couple hours to have a date dinner .
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Yeah your wrong. Youre extremely wrong. If you can’t accept his kid, and love his kid, like your own. Move on. And honestly I’d have left you when you said his son couldn’t live with you because “you don’t have the room”
Make room!
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You sound so mean! I get wanting to spend time alone but maybe you could’ve communicated that better! I applaud him for reacting the way he did! He probably feels the same about your kids but he mans up!
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Why do people not understand that when you meet someone who has children, you create a blended family? Has he ever asked you to give up time with your kids? I doubt it. If you want a man all to yourself…find someone without kids 
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I would have packed my shit and left too…
He gets his son one day a week (Saturday) and you asked him to give up his one day with his son so that you can have a break from kids when yours are there 5 days a week?? He’s a good dad for leaving, I would have too. Incredibly selfish of you. Has he ever asked you not to see your kids so that he wasn’t bothered? I’m guessing not.
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Wow. Way to think about yourself instead of a child in need of his father. Yuck…
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That’s a good man that will pick his child over a woman. Just my opinion.
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Oof, I woulda left you too.
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If my boyfriend asked me not to get my child, I would immediately be offended for sure. I would have left like he did… You knew your work schedule when you started dating… if that wasn’t something you were willing to make work, you should have decided that then.
If space is an issue, I would look for a bigger house. I would never make his kids or my kids feel like they aren’t welcomed to live with me or their father. I would want nothing more than my children or/and stepchildren under the same roof as me.
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Why can’t you send your kids away a day if you have them daily and he only gets 2 days a week
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Well, maybe stop having kids you sound very selfish asking him to not see his son the one day he has him. Like I said stop having kids if it’s too much.
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When you get with someone who has kids…kids are part of the package. You don’t ever ask someone to pick between you and their kids
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You’re definitely wrong that’s fucked up. Don’t blame him one bit for leaving you
You are so wrong for that
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Yes it is wrong. You are asking him to not see his son on the one day he gets with him. He has every right to be mad at you. Had you ASKED him about planning a day with no kids, I’m sure he would have been much more receptive.
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My bf gets mad if my daughter is with her father and I want a kid free weekend too which makes no sense because I’m also the one who takes care of his kids.
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As a mother of 7, I feel you, you want time with your man, but yes you were wrong for asking him to not take his son during his time regardless if you are caring for him or not. Obviously his son means a lot to him. There has to be some other time. When you have children they come first. I think of it as my man is my life partner and he will be my friend and next to me on the day the last baby leaves the nest. We are supposed to be there for one another and at this time the children are the number one priority. I would think having just the newborn and him would be nice change and a time to bond together when you go on maternity leave. But I love having the kids and all of us being together.
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Having kids means no more alone time. Most of the time anyway, unless you have someone willing to watch them. You get with someone who has a child or children, you also take them children on or should want to anyway. He don’t get much time with him to begin with. And its fathers day weekend! Your pregnant with his baby… But you dont want to care for his other child? I’d be pissed also! Nobody comes before my kids. There are ways to compromise!
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You expect him to take on your kids when they’re there 90% of the time and it’s hard for you to take on his 20%? I get EVERYONE TRULY needs a break but maybe you should plan more accordingly/ahead of time.
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Yes you were wrong that is his child who you knew existed prior to him moving in with you. Why not try to offered a day to trade for that one specific day you want for yourself?? He literally only gets to see his kid 4 days a month and you expected him to be happy that you want him to give up of those days? That is selfish, how would you feel if he told you to get rid of your kids more often because he doesn’t want them taking up your weekends on the weekends they do stay with you?? I’m sure you wouldn’t like that one bit.
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